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 Doremi_Fasolatido
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I'm over 60 and twice the man I was when I was in my 30's. At least, as far as age is concerned.

Women around my age are older too. We both have experience and know what we like.Just some things I've noticed and I can't find a darn thing wrong with that.
 prettybrwneyedone
Joined: 6/1/2017
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Delusions of grandeur again.
Posted: 4/27/2018 7:56:54 PM

a woman once messaged me inviting me to join her and her girlfriends dancing.

I asked her how she would introduce me to her friends.

No answer, lol


Brainless/Troll: your delusions of grandeur don't count. Spoken like the true beta male that you are. Alphas don't troll, that's a beta (**** move), which you've proven that little bit of testosterone that your wee manhood is barely producing is turning to estrogen.
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 4/27/2018 7:57:33 PM
MsMicki, I think you meant to address me, not NG. I wasn't talking about men having problems early in life, but old coots that are naturally waning in life. When a couple are both going downhill due to age with their sex life, what good is it to take Viagra? So, what is the wife supposed to do when her sex drive is diminished along with her husband, and her old as fvck husband pops a pill?

You used the word rapist. I did not.
 cooldog65
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Posted: 4/27/2018 8:11:01 PM
^^^ But you used the term predator.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 4/27/2018 10:47:01 PM

Posted By: Newyorker58 on 4/27/2018 617 PM
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Message: CBGB, why not break up with date #1? This is why I wouldn't knowingly date someone that's dating someone else. 1. I'm not going to be in competition with another woman. #2. The guy isn't going to make a commitment based on liking me, but rather choosing me perhaps as an upgrade from the other woman, which then means he's always looking around for what he considers another upgrade.


That's what I did. Feel a little bad about it but I will feel better when I see date #2 tomorrow.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 4/28/2018 5:13:04 AM
Yes...I did mean you NY....my apologies to NG!

OK....let's start with "old coot".
When does one become an old coot? Is there a specific age I should be looking out for? 65 - 75 - 82???

Now....when a couple is "going downhill due to age with their sex life"
If the problem is he cannot maintain an erection....then Yes, he takes Viagra if the doctor deems he is medically healthy enough to do so.
If the problem is he lost his sex drive....the pill doesn't do a damn thing!! Taking Viagra doesn't give you a sex drive....it only gives you the ability to get/maintain an erection.
If the woman has lost her sex drive....whether the man needs a pill or not isn't going to change the fact he is still wanting sex and she doesn't!!

Does that make the man a "predator" because he still wants sex? Or does one have to have an erection to be a "predator" in your eyes???


You really do come across that taking Viagra is going to make a man force himself on a woman.
 whiterose0
Joined: 2/3/2009
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Posted: 4/28/2018 12:53:12 PM
No one is immune to aging, men or women. To refer to older men as "old coots", especially when you're no spring chicken yourself, means you're in denial about your own aging process and declining sex appeal.

For every "old coot" out there, there's also a younger man who thinks of you as an "old bag".
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 4/28/2018 6:30:04 PM
MsMicki, sometimes it is their look, attitude or age. If you're declining naturally along with women, then taking Viagra to have sex with women that are not interested anymore is predatory behavior.

Whiterose, of course young men think of me as an old lady. I accept that, and it's fine, as I'm interested in men my own age, and most importantly, I don't derive my self worth from men. I think you're projecting with the statement about waning sex appeal and being labeled an old bag.

CBGB, you did the right thing with date #1. If she's not appealing enough, it was best to cut her loose before she became more attached to you. Good luck with lady #2.
 zsuzsa62
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Posted: 4/28/2018 7:28:11 PM
"When a couple are both going downhill due to age with their sex life, what good is it to take Viagra? So, what is the wife supposed to do when her sex drive is diminished along with her husband, and her old as fvck husband pops a pill?"

Even if desire is waning in older couples, sex can still be wanted at times. I think it would be normal for partners to communicate that and when both have some desire, he can take the pill and it can then enhance the sexual experience. The pill doesn't effect his libido, just his ability. He still has to have that initial desire.


"If you're declining naturally along with women, then taking Viagra to have sex with women that are not interested anymore is predatory behavior."

Anyone having or trying to have sex with somone unwilling is anything from annoying to predatory, depending on how far they take it. I don't see the connection to Viagara. It doesn't change the behaviour. He'd have to be taking testosterone or something else to increase the libido. And even if a guy has an increased libido, for whatever reason...I think predatory behaviour is still a completely separate thing.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 4/28/2018 8:31:52 PM

Posted By: Newyorker58 on 4/28/2018 804 PM
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CBGB, you did the right thing with date #1. If she's not appealing enough, it was best to cut her loose before she became more attached to you. Good luck with lady #2.


Thanks Newyorker58, Well I like date#1 but we don't have chemistry I guess. Saw date # 2 tonite we had dinner at a pizza place and then we took a walk on on regional trail to a coffee shop in an old railroad station. After that we walked back holding hands. When we got to her car we kissed.I asked when she wanted to get together again and she said Monday or Tuesday(she has to check her work schedule) I asked what she wanted to do and she said "I don't care,I just want to be with you " I said ok and we kissed again. Wow!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54KBPA20b9Q
 whiterose0
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Posted: 4/29/2018 8:55:40 AM

Whiterose, of course young men think of me as an old lady. I accept that, and it's fine, as I'm interested in men my own age, and most importantly, I don't derive my self worth from men. I think you're projecting with the statement about waning sex appeal and being labeled an old bag.


No, I've accepted the fact that I'm old; however, I don't think you have. Calling older men names like "old coots" means that you're out of touch with your own aging process, and you think there's something wrong with being old.

Even if you're interested in men your own age, by definition they're still older men. As far as not deriving your self-worth from men is concerned, that's not true. You derive your self-worth by making yourself out to be superior to them. It's obvious in many of your posts.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 4/29/2018 1:50:16 PM
CBGB, sounds like a great date, and what a wonderful thing for her to say to you about getting together again!

Whiterose, my self worth comes from my feeling accomplished and happy with myself, and trying to be the best I can be. I have no reason to feel superior to men. If I thought that way, why would I date them? I very much appreciate men for their male qualities, and think it would serve some women better to be more like men.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 4/29/2018 4:59:42 PM

If you're declining naturally along with women, then taking Viagra to have sex with women that are not interested anymore is predatory behavior.


Bwah-ha-ha!! Then I know a lot of married/committed men that would be considered predators because their women don't want sex anymore!!
You really do like to twist this topic right back to men being predators for actually desiring to have sex with their partner....speaks more about you then it does these men....


I have no reason to feel superior to men. If I thought that way, why would I date them?

and yet you freely admit to "dating down"....which means you think you are superior to them in some way!!
 fullmoonguy2
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Posted: 4/30/2018 10:29:35 AM

I have no reason to feel superior to men.


1000% correct !

DING DING DING
 CBGB77
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Posted: 4/30/2018 5:51:33 PM

Posted By: Newyorker58 on 4/29/2018 316 PM
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Message: CBGB, sounds like a great date, and what a wonderful thing for her to say to you about getting together again


Thanks Newyorker58,3rd date was awesome:Now I have a girlfriend!
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 4/30/2018 6:00:58 PM
I'm glad it's working out! Now you have someone to enjoy the upcoming good weather with☺ You've got common interests too, which is great!
 CBGB77
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Posted: 4/30/2018 7:48:35 PM

Posted By: Newyorker58 on 4/30/2018 8:00:58 PM
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Message: I'm glad it's working out! Now you have someone to enjoy the upcoming good weather with☺ You've got common interests too, which is great!


Thanks Newyorker58! We met at a big thrift store to buy t-shirts(I buy all my clothes there,lol)Then took a walk around a lake near were I live. Weather was perfect,75 degrees. Then we went to my house so that she could meet my cats. It was a perfect day.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9wxI4KK9ZYo
 SS4544Spd
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Posted: 5/4/2018 8:08:39 PM
NY58:
If she was in a relationship with the guy where things waned, that's one thing, but it was basically a bad one night stand. She was in her 20s, and never encountered or knew about aging penises.
Yes, there's definitely a problem if a dude in his 50's can't get it up for a 20-something.

NY58:
When people are aging and sex drives may be declining, men taking Viagra late in life will make them predators.
Sheesh......that's a pretty strong statement. And wrong. So......NY58....does that mean you'll be doing prescreening for Viagra use for your prospective dates?
 cooldog65
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Posted: 5/4/2018 8:14:05 PM
Nature's Viagra...Hot young women!
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/4/2018 8:24:20 PM
SS4544, it will be a topic of conversation. I've seen many profiles where guys say they don't need the little blue pill, but who knows. I should ask Henry if there's a way to spot a Viagra user. I think he said he tried it.
 MachIMustangII
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Posted: 5/5/2018 4:05:59 AM
"there's definitely something wrong if a middle aged dude can't get lead in the pencil for a 20-something"

>>>well, she can try wearing pigtails and shorts, that seems to get many old goats randy :)

Good news is, he won't necessarily need to raise a pup tent pole in order to get her off, other parts of his anatomy can accomplish the physics. Maybe being that close to a flat belly will be what he needs, too. As for what signs a man with the Pfizer riser reveals (besides the obvious), i'm guessing he's like a man with $100 burning a hole in his pocket--he's searching out a place to spend what's in his pants. Every other middle aged dude is instead focused on some burning question like:

"Hey, that's a nice lawn--what did you use? I just can't get mine to..."
 ohenryx
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Posted: 5/5/2018 8:59:01 AM

zsuzsa62
I don't see the connection to Viagara. It doesn't change the behaviour. He'd have to be taking testosterone or something else to increase the libido.

I am amazed at the number of women who don’t seem to understand that simple fact.


NewYorker58
I've seen many profiles where guys say they don't need the little blue pill, but who knows. I should ask Henry if there's a way to spot a Viagra user. I think he said he tried it.

Time to tell this story again. Shortly after my divorce (actually, post-separation, pre-divorce, but whatever). I attempted intimacy with someone new for the first time in 27 years, and had some problems, so off to the doctor I went.

Me: Problems with ED.
Dr: do you masturbate?
Me: Yes
Dr: and does everything work then?
Me: Yes, I could drive nails with it.
Dr: no physiological problems then, the only problem is in your head. It’s called “performance anxiety”, go home and look it up. Here, get this prescription filled, next time, take a pill an hour before.

So – the pill worked. I mean, it WORKED! I soon figured out that I didn’t actually need to take the pill, just having it with me did the trick. This is one of those things where if you worry about maybe it won’t work, then maybe it won’t work. But if you know that you have the cure in your pocket, you don’t worry about it, and everything just works.

The insurance I had at the time would cover 7 pills every 30 days. Strange number, but whatever. And even with the insurance helping, they were about $7 a pill. So I went online, and purchased 100 pills for $149 from some place in India. Standard dosage is 50 mg, and they sold the pills in 50 and 100 mg for the same price, so I bought the 100 mg pills and split them.

Later on, after I went back to work, I was telling this story to a younger co-worker. And I mentioned that I had nearly 100 pills left over that I no longer used. He immediately offered to buy them from me. It seems that younger men use Viagra these days so they can emulate the porn stars. I didn’t even know that porn stars all use Viagra to enhance their “performance on camera”.

So back to the question from NY58: Is there any way to spot a Viagra user?

Well, it takes abut 20 minutes for the pill to do it’s magic, so if he always excuses himself to the bathroom 30 minutes before the clothes come off, that might be a clue. Or if it takes 20 minutes of foreplay before he gets an erection, that would be a clue.

And, oh yeah, if he has the refractory period of a man half his age, that would definitely be a clue.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/5/2018 11:19:47 AM
Thanks, Henry! You're lucky you're okay after getting pills from another country, since they may not be safe. I met a woman in my meetup groups that was addicted to anti-anxiety meds she probably originally got legally from a doctor. Hers came from South America. Sometimes her pills would get confiscated while on their way.

Considering what Viagra can do, I'm surprised they don't cost more when legally purchased. The legal ones may not be that safe with whatever side effects they may have. In a relationship, I'd rather the guy be safe and not use them.

Why 20 mins of foreplay?
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 5/5/2018 11:55:31 AM

The problem is not a waning sex drive, it's why a person doesn't want to age gracefully, and being self-indulgent at the cost of others (women).

You can age gracefully. Taking supplements to give you a hard-on that many of your age can get gracefully but you can't, is not self-indulgent nor costing anything to women (only able to give something to them that they would otherwise be disappointed by).

Good Lord NG.....you go from predators to being self-indulgent to mental issues!!

I think you mean NY. :) And yes, she thinks that a guy taking pills to help him get or maintain an erection = predatory behavior. It's quite a cray-cray line of thinking.

If you're declining naturally along with women, then taking Viagra to have sex with women that are not interested anymore is predatory behavior.

Viagra has nothing to do with uninterested women, any more than one going on a robust exercise/lifestyle regimen to become radically healthy where erections become maintainable and sprouting more easily (as with other healthy functions). You're making the fallacy of guilt-by-association. Evil guys who can't get hardons (phew) will use things like Viagra to get hardons (oh no!) -- thus, using Viagra = being an evil guy.

It's so ridiculous of a notion, feeding off protective emotion gone awry, you mine as well follow this Crazy math that "proves" women are evil: Women are both time & money....
Women = Time x Money
Everyone knows this: Time = Money; Money = Time
Thus: Time x Money = Money x Money
Thus: Women = Money x Money

Money is the root of all evil: Money = Square-Root of Evil
Thus: Women = Square-Root of Evil x Square-Root of Evil
Square-Root of Evil x Square Root of Evil = Evil
Thus: Women = Evil ;)

The insurance I had at the time would cover 7 pills every 30 days. Strange number, but whatever.

Basically a rough-estimate to covering how many times in a month will ya pork someone going out on the weekends. :)

It seems that younger men use Viagra these days so they can emulate the porn stars. I didn’t even know that porn stars all use Viagra to enhance their “performance on camera”.

To be fair, younger guys can have performance anxiety too. And issues when having too many beers. So it's not just being porn-star-like, Although there's that too -- able to go multiple rounds with a gal, where you'd otherwise have to 'work' to get it done the 1st time.

Why 20 mins of foreplay?

Because some people like foreplay, although a Full 20 minutes is pretty long for a repetitive routine. That said, not everything's a truck stop quickie. :)
 MachIMustangII
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Posted: 5/5/2018 5:36:26 PM
"The insurance I had at the time would cover 7 pills every 30 days. Strange number, but whatever."

>>>yeah, like NG said...30 days is a month, there's 4 Friday nights and 4 Saturday nights in a month. Should have been eight-- I think the pharmacist was skimming :)

"why 20 minutes of foreplay?"

>>>that's unusual? But then, who times it? other than bored people, natch.
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