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 norwegianguy456
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>>>that's unusual? But then, who times it? other than bored people, natch.

Outside a couple who both are really into foreplay stuff -- it's not unusual, but it's not too common. Who times it? The frustrated guy who's like "I've been going down on you for like, 20 minutes and you're STILL not feeling anything??" ;)
 ohenryx
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Posted: 5/5/2018 9:39:57 PM
Everybody’s slow today, even NG and GTO, who are usually quite sharp.

20 minutes is the magic number.


me in message 322
it takes aobut 20 minutes for the pill to do it’s magic

So 20 minutes of foreplay means he took the pill when the game started, and then fooled around (aka foreplay) for 20 minutes waiting for the pill to kick in so he could get to the main event.

I always found that if I had a naked woman on my hands, I could think of SOMETHING interesting to do for 20 minutes while waiting for the pill to kick in, but YMMV.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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dating over 60 minutes--she may not be leslie, but we sure stalled
Posted: 5/6/2018 4:58:01 AM
oh, i'm always slow with the ladies :) but thanks for the compliment.

not to brag or make it a contest, b/c my dry spells are so long, I probably take more time than someone who gets to see naked women regularly. and i'm just naturally curious about things. Guys who attract women less often, perhaps they put more effort into getting a favorable response.

Meanwhile, for some ladies, part of foreplay isn't physical, its the mental (texts during the day about what their lover wants to do when they get home, etc). So maybe for them, their foreplay definition results in more than 20 minutes.

I do get that the actual pill needs 20 minutes to get into the bloodstream, I remember how long I had to wait after eating to go swimming :) I just figured it was a happy coincidence.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 5/6/2018 7:20:37 AM
So...NewYorker....I am truly curious....

If you met a man, really liked him and things started to get serious and intimacy starts happening...
after a few months you find out he takes Viagra...(because honestly, unless he tells you, you will more than likely not know on your own)
How would you handle it?

End the relationship?
Tell him sex is off the table because he needs the pill????

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here in Indiana....Viagra is $10 a pill and insurance won't pay for any of it.
We found a company in Canada that (with a prescription from your doctor) - they are $3.33 a pill.

But if you are a Veteran...you can get them from the VA for free....and I have actually seen Vets at the Organization I volunteer at selling and trading their pills!!
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/6/2018 9:03:27 PM
Henry, I originally thought you meant it still took 20 mins after it starts working.

Micki, This is all knew to me. I'm thinking if I had a naturally waning sex drive later in life, if that happens, I would hope if I was with someone taking Viagra, that perhaps they wouldn't want to continue. If a guy had no Viagra to take when his sex drive deceased, would he want his wife with a deceased sex drive to crank it up with hormones, if one could do that?
 _Rise_Above_This_
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Posted: 5/7/2018 3:13:22 AM
^^^

I'm thinking this would be the time one of them in deference to the other would want to wine and dine an escort.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
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Posted: 5/7/2018 4:26:10 AM
I have heard tales of spouses who couldn't keep up with the other, giving permission. Tho I usually hear this from the frustrated party :) The spouse giving permission just requests discretion and keep the drama from knocking on the front door. As for hormone treatment, I suspect there are other health benefits to hormones?
 MsMicki
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Posted: 5/7/2018 5:21:17 AM

Micki, This is all knew to me. I'm thinking if I had a naturally waning sex drive later in life, if that happens, I would hope if I was with someone taking Viagra, that perhaps they wouldn't want to continue. If a guy had no Viagra to take when his sex drive deceased, would he want his wife with a deceased sex drive to crank it up with hormones, if one could do that?


You keep saying "sex drive".....and we have repeatedly told you Viagra doesn't give one a sex drive!!! It only give a man an erection...
Not wanting sex and the inability to have sex are 2 different issues....

Different "sex drives" are an issue for most couples....whether they are 20 or 70 years old or need help with their ability to perform, or not.

AND.....you didn't answer my question!!
IF you were dating someone and you both wanted sex...and he needed Viagra to perform....what would you do???
 Strawberry_Jello
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Posted: 5/7/2018 7:16:32 PM
I can report that many men in their 60's have a strong sex drive, even if they can't perform. Yes, I know, that makes no sense. But you can try to tell them, not me. Some of them try and fail. Some resort to other techniques to satisfy their partner. Some take viagra. Some say they don't want to take it.
I had one first date who told me he had one viagra left, and he had it in his pocket. I replied "I'm sure you doctor will give you another prescription" He emailed me the next day that we were not a match. LOL
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/8/2018 7:04:17 PM
Rise, how many men would tell their partners they can have sex with other men? I don't think it's necessary for a woman to do that, when she can self satisfy. I feel the same way for men, they can do the same. Letting a partner have sex with someone else is also easier said than done, as there are side effects to doing that. I think there would be psychological damage to know your partner has gone out to procure and have sex with someone else. A person could also become attached to their new sexual partner.

Mustang, yes, hormone replacement can do more, it can cause cancer. Likewise, Viagra has side effects. I wouldn't ask an older man to take Viagra. I would accept his decline in performance, as my relationship with him wouldn't be all about sex.

Micki, perhaps sex drive are the wrong words for Viagra use, but it can create a desire for sex before taking the drug, because a man will know he's capable.

If I was seeing someone that used Viagra for what may be considered a reasonable amount of sex, then he's already proven he's not going to take it and go overboard, so I guess it would be okay. I feel there's more to a relationship besides sex, so if a guy's focus was solely focused on sex, whether taking a pill or not, I'm not interested.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 5/8/2018 7:45:48 PM
Reasonable amount of sex???
As I have stated before....there are millions of men that want sex more than their wife/gf that don't take Viagra!!

This is a compatibility issue.....not a pill issue
 _Rise_Above_This_
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Posted: 5/9/2018 4:06:15 AM
335

Rise, how many men would tell their partners they can have sex with other men?

Newyorker my one sentence isn't a complete thought like most of my posts. If something is based on reality it's a possibility and many things discussed on the forums are probably happening somewhere in the world. Chances are someone has done a study or survey on a lot of the topics.

What I'm alluding to is that as people age their sex drives may become incompatible and in order to keep the relationship intact they will comprise and turn it into something akin to an open marriage. Take "wining and dining an escort" for example, you have to admit there are a men in this world who do just that and only that for various reasons. Being incapable of communicating with a woman in a normal setting would be one.

Sorry about my incomplete thoughts but my brain malfunctions to the extent that it took me 47 minutes to write and edit those two paragraphs. That's why I would ask you or others to edit my longer posts.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 5/9/2018 7:06:20 AM
I'm glad me and my girlfriend are compatible. WE are the same age ,64 and started having sex on our 3rd date.We don't really have time for anything else except food and taking her dog for a walk because she has to go to bed around 8:00 or 9:00pm(up for work at 4:00am. Tomorrow is our 6th date and we are going to try to watch something on TV(Vikings on Hulu). Friday will be our 7th date but She doesn't get home for from work until 7:00pm so maybe only time for sex. Do you still call it a date if you are only having sex? Lol.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/10/2018 9:09:36 PM
CBGB, don't forget to keep the relationship interesting by doing things outside of the bedroom too☺

Rise, that highlighted edit word, that can only be accessed by you. I get what you're saying, but with older folks, I think on top of someone's sex drive waning or their ability to have sex, it would be damaging to tell one's partner you're going out for sex with someone else. Can you imagine if a guy didn't want to take Viagra due to potential side effects, then his wife further destroys him by saying she'll F someone else? I'm sure people do that, like you said, but I wouldn't do it or expect it done to me.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 5/11/2018 5:27:15 AM
No person should go behind their partners back for sex....no matter the age or health issues.

One thing couples should remember...sex isn't always just the need for an orgasm....it is the physical touch and connection that we crave just as much.
If one partner can't perform for what ever reason....there are still ways to satisfy each other physically, mentally and spiritually!!
 CBGB77
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Posted: 5/11/2018 7:10:13 AM

Posted By: Newyorker58 on 5/10/2018 11:09:36 PM
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Message: CBGB, don't forget to keep the relationship interesting by doing things outside of the bedroom too☺


Thanks Newyorker58! Well,besides making love before and after watching "Vikings" we still had time to walk her dog(twice) and cook a meal together: Linguine with fresh tomatoes and mushrooms. Going back tonite for date #7.
 grover14
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Posted: 5/11/2018 9:46:19 AM
Msmicki, you are 100% right! Great insight.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/11/2018 6:07:35 PM
CBGB, don't forget to help offset the cost of each meal by possibly supplying an ingredient or ingredients, especially if it looks like she'll cook often. Even though she may say not to, she'll definitely appreciate it, and it can help her to keep cooking. If you don't know which ingredients to bring, it can be wine or dessert. Don't forget the popcorn☺ These little gestures mean a lot to women to show you care and it adds to the experience. In time, you'll learn what's important to her and what makes her feel loved.
 _Rise_Above_This_
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Posted: 5/11/2018 8:58:38 PM
Newyorker I knew I didn't explain it well. I was thinking in terms of them discussing it and coming to the conclusion that one would find sexual satisfaction outside the relationship for whatever reasons. I know a couple that came to this arrangement.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 5/11/2018 9:25:42 PM

Posted By: Newyorker58 on 5/11/2018 8:07:35 PM
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Message: CBGB, don't forget to help offset the cost of each meal by possibly supplying an ingredient or ingredients, especially if it looks like she'll cook often. Even though she may say not to, she'll definitely appreciate it, and it can help her to keep cooking. If you don't know which ingredients to bring, it can be wine or dessert. Don't forget the popcorn☺ These little gestures mean a lot to women to show you care and it adds to the experience. In time, you'll learn what's important to her and what makes her feel loved.


Thanks Newyorker58,that's great advice! We had date #7 tonite.I brought food from Bukhara Indian Bistro over to her house.She's vegan so I got Tofu Masala and Vegetable Curry.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/11/2018 10:30:16 PM
Rise, do you know how that agreement is working for them? How old are they and which one is getting sex outside the marriage?


CBGB, dinner sounds interesting. I like curry dishes. Tofu masala sounds good too!
 _Rise_Above_This_
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Posted: 5/12/2018 4:03:03 AM
She is in her 40's, he is in his 50's and it's been going on over 5 years. He is the one getting it because her sex drive has diminished and his is over active. There are two rules. Don't bring home any diseases and more importantly he better be in bed with her when she wakes up in the morning. Their are no escorts involved and I can't say how often it happens since he doesn't brag about it. It's just a fact to him. Others I know have heard her side of the story. Unusual but it works for them.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 5/14/2018 1:12:20 PM

Posted By: Newyorker58 on 5/12/2018 1216 AM
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CBGB, dinner sounds interesting. I like curry dishes. Tofu masala sounds good too!



Thanks Newyorker58 ! I'm going over her house tonite for date 8,she is making me dinner.It looks like rain do a good night to stay in and watch "Vikings" again. She is coming over my house tomorrow for date 9. I have 2 bicycles so maybe we can take a ride around the lakes near me(if it is not still raining).
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 5/14/2018 7:27:07 PM
You're really slaying it, showing men how to get it done☺
 MsMicki
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Posted: 5/14/2018 7:41:22 PM
No offense ....but not sure every woman would agree that having date night damn near every night of the week is slaying it!!
3 weeks in and spending that much time together would be way too much for me...
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