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 mako20
Joined: 9/8/2007
Msg: 73
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I Just think it shows,,a guy can be a idiot at any age,,,lol,,Hope you walked away after that???
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 11/15/2011 4:24:23 PM
OP-- this man was a looser...he was one in his 20's, 30's, and so forth.

Any time we enter the dating arena, we have to be ready for all sorts.

BUT you sound sharp--so you find a quality partner.
 fairview1
Joined: 3/28/2011
Msg: 75
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:58:13 PM
its people like him that make it 100 times harder on a date they give the rest of us a bad name
 sdani52
Joined: 3/7/2011
Msg: 78
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Posted: 11/18/2011 10:43:29 AM
I couldn't agree more. I should never have advanced beyond the phone call with one of my last "firsts". Need to learn to listen to my instincts. However, do not regret meeting him...need as much "first meet" practice as I can get! Looking forward to the POF party in Annapolis, MD tonite. Come on out!~

Sue
 louisianadoll
Joined: 11/5/2011
Msg: 79
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Posted: 11/18/2011 11:15:43 AM
This is so funny, (not really) i cant seem to make it to the first meet AFTER the first phone call. Most Men are so nasty and disgusting. I can picture him over the phone, LONG neck, lil round head and one beady eye..justaaa smilinnnnn...hmmp!
 lotustemple
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 80
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Posted: 11/18/2011 11:45:33 AM

if i was there i would of **** smacked his monkey ass he messed up a good thing you are smokin hot


i love this response. we need to clone this poster.
 Lionessx
Joined: 9/26/2011
Msg: 81
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Posted: 11/21/2011 7:30:03 AM

You guys really think that a woman over 50 doesn't deserve to be treated like a lady on a date?


A woman over 50 deserves to be treated like a lady and that man certainly was no gentleman. Groping in public like that was a public disgrace.
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 85
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Posted: 11/23/2011 7:50:34 AM
"...loser, cruiser or user from here anyway..." I don't know why you still have a profile up if you feel this way about the men on here. You had 3 dates and they were poor, I'd say it's your picking technique or your lack of "reading" the male population on here. And 3 poor dates does not mean the men on here are all like that. I'd maybe look in the mirror and question myself because you may have developed a pattern. When you have a profile name with a word like "sensual" in it you set yourself up for someone just looking for a quick romp in the sack. And women lie about their age, height, change their hair colour to cover up the grey but we are what we are, we ain't 21 anymore and it shows. Why chastize men for doing the same thing you do. And an old broad chasing younger guys is somehow pathetic....just sayin.

I've not had one date push for sex or even discuss sex on the first few dates or grope me. There are the odd people out there with no social skills or that are just after a quick romp, but they are few and far between. I really like men in my age group, I find them witty, charming, interesting, attractive, sexy, etc. for the most part. Not all of them are the right fit for me but I've not been put off dating because of one or two dudes.

Meet for coffee or a quick glass of wine. Keep your wits about you. And leave if you feel uncomfortable. There are a ton of nice guys out there in cyberland, it just takes time to fine the one for you.
 SugahPunkin
Joined: 5/28/2010
Msg: 87
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Posted: 11/23/2011 4:52:39 PM
wow. Ive neverhad that happen and Im so sorry it happened to you.

He had no right to do that. Sound like he thought he had full range to do what he wanted regardless of your thoughts. What an idiot.

I hope it gets better for you. Not everyone is like that.
 giftoflife
Joined: 11/11/2010
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Posted: 11/28/2011 2:00:28 PM
Every man should be treated like a gentleman, and every woman should be treated like a lady.

It's just common sense and politeness and respect.
 fundude1962
Joined: 11/15/2011
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Posted: 11/28/2011 11:01:25 PM
Hi

I Think that you pic up a loser. This have nothing to do with age. A loser is a loser, age is not a factor. A 20 years , 30 years or 40 years etc ... will grope you the same way. Furthermore a loser will grope a 20 yrs, a 30 yrs or a 40 yrs old woman etc ..the same way. So next time be more careful of who you date. Do not rely on his age.
 lifeisgreat101
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 94
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Posted: 11/29/2011 5:49:24 AM
Neither approving or not

Age not important

Date / meet whatever was no good for either one

End of story end of date

Drop date /drop complaining
 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 95
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Posted: 11/29/2011 11:26:14 AM
how do u feel being groped at night?? lol...
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 96
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Posted: 11/29/2011 11:40:31 AM
There are a LOT more creeps than Gentlemen out there...You just hit a creep
 SHAKTI0531
Joined: 8/1/2010
Msg: 100
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Posted: 12/24/2011 12:31:55 PM
Hmmm, I wonder if he's related to the breed that insist on trash talking via text before the first meeting. The reasoning is that "we have to match." Yeah, but I usually like to umm actually "see" you in person before I can decide whether or not we match physically/sexually. Interesting site.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 101
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Posted: 12/26/2011 7:50:28 PM
We may not be virgins, but we are not whores either. I would have poured my drink in his lap and walked out. A guy who gropes a woman without her consent, public or private, is committing sexual assault. (Same goes for women who grind on a guy without his consent.)
 KAKI3152
Joined: 5/24/2008
Msg: 102
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Posted: 12/26/2011 8:10:10 PM
All I would expect from a woman on a first date would be (1) Be on time and (2) Be polite. You don't have to like me but I do insist on politeness. Oh and be dressed appropriately for the ocassion.

I , on my part, will not fondle you or make snarky, sexual remarks. I would never think of groping a woman unless it was something that would be desired by both parties.
 always1learning
Joined: 12/28/2011
Msg: 108
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Posted: 1/1/2012 12:12:50 PM
It is appalling and utterly unacceptable. Sorry you had to go through that. B
 henkscoffee
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 109
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Posted: 1/1/2012 4:22:49 PM
yeah while we're at it lets hang him but first a humble stoning after we bash him of course lol, are you's lot serious, there's good and bad in all crowds, believe me women do the same, control is a great word !!!
 paulg333
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 110
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Posted: 1/1/2012 6:45:54 PM
You are exactly right, you just got stuck with a looooser on this one, don't give up I am sure there are many gentleman out there....

Paul
 margarita2030
Joined: 11/19/2011
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Posted: 1/8/2012 11:45:11 AM
No one wants a man to behave in this manner regardless of his age. It's embarassing and undignified. It shows he has no scruples and at 50+ it's shameful. I too have encountered that kind of behaviour and it just spoils things. It shows that all that person wants is a sexual relationship and nothing more. What they are really doing is shooting themselves in the foot by showing themselves for what thet really are.
 Phuney
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 112
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Posted: 1/8/2012 12:37:29 PM
That isn't right painting everyone with that broad brush. That tells more about you than the actual incident you’re talking about..
 HippyDippyWeatherman
Joined: 3/20/2008
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Posted: 1/8/2012 1:06:07 PM
Op next time you run into a man like that be prepared. When he gropes you just say it's your turn to grope his balls and then reach into your purse and pull out a pair of Vice-Grips.
 whatsnotinaname
Joined: 5/31/2010
Msg: 114
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Posted: 1/8/2012 1:09:10 PM
It's interesting that inappropriate sexually oriented behavior is common for those with Alzheimer's and/or dementia. A while back, the father of a local mayor was arrested for having sex with a young woman (a prostitute?) in the back seat of a car parked near a pizza place. Apparently, the old guy had problems with his cognition and was operating on instincts alone.

It is interesting that some of the inappropriate behavior we see from older men may be the result of early onset Alzheimers. Then again, maybe the old guys were always just jerks.
 lobck
Joined: 3/31/2009
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Posted: 1/8/2012 3:54:13 PM
This is when you lean toward him and whisper ever so quietly.....did I mention I carry a gun?
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