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 FoxyMoron74
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 79
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Ba ba Blacksheep is NOT banned in schools, nursery schools or playgrounds.
That is a complete myth orchestrated by the biggoted folk to attempt to muster a sense of disharmony and discontent towards other ethnic groups.
One of the things i enjoy about being sensitive is that I can rise above the attempts of groups / individuals to incite dislike of all other ethnic groups.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 10/21/2011 2:39:37 PM
Actually its not "just" a myth

It was origionally a directive from the education inspectors department to schools in birmingham, and has also been mentioned by several other government funded organisations

The "myth" is that its still banned, or that it was a national directive to begin with rather than just a regional one but the initial directive was later rescinded after complaints from majoratively black parents

The term "blackboard" has infact remained as a directive though and chalkboard is now used in many schools, as also has the term "black bag" which many councils have replaced with the term "refuse sack" and the old term being used, even by black members of staff can still be grounds for an official warning

Oh yeah, and I am fairly sure that at least a few schools or nurseries adopted the "politically correct" version too of their own accord, but I dont think they were based in the birmingham area

So it IS infact in use at "some" schools, it just wasnt ever banned
 mazeyh
Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 82
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Posted: 10/21/2011 3:31:49 PM

Actually its not "just" a myth

It was origionally a directive from the education inspectors department to schools in birmingham, and has also been mentioned by several other government funded organisations

The "myth" is that its still banned, or that it was a national directive to begin with rather than just a regional one but the initial directive was later rescinded after complaints from majoratively black parents


Dunno where it originated.I thought it was a Hackney nursery.The Birmingham thing came later but was never really put into place.You'll look far and wide on the internet before you'll come across anything other than a very few episodes when it reared its head again over the years.You've obviously discovered that given your inability to provide any examples.It certainly was never mentioned during my teacher training in the early 90s .


At least a few schools or nurseries
is somewhat a different picture to that you initially suggested.



The term "blackboard" has infact remained as a directive though and chalkboard is now used in many schools,


I have no idea if it was ever a directive tho again experience tells me that it was never really a huge issue in many places.Praps you could direct me to the source of information.Most schools these days don't have many blackboards or chalkboards.Whiteboards and especially those scary interactive whiteboards is where it's at.
 avalon_moon
Joined: 4/2/2011
Msg: 83
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Posted: 10/21/2011 4:08:06 PM

scary interactive whiteboards



We have those....and believe me they are scary. Tend to use the ordinary whiteboard myself. Don't know many schools that have blackboards anymore.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 10/21/2011 4:22:53 PM

Of course those example aren't offensive! Intent is the operative word. You're contorting y'self mighty hard there to believe that noone means anything by it.


Not sure how much you've drunk to think thats what I was saying, but needless to say its incorrect

The point I WAS however making, is that the key word in that format of a sentence, whether black, gingerheaded, tall or anything else by virtue of the way the sentence works gramatically IS purely a descriptive term for the specific person the term is directed at

The insulting part in those examples is the last word, but as the entire sentence is directed towards an individual its an "insult" to a singular specific person, not their race, or everyone with their hieght or hair colour

And that in those examples non of the descriptive adjectives were on their own "offensieve"



Next time someone calls you a ginger weirdy beard you can re-assure y'self they're merely being descriptive and that they would have been just as likely to call you a mousy haired freak.


Firstly its a different format to the sentences I was using, so its not really even a valid comparison.

And secondly you can try and call me all the names you like in a vieled attempt to get a reaction but you wont as the words of irrelevant strangers really arent any more relevant to me that the person saying them in the grand scheme of things



Dunno where it originated.I thought it was a Hackney nursery.The Birmingham thing came later but was never really put into place.You'll look far and wide on the internet before you'll come across anything other than a very few episodes when it reared its head again over the years.You've obviously discovered that given your inability to provide any examples.It certainly was never mentioned during my teacher training in the early 90s .


I did give examples albeit not via links. and from reading your previous post I dont think you seem to quite understand what a directive is

Theyre usually recommendations given to local authorities from think tanks or special interest groups that are then given to inspectors to "suggest" to schools but without being actively enforced as this method means things can be introduced quickly if popular and allows quick retraction if theyre unpopular and theyre far easier to scapegoat if one ever really blows up in a councils face

The sheep one I cant say I have heard linked to hackney, although that really wouldnt surprise me. But was definitely recommended by birmingham city council school inspectors after a recommendation by some racial awareness council. I think only a couple of schools actually implemented it, or only about two admitted implementing it before the complaints made the council remove the directive

I didnt infact claim it was a "huge" anything, simply that rather than being some media invented myth it was actually just the media reporting what had actually happened albeit most probably with some exageration

Which wasnt a "different picture" I only said it was directive initially which it was, and that it was later rescinded

Also that some schools adopted the altered version of their own accord which they did (oxford I think they might have been in or maybe cambridge)

But basically my point was that it wasnt a myth, but niether was it "banned" if you check back.
 mazeyh
Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 85
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Posted: 10/21/2011 5:39:58 PM
I am finding it extraordinarily difficult picking my way through your convoluted explanations of the English language.Maybe I'm easily confused.

Suffice to say I don't think there would be all that much confusion as to the intent and sentiment behind the following statements.

black teacher , ginger haired teacher, black police officer, ginger haired police officer, black child, ginger haired child.All statements of fact and neutral.

black sexpot, ginger sexpot, black beauty, ginger beauty.......I'll stop there cos mostly it seems quite difficult to find all that many examples of when black or ginger (or any other physically based adjective come to that) would be placed in front of a compliment.Unless they are talking specifically about the physical attractiveness of an individual people in general don't do it .

black twat, ginger twat, black weirdo, ginger weirdo, black thicko , ginger thicko . all derogatory.

Maybe you can't discern the offensive intent behind adding the adjective to the last set but I'm sure very many people could.

I don't really need to argue the point about the black sheep and the blackboards.You do it quite well for me......" a couple, one or two , suggestions, most probably with some exaggeration."

The Hackney school by the way didn't actually ever ban the baa baa despite wot the sun sed (or was it The Star?) Schools alter a lot of things to add some variation to a theme.Take for example The Wheels on That bloody ol' Bus.Must be a thousand and four variations on that song.All as bad as each other.
 try1more
Joined: 12/16/2007
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Posted: 10/21/2011 7:58:12 PM
i really dont see much point in getting upset at name calling.
if the name fits then "you" look a bit stupid getting mad.
if it doesn't then "they" look a bit stupid.
what am i?
well to you i am whatever "you" think! and there is nothing i can do about that.
you will judge me using your values not mine, thats something we all should learn to accept.
we have all met people that will make some claim that we dont agree with.
by getting upset all you are doing is supplying them with bullets to fire at you!
by letting it go you are spiking their cannon.

if it's been said as a joke then getting offended and shooting back will only escalate things.
if i think something has been said in anger then i'll most likely ignore it.
otherwise if i can think of a good response let the banter commence :-)

as for the racism thing and how ridiculous it can get, check the link.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1354370/How-referring-gossip-jungle-drums-led-month-racism-probe.html
 pennyapple
Joined: 1/18/2010
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Posted: 10/21/2011 8:34:40 PM
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 pennyapple
Joined: 1/18/2010
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Posted: 10/21/2011 9:00:34 PM
I'm THAT sensitive and fragile x
 mazeyh
Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 89
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Posted: 10/22/2011 1:58:35 AM
yes I checked back Mike this morning and on the face of it it seems like I was arguing about nothing much and I couldn't quite work out why.

Then I thought about it a bit.You and I posted at the same time in response to hereagains question why was baa baa black sheep banned.You posted and gave her a long ol list of reasons why.You then subsequently went back and edited your post a number of times in the light of my response to her that it wasn't.

A tad irritating but there you go.
 garyzac
Joined: 9/25/2008
Msg: 90
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Posted: 10/22/2011 6:48:48 AM

Perhaps you'd like to point out the part of my post which has led you to ask this ridiculous, and clearly confused question...?
Though I suspect you won't be able to...


As usual, I'll be able to produce the relevant comment. You may recall that the OP asked us:


I can't help but noticing in life and on here just how mega peoples egos have became yet they have teeny little fragile sensitive emotions that can't bear any level of rejection or criticism!

What is wrong why are there so many needy fragile people?


So, the topic is those people who have fragile sensitive emotions, regardless of where they display those emotions.

In MSG 73, I referred to those senstive souls who have their racism exposed on dating sites. You quoted that reference in MSG 75, if you recall, and then stated:


Serves them right for constantly whining and bleating on about "immigrants" really, doesn't it....?


The inference being that you suspect people who mention immigration are latent racists.

I then produced part of the Labour Party manifesto of 2010 which clearly refers to placing controls on immigration, and stated that it wasn't racist to discuss such matters.

So that is why I was led to ask you the questions:

Do you consider the Labour Party to be a racist organisation for wanting to control immigration?

Are you accusing all Labour members and voters of ‘racism’ for supporting a racist act?

Asking those questions was a perfectly reasonable thing to do given your question of MSG 75.

So, the answer to your question:


Perhaps you'd like to point out the part of my post which has led you to ask this ridiculous, and clearly confused question...?


is MSG 75.


 Nutty_Bat
Joined: 9/14/2011
Msg: 91
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Posted: 10/22/2011 8:24:48 AM

Yes, my parents were immigrants, so what...? I'm certainly not ashamed of that. Quite the contrary actually.


Some are and some arent , my dad was an immigrant and im certainly ashamed of him . im ashamed to admit he was my dad, i wished my mother had never met him and i was born to someone else ,
 Emma_Dilemma65
Joined: 5/4/2011
Msg: 92
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Posted: 10/22/2011 8:41:01 AM
This thread apparently has lost it's way ... but ... to continue on the current theme ...

if the majority of UK citizens decided to trace their family history they'd discover an immigrant ancestor at some point in their history ... I'm rather excited to discover that one of mine was a Parisian aristocrat who arrived in London as a "dance master" in the 18th century .. ooo la la la !!
 _roxy_
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 93
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Posted: 10/22/2011 8:56:44 AM
This thread....quite funny...keep it up you crazy forumites.

Blodeuwedd.......My aunt and myself went a bit back in our family history. As well as the Romane, which I knew, we have Native American (red injun for the racists) and my great great great etc grandmother used to own a brothel.....great stuff. We have still to go further back.
 garyzac
Joined: 9/25/2008
Msg: 94
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Posted: 10/22/2011 9:27:37 AM

You have missed the relevant qualifier out of your analysis; you said "on dating sites", not me.


I didn't miss anything, actually.

You asked me:


Perhaps you'd like to point out the part of my post which has led you to ask this ridiculous, and clearly confused question...?


And I answered:

"MSG 75".

If any mentioning of immigration is 'racist', then surely it matters not where that mention was made, whether on a dating site or in a political party's manifesto.

If you're having difficulty understanding your own post (as happens quite often, I notice) then that isn't my problem.

I trust that clears your confusion.


Yes, my parents were immigrants, so what...? I'm certainly not ashamed of that. Quite the contrary actually.


No-one mentioned your parents, actually.

Oh, and what IS contrary to being ashamed of something? Being proud of it? Well, expect some comments on that, because one poster one here once wrote that they cannot be proud of something over which they had no control.

I do hope that person isn't reading this thread.

 RockyPP59
Joined: 3/22/2010
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Posted: 10/26/2011 5:58:43 PM
I think someone should have changed the thread title by now!

Back on topic & in answer to the OP, well, it takes all sorts to make a world! Some of us are robust, some of us aren't - I sometimes wish I could brush things off easily but the fact is that's just my personality and life has been a process of developing coping strategies.

"Sensitive" types aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea just as the "happy go lucky" approach won't always "cut the mustard" - how's that for mixed metaphors!

Basically, if you don't find someone's personality attractive, you don't have to date them and I'm sure you'll avoid them as much as possible so not sure why it's a problem really.
 bambiisnotsingle
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 97
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Posted: 10/27/2011 12:34:03 AM
My friends get protective of me it something i seem to switch on in people ,
I think its my nature because im a cuddle monster i dont no .
Ive two opisit sides to my nature one is extreme and dark the other side gentle .
The extreme dark side with serious attatude comes from being bullied young ,
I hate bullys i hate seeing others belittle others and i dont back of .
Its my strength .
Im no way emotionaly fragile but i will not stand back and watch someone try to strip another down lower there selfworth .
I love the uniqueness of people but people forget how special they are get down and get depressed they forget to just be themselfs .
I got lost couldnt find myself after i lost my father it was like a part of me had gone life had lost its fun and sparkle .
god how bad a place that was .
Noone could help me find me i had to do that myself .
My strong willed nature eventully won and space and tears helped ,
But there are people out there who are fragile life keeps hitting them down .
some kind words and a little empathy can help them .
Just smileing at a stranger can change there entire day .
Emotionaly fragile im not im as strong as an ox but showing someone you care can just help the fragile live a little .. We are on this earth for a good time not a long time
I just so love people and finding out what makes them tick ,
I do just chat to anyone i was in manchester last week sirsuperkev was showing me around sees two police officers there uniforms were not the norm .
I asks kev is that how your policemen dress he said not normaly .
So i went up to them quizzing and said scottish police dont dress like that .
They just laughed but at least i made them smile ....
People can at times in there lifes be emotionally fragile just treat them with some tlc ..

I cannot stand agression some folks cant win with there mouths so resort to violence no need ever
 sprite1950
Joined: 9/17/2011
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Posted: 10/27/2011 12:48:29 AM
I dont know if people have 'become' this way. You either are or you arent, some people are more sensitive than others and surely that's how its been from the beginning of time. Certainly from the beginning of my life. I tend to be a worrier and worry about things that may never happen. I was like it as a child and not much has changed. Other people can let things go over the top of their heads and not become concerned until it actually happens. I would love to be like that.

Im sensitive about issues that are close to my heart and Im sure that must be the same for everyone.
 LukeT77
Joined: 1/12/2009
Msg: 99
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Posted: 10/27/2011 1:48:32 AM

I dont know if people have 'become' this way. You either are or you arent, some people are more sensitive than others and surely that's how its been from the beginning of time.


Yeah, this is probably true. Perhaps all this social media and online forums are just bringing us more into contact with each other than we had been previously and made us more aware of each other.
 cswrel1
Joined: 9/24/2011
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Posted: 3/23/2012 5:10:55 PM
cause people need somethin to **** about !!!
 drinkofcoolant
Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 101
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Posted: 3/23/2012 10:59:41 PM
I believe there's always going to be those that are overly sensitive
and will grow a thicker skin as they get older.

What they could probably do with to speed up the procedure and de-sensitise themselves to the situation is to get a job dealing with the General Public!

If that doesn't sicken their pig and shock the $hit out of them nothing will.
By the time they've finished 8 hours of Torture they won't have the energy to blog about
eating breakfast or staring at the ceiling!
 AwwwShucks
Joined: 8/16/2010
Msg: 102
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Posted: 3/24/2012 1:36:42 AM
Looking at the OP I took it that they meant on another person being informed of lack of/no interest from someone that is clearly interested in you...or perhaps my interpretation is wrong?

We all know that life is a choice...blah blah

On the odd occassions I am out I tend to get approached by women a lot younger than me, and since I draw the line at dating anyone not 35+ I find that women under this age are decidedly pushy. As far as I'm concerned I'm having a conversation with no romantic/lecherous intent, so when it ends and I say "it was lovely meeting you" some are genuinely shocked that I don't want their number :(

What happened to just having a conversation for the sake of it? But am guessing that's what we get living in these opportunistic/instant times where everyone seems to have an uber sensitive ego

Just leave the ego at the door!
 fat-trucker
Joined: 2/5/2012
Msg: 103
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Posted: 3/24/2012 2:28:17 AM
Unless you come from a stable background,with a loving and stable support network.IE family, freinds, sexual relationships,co workers.Your childhood was a complete joy,and you was encouraged to grow as a confidant person,then you can say why are you so sensitive.

But sadly this is not the case in 99999.9% of human relationships.

Folks just hide it well..we all have an ego..it is our mask,the bigger the ego the more damaged our wellbeing is...the more you are hiding your true self..Every single one of us has been thru pain..

What did you do with your pain....Sadly most of us harbour it,and chuck it at someone else.
 helen1981
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 104
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Posted: 3/24/2012 2:31:56 AM
I can be oversensitive sometimes and laid back other times. Sometimes things touch a nerve. I work with vulnerable adults and so get a fair bit of abuse but can take that as I distance myself by being in the professional role.
On the forums I am quite opinionated and used to people not agreeing with me. I enjoy a debate what I don't like is when it gets personal. I've been called a liar and a moron and that hurt my feelings like it would if it were in real life. Also I find people being so rude about fat people offensive. People seem to almost delight in telling the world they don't like fat people. I feel some people almost wear it as a badge of honour. I get that we don't all fancy the same people I just don't understand why people have to be so rude about it. I also get people shouting stuff from cars. So if I'm oversensitive on this issue it's because i get it all the time.
 AwwwShucks
Joined: 8/16/2010
Msg: 105
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Posted: 3/24/2012 2:47:12 AM
Yes agree that everyone has an ego but if for instance someone said to me "your ugly short and brown" I'd honestly not take offence as there's nothing I can do about it
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