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 SusieQ_TX
Joined: 8/21/2011
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I would not seek him out, but it seems that this man may have just showed up at your door on a white horse. He's someone you know. I'd consider it in your case.
 JCinVicBC
Joined: 6/17/2011
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Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/10/2011 5:05:17 AM
If I was 15 or younger, yes.
 sexyisback!
Joined: 9/14/2010
Msg: 28
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/10/2011 9:06:11 AM
if he has a good amount of $$ /possessions, (or high net worth, assets ) just think --the odds are great he will die before you do, marry him & cash in

worked for Anna Nicole Smith & countless others..all of Hugh Hefner's wives..etc.
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 29
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/10/2011 2:42:49 PM
I have never been attracted to anyone more than 20 years older than me, even like movie stars. 20 years younger, I'd say no, but I would go as young as 24.
 psytle
Joined: 3/7/2011
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Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/10/2011 5:29:33 PM
I'd go out with a hottie like Morgan Fairchild, if she were available, and I was anywhere close to her league, ha. :D

I mean, what could it hurt?
 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 31
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/11/2011 5:08:46 PM

The younger you are the farther the gap seems.Just think when your 60 and hes 80 whats the diffrence then you will both be old!Mabey old and happy together.


That post makes me laugh…. The poster is a young man, 31 y.o. To him 60 and 80 seems like almost the same age. For me at 49 it’s a huge difference.

In regards to the OP question….I wouldn’t date anyone that old. He would be my parents’ generation. Really, no way for me.

The funny thing is that 2 older men who tried to convince me that the age is just a number were not interested in dating women older than they were. Only the ones that were much younger.
 ontario_woman
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/11/2011 5:49:31 PM
Not me. I like them a bit older, but not that old. My father is only 19 years older than I am. The thought of dating someone older than him is....creepy....
 sexyisback!
Joined: 9/14/2010
Msg: 33
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/12/2011 7:40:05 AM
the real answer for a majority of women would be: it depends.. if the guy was wealthy, a multi-millionaire or a billionaire, yes. --- if poor, no.
 Mort Meeks
Joined: 1/30/2006
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Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/12/2011 8:13:09 AM
"Fear is from the past, not the present, not the future." That's a good one, for sure. I recently went through a lot of soul-searching and came out of it better off, and one of the things I realized along the way was exactly that. I had a lot of bad feelings that I was trying to block, but eventually I said, okay, come on in, and just felt them -- but at the same time, I knew to say, this if from the past. This belongs in the past, and it's not right to assume it will continue in the future. It helped a lot.
 hoyos
Joined: 8/16/2011
Msg: 35
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/12/2011 10:45:16 AM
bimbosaberry

...That's disgusting! for such old man to be courting a 20 year
younger female. ...

Yea, others that also have dead air between their ears would probably tend to agree.
 UniquelyPassionateCandy
Joined: 8/6/2011
Msg: 36
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/12/2011 12:04:30 PM
I have always dated older guys..I date guys into their 40's but I dunno if I would go 50's for a couple of reasons...The age difference would put us in 2 very different places in life. There is a point where in my opinion the age gap is so large people are headed more away from each other then toward. And 2, is because 50's is the age of my parents. I just cannot see me compatible with someone who is old enough to be my dad. But that is just me ..
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 37
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/19/2011 6:44:13 PM
Well, about what poster said about how the majority of women would not date someone that much older if he was poor, only if he was wealthy. .even then, no! Not all women are materialistic. I would much rather have someone who I was compatible with, and attracted to, than someone much older, wealth or no wealth.
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 38
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/21/2011 6:39:21 AM
This is one of the easier answers I've given in the forums...YES, YES, YES.

He seems considerate and respectful. He isn't rushing you into anything. He is thoughtful too. He brings you gifts which aren't big flashy gestures which it seems he has taken the time to consider and recognizes as an item you would be touched by receiving. You are able to converse with him both on subjects which are important and the informal chit-chat that comes from companionship. To have 5 children and two of those with special needs takes a lot of love and understanding and this man isn't phased by it.

Love is risky. Relationships are risky. Forget the age difference. Men like this are rare. Jump in - both feet - and see where you end up.

Side note - my oldest son's father was 18 years older then me. We met when I was 17 and he was 35. Family objections forced us apart after a year or so but we came back together again when I was 22. I was 26 when our son was born. Unfortunately, due to a tragedy, a year later I was on my own. If it hadn't been for that, who knows if we would have still been together today. But I learnt a lot about who I was in that relationship. Age doesn't matter in my opinion. I wouldn't actively seek out someone who was so far from my own age but sometimes that's they way it happens. In my view, it's more about mutual respect and trust and love - that's has nothing to do with age and everything to do with the individuals concerned.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 39
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/22/2011 9:36:31 AM
I don't know. I prefer men a few years younger up to 10 years older than me.
 DerekDiabloCBC
Joined: 11/5/2011
Msg: 40
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/23/2011 7:59:56 PM
[I would definitely NOT date someone that much older.
That's disgusting! for such old man to be courting a 20 year
younger female. Females who seek this time of relationships
usually had a dad missing while growing up. Gather up some self
esteem and I'm sure you can find a younger, stronger man who will
be around to share life with you and your kids. Otherwise you'll be taking care
of this old man and his ailments for many years.
Keep in mind Older men are more devious and deceitful they have
20 years of experience ahead of you! You are like his daughter.
Kinda sick. Think about it.]

Don't listen to this one my dear; she lives in MIAMI, you live in Michigan. We manufacture hot women and girls here, plus we import them. She has been played by a fair share of old-school pimps that knew how to trick her out of her wares. She is simply cynical. Old men here can bang young hot chicks all day if they have loot and game. Your story sounds like the beginning of a porn film with the whole farming theme. Have sex and see how he rates in that department. If he is still in strong operation at his age, chances are he'll be all right for many years to cum...

Further, the world may be destroyed next year, enjoy what time we have left. As for me, I was banging 30-40 year old broads when I was 16. Dated a 55 year old when I was around 35, so there. I'm 37, so by your equation, she would be 57; no problem. If she's up to date that is. In shape, plastic surgery, big fake tits, good to go. We call hot women down here over 60 "Thunder Cats".

You gotta be careful though; you drop too much impact on their hips and they might break. Feed her calcium pills and ecstasy along with the drinks and she should be fine so long as you don't put her legs behind her head and pile-drive her while you lean back.

Glad I could be of assistance. On the other hand, if he can't bang you out well, discard him in the bedroom and keep him in the field for the rest of his years. Flirt with him and tease him; having him wanting you will create interest from some of the other fellas in the area. It's male nature. ;-)
 ChocolateNutt
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 41
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 11/24/2011 9:57:40 AM
no and not someone 20 years younger, either
 tornadoatbeach
Joined: 2/25/2011
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Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 12/1/2011 6:05:37 PM
Its a cliche but age is still a number. Depending on the comfiort level and your mental age, it certainly can work well.
Of course we all don't aspire to be Hugh Hefner ;)
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 43
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 12/2/2011 12:40:46 AM
yes, Planning to meet an absolute LOVELY lady this weekend who is 20 years my senior...


she is spectacular looking and lovely to talk to.


and last week I was with a girl almost 20 years my junior...


i am an equal opportunity kinda guy.
 Bkrast
Joined: 2/9/2011
Msg: 44
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 12/2/2011 10:07:04 AM
It would depend on the woman. I haven't dated a woman my age or younger since I was 22. My last 3 long term relationships were a 16 year difference, 11 year difference, and 3 year difference. The strangest thing is that at the beginning of all three relationships they were 41. Age is not something I bring up when engaging in a conversation IRL. I was raised not to ask a woman's age!
 wildlifelover1979
Joined: 2/11/2011
Msg: 45
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 12/3/2011 7:34:49 AM
I would date an older women but not sure I could date a woman who was over 55. If it was just a sexual relationship then I would date any woman over 18. I think the woman that I have a long-term relationship and committment would have to be age 21-50. Even some women in their 20's aren't dateable because they are too immature. My definition of immature is different than most. If you want to mes around going to theme parks, concerts, bars, clubs, dancing, and parties all the time then that is immature to me.
 not dolly
Joined: 4/9/2009
Msg: 46
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 12/4/2011 9:52:27 PM
Here we go. What did your 22 year younger g/f do to screw it up>?
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 47
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Posted: 12/5/2011 4:41:37 AM
Age never really matters, its all about the feeling. Me, personnally, I set a bar 10 years up or down from my age. Further than that I`ll either feel like a sextoy or a sugar daddy
But the last thing it is is about the age.
 ro1970
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 48
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 12/9/2011 1:35:18 PM

Older men are MUCH better when it comes to everything. Manners, honesty, material stuff, maturity,sex..........


I beg to differ there.......I have dated older men (10 years older, than me, that is) and haven't found them to be more mature OR honest. - if anything, they were DIS honest and more experience being as such.

So no, I would NOT date a man that is more than 5-7 years older than me.....and I certainly will NOT date a man that is younger than me, either.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 49
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 12/10/2011 8:33:01 PM
To the initial question of the title of the thread...NO I would not date someone 20 years older than me.

But that is me and I wouldn't judge someone who did. If you think you can work it out with the guy in question then by all means go for it...happy trails
 Lonely.Stoner
Joined: 8/14/2011
Msg: 50
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 12/14/2011 1:24:35 PM
hell yes i would date a beautiful older woman:P
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