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 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 128
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If they had a good bit of money and no prenup, I would consider dating an 80 year old. If they aren't in good health, so much the better.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 129
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 6/28/2012 9:35:50 PM

i don't think men do well dating older women...especially significantly older women...why? because let's be honest, men are visual. guys, when you are 40 and the woman you are with is in her 50s, are you really going to be happy?


My cousin married a woman 9 years older and they just celebrated 30 years together. I dated a widower 9 years my junior who had married to a woman 18 years older than he was and they were together happily for 20 years until her death from breast cancer. He was very handsome and had absolutely no problem with our age difference.

OP---Age has little to do with love...if this man is a well-intentioned, decent, caring man, has a good reputation and gets along well with your children, I see no harm in exploring a relationship. A lot of May-December relationships last a lifetime.
 Doctor-Lock
Joined: 6/25/2012
Msg: 130
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/4/2012 8:10:25 AM
I think you misread the beginning. The farm boy is twenty years younger than the mother of the bunch. I only can say if he is still growing in his learning and experiences he will probably leave you for a younger one eventually. I dated an older woman once that I thought was attracted to me. What seemed to be the case was she was attracted to the fact that I was a little boy and it was more of a fantasy. I never could get her away from feeling guilty. She only wanted me for sex. If being taboo is for you, don't do something you will regret or would be ashamed to tell your parents about.
 dressagesweetie1974
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 131
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/5/2012 3:27:29 PM
Mmm 20 is pushing it for me. But I would be more comfortable going OVER than UNDER. I always feel pervy some how. Haha
 toraten
Joined: 6/3/2012
Msg: 132
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/10/2012 3:09:49 AM
how would you like to date me?
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 7/10/2012 8:44:14 AM
I would have 20 years ago, but not so sure now. I'm not out hunting for 67 year old ladies. Generally, these situations are usually short term.
 missme2much
Joined: 1/2/2010
Msg: 134
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/13/2012 8:05:09 PM
Doctor-Lock...you misread. The farmer is twenty years older than I. Twenty years younger than me would be a child- and I am absolutely not into that sick stuff.
 Zero_patience9000
Joined: 7/8/2012
Msg: 135
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/15/2012 5:47:07 AM
Age is just a number. I say go for it. Hes a guy, he has plenty of life left in him.
 FisherMane2012
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 136
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/16/2012 11:17:38 AM
Not only would I, I actually have.
 jamieklima
Joined: 12/31/2009
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Posted: 7/17/2012 6:38:37 AM
I had an older woman I was like 19 and she was 37. But anyways it was what it was I did her good and she took care of me. Now at my age now 36 dateing a 56 year old naw I couldnt do it.
 Choporis
Joined: 6/25/2012
Msg: 138
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Posted: 7/17/2012 1:01:51 PM
Age is only a number IF that person looks YOUNGER than his/her age.
Face it, a 50 years old person looks old; the problem isn't the number of age, it's the LOOKS.
If a 50 years old person that looks like in his/her 20s or 30s, and want to date people in their 20s too. Then all power to him/her.
 hermanater63
Joined: 6/12/2011
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Posted: 7/17/2012 6:34:10 PM
i think go with your heart .if you have fun with him and are compatable,and he treats you like you deserve then why not try .i myself look younger than i am and for some reason younger woman are atracted to me .my last girlfriends were in twenties i am 48 .cant seem to find a woman my age .but to me its just a number ,they seemed to immature for a relationship :( however it was fun and dont regret anything .hope i helped you at all
 CheekyCapricorn
Joined: 7/2/2012
Msg: 140
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/18/2012 5:47:59 AM
I've been there and done that when i was in my 20's, these days no i couldn't. A previous partner was 10 yr older than me, when we were together there was no age difference, if anything i was the mature one ;) but he occasionally had the "been there, done that" attitude, which i wasn't a fan of and caused some issues..just because he's been there done that, why should I miss out? i guess it's a little selfish on my part but at the same time we should all get a chance to experience life our way.
 1_blonde_mom_35
Joined: 5/21/2012
Msg: 141
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/24/2012 6:15:19 AM
yes i would date someone who was 20 yrs older than me
 usernonymous
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 142
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Posted: 7/24/2012 7:16:14 AM
Date, sure, marry not so sure.

Right now, I have a FWB who is 15 years younger than me and met a woman that I really was attracted to who was 22 years older than I am.

The 62 year old woman, who is an amateur triathlete has a body that a 24 year old would love to have. I know because my friend has told me that.

People often don't look their age. I've been told that I looked 30 recently. However, I feel that a 20 year age gap would defintely matter down the line. When I am 60, the same tri-athlete woman would be 82. Would she even be alive by the time I reached retirement age.

No one knows (she's more athletic than I am now, and in better health), but I would always keep that in mind.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 143
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/24/2012 9:38:29 AM
Aww hell, no. The only one left whose 20 years older than myself is the Grim Reaper.
 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 144
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 7/24/2012 12:06:20 PM
No way, that's a huge age difference. He'd be almost my mother's age. I'd be more comfortable with 4 years younger to 8 years older.
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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Posted: 8/16/2012 6:19:49 PM
nope 20 years is too big of a gap (entire generation)

and I'm not looking to be a nursemaid in the near future.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 146
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 8/16/2012 6:29:53 PM
Probably not, he might be interested in dating my mother. She has been approached by 60 year old men and she is 79.
 TheAlaskanRose
Joined: 11/23/2010
Msg: 147
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 8/16/2012 11:44:13 PM
Oh wow, MM2M--he's courting you! You deserve it girl! If he is fit in his 50's and a farmer, I think he should age nicely WITH YOU.

You simply MUST tell us the outcome. Go for it! YAY

(P.S. I once dated a British chap that was nearing 60 (I was 42) and liked him very much for many of the same reasons you stated. He was old school and it was so refreshing. (Unfortunately, I had to go back to the States and he had to remain abroad.)
 Saagis
Joined: 8/25/2009
Msg: 148
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 8/17/2012 12:23:58 AM
I don't think I would but knowing myself . . . well We know the answer
 Ivy8
Joined: 8/7/2012
Msg: 149
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Posted: 8/17/2012 6:14:16 AM
At my age, 20 years older ..no. I have dated someone 10 years older and discovered I wasn't interested. But 20 years younger, sure I would.
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 150
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 8/24/2012 11:59:16 AM
Twenty years older is 74 I can't say I have even seem too many women ( in hollywood whose photos are touched up ) who have spent tens of thousands in plastic surgury who still look youthfull at that age. I think I'll pass. I don't have much of a desire to see a 74 yr old woman in a bikini let alone naked.

When I was 20 or even 30 it would not have been out of the question to date someone 20 yrs older.
 DameWrite
Joined: 2/27/2010
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Posted: 8/24/2012 4:35:04 PM
Yes I would and I have and we are still great friends.
You never mentioned anything about attraction (unless I missed it, I didn't read all the posts) but if you feel like you can be intimate with him, and he's not after your children, then sure, age means nothing when two are good for each other. All the best O.P.
 sunriseguy5
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 152
Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 8/24/2012 6:10:37 PM
yes i would, i am attracted to older women but realistically i should date women my age instead of older women, oh well. . .
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