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 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
Msg: 42
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I think this is a very good thread because.....................................with a lady for one day. We met here and have been e-mailing each other FOR ONE DAY. She has already sent me her phone number and asked me to call her. I am an extremely liberal person, and not the best moral character on the planet. But even I thought this was a little too soon to be passing out phone numbers.

I simply told her that I wasn't going to call her until we spend a little more time chatting. Although I am permanently separated from my wife, I am sure not ready to delve into another relationship. And I don't think I ever will be. But then that's another thread.

Thought I have to admit she is a nice lady.


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 LittleLisa03
Joined: 5/6/2009
Msg: 43
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When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/28/2011 9:42:31 PM

Classic line from the time wasters on here. Don't know how many I've heard this and every time it's lead to absolutely nothing as they will eventually stop replying to your messages after awhile.

Since you quoted me: "Nothing wrong with chatting on here for a while. :)"

Nothing wrong with giving out your number early either. Different kinds of people, different kinds of personalities, different ways of doing things.

Some may enjoy giving out numbers early on, & meeting right away - However, I don't. But I'm shy... Does that make me a "time waster"?
 Akizzej
Joined: 5/1/2009
Msg: 44
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/29/2011 12:30:37 AM

Interesting that people are willing to give out Facebook invites before phone numbers. I mean Facebook has your first and last name, pics of your FAMILY and kids if you have them. Way more identifying information than a cell phone number.


I'm always giving out my cell phone # to folks because I connect with people when it comes to socialising with my special needs son. {yanno, moms in the park, parents at the pool etc}
So I had no problems about sharing my cell # with the one fellow I've been in contact with here on POF. I volunteered it on like message 4 or 5, based on the simplicity that he had indicated he didn't like continued e-mailing and chatting. {I'm not overly fond of it myself} It just made sense.
He has used it twice - around ten days ago before our first meet and again after I sent him a text {being a shift worker I thought he would have been asleep}.

I don't let the phone rule me... my landline is registered under a different name, so I can actually ignore the ringing of that... and my cell phone has caller id so I can ignore that too. Hmmm personally, (I think) it's being able to say 'no' to ringing rather than the request of the number that makes it interesting.
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 45
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When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/29/2011 1:17:32 AM
For the one millionth time. You do not need a fricken phone to meet someone in person or to get to know someone. If you want to exchange numbers that's fine but in order to speak face to face out there in the real world there is no need for a piece of metal electronic device. Whatever works and makes people happy.

How do you get to know someone without a phone? You set up a time and place through POD and meet. What a concept!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 46
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/29/2011 7:58:13 AM
If you're debating whether to give someone your phone number, that proves that you have some interest in the person who's asking. Otherwise, you would flat out reject the person. By deciding not to give out your number until you know the person a lot more is basically saying to the person: "I like you, but right now, I don't trust you. You could turn out to be a stalker and a rapist and an axe murderer. You have to prove to me you aren't any of those things before I would even consider giving you my number." I won't play games with paranoid people who never learned how to use common sense. Let them live in fear that 3.5 billion people on the planet are out to harm them.

How did people get to know each before the internet and cell phones? Did your mother and grandmother fear your father and grandfather could be a rapist and murderer until they got to know them better and proved not to be?
 justin010101
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 47
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/29/2011 10:51:44 AM
ok first of all this is a no brainer, just because you give a man your number doesn't mean the world is gonna end. If the man turns out to be annoying or someone your not interested in you can block the number, or just not answer any unknown numbers ,its your phone you are not a slave to it. You don't have to anwer every call that pops up on the phone.
 tlw9191
Joined: 2/20/2011
Msg: 48
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/29/2011 11:38:03 AM

Some may enjoy giving out numbers early on, & meeting right away - However, I don't. But I'm shy... Does that make me a "time waster"?

If all you do is send endless messages back and forth and never actually go out and meet the person then yes it does make you one. I see so many using the shyness excuse so they can keep it to just messages on here in the hopes the other person will screw up and say the wrong thing so they can validate it to themselves that the other person isn't a match without ever meeting them because in reality they are just too scared to actually go out and meet the person to begin with.
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 50
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/29/2011 12:40:18 PM
Girl...give out your number when you are ready! Plain and simple. Call him and talk for a while like someone else mentioned. There is never a "right time" to do so being as everyone's preferences are different.
 Beastie121
Joined: 10/5/2011
Msg: 51
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/29/2011 2:21:09 PM

Needing some advice here. I've met a guy on here and he seems really nice and sincere. He gave me his number and asked for mine. But my only problem is that I'm nervous about giving a guy my number after we have only been talking a few days. Should I take a chance or wait until I'm completely comfortable with it?


You need to relax. It's just a number, it's not like you're giving him your address or SSN. Seriously, if you're interested, just give him the damn number and get to know him. Why is it too hard, and why are you so uncomfortable? Quit being so paranoid.
 sukhdeepsingh
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 52
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 10/30/2011 1:15:31 AM
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 geeballin24
Joined: 7/15/2008
Msg: 53
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 11/1/2011 3:37:09 PM
Give it to him. What is the harm. I do it and get em all the time and not been burnt. Its how u handle things. Even if u later feel there is no connection all u have to do is tell him and should not be a stalking problem if there was no connection. If there is then there prob was a connection at some point and that is the brakes. Still handle it accordingly but really, u would of gave it to him by that point anyway right? I think it depend on the guy and everything leading up to how he gets to that point to ask. Never had anyone tell me no number, but I dont ask in the first message either lol pprob dif for girls but as a guy I say ..let it ride!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 54
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 11/1/2011 4:07:38 PM
If a woman tells you her number is 867-5309 and says her name is Jenny, it's probably a fake number she's giving.

 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 55
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 11/1/2011 4:15:24 PM
just give it to him already!! (1-800-imeasy)!! LOL....
 The_Four_95s
Joined: 10/8/2011
Msg: 56
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 11/1/2011 4:17:21 PM
Probably her concern is that he may start calling all the time becoming an annoyance.

But I should let you ladies know, If he does become a nuisance, all you need to do is block his number or report him.

If youre hesitant to give out a number to him but otherwise are having amazing conversation with him, something is wrong.
 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
Msg: 57
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 11/1/2011 4:20:05 PM
pdizzel..why must you call people stupid if they don't know how to use Facebook discreetly? Maybe they are just not informed. Facebook gives no directions on how to use it. It is one thing to be ignorant and another to be stupid. Ignorant simply means one has no information. Yes, there is a lot of information to be gleaned from a facebook account, but do you have to call people stupid?

Bottom line is...I am not going to give my phone number to anyone unless we are heading towards a more serious relationship. Yes I can ignore the calls on my cell phone. But because I am single, I have no need for a land line. So I don't want to give my number to just anyone. And when someone from POF gives me their number, I tell them I am not interested in their number, then delete that post from our correspondence.


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 NuMeNow
Joined: 12/21/2008
Msg: 58
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Posted: 11/1/2011 4:34:01 PM
As mentioned by many, only give out your number when you are comfortable. IMO it is important to talk live to see if there is any type of connection that you would like to pursue. Therefore, ask for his number and call him and take it from there. Personally after talking several times over the phone if I feel there is a connection worth pursuing I will give out a contact number. If complete strangers/telemarketers etc. have the ability to contact me and I have not given them my number I really do not have a problem giving out my number to someone who has offered me theirs and with whom I have talked to several times but then again I would rather talk over the phone having a real time conversation than spend time chatting through emails...but that’s me.
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 63
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Posted: 1/15/2012 11:14:34 AM

Bottom line is...I am not going to give my phone number to anyone unless we are heading towards a more serious relationship. Yes I can ignore the calls on my cell phone. But because I am single, I have no need for a land line. So I don't want to give my number to just anyone. And when someone from POF gives me their number, I tell them I am not interested in their number, then delete that post from our correspondence.

I totally agree. There is absolutely nothing standing in the way between two people in getting to know each other through POF mail to communicate and meet in person until you are comfortable giving out your number. People who are sincerely interested in me usually don't make a fuss about it.

Someone compared telemarketers to giving out your number to others you meet here. I go through great lengths to make sure telemarketers remove my name from their lists (have been successfully for years) and there is no way I'm just going to give my number to someone I am still getting to know.

If people like to give out their number in order to get to know someone and don't mind this, that's great. I'm not going to tell them don't do it. It's none of my business but I know exactly when I am ready to give out my number and if someone has a problem with that than it's good I know this right away so no one wastes their time.
 Bobster999
Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 65
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 1/15/2012 7:06:55 PM
You should give it to me right now!
 tnt144
Joined: 10/22/2007
Msg: 67
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 1/16/2012 9:48:11 AM
The rule is to exchange 3-5 emails and then make a date to meet at a public place/restaurant right in an email.

Your feelings are correct. 93% of communication is body language which can only be observed in person. Only by meeting in person can you get a good sense of character and feel comfortable in giving out your number.

Don't ever second guess your intuition. Ask a security expert how important it is.
 bradythomas
Joined: 7/30/2013
Msg: 69
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Posted: 8/7/2013 10:40:26 AM
Don't give a guy your number unless you meet him in person about 2 or 3 time, that way if give you time for yourself if he worth giving out the number too. Remember, you want to be safe.
 bradythomas
Joined: 7/30/2013
Msg: 70
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 8/7/2013 10:52:49 AM
If you want to know the reason why after exchanging numbers that the guy continue to send you email, he could be a psycho path, mentally insane or just completely nut!!!! You should change your google voice number, so he doesn't bother you anymore because there are some scumbags in this world that you cannot help or reason with, that why they have a internet dating provider to help you so they can delete them out or law enforcement.
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 71
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 8/7/2013 9:05:26 PM
In these days of caller ID , if you have called him on the phone then he already has your number . Unless you have paid to have your ID blocked when you call some one .
 35brock
Joined: 3/20/2013
Msg: 72
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 8/8/2013 7:25:14 AM
I like to exchange numbers before a date / meeting. A phone conversation is not mandatory. But I like to have her number in case one of us is late due to traffic, getting lost, an earlier commitment ending later than expected etc. If a woman doesn't want to give her real number, buy a cheap prepaid cell phone and just use it for internet dating.
 WittyMinute
Joined: 7/5/2013
Msg: 73
When do you give a guy your number?
Posted: 8/8/2013 8:55:48 PM
Because I don't really like having to go online and click around and enter a password to get a message from POF, I ask for his number. Obviously, this is only if I feel some sort of connection with him. This usually happens in about 5 or 6 emails. When the emails are coming quickly, it's because we are both excited by a potential connection and wouldn't it be more effective to just talk?

The other reason I like talking before meeting is to determine if we enjoy conversing with each other. Voice, timbre, vocabulary, wit, rhythm and etc. I met someone without talking on the phone first and it felt like we'd skipped a step; he interrupted more than I do :). I would have known this had we spoken and would have politely said that maybe we weren't a good match.

With online dictionaries, a roommate who writes well, all the time in the world to compose a message...you'll never really know who you're typing to.
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