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 ForumsGee
Joined: 2/26/2009
Msg: 83
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JCO415.. Im here for the forums, hence Forumsgee

Im stating a fact, there are 7 women to 1 man here in Florida.. it is a wealthy state and wealth buys "happiness" or at least an image! I have had more contact on the forums from men out of my state who find me attractive..dark hair/eyes and shapely.
My profile is hidden as Im sick and tired of the type of messages and the type of men who have contacted me.. they say poop runs south...

Being blond with fake boobs, fake smile and pill thin would get me any man I want..thing is I dont want "any man" I know what I want (substance) so until it happens ...

Loving Florida, Loving life!
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 84
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Posted: 11/2/2011 8:46:23 PM
^^^^^ Read your own posts......there's a LOT of jealousy, resentment and excuses in them!
Get some confidence!
Your posts are no more true than the nice guys whining about not having six pack and, fancy car or big bank account!

All you need is you...a healthy you with a healthy positive attitude!

The only reason you're finding only shallow men going for shallow women is either you are also shallow and want those men but don't quite make the list for their attention OR its an excuse for not naturally improving yourself or your dating skills.
 annabird
Joined: 6/7/2010
Msg: 85
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Posted: 11/2/2011 9:54:40 PM
**having small children in your late 40s is probably a turn off for many **

I have a 12 yr old daughter....no one messages me, but im sure having a child isnt the only reason
 kissingkimber
Joined: 8/16/2011
Msg: 86
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Posted: 11/3/2011 6:01:41 AM
^^^^^ I think you have a very nice profile and you seem like a genuine person looking for a great guy. I dont know why your not getting messages. Have you wrote anyone? Do they respond when you write? I dont think kids have anything to do with it because everyone seems to have kids these days or are at least excepting of it. Good Luck and hang in there Im sure someone great will come along.
 annabird
Joined: 6/7/2010
Msg: 87
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Posted: 11/3/2011 6:17:37 AM
Thanks :)

I have been on here for a yr and a half and have had only 37 first contacts from men. I have sent out just shy of 300. Most are ignored. The ones that contact me seem pushy and want to meet that day which i wont do, or after meeting they give the classic response "i guess im not ready to date, its not you, its me" but the meeting lasted several hrs and seemed like we both had a good time. . A few i have turned down because they are not my type. And of course i get the "im looking for a fit woman" I just tell them not to crab because they cant find any" good women", lol.
 annabird
Joined: 6/7/2010
Msg: 88
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:10:34 AM
**With that said, I get the impression the women I have emailed or tried to chat with on line (who never reply) immediately disqualify me based on my age. The 40-something single woman is holding out for a 40-yr-old or younger single guy thinking all 50-yr-old-plus men are like dating a senile old man. Come on, late-30s and 40s women! There are guys out here like me not looking for a quick lay but an attractive, personable, fun woman to date and maybe more if we hit it off.**

I personally prefer men older then myself. Much calmer. :)
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 89
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:13:37 AM

I checked out other womens profiles and my pics are not that revealing.


The thing is that they are probably getting their share of sexually charged messages..but THEY aren't complaining about it!


I see women on here in swimsuits or short shorts but no one is saying how sl*tty she is.

I don't believe anyone said you were slutty...maybe I missed it, but the point is you cannot advertise SEXUALITY then b!tch about the sexual messages you're getting....


Why can't some men just be responsible for what they say and how they read a women and not blame the women cuz she has cleavage.


Why can't YOU just acknowledge that you get the attention in the direction you advertise! Either stop advertising it or accept that a certain amount of people are going to respond to it! Either way grow up....you aren't going to change anyone...you can only change yourself!

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
 HappinessOK
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 90
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Posted: 11/3/2011 8:03:58 AM
KissingKimber..I think you have a very nice profile.. its not provocative at all..you look like an attractive, happy fun woman! You dont deserve to be told that you are inviting bad behaviour from doosh bags!. This is a free site ..therefore there are many dooshbags, male and female... and there are many who will defend unacceptable behaviour. Their standards are lower and will date whatever comes their way!

Keep your profile exactly as it is.. and hopefully you'll find someone of substance. Good luck
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 91
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Posted: 11/3/2011 1:56:42 PM
HappinessOK, unless youre quietly a bit partial to occassional bouts of kebab munching youre not really going to "get" provocative

Heres a simple test you can try to ascertain how your attraction mechanism resembles or doesnt resemble a mans

Find a woman with quite large noticeable breasts showing a decent bit of cleavage

Do thoughts like

"Man, I wouldnt mind playing with those puppies"

"I can think of something I'd like to stick between those"

or

"I bet they would look ace when shes naked and riding someone"

ever spring to mind?

Nope?

Well chances are that your idea of what is and isnt "provocative" might not be as close to that of many men the world over
 _allen_
Joined: 6/14/2009
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Posted: 11/3/2011 2:48:16 PM
I'm probably the minority here who actually visits POF for meet and date nice women. My moral goal is to meet decent women, whether for dating or friendship. If I see cleavage or bikini pic, I move on. It's one of my many hang-ups and such a huge turn-off.

Over the years, I too have noticed POF turning into a "meat market". POF, these days, is seen as a host for "soft-core porn". I've seen more cleavage and revealing two-piece bikini pictures shots than Maxim magazine. It all reminds me of my grade school days of who can attract the most attention.

Though I believe the intent of most POF users is not to find an eligible date but to be seen/judged - show off the goods and fish for comments in doing so.
 HappinessOK
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 93
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Posted: 11/4/2011 9:23:41 AM
Mikewm..what the heck are you talking about...you make no sense!.. huhh?? kabab munching?? ..sorry dont get it..

I would hope I don't look at a woman and "see" what you see...I am partial to a full red blooded male, but one that knows when/where/how to approach and behave like a gentleman...even thows with a little "devil" in him... its not always what is said, its HOW its said and delivered... capeche?

sassy v crass
 Louissa
Joined: 8/29/2010
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Posted: 11/4/2011 10:13:43 AM
I have not noticed this so much. The main thing I notice if when they see you online, they immediately message without even reading your profile. Er...I wish I could meet you, but if you had read my profile you would have known I am 9 thousand miles away and wont be home but every 4 months.
 giftoflife
Joined: 11/11/2010
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Posted: 11/5/2011 7:21:02 PM
I've noticed the same thing. Most all of the men want sex and refer to sex before I even get to talk to them on the phone. Even chatting online, they bring up sex etc.. I want to meet a nice man, get to know him and see what follows and have it happen naturally. I really feel like a piece of meat the way most of the men talk to me.

Sometimes I just feel like giving up, but who knows maybe one day an honest, real man will contact me.
 BrownInOrange
Joined: 7/30/2011
Msg: 96
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Posted: 11/5/2011 10:07:27 PM
I must be using this website wrong ... no one's ever solicited me for sex! I'm kind of insulted now by the lack of interest in me. LOL.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 97
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Posted: 11/6/2011 5:34:00 AM

Mikewm..what the heck are you talking about...you make no sense!.. huhh?? kabab munching?? ..sorry dont get it..


I KNOW you dont "get it", thats the point

Youre saying what YOU (a hetrosexual woman) thinks when you look at a woman with cleavage which is irrelevant when the topic is how hetrosexual MEN would view, react or respond to deliberately exposed cleavage

This would be the same if the thread was revesrsed and men were complaining that women went "ewwww" at certain types of photos of men, but many men would probably look at then and not see what the problem is unless they were gay and also attracted to men, but even then it probably wouldnt follow that gay men and straight women would see those photos in the same way anyhoo

So the fact a straight women doesnt see photos of another woman in a sexual or suggestive way really doesnt equate to them NOT being sexual or suggestive when viewed by a straight man in the slightest

Thing is though, most women over the age of about 15 DO know exactly how hetro men view such things and either deliberately or subconciously go out of their way to make full use of that knowledge when it suits their aims

But as seen here, when it attracts men theyre not interested in they tend to complain about it, however were all the men doing this DDG ones they DID fancy I doubt anybody, or not very many women WOULD be complaining in the slightest
 UniquelyPassionateCandy
Joined: 8/6/2011
Msg: 99
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Posted: 11/6/2011 6:24:26 AM
Well the one thing I have found is, sites like this make it easier for a guy or girl to find somebody to sleep with...It used to be before this, people used the bar to pick people up for that. But places like this, and craigslist and a few others give the ability to be more forward without worrying about the slap in the face for asking lol

I don't respond to guys who are looking to hook up just to get laid...simple logic..and if I meet them in person and they give me any indication that is all they are looking for it's buh-bye
 TimeFlies24
Joined: 10/9/2011
Msg: 100
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Posted: 11/6/2011 6:35:59 AM
LOL, Op. that would be a good name. It seems like most people in the world are just looking to get laid these days. POF users are just following the trend. I had come across a few good guys on here that were looking for somethigng real and were "dateable" Keep searchin, you will find the real one.
 ForumsGee
Joined: 2/26/2009
Msg: 101
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Posted: 11/6/2011 7:33:30 PM
No matter how attractive a man is.. if he approaches me (initially) with an inappropriate comment or suggestive banter when I hardly know him will get a negative response or No response from me.

Why should I accept that behaviour on POF or whatever site when I would NOT accept it in any other form of meeting like a cafe, bar, nightclub, wedding reception or wherever..

I'm known for my witty sense of humor and Im no sour puss ..the exact opposit ... but crude, lude, crass behaviour does not do anything for me...or most women!

Anyone who shows some cleavage or tasteful beach pics on their profile should not
expect rude comments...

Its a bit like saying a raped woman it being her own fault because she wore a short skirt! "she was asking for it"
 whatif1964
Joined: 9/11/2011
Msg: 103
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Posted: 11/6/2011 8:34:31 PM
I agree with you, it seems like that is all that the boys on here are looking for. I they should know who they are. I call them boys because a man really wouldn't do that if he is a true man.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 104
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Posted: 11/6/2011 8:56:00 PM
^^^ REAL men are secure with themselves and aren't making excuses or worrying what everyone thinks...they don't NEED people to like them and know a lot of people won't.

BTW your last line is a form of social bullying...just like saying if you disagree with OBama, you're a racist!

....Or maybe your opinion differs due to affiliation/philosophy...

You cal them boys because real men wouldn't do that.... LOL
I call women who use sex to get something whores...because a secure woman doesn't trade sex for respect/love/security etc..
 Nyte2008
Joined: 12/29/2009
Msg: 105
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Posted: 11/7/2011 9:00:45 PM
Yes I noticed this. Read my profile, I've first-hand seen the degradation of POF.
 Chas_0207
Joined: 12/7/2008
Msg: 106
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Posted: 11/12/2011 5:13:01 AM
Very funny but I do not see it that way. What I do thnnk is you have to have thick skin. I do not find much luck going through any of these sites.

Charlie
 JCinVicBC
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 107
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Posted: 11/12/2011 5:16:11 AM

I haven't noticed this. Maybe the ones looking for a POA are the ones leaving one word or one liner messages in my inbox. I don't reply to those so I wouldn't know what they are looking for.


That'd have to be it. I'm sure a beauty like yourself would get tons of those.
 Dee-mee-uh
Joined: 8/29/2011
Msg: 108
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Posted: 11/13/2011 11:09:48 PM
I haven't found this site to be a meat market at all, most people are actually looking to date.

Aside:
POA also stands for Power of Attorney
 kailania
Joined: 4/10/2008
Msg: 109
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Posted: 11/13/2011 11:28:34 PM
I havent met many people in person from here but the ones I have, have been most kind to me.
the mail I receive has never been sexual.
only one man was too touchy feely for me....
he didnt get a second date.
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