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 smokincigars
Joined: 3/25/2010
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I think three different things are at work here.

First, POF is indeed attracting more men (and women) who are here primarily for sex. One reason may be the fact that POF is free to use, while some other sites aren't; people who have to pay to use a site are probably more serious about a relationship and less about just hooking up.

Second, some women are becoming more competitive when it comes to their profile photos (and perhaps text). I see a lot more sexy poses than I did when I was here a few years ago.

Third, some men (and women) who came here originally looking for casual dating or some sort of more serious relationship have decided to settle for whatever they can get, at least until "the right one" comes along. Some may have also lost a bit of their patience, and now are far less subtle when it comes to what they want. So many other people are just looking for quick-and-easy sex, why shouldn't they move faster too?

The truth is, almost everyone wants sex to one degree or another. After going without for awhile, the "want" moves much closer to being a "need". I still prefer a serious, loving relationship that includes sex, but there are times when I'm willing to temporarily lower my expectations or standards a bit -- especially if the woman wants the same thing on similar terms.
 Talipia11
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 111
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Posted: 11/14/2011 3:26:46 PM
Has anyone else noticed that this seems to be a meat market? When I was on POF a few years ago, people were actually looking to date. Now it seems that they are only looking to get laid. I think the name should be changed to PieceOfAss.

Am I the only one having this issue, or are people actually finding dates?

I am finding this too, and it is making me uncomfortable being on this site. Guys seem to expect you to want to have sex with them regardless of whether you actually make a connection or not. Maybe this is just not for me.
 jester0012009
Joined: 10/8/2010
Msg: 112
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Posted: 11/14/2011 5:30:55 PM
i sure feel violated
 bzchilders
Joined: 7/13/2011
Msg: 113
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Posted: 11/14/2011 6:01:11 PM
This is to whatif1964 comment, I happen to be 23 and i hate that myself mam. It drives me nuts and I about want to deck the S*** out of some of the "boys" i see on a day to day basis. It pisses me off. My parents raised me well and from what my faith teaches that that is someones little girl. Not a Piece of meat like most "boys" see. i do notice though that i send out messages myself clearly identiying that i have read these young womens profiles and what my intentions are but for some odd ball reason i dont get squat for a reply.
 GuitarHero68
Joined: 6/15/2011
Msg: 114
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Posted: 11/17/2011 3:55:51 PM
"Men who have been attracted to me have always been attracted to the whole package-mind, body and personality."

Nope - that line is as old as "you have beautiful eyes." They just hide their desires / objectives better than the guys who are obvious about it, having learned that reverse psychology tactics are usually more successful than, say, conversing directly with your bosom. Your subsequent statements prove that to be the case.

Think about it: If a guy didn't want your boobs, he'd interact with a woman who was not as well endowed. They're much more plentiful and, like fat ladies, generally "easier." Busty women get more attention because…? They’re busty. Duh. Boobs are as much of a shiny lure as is a pretty face. And fish love to pursue a shiny lure! lol
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 115
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:08:48 PM
God no

AFF seems to have far more balanced and grounded people on it that this crazyhouse does

This is more like the asylum that AFF dumps its rejects in I reckon
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 116
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:22:28 PM
^^^^ I love you MAN!
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 117
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:32:08 PM
I sort of think of this place as 'all sorts', because there's such a wide spectrum of types of people ... come to think of it, just like there is in real life. And why shouldn't it be? This IS a part of 'real life'. After all, the people typing their profiles here and posting to the forums are real live people. When they're not walking around 'out there', they at some point (or often) are on their computer, here.

So if it's a 'meat market' here, I think it's safe to say it's a 'meat market' out there where the hungry and the meaty congregate (grin).
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 118
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:41:37 PM

AFF seems to have far more balanced and grounded people on it that this crazyhouse does

that does it i'm going to AFF
i wannna get laid by Xmas


Third, some men (and women) who came here originally looking for casual dating or some sort of more serious relationship have decided to settle for whatever they can get, at least until "the right one" comes along. Some may have also lost a bit of their patience, and now are far less subtle when it comes to what they want. So many other people are just looking for quick-and-easy sex, why shouldn't they move faster too?

The truth is, almost everyone wants sex to one degree or another. After going without for awhile, the "want" moves much closer to being a "need". I still prefer a serious, loving relationship that includes sex, but there are times when I'm willing to temporarily lower my expectations or standards a bit -- especially if the woman wants the same thing on similar terms.
 omtaylor
Joined: 6/15/2010
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Posted: 11/18/2011 11:34:31 AM
YES!!!

I really thought i was crazy, But its true.

I was chatting to guy:
1st email we greeted each other,
the 2nd email We discovered that we lived down the street from one another.
On the 3rd email he began with,"What do you like to do to please your man?"

I told one guy i liked his profile and he was cute. He replied to me, "I have a girlfriend actually, I just wanna get laid, so you down to f**??"

Really?
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 121
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Posted: 11/19/2011 8:41:29 AM

God no

AFF seems to have far more balanced and grounded people on it that this crazyhouse does

This is more like the asylum that AFF dumps its rejects in I reckon


HAHAHA That was amusing.

I think local bar has more potential than this place. You need to weight out negative consequences, carpaltunnel vs alcoholism.
 CapnRHHNY
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 122
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Posted: 11/19/2011 9:01:58 AM
I tell you, sometimes I feel like I need to put on a full bio-hazard suit before logging onto this site. This fishing pond reminds me of the old "Love Canal" site near Niagara, NY back in the 1970's. Too many abominations with profiles.
 MandyLOVESCandy
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 123
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Posted: 11/19/2011 9:03:07 AM
yes it is sad to me, I don't know about years ago but I have gotten quite a few disturbing e-mails on here, offering money for sex , etc. my profile does not say or offer any such thing!
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 11/19/2011 9:33:40 AM

yes it is sad to me, I don't know about years ago but I have gotten quite a few disturbing e-mails on here, offering money for sex , etc. my profile does not say or offer any such thing


It doesnt, but I think your main photo might be open for some people to think it might be a possibility whereas the second one wouldnt as its not reminiscent of "pay per view" in nature at all

Admittedly someone who is clearly above averagely attractive is going to get a degree of what they might consider "sleazy" or sexual approaches which is pretty much par for the course. But ones specifically assuming you would exchange sex for money outside of a traditional marriage type bulk purchase agreement would perhaps make reassessment of your profile worth a look as thats not "usual" for other equally attractive women

Infact just swapping the two photos round I think might lessen the likelyhood of people enquiring about your hourly rates and two photos like the second one I would expect to almost totally remove that occurence
 john_in_bh
Joined: 12/25/2004
Msg: 125
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Posted: 11/19/2011 12:29:47 PM

Has anyone else noticed that this seems to be a meat market?


Yeah it's unbelievable what this site has come to. Every other email I get is some hot girl asking me if I want to have sex with no strings attached. They also send me random pictures of them totally naked and even ask me to send THEM pictures of my private parts! Can you believe this stuff?? I block and delete but it just keeps on coming.
 FyrKrakn
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 126
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Posted: 11/19/2011 1:32:11 PM
No. I've been here off and on, sometimes for forums, sometimes for dating, sometimes for meat, since late 90's. No significant changes, that I can see, in the people.

In fact, there are dozens of photos that are exactly the same.
 volcolm85
Joined: 7/31/2009
Msg: 127
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Posted: 11/19/2011 1:34:41 PM
I've noticed this, it's not just men doing it.
Also finding that women in my area aren't particularly interested in connecting on a one-on-one level, and would rather a big muscly guy with a 4x4 (materialistic). Why are people so passive-aggressive? Thing is I think legit men/women are having a difficult time on POF as a result of varying things, the "in your pants" bologna being most common.

Also the vibe that I'm getting from reading profiles, or making an effort on my own part - most women seem to have the "every guy is a rapist, serial killer, or creep" mindset, which isn't fair when you're trying to be as straight forward and genuine as possible.

For the record:
I have a hernia, getting laid is the last thing on my mind :P
 FyrKrakn
Joined: 11/1/2011
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Posted: 11/19/2011 1:45:56 PM
I think that you folks are confusing the scammers and prostitutes for real people.
Just block and delete. They don't mean anything and they are thick on EVERY dating site and many social sites and they get your email and spam the heck out of you. It is worse, everywhere, but are the actual real people here worse? I don't think so.
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 131
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Posted: 11/20/2011 6:42:05 AM

It is is disturbing. Is it because women are too easy these days?

Easy women create hard men.
pun or no pun depending on your emotional state :)


Women no longer have the edge because of this.

Oh that is VERY debatable. Let's not turn this fun topic into a serious discussion.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 11/20/2011 6:59:41 AM

yes it is sad to me, I don't know about years ago but I have gotten quite a few disturbing e-mails on here, offering money for sex , etc. my profile does not say or offer any such thing!


It's the booty..I mean..it's pretty darn nice. () Meaning, you're quite attractive, and unfortunately, some men are very very crude.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 133
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Posted: 11/20/2011 7:04:47 AM
I've been here since 2005. I never noticed that the number of men looking to get laid (only) has changed between the clubs, the dating sites and anyplace where people go to meet someone has gotten worse. Maybe it doesn't annoy me that much, or I don't pay enough attention to it.
 WreckLoose
Joined: 7/4/2011
Msg: 134
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Posted: 11/20/2011 12:33:25 PM
Awe, c'mon. You guys can't tell me that you don't like this site. It's a feaking adult "romper room" filled with emotionally disturbed, socially disfunctional, intellectually under developed malcontents and degenerates. It's a smorgashboard of raw or contaminated seafood at closing time in a sushi restauarant.
 BSradar925
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 135
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Posted: 11/20/2011 12:48:43 PM

When I was on POF a few years ago, people were actually looking to date. Now it seems that they are only looking to get laid


If your profile says (which it does) that you aren't looking to date, they sure will not ask you out on a date. But this will not prevent those looking for sex from contacting you.
 ForumsGee
Joined: 2/26/2009
Msg: 136
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Posted: 11/20/2011 4:22:34 PM
Wreckloose,

love it! you are spot on! love the profile pic too lolololol
 TABITHA890
Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 137
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Posted: 11/20/2011 5:28:46 PM
Has anyone else noticed that this seems to be a meat market? When I was on POF a few years ago, people were actually looking to date. Now it seems that they are only looking to get laid. I think the name should be changed to PieceOfAss. haahaha
Hey you hit the nail on the head I think. I was actually thinking the same thing but you said it first. You read all this ,oh I want my soul mate, ready to love again, wanting long term etc...... Then when you meet them it is like, how fast can I take your clothes off. Men should say what they mean, dont pretend and act like you want true love and you cant even keep your hands to yourself on the first date. Also another pet peeve is when someone in their 60s or 70s say they are looking for their soul mate, I think dang what in the heck have they been doing their whole life, it is almost over and they want that special feeling.lol I know some of us women are sorta hard on you men but alas most of it is true. I tend to think that most men think women are not thinking reality when we want true love or we are acting like teenagers. I had one man tell me that, that I was not a teenager so stop thinking like one. Hmmm does that mean giving up on romantic love because you are older and more wordly? I for one still would like to have that feeling again. One man told me he was looking for a friends with benefits and how did I feel about it. I told him there was a Oriental Spa down the road and to look in the yellow pages for Escorts. Never heard from him again. I enjoy making love as good as any of you but please dont think you are a Adonnis just because you have a d.lol So please dont put nomore baloney on your profile, just put "Looking to get Laid". At least you are honest. Some women might appreciate that, but not why I am here.
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