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Been seeing this great woman for about 5 weeks now. Great relationship but she refuses to give up on her ex lover who is married.
He is married and she is still communicating/sleeping with him - this does not make him an EX - he is still a CURRENT. That does not make her a 'great woman' and it does not make your relationship a 'great relationship'. If she can ignore his marriage/wife, her personal values are highly suspicious. Don't choose this for yourself.
She said he was just a F*** buddy but she started having feelings for him. He has a wife and refuses to give the wife up. He still calls her trying to hook up knowing she is seeing me.
Why wouldn't he ? He has no consideration for his own wife, he sure as heck isn't going to consider your feelings.
She even wants me to help her buy his old pickup.
Bingo !! Found out what she is attracted to. Don't do it. She's sleeping with him (oh yes she is) and doesn't have to wash his socks and pick up after him because his wife likely does that, and now she is courting your affections in order to persuade you to finance her. Sweet ! Maybe she could find a landscape gardener on here to fix up her yard, perhaps a plumber to install an extra bathroom in her house, or even a car mechanic to fix up that old pickup. The terms player/user/gold-digger exist for a reason.
Am I an idiot for waiting and thinking this will work out.
Hell yeah ! But deep down you already know that otherwise the question wouldn't have occurred to you.
It would be so easy to walk away if I handnt started having deep feelings for her?
Don't walk - RUN - Run as fast as your legs will allow you to. If you think it's hard to walk away now, it's only going to get harder as time progresses.
She's shown you exactly who she is - BELIEVE HER.