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 Allan Anger
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 80
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Heck with it, im boiling beets and greens, alone, does that make mme a loner???
 Allan Anger
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 81
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/4/2012 9:01:19 PM
and a fine set you have love.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 82
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/5/2012 4:31:38 AM

Its a fine line to walk between introvert, loner, sociopath, phsycopath; quiet guy that pays all of his bills, guy in a clock tower with a full magazine or 3.....


Ever hear of guy named Einstein??????

"" The man who goes alone can start today,but he who travels with another must wait till that other is ready.""
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 83
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/5/2012 5:30:28 AM
sure I have heard of Einstein.... however the quote is from Thoreau.
 Debisusanne
Joined: 5/3/2011
Msg: 84
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/5/2012 10:23:37 AM
I am a loner also.

As a teen.. i would have ONE best friend.. who meant the WORLD to me.. otherwise.. i kept my head down.. and ignored most.

Now that i am older.. i have friends.. but i keep most at arms length. I do not trust people.

BUT>. on the flip side.. i am great at doing things alone.. i can go anywhere i want.. and i am not afraid people are looking at me..

My loner attitude inhibits me in the dating arena for sure
 _shakti_
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 85
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/5/2012 10:55:01 AM
I've kinda always been a loner.

But, I tend to fool people. I can be very extroverted and outgoing when I want to be.. so people assume that is just how I am. But at the end of the day, I honestly prefer to go home alone.

Even in a relationship I need a certain amount of personal/psychological space.. and not everyone can understand or deal with that.

I am very choosy about who I let 'in'.. but when I do? It's all in. Guess that's why I'm so choosy!

I'm obviously pretty biased, but I like loners.. I feel safe and somewhat understood around them.
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 86
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Posted: 1/5/2012 10:56:00 AM
It can be a lot of fun, when you happen to be someplace by yourself, to strike up little chats with people. I do it when I'm gassing up the car, in line at the market, any place there's a cashier, at the gym, you name it. It doesn't have to be profound--how do you like that Lexus?, you guys busy today?, how'd your workout go?, is that book something I should read?, and so on. And there's usually a chance to joke with them a little. What I notice is how often people like someone showing an interest in them, even if it's not really that much. I like it, and they do too.
 LovingKittyCat123
Joined: 12/14/2011
Msg: 87
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/5/2012 12:32:21 PM
I wonder if your a perfectionist. I would get out of the house more. Go to places that you enjoy. Talk to people you come across. Phone friends you grew up with. Basically enjoy life with no limitations.
 Mozzily
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 88
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/5/2012 1:41:38 PM
No worries, Im the same way, Im friendly with everyone and I have alot of people im friendly with, I know alot of people but I cant say I really have any friends. So far in life im content with what I do have, I dont know If I really need anything more then what I have. If you are lonley and want to make friends though, you just have to push yourself and go that extra mile, its like dating I think.
 Green_Jello44
Joined: 6/19/2011
Msg: 89
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Posted: 1/5/2012 2:22:48 PM
I dont like being alone.....even though most humans are a p.i.a., i feel more alive around people, but for some reason, alone follows me like a curse, i know it well. The best time for me was coming home to a wife and kid.....
 raid_on_me
Joined: 6/19/2011
Msg: 90
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/5/2012 2:34:24 PM
I am a loner, too. I am not like people at my job. They disclose everything in their lives to people they barely know. Apparently, the criteria for being acceptable is to tell everyone your business. I am not like that. It takes time for me to build trust with someone. I definitely don't go into every relationship thinking everyone is out to get me but I am cautious.
 C2H5OH
Joined: 4/13/2009
Msg: 91
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Posted: 1/5/2012 3:47:19 PM
I'm a loner and wouldn't have it any other way.I don't have the problems everyone else have and am just a happy person.

If you want to meet people,buy a motorcycle.There is no easier way to meet people.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 92
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/5/2012 4:18:27 PM

sure I have heard of Einstein.... however the quote is from Thoreau.


Yeah,,,I know where the quote was from,,,I typed the freaking thing.Thoreau,,,was also a "loner",along with everything else he did.

My point being, Einstein was not only a loner,and a genius,,but also a bordeline nutbar. It was a comment on your "fine line" thingy and the guy in the tower blasting away at people. Usually "society" doesn't realize how intelligent,expressive, artistic or whatever "loners" and "nutbars" are until long after they are dead and buried. But, because they don't "understand" they have no problem "labelling" people while they are alive. One of the reasons why some artists work isn't "valued" until after the fact. More than enough examples out there,,,,,I gave ya two.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 93
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/6/2012 4:13:53 AM
Mr Nut Bar
The new candy bar that is best eaten alone.
'-)
Another one from Thoreau
" I'd rather sit alone on a pumpkin and have it all to myself than be crowded on a velvet cushion"
 wearied
Joined: 12/31/2011
Msg: 94
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/6/2012 4:31:48 AM
I'm definitely a hardcore loner. I'm alright with interacting from a distance--such as on a forum, obviously--but it is rare that I'm comfortable enough with anyone to desire or enjoy in-person interaction with them. I feel a thousand-miles away from most people--even if I'm just inches away. As alone as I am, I never feel more isolated than when in the presence of others.
 02hdf150
Joined: 12/25/2011
Msg: 95
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/6/2012 4:39:42 AM
I'm a loner. I think it's becuase i'm an only child. I know I'm an introvert as well so that plays into it. I don't have many friends. In fact, my core of friends i can count on one hand. These are friends that i'll do anything for and vice-versa.

I do understand how being a loner can affect relationships. My exwife understood my situation but new women I bring into my life might not. It's a balancing act to try to give a little when meeting new people but it's just a matter of finding the right person that'll respect that they aren't going to change me.
 lucky2beme
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 97
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/19/2012 6:38:42 AM
i love being a loner for many reasons....i get to do what i want and when i want to do it,peace and quiet after a long day at work,no arguments with nobody,no whiny little brats to contend with,nobody to tell me i am wrong when i right(even when i am wrong)....all in all i just enjoy my own company ever since childhood(maybe the reason why i am a loner is because i tried to make friends and everyone ignored me when i was younger,even from my own family....oh well...life goes on)
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 98
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/19/2012 2:07:59 PM

Get out to places where other loners go.


Such as.......isolated mountain cabins, abandoned mine shafts, and remote monasteries.

 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 99
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/19/2012 2:14:19 PM

"" The man who goes alone can start today,but he who travels with another must wait till that other is ready.""


My own sentiments exactly. I move so much faster and see so much more when I travel alone. Few people can cover as much ground and see as many things as me in a day.

 DameWrite
Joined: 2/27/2010
Msg: 100
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Posted: 1/19/2012 2:33:06 PM
Try taking the Meyer/Briggs personality test. It will tell you what type of personality you are as well you can check out other personality types. You can use this info to check out how you appear to others and what others might need or want from you. It does help one to appreciate the differences and will help you become more compatible. Hope this helps. Works for me.
 Nathanwg
Joined: 11/16/2011
Msg: 101
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Posted: 1/21/2012 9:40:38 PM
I know exactly how you feel. I have asked the same questions over the years- I have tried to change it. I became the happiest once I accepted it and embraced it. If people do not like me for it, then so be it. To each his own. I do not know if that will work for you, all I know is that it worked for me.
 charlie_girl_2
Joined: 1/2/2010
Msg: 102
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/22/2012 2:37:14 AM
Usually "society" doesn't realize how intelligent,expressive, artistic or whatever "loners" and "nutbars" are until long after they are dead and buried. But, because they don't "understand" they have no problem "labelling" people while they are alive. One of the reasons why some artists work isn't "valued" until after the fact. More than enough examples out there,,,,,I gave ya two.


Walts, I along with lots of others here (I feel certain), value you (your judgement), and you are still very much alive!
 Incognito555
Joined: 9/19/2011
Msg: 103
Being a Loner
Posted: 1/30/2012 10:43:35 PM
A lot of people don't understand people who are different than them......but hey, if you know yourself, and what keeps you happy.........live and let live:)........enjoy your life.........nobody ever asked me if the way they were was okay..........we are all different........and that is ok:)
 playfulpete
Joined: 2/23/2007
Msg: 104
Being a Loner
Posted: 3/29/2012 7:55:50 AM
Don,t worry about it.If you want to meet people,just go to the library,coffee shop or a place where there are people.You will meet people.By the way, there isnt anything wrong with being a loner.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 105
Being a Loner
Posted: 3/29/2012 8:14:01 AM
If there was one word to describe me...would be Snake Plissken.
That's who I am, and that's who I always will be. I actually prefer being alone, or with one, or two other persons in my life. I'd be quite content with having a full time girlfriend I see maybe every 2 days, and my 2 kids at the same frequency.
Which is why I'm still single; up until now, either I've dated girl whom I could only see 1 times in a month, or girl who are so hooked to me they feel like a leech I want to burn off...
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