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 sweettea091
Joined: 7/31/2015
Msg: 225
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Men who prefer to text and never call are either married or taken. Why else won't they get on the phone? Might also be some old perv or lesbian using fake pics.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 226
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Posted: 8/14/2015 1:55:20 AM
There is a time and place for everything. Texting and speaking are both useful in the proper measure.
That is something that two people in a budding relationship will have to establish together.

I opted to address the topic directly in my profile for others. It's understandable if the other person has kids around.
At some point one has to migrate to telephone and in-person contact to have meaningful communication with depth.
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 227
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Posted: 8/14/2015 4:54:06 AM
Good Gosh! I responded to this back on the first page... years ago.

I hate talking on the phone. Always have. Hated it when it was on a table in the hall. Hated it when it was in the kitchen with a really long cord. Hated it when it was a "princess" phone beside my bed. Hated it when it got all fancy and cordless. Hate it now that it can be with me all the time. Talking on the phone gives me a headache and annoys me.

I'm not hiding from a husband or boyfriend. I'm not actually a man having a bit of fun. I'm not a teen playing on a dating site. I just don't want to talk on the phone.

I will meet and meet quickly if the connection is there. That should be enough. If it isn't then we aren't a match and that is fine.

It's simple - call me and I won't answer, text and I will respond (when I am good and ready).
 Witnesstomythoughts
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 228
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Posted: 8/14/2015 9:02:49 AM
IMO a phone call is necessary before a meet n greet.

On the other hand, I have friends I'd rather text than talk on the phone !

A person can go on and on about something on the phone, where you're stuck trying to be polite, wanting to stick something in your eye after a while.
 jrb1979
Joined: 11/19/2011
Msg: 229
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Posted: 8/14/2015 9:05:40 AM
I am the same way. I have never liked talking on the phone and still don't. Part of it cause I find it easier to witty and say what I want to say when I have a minute or 2 to think about what I want to say. The other reason is I don't call often is cause of the schedule I work. I work afternoons so by the time I get home from work its near midnight and most people don't want to talk that late if they have to work in the morning.
 ThePigIsHereForEternity
Joined: 7/19/2015
Msg: 230
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Posted: 8/14/2015 11:32:06 AM

Men who prefer to text and never call are either married or taken. Why else won't they get on the phone? Might also be some old perv or lesbian using fake pics.


In some cases, that may be true, but the fact of the matter is, we have A LOT of people who are simply addicted to their damn phones today. They are on them constantly texting someone to death or yacking their f*cking brains out. I want no part of that shit, myself.

I've had times where I've actually given in, and had hour long phone conversations with women, only to get an avalanche of texts right after hanging up. That's f*cking ridiculous. Just because we have the technology today to be up someone's a$$ 24/7, doesn't mean we should.

Not to mention, the damn signal issues and struggling to hear. I always manage to get stuck talking to people I can barely hear, and half the conversation consists of saying "pardon me, what was that?" over and over and over.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 231
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Posted: 8/14/2015 11:44:26 AM
^^^

Excellent insights, ThePigIsHereForEternity.
I have made late-night visits to the supermarket and there are people walking the aisles, putting food in their carts, and simultaneously texting / speaking at 12:40 a.m. about who knows what. There are some benefits to the days of landlines where one would leave a message and not *PANIC* if a written response was not received in .739 milliseconds.

 ThatGirlNamedAlli
Joined: 12/28/2013
Msg: 232
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Posted: 8/14/2015 11:53:13 AM
I replied to a text once for my aunt on her phone while she was driving..to a family member. They texted back, I had a few expletives, I put the phone away without replying. I'm sure my aunts anxiety went up as she's irritatingly attached to the damn thing.
I just haven't had the urge to get a smart phone. I barely answer my home phone, that's what voice mail is for. I'll call back.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 233
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Posted: 8/14/2015 12:17:45 PM
I used to get texted quite a bit back in 1998. It was all about work when I worked at SBC. It got annoying, my boss would use his computer to text me, usually I was driving. I had to respond, so I had to pull over to text back.

Even since I left that job, I hadn't even had a cell phone again until 2009 when I bot a cheap $30 cell phone that would only work in Thailand.

Then three years ago I got a cell phone that could be used in Asia and the USA, my GF gave it to me so she could bother me where ever I was. But text was disabled and it didn't have wifi.

Eight months ago I gave that cell phone to her nephew in Thailand, I bought my wife a new smartphone and she gave me her old acer android phone. I can now access the Internet through wifi, since I don't own a data plan. It's a pay as you go gophone. I disabled text to eliminate annoying sales texts.

Two months ago I turned texting back on the phone so I could send as receive texts while she was at work. So far I have only gotten 1 survey type text, so it seems like I won't have a problem.

If I want to respond to a text or generate a text, I would tend to use my computer keyboard to send an SMS (Short Message) to a mobile phone. It's easier to type with a computer. I can use the touch screen to compose a MSG, I would rather not do that unless I had to. I used to use Skype extensively, which is like texting, and you can use Skype to send text to a cell phone number.

IMO I am a mixture of old school and new wave technology thinking.
 _shakti_
Joined: 2/22/2014
Msg: 234
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Posted: 8/24/2015 3:16:48 AM

I like texting, and sometimes (depending what I have going on) I prefer it to the phone.. but it annoys me when someone makes that the only means of communication.

I won't meet someone until there has been at least one phone conversation.
I posted this back in 2011, and my views have definitely changed.

I detest talking on the phone, just the sound of it ringing/vibrating annoys the crap out of me. I like being able to keep a conversation going without it completely interrupting my life. And you can be surprisingly deep while texting.

The last few guys I've met have been without ever talking to them on the phone, and I don't miss it a bit. In fact, the interplay we had during texting seemed to translate into real life too.

There was a time when I didn't trust my instincts, I felt like I needed to meet certain people to get a feel for them in person, before eliminating them as boring based on texting alone. Well, I'll trust my instincts from now on, if they bore me in text? Then they'll definitely bore me in person too.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 235
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Posted: 8/24/2015 6:34:29 AM


There was a time when I didn't trust my instincts, I felt like I needed to meet certain people to get a feel for them in person, before eliminating them as boring based on texting alone. Well, I'll trust my instincts from now on, if they bore me in text? Then they'll definitely bore me in person too.


Good to see you again, Shakti.
 _shakti_
Joined: 2/22/2014
Msg: 236
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Posted: 8/24/2015 7:03:19 AM
You too IG

And when you think about it, aren't all us regulars here 'serial texters'? lol.
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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Posted: 8/24/2015 3:23:28 PM
If a women only wanted to text I would ignore her. End of story. Never met a women, or someone possibly claiming to be one, who insisted on a lack of real time conversation exclusively. I would end communication 100%, which means no meeting was going to happen.

If they got upset/mad/whiny at me, which happened a few times, I would reply in text:
"boys text,
real men talk
sorry"

Almost every time, from what I remembered, they came around positively. If they didn't, I can't really remember because they weren't integrated into my thoughts that strongly since I never heard their echo! :)
 LLove2LaughToo
Joined: 3/5/2011
Msg: 238
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Posted: 8/25/2015 8:57:43 PM

_shakti_ :
And when you think about it, aren't all us regulars here 'serial texters'? lol.


No, we aren't.


adventurejoe70 :
If a woman only wanted to text I would ignore her. End of story.


Me too.
 _shakti_
Joined: 2/22/2014
Msg: 239
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Posted: 8/26/2015 5:46:41 PM
Many people serially 'text' here in the forums...........................
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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Posted: 8/26/2015 6:02:21 PM
^^^Maybe true, but I am not meeting forum mates for the possibility of romantic rendezvous. Lol
 ClooneysMentor
Joined: 8/2/2015
Msg: 241
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Posted: 8/27/2015 8:28:26 AM


I am not meeting forum mates


Cereal name...Forum Mates!

Lots of sugar coated abbreviated forumite usernames.

What type of prize would we find at the bottom of our box of Forum Mate cereal?
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 242
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Posted: 8/27/2015 8:57:21 AM

What type of prize would we find at the bottom of our box of Forum Mate cereal?


Dental floss of course.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 243
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Posted: 8/27/2015 9:23:56 AM
After about 3 texts, my patience is gone. Call me.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
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Posted: 9/20/2015 5:58:39 PM
Oh how I miss the days before cell phones became ubiquitous.

As someone else mentioned, 10 times outta' 9, I can never hear the person clearly. Almost always sound like a muffled, staticky voice on the other end...................who is halfway around the world.

Not to mention, very often the person doesn't seem to be fully snapped into the conversation, as people are doing 34 other things while having a conversation.

Back in the day, at most, people might be watching TV while talking on the phone (and that was bad enough), but now, having to listen to them go through the grocery checkout line, do their taxes, and help lil Susie with her homework is too much.
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 245
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Posted: 9/21/2015 1:34:32 PM
I don't really care either way. Different forms of communication have different advantages and disadvantages. I'm equally comfortable with whatever someone else is comfortable with. I've gotten a lot of mileage from texting and really, what matters is what is most effective at any given time. I'm not really sure why anyone really cares how a conversation takes place as long as the conversation takes place. I get the most out of using the format another person is most comfortable with. It's that person's limitation, not mine.

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Not to mention, very often the person doesn't seem to be fully snapped into the conversation, as people are doing 34 other things while having a conversation.
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That might be considered a plus.
 baconflavoredbacon
Joined: 9/12/2015
Msg: 246
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Posted: 9/22/2015 2:41:28 AM
I agree, Mr. Nikon guy.

when I wanna get to know somebody, I make time in my schedule so my focus is on him, because I care. The plus is if he likes bacon and shows me the same consideration in his communication with me, I'll make sure to make that time to communicate with him, even if it's to tell him I am at the market and I'll return his call when I am not distracted. Respect.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 247
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Posted: 9/22/2015 10:09:45 PM

I agree, Mr. Nikon guy.

when I wanna get to know somebody, I make time in my schedule so my focus is on him, because I care. The plus is if he likes bacon and shows me the same consideration in his communication with me, I'll make sure to make that time to communicate with him, even if it's to tell him I am at the market and I'll return his call when I am not distracted. Respect.


hear hear...

text a sentence or two in the middle of the day to say hi is one thing... but an entire back and forth 20 text conversation at 11:30 at night? Seriously?

Besides the fact voices are hot; my eyes are seeing double trying to read teeny tiny screens and text so often butchers people's intent, it is so much slower and clunkier at night.

During the day I might text while doing another 10 things; but at night when things are calmed down and I'm laying in bed in the dark with my eyes closed; it is a LOT easier voice talking where there are no distractions, no going blind; no misunderstandings (usually LOL) and a whole lot easier and warmer interactions.

Text during the day is inconvenient.

Text only at night? I will nto stick around for long. If that's someone's ONLY method of communication? we're not a match
 jrb1979
Joined: 11/19/2011
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Posted: 9/23/2015 8:37:29 AM
I am not one to constantly text a girl but I do text a few times a day but its mostly cause of the hours I work. I work steady afternoons so its hard to have time to call somebody. Most people work during the day so I can't really call them during the day and I don't get home till midnight usually which is kind of late to call somebody. Ever since I was a kid I have never liked talking on the phone. I would text or talk in person as I am more comfortable with it.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 249
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Posted: 9/23/2015 8:45:14 PM
I don't mind short phone conversations to go along with texting. But I'm not a fan of having constant long phone conversations with someone. Texting can be more convenient at times. I can text while I'm at the gym, eating dinner at my home, watching TV etc.
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