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 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 60
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Dating is what you make of it...dancing doesn't have to be a part of it. However, buy a nice cruiser motorcycle with a comfy passenger seat, take a motorcycle safety course and get out there...you'll find the bike will do more for you than dance lessons ever will.
 coastalmermaid
Joined: 1/23/2011
Msg: 61
What is dating like now?
Posted: 12/18/2011 11:26:20 AM
Well I'm one who doesn't list dancing as an interest...maybe that's my problem all along

I think good for the OP that he's actually putting some thought and potential effort to formulate a plan of action before hand and actually put some effort into executing that plan. Anyone who I see making a positive effort like this impresses me from the start. It's great to do new things and those who welcome change instead of whining about it will always be winners in some way. If you try it and don't like it you've really lost nothing but gained in knowledge of yourself and others. Win win all round.

As for the comment about expecting sex on a first 'date'. I've only been on one real 'date' so far and if he was expecting any sex he certainly didn't make any effort to get it. First 'meets' expecting sex for sure. I think that's just par for the course in the online world as there seems to be this great MYTH out there that women in the online world are really all hookers in disguise. On that premise it's easy for gullible people to fall into the trap of treating all us women online as free prostitutes.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 63
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Posted: 12/18/2011 12:27:11 PM

The rest will stick their noses up in the air like they have something to flaunt.


Maybe just maybe they are looking for that special someone to flaunt and you are not it?

nativerock
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/18/2011 9:13:05 PM

coastalmermaid:

As for the comment about expecting sex on a first 'date'. I've only been on one real 'date' so far and if he was expecting any sex he certainly didn't make any effort to get it.


Interesting comment. I do a lot of listening when I go on initial meets. I like people, I especially like women, and I like meeting women, hearing their stories. One thing I have heard a number of times, women tell me that their online dates never make the effort (for sex), or they make such a clumsy effort as to be laughable.
 takingmytime3309
Joined: 3/30/2011
Msg: 65
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Posted: 1/2/2012 7:16:36 AM
Wow!!!!
AintNoDeal got up on the wrong side of the bed and didn't have his coffee.
Where did all that come from?
 takingmytime3309
Joined: 3/30/2011
Msg: 66
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Posted: 1/2/2012 7:34:20 AM
Somehow we got sidetracked into sex on the first date.
I'm not looking for that right away. As someone said, have some morals.

Another post was about the women on this site being 'free prostitutes'. I have noticed a good percentage of women's profile pictures are taken to accentuate their breasts. Literally sticking them out or laying in provocative poses. Seriously, if all you think you have to offer are your breasts then I am not interested. I just skip over those profiles.

While I'm on my little rant, please show real everyday photos with a couple of dressy ones.
So many have only pictures from fancy events. That doesn't show the real you. I want to see what you look like normally, not only your "Best day".

Ok, rant over.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 67
What is dating like now?
Posted: 1/2/2012 11:19:05 AM

Posted By: takingmytime33442 on 1/2/2012 936 AM
Subject: What is dating like now?
Message: Wow!!!!
AintNoDeal got up on the wrong side of the bed and didn't have his coffee.
Where did all that come from?


It comes from OPs making excuses about why they can't do what is suggested. That comes across as "I say I want help, but I won't do anything you suggest, so what I really want is pity and attention!"

I'm just answering the question you asked; that does not mean that anyone is "right" or "wrong."
 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 69
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Posted: 1/2/2012 3:48:17 PM
OP, here's a different thought:

If you want to take dance classes only because you feel it might improve your chances on the dating scene, I don't think you should do it as you stated you've never been much of a dancer.

If you feel you'd like to take dance classes, by all means, go ahead and do it, as dancing is fun and, depending on the kind of dancing, a good workout.

All I'm trying to say is do it for the right reason.

As for subsequent posts regarding the sex aspect: Dancing with someone is imo a very good indication for things to come!
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 71
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Posted: 1/2/2012 5:20:19 PM
Couldn't agree more. That's what I've been trying to tell my bachelor friend for years.
 kissmeyoufool
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 73
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Posted: 1/3/2012 8:36:22 AM

If I were to give advice to any man between the ages of 10 and 70, it would be to learn to dance. The better dancer you are, the more you will be desired by women...it's that simple.


I second that.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 74
What is dating like now?
Posted: 1/3/2012 9:33:04 AM
I were to give advice to any man between the ages of 10 and 70, it would be to learn to dance. The better dancer you are, the more you will be desired by women...it's that simple.



...And I would have to agree with that advice. I have a male friend who is a great dancer and he is an extremely popular guy at social events. Woman are forever pulling him up onto the dance floor. So much so that we have nicknamed him, "Dances with Ladies"

As for me....I love dancing. I'm on the dance floor all night. It would love to meet someone who enjoys it as much as I do. * big grin*

...mae
 jimbronson
Joined: 11/12/2011
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Posted: 7/1/2012 5:13:37 PM

Whatever you do, avoid the salsa classes.
Las time I tried it, there were 16 women and two men in the dance class.


I agree. Pass on the salsa classes. But, cha cha, rhumba, swing, even hustle are pretty easy to learn and fun. I have two male friends who were attending dance classes and they met their mates in my class over the last two years. So there's a no-strings opportunity to meet someone in the class itself. Quick step, tango, fox trot, and waltz take more time to learn.

My dance class is a pay-as-you-go deal. That is, if you show up, you pay $10 for the 1 hour group class. Every guy dances with every gal in rotation. Now I have no fear of asking any gal to dance. The fewer guys that dance, the better my odds are of meeting a great dancing lady.
 Wedne003
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 77
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Posted: 7/3/2012 6:44:32 PM
I took up Salsa classes and I must say it was great, I met lovely people and got to hold beautiful women close.

The best everyone should do it.........
 Thornz2000
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 78
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Posted: 7/3/2012 6:58:52 PM
Dating now days?

Ever see a squirrel get ran over by a truck?

Have fun.....
 vnufall
Joined: 3/6/2011
Msg: 79
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Posted: 7/3/2012 7:20:25 PM
i love ballet, have since i was a kid...no man is going to join me in that ....lol....rarelky i can get them to take to watch ballet....ohhh well.
 Doc_Sage
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 80
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Posted: 7/3/2012 7:35:22 PM
About 2 blocks away from here is a hall that present dance performances regularly (Metro Theater, Victoria). I go to then.

Sometime it is classical ballet, other times it may be tango or salsa. Been to a few that were very original. One was a very tasty burlesque featuring Miss Tastybits reading poetry and dancing.

Actually, the best performance I saw was a puppet show....for adults.

Doc Sage
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 81
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Posted: 7/3/2012 9:48:29 PM
everyone does not have sex on the first date. I hope you are joking.
 Thornz2000
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 82
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Posted: 7/3/2012 10:17:20 PM

everyone does not have sex on the first date. I hope you are joking.

Ya, some people are on a shoe string budget. You will have to save up for that feature.
 JAXDiver
Joined: 6/4/2011
Msg: 83
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Posted: 7/3/2012 10:51:48 PM
Scurvy wrote
Sex is expected on the first date in these new modern times. Everyone does it. No exceptions. The point of the dancing is solely to judge how good you're likely to be at the sex.
Balderdash! Everyone does NOT do it. That is an obtuse generality. However, there are some dances which do promote the likeliness of sexual performance. Two that come immediately to mind are: Bachata and Tango. Tango is perfected over years of study. OP, Bachata is a dance you should observe! WOW! That will get you motivated to dance. LOL
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 84
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Posted: 7/5/2012 4:42:19 PM
Hahaha...JAX, you beat me to the punch on Scurvy Spider. A guy may expect sex on the first date but some of us still have morals, so they are not going to get it here. Most guys with the integrity to court a woman properly would consider it inappropriate to suggest sex on a first date. Spider, please don't frighten the newbies...dating is scary enough.

And OP, there are a lot of us who have never taken a dance course who like to go listen to a good cover band and slow dance. For most women, just having a man escort her to the dance floor and give it a go without protesting or looking like they have been forced to eat glass is good enough. If the guy can actually dance, bonus-bonus.

If you do decide to take some lessons, you may be able to find them offered for little or no cost in bars & dance halls, churches, community centers and community colleges. And JAX is right about the tango...when done well, it is mezmerizing.
 SirCharles007
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 85
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Posted: 7/7/2012 4:26:05 PM
HA HA.....You all are so funny to listen too. Lets face it folks. Most of the time we just have time to piddle around any more. Too Funny
 SirCharles007
Joined: 11/9/2008
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Posted: 7/7/2012 4:29:47 PM
We all have these need things that help us Crash through life...LOL We all know are bests days are right now and then gravity takes over. So we have to get errr done now...
 Phil_an_derer
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 87
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Posted: 7/7/2012 4:46:08 PM
The last time I checked out a dance club; it kind of reminded me of several nature shows "Dogs using women as scent marking posts comes to mind"....
 SirCharles007
Joined: 11/9/2008
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Posted: 7/7/2012 5:31:00 PM
I just love your inspiration... well here goes nothing...
 Wonder5750
Joined: 1/30/2012
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Posted: 7/7/2012 6:44:34 PM
I haven't danced in public in 20 years.. but I am bad azz when a good song comes on in private lol just gotta be careful not the throw my back out! hahahahaa
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