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Joined: 2/28/2012
Msg: 351
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I do not have a pic on my profile. I dont because i live in a small town where everyone knows everyone elses business. i also work some where with a couple hundred other people also in another small town. I do not like being talked about behind my back or to hear the snickers about what i do behind my back. Iam not married or involvedwith anyone. So for you all to say no way to even chatting with someone that has no pic psted, THE HELL WITH YOU. Iam shy as well,so if you dont understand that there are other reasons that people dont want everyone to know what they do, then too bad for you. Its your loss.
Joined: 11/20/2010
Msg: 352
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Posted: 3/11/2012 8:55:13 PM
I dont post a pic but offer to send one upon first contact with a man. I have had many
men tell me I was beautiful. Dont know if they meant it as I have only had contact
with a few on here.
Dont want my pics on here for 2 long as I had a stocker.
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 353
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 3/11/2012 10:12:06 PM

If they were too shy to meet, they were not real in the first place. Why would they even be on a dating site? No pics, no dice. How hard is it? Something to hide in most cases. Men outnumber us by huge ratio so they do a disservice to themselves by not being open upfront. If they think the pic will put a prospective person off then the real meet will probably do it, anyway.
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 354
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 3/11/2012 10:13:49 PM

Can you not report the stalker? I can understand a woman not putting her pic up front but you take your chances even with an email pic later and then they know your addy.
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 355
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 3/11/2012 10:16:27 PM
NOt likely to say that you are ugly but will date you anyway. Hellooooooo!!!Why would a woman date a guy she does not fancy and finds repulsive??? Too much choice for women to settle for that anyway.
Joined: 2/6/2010
Msg: 356
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 3/12/2012 3:05:07 AM
my first thought is Married or already in a relationships
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 357
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/20/2012 8:30:25 PM

I need some physical attraction as well as common interest

^^^I couldn't agree with you more however there are a great number of folks who call this "shallow", egotistical, and a lot of other names I can't post here....Call it whatever you wish but to me? Physical attraction is truly part of the whole package. Dont care how nice one is

Uh huh...we eat with our eyes.

Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 358
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Posted: 4/20/2012 8:41:58 PM
I will happily chat to a man without a pic, but there is no way I am going to meet them. The way I see it they looked at mine and got to choose whether to contact me or not based on how I look, why am I not entitled to the same infomred choice. They almost always offer to send me a a pic, but to me this is a red flag ....with MARRIED printed on it!
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 359
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Posted: 4/20/2012 9:59:21 PM
Good looking men with it all going on are just players on the dating sites. Stands to reason they have a woman somewhere. The red flags soon wave if you are in any smart and alert. No pic is a huge red flag, huge!!
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 360
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Posted: 4/20/2012 10:02:24 PM


DOes it not lessen your chances of contacts? I find that hiding the pic means very few contacts when I dont want to be bothered. Works a treat.

I think you should see a pic sooner rather than later and even webcam if you are going to actually meet. Looks are what it is about initially and a dating site is for sex and so on. Lets not go the "its shallow" route, because it is not. The pic is the criteria that we choose to show interest with as as well as the general profile.
Joined: 2/21/2012
Msg: 361
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Posted: 4/20/2012 10:49:25 PM
The best and longest relationship that I've had since my divorce was with someone that I met sight unseen. Turned out that he was THE best looking guy that I've ever dated counting those that I dated while I was young and in college. He was also one of the nicest of the men!

I made the first contact and to be honest, if I had seen his photo, I probably would not have written to him because my self esteem was a bit low at that point. I contacted him to comment about something in his profile and it just got better and better from there. Unfortunately, there were some obstacles we could not get past so I had to end it. I still regret that we couldn't work it out but what is meant to be will be.

p.s. I did have his home phone number and full name which I gave to my friends and met in a very public place where my friends knew where I was so precautions were in place. Everyone, male and female, should always take precautions!
Joined: 4/14/2012
Msg: 362
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Posted: 4/21/2012 6:29:25 AM
For a while, I did not put pictures up because I didn't want men to hit on me because of how I looked. I wanted them to read my profile and see if they liked me - the person.

Once on, without a picture, I received about a thousand replies. I wish I had kept what I had written, but it had a heading something like "Black Widow set on Killer Match."

Virtually every single response started with, "You have to be a writer to be able to write like that." (I am.)

There are many reasons people won't put up a photo.

a) They're well known and don't want to be identified.
b) They're embarrassed that someone they know will see them and think less of them for dating online.
c) They aren't particularly attractive looking, and if they put up a picture, they will never get a date.
d) They're married, wanted by the FBI or other alphabet agency, or their high profile job would mean they need to be discreet.
e) They genuinely have no photographs. I didn't have photographs of myself until a few years ago because I never had any taken for about three decades (I hate cameras and freeze when they come my way. Currently, only my daughter can take a half way decent picture of me.)

Would I respond to a post without a picture?
No. Physical appearance is very important to me.

Am I shallow?
I doubt it. :)

I wouldn't respond to someone who didn't have intellectual stamina either - and that shows up in the kind of response I receive.
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 363
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Posted: 4/21/2012 11:59:09 AM

So why advertise yourself on a dating site without a photo?

Because the site allows you to.

I have a phone # but I don't list in the white pages of the phone book.
Joined: 2/27/2006
Msg: 364
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Posted: 4/21/2012 2:08:21 PM
The ones that don't have a picture because they live in a small town or don't want to be "hiton" are poor excuses!!...If you live in a small town and are not married or cheating or lying or whatever, I would think the "small town" people would know you were single so who cares about trying to find a date?????...Makes zero intelligence to me...Some men and women "think" they are all that and then some and sorry to say but that shows a red flashing sign to stay away because of other insecurities etc....Keep the no picture on your profile and good luck with that!...We are what we are, why some feel bad about that is the initial problem!
Joined: 4/10/2012
Msg: 365
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Posted: 4/23/2012 3:54:50 PM
I have met a man without a photo but not on POF.
Just because they do not have a Photo on site, does not mean they are Unattractive!
I've seen plenty of unattractive people with a photo on here. lol
He did provide a photo before we actually met. It wasn't bad at all.
I read Profiles more than I look at pictures , so I may be in that small percent on the
Internet dating.
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 366
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Posted: 4/23/2012 4:51:31 PM
I would reply but ask for picture
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 367
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Posted: 10/12/2012 4:24:51 PM
I've met some very nice looking ladies that didn't have a pic......but they sent one along with a message.....really if I was a woman this is the only way I would do business on here ..that way they can pic and choose and not be bothered with all the crap.....this is the only way many professional women operate on here....jmo....
Joined: 8/24/2012
Msg: 368
.." In my opinion, red flag."
Posted: 10/13/2012 11:11:35 AM
By the same token is their picture legitimate?
The real question is are we genuine, time will tell.
Joined: 7/4/2012
Msg: 369
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Posted: 10/14/2012 9:40:44 PM
I am neither married/attached, nor hard on the eyes. I choose not to post a picture for both 2 simple reasons. It's not beneficial to my career to post photos. And I want someone to be interested in all of me, not just the shell. If people are so jaded to assume it's for other reasons without asking, or getting to know me 1st, I'm probably not missing much.
Joined: 10/2/2012
Msg: 370
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 10/14/2012 10:17:21 PM
Only for the desperately adventurous......have enough trouble trying to recognize the ones"WITH" pics....
Joined: 10/2/2012
Msg: 371
.. In my opinion, red flag.
Posted: 10/14/2012 10:18:21 PM
The real question is are we genuine, time will tell.

lol. the 64 million dollar question...
Joined: 2/14/2012
Msg: 372
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Posted: 10/15/2012 9:52:27 AM
I post my pics only because I think most people want to see them. Personally, I don't care if a woman has a pic or not. There is so much more to a person than looks. I have gone out with several women that didn't have pics up. It is just not a big deal to me. The heart, the soul, the personality is much more important to me than what someone looks like.
Joined: 10/23/2009
Msg: 373
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Posted: 10/15/2012 9:58:35 AM
I feel like they are either hiding something or hiding from something. I don't converse with anyone unless I am visually attracted to them. Otherwise, it's a complete waste of time. And as well all know, men are visual creatures... we have to like what we see on the outside, first!
Joined: 10/12/2012
Msg: 374
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Posted: 10/15/2012 9:07:29 PM
I am with you, the excuse that the job precludes showing a pic, is just a crock.. The chances are so much less when they dont have an image, of connecting with someone and many women just pass on by.

I know a guy who had his pic up for years and then took it down because he said he didnt want his students finding out. Baloney. He is older and has put his age back. I doubt he has more than one date in two years. Women dont always want to have to give out an email address to see their pics and then have to block the sender if they dont l ike the image. All too awkward.

However I know that there are many men who will send messages to women who have no pics. Just a bit desperate I guess. If anyone is ashamed to be on a dating site, they should not be here.

Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 375
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Posted: 10/16/2012 10:34:35 AM
No pic, no play....period.
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