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 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 476
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I wonder if the people on here have luck with posting photos?


There are some people on here who have been here for months and even years with photos and claim to have had little or no luck, so posting a photo is not a guarantee of anything either. Some with photos, especially attractive women, may get more views and messages with their photos, but if their goal is actually to meet someone and get off the site, having the photos has not helped them accomplish that result yet. If their goal is simply to get attention from their photos, well, that is a whole other story.
All other things being equal, having photos onsite is simply more convenient than having to wait for them later. Not a guarantee of anything.
 FML2013
Joined: 11/16/2012
Msg: 477
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Posted: 12/1/2012 3:45:38 PM

I wonder if the people on here have luck with posting photos? if you are still here its obvious that your personality and intelligence is lacking and not your looks


...says someone who's still here herself. LOL That's quite the erroneous "one answer fits all" assumption you've made there, but if it gives you solace, so be it. We'll keep it simple for you.

Traveliciousguy.. spot on. (Y) There are no guarantees with anything related to "online dating"..period.
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 478
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Posted: 12/1/2012 4:10:42 PM
IMHO and in my personal experience...the individuals I talked with at my beginning of online dating without pictures were the ones who were married, engaged, living with or dating regularly someone else...after getting to know them and their stellar personalities and why they thought they were so special they deserved to be in a relationship and have a piece on the side it has me lacking the desire to talk to anyone without a pic. The few who I talked with who weren't involved, agreed to meet and then back out almost as quickly.

So I think there is more involved than most realize as well.

I think some don't post pictures cause they do not like their physical appearance, (this doesnt mean they aren't good looking etc) I know that for three years when I was on a social networking site I had no posted pictures...I didn't allow anyone to take a picture of me. It wasnt so much I disliked my looks it was more a lack of confidence to put yourself out there. People say mean, rude, crude things..all in attempts to make themselves feel better. However, in most cases it still shows an unresolved issue, I realize I lack self confidence, and I have struggled with it now since February and splitting up with my ex but at the same time I realize I have to take baby steps and part of that process is accepting yourself so while I agree it would even the playing field a bit to have no pictures shown (I remember the AOL chat rooms) and let those with the best personalities win that is like walking thru life blindfold...we aren't--we have vision and so I wont ask others to accept me sight unseen...and based on the prior actions of many many others without posted pictures I am not comfortable getting to know a person who makes it a choice not to reveal who they are.

But the thing that gets me the most--the guys who write to me with no pictures and then express how attracted they are to me...based on sight...exactly how do you respond to that...they are acknowledging they wouldnt write except for they find you attractive yet they don't offer you the same choice.
 Roxannenelson
Joined: 11/21/2008
Msg: 479
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 12/1/2012 6:34:42 PM
I agree with you Funroseyposey....in my opinion no pic means they have something to hide and usually means married or involved. I don't waste my time with either.
 AJ2517
Joined: 2/27/2006
Msg: 480
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Posted: 12/1/2012 6:47:25 PM
I agree for the most part...May be a few exceptions but very very few...It's a dating site where people need to see what you look like......No picture, no reply!!
 cici6161
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 481
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Posted: 12/3/2012 8:52:06 AM
I have only been on here a short time so no, I have not met/dated anyone without a pic. I myself have no pic posted however, state in my profile that I do have recent pics available. If someone contacts me and wishes to see a pic, I am more than happy to send one. The feedback I get is positive. I do not block people who have no pic and read profiles regardless of whether they have a pic or not. I see a lot of people on here think no pic = married. That is not true with me. As for the men? I guess I'll have to see... I do think that blocking anyone who does not have a posted pic is limiting your choices.
 virgofairy65
Joined: 11/12/2012
Msg: 482
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Posted: 12/4/2012 6:46:13 PM
I totally agree with your point of view. You are viewing others why would you not let them view you!
 CaptainAmericaOO7
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 483
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Posted: 12/4/2012 8:59:52 PM

I have only been on here a short time so no, I have not met/dated anyone without a pic. I myself have no pic posted however, state in my profile that I do have recent pics available. If someone contacts me and wishes to see a pic, I am more than happy to send one. The feedback I get is positive. I do not block people who have no pic and read profiles regardless of whether they have a pic or not. I see a lot of people on here think no pic = married. That is not true with me. As for the men? I guess I'll have to see... I do think that blocking anyone who does not have a posted pic is limiting your choices.


Absolutely. I have pics available. I just don't display them on my profile. If somebody wants to see them, all they have to do is put their lips together and whistle - you know how to do that don't you?

As far as pics not being available because I am married - absolutely not. I am absolutely not married.

I don't show my pictures because I don't like my image being out there in cyberspace for whoever wants it to see it. I don't want to be appearing in some online porn photo.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 484
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Posted: 12/6/2012 7:20:30 AM
And you would be surprised how many people's photos end up on porn sights without their knowledge.....
 timeforall
Joined: 8/26/2012
Msg: 485
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Posted: 12/6/2012 10:04:22 AM
Yea, I would be very surprised. What would be the purpose of taking a random photo of an anonymous person and putting it on a porn site?

I think it would almost NEVER happen.

Good excuse though for not posting your photo.

I've already given mine, which is a better excuse I think. I don't want to deal with all of the email from women looking for dates.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 486
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Posted: 12/6/2012 10:13:02 AM
Well, I have had my own photo come up as being used by some stranger. It happens routinely, especially with scammers of the Nigerian nature.

Anybody who puts up a public photo on the net can expect that it is being collected, archived and used for any number of unknown purposes. Now, you might not care, but a lot of people do. Watch any crime program on TV these days. They get a name, and bingo, up come picture, and a life history in seconds. Where, exactly, do you imagine all that stuff comes from?

Most people have no idea what their own government is collecting from the net about them, and that are loads of looney organizations in the world that are watching all the time. You can never avoid it all if you ever have been on the net, but you certainly don't have to help our...
 timeforall
Joined: 8/26/2012
Msg: 487
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Posted: 12/6/2012 12:21:00 PM
Considering the hundreds of millions of photos available on various websites including facebook, I would think the chances of any persons one photo being stolen to put on a porn site was very slim. Regardless, the days of privacy are over. Anybody who wants can find out virtually anything they want about you. Your entire life is online, like it or not.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 488
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Posted: 12/6/2012 12:36:31 PM
Some of us are better looking candidates for porn sites....perhaps our observations are a reflection of your own appearance?
 timeforall
Joined: 8/26/2012
Msg: 489
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Posted: 12/6/2012 12:42:08 PM
Yep, some of us are better looking, but I think porn sites are looking for people without their clothes on. I could be wrong about that. I don't believe any of those photos of me without clothes are available on the web, unless old photos in possession of girlfriends long, long ago, who want to prove how good looking some of the guys they once dated :-)
 Questison
Joined: 8/27/2012
Msg: 490
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Posted: 12/6/2012 12:50:13 PM
Yes, I have met a couple guys with no pic who didn't want to post it for various reasons. One lived in a small town and din't want to broadcast his profile. People have a preconceived idea that online dating is for losers and don't want to be seen online. Go figure.
One guy did not know how to upload a pic but new how to text it to me :-)
 Ready_Real
Joined: 10/30/2012
Msg: 491
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Posted: 12/6/2012 1:08:35 PM
The hard part about "no photo profiles" happens after a genuinely real non-visual attraction (the result of 3-4 conversations and/or e-mail exchanges) turns on a dime within seconds after one/both photoless profilees ultimately get up close and personal when first laying eyes on each other. It's then sooooo much much harder (even at this point a fledging connection) to tell someone honestly/ kindly that there just isn't romantic potential. And yes: some of us are simply more visually shallow than others. However, for some of us a romantic connection is absolutely physical and emotional -- as much as we might wish it to be otherwise. And whether/not we are on either end of this (speaking of someone who has been on both more than once:( :(, we are after all, only human. And it does makes you feel just plain sad, bad, and sorry that all of it can be so hard!
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 492
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Posted: 12/6/2012 4:04:28 PM

The hard part about "no photo profiles" happens after a genuinely real non-visual attraction (the result of 3-4 conversations and/or e-mail exchanges) turns on a dime within seconds after one/both photoless profilees ultimately get up close and personal when first laying eyes on each other. It's then sooooo much much harder (even at this point a fledging connection) to tell someone honestly/ kindly that there just isn't romantic potential.


How is that much, or any, different, than a situation where you meet someone whose photo you HAVE seen and liked, but you don't feel any real sparks in person, and you have to tell them it's not going to work for you?

One poster several months back posted that she had met 50 guys on first meets, and made no connections with any of them. And I'm guessing she saw photos of at least the majority of them.


However, for some of us a romantic connection is absolutely physical and emotional -- as much as we might wish it to be otherwise.


That's fine, but there is no guarantee you will have a romantic connection in person on the first meet even if you have seen a photo beforehand.

And I'm not saying anyone has to MEET without a photo, you can exchange photos at any time in the process.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 493
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Posted: 12/6/2012 7:40:51 PM

And you would be surprised how many people's photos end up on porn sights without their knowledge.....


Don't provide a face with a body pic.....or vice versa....simple.
 CaptainAmericaOO7
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 494
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Posted: 12/6/2012 9:27:53 PM

Don't provide a face with a body pic.....or vice versa....simple.


Not really. If I can put William Hague in between Hitler and Goering on the Nuremberg balcony then somebody with more photoshop skills than I could put the head of Bill Clinton on Monica Lewinsky's naked body.

Nothing online is sacred or safe.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 495
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 12/7/2012 6:36:25 PM

Not really. If I can put William Hague in between Hitler and Goering on the Nuremberg balcony then somebody with more photoshop skills than I could put the head of Bill Clinton on Monica Lewinsky's naked body.

Nothing online is sacred or safe


Unfortunately you are correct.
 car4sale
Joined: 8/30/2012
Msg: 496
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Posted: 12/7/2012 7:06:48 PM
NO NO NO NO.

I have NEVER been pleasantly surprised.
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 497
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Posted: 12/7/2012 9:08:03 PM
If a major % of their profile interests me....I'll take it to the next step...
A phone conversation...
If that goes well, we can meet...
But...if it turns-out that she looks like she took 4Th Place.....3-times.....in a Hatchet-fight..
It probably won't go farther than
~ Coffee and a Chat ~
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 498
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Posted: 12/9/2012 10:14:03 AM

Posted By: traveliciousguy on 12/6/2012 6:04:28 PM
Subject: no pic: worth the risk?


How is that much, or any, different, than a situation where you meet someone whose photo you HAVE seen and liked, but you don't feel any real sparks in person, and you have to tell them it's not going to work for you?


Totally different. If you have agreed to meet someone, it's because you find them at least NOT repulsive, and maybe even a little attractive. When you meet, the reaction is so much more than simply visual--it's the difference between seeing someone as attractive and finding yourself attracted to them. Just because someone is visually acceptable--even attractive--doesn't mean sparks will fly.

(Of course, if the picture was really misleading, the person who posted said misleading photo has no right to expect anything beyond a polite, "Oh, I'm going to leave without sitting down. You do not look anything like your picture and I'm not interested in starting anything with someone who misrepresents him/herself.")
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 499
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Posted: 12/9/2012 11:49:46 AM
Once again I had a man go on a tirade because I asked for a picture. I originally accepted an IM request from him and after a few mins I asked him politely if he would send a pic. He promised one would be forthcoming. After exchanging a few more messages I mentioned I had not yet recieved his pic....well he just flipped out and made all kinds of rude remarks.

This made me think about why he got so upset....


...mae
 Jupiter Rising
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 500
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Posted: 12/9/2012 7:37:37 PM
I am with the majority here: no pic, no reply.

For me it's simple: a picture and listed age give you general information that you would get from even simply passing someone in the street.

I think the "pic on request" etc. game is selfish: why waste people's time?

Anyway - Hi to everyone.
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