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 Life_Is_Better
Joined: 1/8/2011
Msg: 583
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One might be cautious about posting a picture simply because he/she is aware of the consequences. As I found in another thread, a gal wrote " I also found that my photos were being used in somebody else's profile on a social networking site in another nation state." As the POF moderators will tell you, anything posted on the internet that another person can view, can be copied and used.

IRL people used to go on blind dates; some still do.

No pic on a dating site? Arranging a meeting in a safe place (e.g. a coffee shop) and treating it like a blind date... Only you can tell. Only you can decide if it is worth the risk.
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 584
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/6/2013 6:23:13 PM

There should be a means to send pics to only those you choose within POF..other than through external email.

There is. You can have private images and send them via POF messaging if and when you choose. They are not publicly viewable.

Here's a good quick sum-up of how it worked last I knew:

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts15499566.aspx

Like any feature here, it's subject to change without notice. But hey, you're not seeing any anteaters on my profile, right? So it's still working now.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 585
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/7/2013 1:30:34 PM

Likely married.


Never.


Or wanted.


Apparently, not.
 gratitudegirl65
Joined: 2/5/2013
Msg: 586
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/9/2013 8:43:06 AM
Hello everyone,

If a guy doesn't have a pic he is usually married and wants a secret relationship on the side. I am new to this site and have already had 6 guys (not gentlemen) offer their 'services' because their wives don't provide what they need....very sad situation. I guess the internet makes it easier to cheat. Ask him why he doesn't have a pic on his profile and if he refuses, move on. Are their any gentlemen left??
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 587
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/9/2013 9:22:39 AM
You know, I think that what makes me a bit more suspicious is that as yet, I have *never* had a man provide a picture when I ask for it. I ask right away, after reading their profile and deciding if I'm going to respond to their initial contact. So they contact me, but won't provide the pic.

I'm pretty sure it is the same, even if I initiated contact. In that case, I typically write and respond a few times (if they haven't responded, they are not interested, so it's a moot point). But I ask for the pic eventually and *poof.*

I have had my pic down and been contacted/initiated contact. I provide a pic immediately upon request. Sometimes the man disappears after seeing my pic. I could think that this means I'm hideous, or that it means I'm not his type. I tend to choose to think the latter :)
 lightninbug22
Joined: 6/23/2009
Msg: 588
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/10/2013 5:59:24 AM

I am new to this site and have already had 6 guys (not gentlemen) offer their 'services' because their wives don't provide what they need.


GEEZ!! I sure am glad I haven't experienced any of that, I would be outta here! That is insulting to say the least.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 589
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/10/2013 7:27:24 PM
Men will take the chance with a no pic profile but women seldom do. If they dont have the balls to load one, then I pass on by. It screams married, ugly, incapacitated or definitely indicates something to hide. The old line about their work preventing them from showing a pic, doesnt wash with me. Perhaps if they are willing to send pics privately to your email, maybe but I would still be suspicious. If you are ashamed to use a dating site, you shouldnt be doing it. It is bad enough when they turn up 10 years older and 15 kgs fatter than the pic posted.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 590
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/10/2013 7:31:44 PM
Give it enough time every woman gets the sleazies married and playing. Particularly on the week end when they are pissed or the missus is out.
 worth_the_effort
Joined: 5/19/2011
Msg: 591
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/11/2013 3:47:10 PM
I've actually preferred talking to guys who don't have a picture. I get a better idea of their personality without any preconceived ideas based on looks. Of the men I've met through POF (5) 2 had pics, 3 didn't. 2 who sent pics ahead of time were better looking than their pictures...and their personalities are what attracted me...they sent pics before we met so that I'd know who I was looking for..lol. (they weren't the 2 that had pics in their profiles)

I just added a pic the other day, and while I certainly am receiving more messages, I'd have to say the quality of the guys contacting me is lower. It seems some guys just send a note to anyone who has a pic, without actually checking out the profile to see if there's any potential..lol
 lightninbug22
Joined: 6/23/2009
Msg: 592
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 2/11/2013 3:50:17 PM

It seems some guys just send a note to anyone who has a pic, without actually checking out the profile to see if there's any potential..lol


Oh, definitely---and then there are those who pretty much disregard what is written in the profile, based on thinking the other person is "cute". Junior high stuff...just saying!
 tnt144
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 593
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/4/2013 9:57:06 AM
Well, when you have a picture beforehand, I find it's a little easier to find your date when you meet for the first time down at the asbestos factory.
 NJgallooking
Joined: 12/26/2012
Msg: 594
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/4/2013 4:42:56 PM
You have to show a picture sooner or later. But I found those are the ones that are married.
 Thornz2000
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 595
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/4/2013 5:05:51 PM
I'd have to see a RESENT picture 1st before deciding.

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 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 596
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/4/2013 5:20:13 PM
Why would you bother? There has to be something amiss. Women not posting out front I can kind of understand but unless they provide them in the private section or by email. I would be very wary. Men who dont post them, pass on by. Does not matter what age group. After all if you are going to meet physically it will all be revealed anyway.
 4ureyeonly
Joined: 4/1/2013
Msg: 597
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/4/2013 6:59:47 PM
Seeing everyone judging so quickly for those who have no picture is Sad. I for one do not have a picture posted due to privacy. I do send a picture when asked. Many men’s picture are outdated, at least mine is current. I think being open-minded and judging to quickly is why so many people stay on this site and have no luck. If it’s meant to be then it is meant to be with a picture or without.
 _FishingForAMermaid_
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 598
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/6/2013 7:56:01 PM
I'm with you 4ureyeonly. Doris Day said it well when she sang Que Sera Sera!!
 MsNutty
Joined: 3/16/2013
Msg: 599
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/6/2013 8:48:05 PM
You know what....if someone asked me for a pic from the first message I would block them....I find that a total turn off and I wouldn't want to associate with that person.
The positive side of not showing a pic or seeing a pic of someone first off is you actually get to know or have a better understanding of someone without visuals...Men who brag about their looks is a deal breaker and you do find that some of the attractive males have ugly personalities ....another deal breaker. Who cares whether they end up physically unattractive or not but you would hope that a friendship would of developed regardless and whether they take it any further who knows but I suppose it does depend on whether you want a trophy on the end of your arm or not. I could be fugly or attractive ..who cares and I really don't particularly care what men think.... I would hope that the beginning of a friendship looks shouldn't play any part. What some people might find attractive others might not. Depends what you are wanting.
 Lavenderandred
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 600
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/7/2013 3:47:40 PM
(OP)...I have marked not to receive info from people with no pixs, but most of what i get has no pix...therefore...NO...I think it is only fair to ask to see whom you might be meeting...emailed back & forth with a gentlemen sounds like a really great guy... and requested he send pix...still to this day I see his "NO PIX PROFILE" looking for someone...he responded to the request saying he didn't know how to do it...well ask someone...
I understand the don't want coworkers etc to bother you bout this, but if you are really up & up, why would you care..they know if you are alone or not.
 lightninbug22
Joined: 6/23/2009
Msg: 601
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/9/2013 8:29:42 AM

It does confuse me that so many people think it is so crucial.



I hardly think crucial is the word--in real life, when you meet someone, you get to see what they look like before getting into a relationship. Why should it be any different on here? Everyone has different likes and dislikes, everyone has their own idea of attractiveness.

Also, being passed by because of looks does NOT mean you are unattractive, there are a myriad of other reasons why this may be. I will use my own preferences as an example. There were a couple of actors I can think of, who, in their heyday, were considered to be quite the ladies men, and also were considered very attractive to most women. They did absolutely nothing for me, they simply were not my "type". I think most people need to feel some attraction fairly early on to pursue a relationship. Unfortunately, holding out and not providing a photo, no matter how attractive you are, sends the message that you very may well be hiding something. And THAT could mean a major character flaw. When someone barely knows you, they have no idea, and there are plenty of flakes (and frosted flakes) on these sites.
To me, providing a photo or posting a photo is just a good way to be upfront from the beginning, which, IMHO is a good thing.

I can understand not wanting to post your photos, but there are instructions online as to how to post a picture, or how to e-mail it to someone if that would work better for you.
 rongoden
Joined: 4/3/2013
Msg: 602
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 4/9/2013 11:20:20 AM
In order for me to be interested, I have to see it first. It's that simple
 lowmiles2
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 603
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 6/17/2013 10:28:39 AM
I think its worth the risk. If you meet with this person after a phone call and a few messages etc... and later find out he or she wasn't what you expected then say so and move on.

I have nearly looked at all of the pics and profiles in my area within my age bracket and to tell you the truth I'm disappointed in what I am seeing. By meeting a gal with no pic and finding her to be pleasing to my eye that would be enjoyable.
 theanswerguy2
Joined: 4/3/2013
Msg: 604
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 6/17/2013 2:15:24 PM

I guess you've had successful dates with people that had "no pics" posted?


As a matter of fact, I have.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 605
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 6/18/2013 9:35:55 AM
I've heard of the occasional situation where someone met another member without having seen a
picture first and it was a positive experience for them.

Unfortunately, the majority of the stories I've heard didn't nearly turn out so well.
 April1963
Joined: 6/7/2013
Msg: 606
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 6/18/2013 11:05:48 AM
If the person gives a verbal description including how TALL he/she is with the current WEIGHT (pounds),I think it is worth the risk.
 PA_DancingBear
Joined: 5/23/2013
Msg: 607
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 6/18/2013 11:58:03 AM

If the person gives a verbal description including how TALL he/she is with the current WEIGHT (pounds),I think it is worth the risk.


I have had fun on plenty of blind dates before. Any time you meet someone new it is just another roll of the dice whether you see pics beforehand or not. The odds are just longer on a no pic meet.
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