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 h-otter
Joined: 12/8/2012
Msg: 576
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Amen to timeforall. You said "You know, some people still value their privacy" how very true. I do not put a picture on here or any other site because of many reasons.
It's not how you look or how much money you have that will find you a partner. Those people are fickle and shallow.
I have known both men and women that have had their photos stolen and doctored then transplanted onto other websites (generally xxx-rated) having them doing allsorts of un-mentionable stuff. These people then got a lot of hassle and grief. It is generally done by ex's with some grudge to bear.
it reminds me of an old saying "hell has no fury like a womans scorn" but I think it should be updated to "hell has no fury like a ex's scorn" .
 MrsNoboody
Joined: 1/13/2013
Msg: 577
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 1/27/2013 8:08:44 AM
I have been talking to someone the last 2 days, and he has every excuse for not having a picture. His phone is too old so he cant txt. Or take pics. he doesn't know how. has to wait for his teenage daughter to help him get pictures from his camera to his computer. etc. etc. And he claims he teaches high school science. A teacher? teachers at my daughters HS HAVE to be computer saavy because the email parents back and forth every day. Red flags all over the place, but we have some things in common so I wanted to believe that he is not a liar.
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 578
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No pic:.... Worth the risk?
Posted: 1/27/2013 12:38:29 PM
It would be well-researched....Messaging, here...then a Phone conversation...and still...
That is the Only time I Insist on either :...
1.) Meeting me _Here_...or...
2.) Being generally 'local'...(Within ~50 miles~)

I'd be just ~Asking~ to be put on YouTube if I drove 150 miles for a Date....to find Noone there..!!
 Ran_65
Joined: 11/11/2012
Msg: 579
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Posted: 1/27/2013 10:30:08 PM
I completely agree w/ sevlepo. Just b/c I don't post photos doesn't mean that I'm married, have 2 heads, too shy, or that I'm trying to fool anybody! I did actually put a photo on public view for awhile and had so many ridiculous contacts that I ended up quitting the site entirely for several months. I could put pictures of myself that are totally photoshopped and look nothing like me ... Come on guys & gals, show some depth & take a chance that a mildly interesting profile is worth the risk!
 ShineOnBrightly
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 580
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Posted: 1/29/2013 6:24:15 AM
I think it's simple. The biggest reason for no photos is likely the person is married, living with someone or has a steady SO and doesn't want the whole world to be able to see their picture.

No, that's not necessarily so. Many women are in sensitive job situations, and feel that having their picture on a dating site is simply not an option. I have met (and got to know) women in this situation. In the past, I have met women from this site who did not supply a picture on their profile, nor did they supply one privately. I met two of those women without ever seeing their pictures, and based my decision to do so on their profile and communication merits. I also had one of the longest relationships I ever had on this site with one them. In other situations, I found them to be very attractive when I met them, and we dated a few times. Not everyone has a hidden agenda (married, living together) for not posting a picture.
 lightninbug22
Joined: 6/23/2009
Msg: 581
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Posted: 1/29/2013 8:48:08 AM
I agree with ShineOn Brightly. Many people without photos are attractive, single, and have nothing to hide. They just value their privacy a bit more than the average bear. Nothing wrong with that, though they have to realize that they will get less response from their profiles. In a perfect world, nobody would have to post their photos, we could all read about each other and decide first if there might be a connection based on things that are important and/or dealbreakers. Then after that, decide whether or not to share photos.

However, that is not reality. No surprise there.

I would much rather not have my photo posted (not because I am married or have something to hide), but I have found that if I don't have a picture, the response I get from my profile is zero. There is no point to being on these sites if you get no response from your profile, unless you like the forums, or are willing to be always the one to initiate contact.
 sunsunsun4
Joined: 1/19/2013
Msg: 582
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Posted: 1/30/2013 7:44:05 PM
Likely married. Or wanted.
 domainfullduplex100
Joined: 12/21/2012
Msg: 583
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Posted: 1/31/2013 5:15:12 PM
i don't have a picture because there are people i work with who are on this site. I do like to keep my life private. I don't need to broadcast to them that I am separated and on a dating site. If that means, no dates, that's fine.
There should be a means to send pics to only those you choose within POF..other than through external email.
 Life_Is_Better
Joined: 1/8/2011
Msg: 584
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Posted: 2/6/2013 5:37:56 PM
One might be cautious about posting a picture simply because he/she is aware of the consequences. As I found in another thread, a gal wrote " I also found that my photos were being used in somebody else's profile on a social networking site in another nation state." As the POF moderators will tell you, anything posted on the internet that another person can view, can be copied and used.

IRL people used to go on blind dates; some still do.

No pic on a dating site? Arranging a meeting in a safe place (e.g. a coffee shop) and treating it like a blind date... Only you can tell. Only you can decide if it is worth the risk.
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 585
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Posted: 2/6/2013 6:23:13 PM

There should be a means to send pics to only those you choose within POF..other than through external email.

There is. You can have private images and send them via POF messaging if and when you choose. They are not publicly viewable.

Here's a good quick sum-up of how it worked last I knew:

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts15499566.aspx

Like any feature here, it's subject to change without notice. But hey, you're not seeing any anteaters on my profile, right? So it's still working now.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 586
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Posted: 2/7/2013 1:30:34 PM

Likely married.


Never.


Or wanted.


Apparently, not.
 gratitudegirl65
Joined: 2/5/2013
Msg: 587
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Posted: 2/9/2013 8:43:06 AM
Hello everyone,

If a guy doesn't have a pic he is usually married and wants a secret relationship on the side. I am new to this site and have already had 6 guys (not gentlemen) offer their 'services' because their wives don't provide what they need....very sad situation. I guess the internet makes it easier to cheat. Ask him why he doesn't have a pic on his profile and if he refuses, move on. Are their any gentlemen left??
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 588
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Posted: 2/9/2013 9:22:39 AM
You know, I think that what makes me a bit more suspicious is that as yet, I have *never* had a man provide a picture when I ask for it. I ask right away, after reading their profile and deciding if I'm going to respond to their initial contact. So they contact me, but won't provide the pic.

I'm pretty sure it is the same, even if I initiated contact. In that case, I typically write and respond a few times (if they haven't responded, they are not interested, so it's a moot point). But I ask for the pic eventually and *poof.*

I have had my pic down and been contacted/initiated contact. I provide a pic immediately upon request. Sometimes the man disappears after seeing my pic. I could think that this means I'm hideous, or that it means I'm not his type. I tend to choose to think the latter :)
 lightninbug22
Joined: 6/23/2009
Msg: 589
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Posted: 2/10/2013 5:59:24 AM

I am new to this site and have already had 6 guys (not gentlemen) offer their 'services' because their wives don't provide what they need.


GEEZ!! I sure am glad I haven't experienced any of that, I would be outta here! That is insulting to say the least.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 590
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Posted: 2/10/2013 7:27:24 PM
Men will take the chance with a no pic profile but women seldom do. If they dont have the balls to load one, then I pass on by. It screams married, ugly, incapacitated or definitely indicates something to hide. The old line about their work preventing them from showing a pic, doesnt wash with me. Perhaps if they are willing to send pics privately to your email, maybe but I would still be suspicious. If you are ashamed to use a dating site, you shouldnt be doing it. It is bad enough when they turn up 10 years older and 15 kgs fatter than the pic posted.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 591
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Posted: 2/10/2013 7:31:44 PM
Give it enough time every woman gets the sleazies married and playing. Particularly on the week end when they are pissed or the missus is out.
 worth_the_effort
Joined: 5/19/2011
Msg: 592
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Posted: 2/11/2013 3:47:10 PM
I've actually preferred talking to guys who don't have a picture. I get a better idea of their personality without any preconceived ideas based on looks. Of the men I've met through POF (5) 2 had pics, 3 didn't. 2 who sent pics ahead of time were better looking than their pictures...and their personalities are what attracted me...they sent pics before we met so that I'd know who I was looking for..lol. (they weren't the 2 that had pics in their profiles)

I just added a pic the other day, and while I certainly am receiving more messages, I'd have to say the quality of the guys contacting me is lower. It seems some guys just send a note to anyone who has a pic, without actually checking out the profile to see if there's any potential..lol
 lightninbug22
Joined: 6/23/2009
Msg: 593
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Posted: 2/11/2013 3:50:17 PM

It seems some guys just send a note to anyone who has a pic, without actually checking out the profile to see if there's any potential..lol


Oh, definitely---and then there are those who pretty much disregard what is written in the profile, based on thinking the other person is "cute". Junior high stuff...just saying!
 tnt144
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 594
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Posted: 4/4/2013 9:57:06 AM
Well, when you have a picture beforehand, I find it's a little easier to find your date when you meet for the first time down at the asbestos factory.
 NJgallooking
Joined: 12/26/2012
Msg: 595
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Posted: 4/4/2013 4:42:56 PM
You have to show a picture sooner or later. But I found those are the ones that are married.
 Thornz2000
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 596
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Posted: 4/4/2013 5:05:51 PM
I'd have to see a RESENT picture 1st before deciding.

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 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 597
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Posted: 4/4/2013 5:20:13 PM
Why would you bother? There has to be something amiss. Women not posting out front I can kind of understand but unless they provide them in the private section or by email. I would be very wary. Men who dont post them, pass on by. Does not matter what age group. After all if you are going to meet physically it will all be revealed anyway.
 4ureyeonly
Joined: 4/1/2013
Msg: 598
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Posted: 4/4/2013 6:59:47 PM
Seeing everyone judging so quickly for those who have no picture is Sad. I for one do not have a picture posted due to privacy. I do send a picture when asked. Many men’s picture are outdated, at least mine is current. I think being open-minded and judging to quickly is why so many people stay on this site and have no luck. If it’s meant to be then it is meant to be with a picture or without.
 _FishingForAMermaid_
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 599
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Posted: 4/6/2013 7:56:01 PM
I'm with you 4ureyeonly. Doris Day said it well when she sang Que Sera Sera!!
 MsNutty
Joined: 3/16/2013
Msg: 600
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Posted: 4/6/2013 8:48:05 PM
You know what....if someone asked me for a pic from the first message I would block them....I find that a total turn off and I wouldn't want to associate with that person.
The positive side of not showing a pic or seeing a pic of someone first off is you actually get to know or have a better understanding of someone without visuals...Men who brag about their looks is a deal breaker and you do find that some of the attractive males have ugly personalities ....another deal breaker. Who cares whether they end up physically unattractive or not but you would hope that a friendship would of developed regardless and whether they take it any further who knows but I suppose it does depend on whether you want a trophy on the end of your arm or not. I could be fugly or attractive ..who cares and I really don't particularly care what men think.... I would hope that the beginning of a friendship looks shouldn't play any part. What some people might find attractive others might not. Depends what you are wanting.
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