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 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 226
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I do not like how this thread has veered off into BMI's, body types, stereotypes, defensiveness, interpretations of feminine beauty, etc. To each his own- I am greatful to have a body that is strong & healthy & hope it stays that way for many years to come. Perhaps we should ask people w/ chronic illnesses & physical challenges to participate in this thread...any of us can fall into that category in the blink of an eye, so me, I am happy to be healthy & alive & of course this time of year does make most of us more reflective...


Starting a thread does not bestow upon the OP the power to dictate to people what is and isn't an acceptable response. Part of the reason this topic has veered all over the map is that the original question posed, "How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?" is vague. How much of a difference does it make to what?
 scboy1968
Joined: 2/15/2010
Msg: 227
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 12/19/2011 4:36:45 PM
I dropped 25 pounds three years ago and I received a ton of comments on my weight loss. I'm six feet tall, but a lot of it is noticable in my face.
 Capitano_Blaugh
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 228
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 12/19/2011 5:49:20 PM

I did some research online and found that most polls say that men prefer curvy, not thin, women.
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Curvy does not equate with obesity, but it does not equate with rail thin women who are touted as the epitome of attractiveness in the media.


Well, yes, not many men would say that rail thin or anorexic is the most attractive look, but you have to remember that women's definition of what is "curvy" is very different from how men define the term.

To most women, "curvy" seems to be the same as bowling-ball shaped, as in one continuous curve....

 MaybeAsk
Joined: 2/8/2012
Msg: 229
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 2/15/2012 12:16:40 AM
I easily put on 20 lbs in the winter because I bbq more around football games. My ex would freak out if I dropped below 220 at 6'0" but for a woman, I always advise them it's about their lifestyle. they go lame on us. chubby woman can be awesome but it's genetics. as a leg man, I start at the feet, ankles, legs and eye their hands. that tells me what I need to know.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 230
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 2/15/2012 5:47:49 AM
Hmmmmm...thank goodness the Holiday Season w/ the parties & food is over. And the V Day chocs, not buying any sale stuff either.

I find it amusing that some men in this thread evaluate/judge women like horsemeat...maybe they should evaluate themselves

Yep I want my man to have 6 pack abs, and a butt that is like a model from a Brazilian butt DVD...bla bla bla. Everyone has something to bring to the table & basically what you have to put on the table is what you are gonna get. If you want more than that, you need to up your game
 Jaimes004
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 231
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 2/15/2012 6:40:17 AM
20 pounds doesn't mean a whole lot as long as you are not 20 lbs. heavier than your profile picture. I had this happen to me on a first meet. She looked great, curvy like I prefer, but showed up with a few more "chins" than I was expecting.
 F1fanIam
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 232
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Posted: 2/15/2012 6:50:04 AM
I would enjoy gaining 20 lbs...I consume about 4,000-5,ooo calories a day and always weight the same..And, it is a curse..
 RIPTIDE59
Joined: 11/9/2011
Msg: 233
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Posted: 2/15/2012 7:01:25 AM
@249........Real good point. I've had meet and greets with totally unrecognizeable folks. Very much larger than their pictures. Actually, our preferences are irrelevant. You know, the other day I had to come to the realization that I was somewhat undateable due to a choice I made. I don't regret that. Being 20lbs o/weight is also a choice (mostly). In short, it's all about choices. Why do men get so severely criticized for CHOOSING not to date large women? I know there are plenty of guys attracted to these women. Not all of us are; that's all.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 234
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Posted: 2/15/2012 7:19:32 AM
Anyone who thinks 20 pounds is nothing should go out and lose 20 pounds, then come back and tell us if they still think it's nothing.
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 235
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 2/15/2012 7:34:21 AM
I'd enjoy gaining 20 lbs...I consume about 4,000-5,ooo calories a day and always weight the same..And, it is a curse


Then try consuming seven to eight thousand calories a day - that should have you 20 lbs heavier within a couple of months - personally I think you are braggin rather than complaining.
 Java 4-2
Joined: 6/24/2009
Msg: 237
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Posted: 2/15/2012 6:30:26 PM
Thanks for bring up the topic. My dates of late have not been good out comes. I'm 15 pounds heavier than a year ago. I'm 5,4' so I guess I'm going to postpone dating until I lose the more weight. Funny though my friends and say I look just fine.
 ixtlan09
Joined: 12/12/2010
Msg: 238
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Posted: 2/15/2012 6:33:57 PM
It depends on your weight and your frame. For you at 5'4". A definite noticeable difference. If you were 5' and small framed it would be even more noticeable.

It also depends on what % of that 20 lb.s was muscle & what was fat. All fat? Highly noticeable. Half muscle, half fat? Not nearly as noticeable.
 MyScreennameRox
Joined: 12/11/2011
Msg: 239
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Posted: 2/15/2012 8:11:21 PM
How much of a difference does it make?

The difference is the same as the difference between being a liar and telling the truth.
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 240
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 2/15/2012 8:21:01 PM
Anyone who thinks 20 pounds is nothing should go out and lose 20 pounds, then come back and tell us if they still think it's nothing.


I agree with you for once!


I've lost about 24 pounds and had to buy new smaller jeans, smaller shirts and bras. People at work are starting to notice as well as my residents. It feels good. If I gained those 20 pounds back, I would hate myself and everyone would definitely notice.
 MyScreennameRox
Joined: 12/11/2011
Msg: 241
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Posted: 2/15/2012 8:24:32 PM

Anyone who thinks 20 pounds is nothing should go out and lose 20 pounds, then come back and tell us if they still think it's nothing.


I have, on separate occasions, lost 20 pounds from:

a) Walking 3 hours daily for a month.

b) Cutting soda out of my diet for three weeks.
 Jaimes004
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 242
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 2/16/2012 6:15:27 AM

I'm 15 pounds heavier than a year ago. I'm 5,4' so I guess I'm going to postpone dating until I lose the more weight. Funny though my friends and say I look just fine.


I would not postpone a thing, just take current pics for your profile on here.
 BrookfieldGentlemanTom
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 243
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Posted: 2/16/2012 6:18:37 AM
for some women 20 pounds is the difference between being a sexy woman and just being a woman.

then for other losing 20 pounds is just a start.
 RIPTIDE59
Joined: 11/9/2011
Msg: 244
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Posted: 2/16/2012 6:25:53 AM
re: msg 259....Hey Rox: Great advice. Might I add? Eliminating anything white from your diet. ie. salt,sugar,flour. Go natural. Insta-lean. I just have to wonder if any of these "few extra pounds" types even desire to loose weight. There just seems to be more of them now a days. Young ones too.
 Java 4-2
Joined: 6/24/2009
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Posted: 2/16/2012 11:10:38 AM
Thanks my pics are current... I am a size 10 now... Up from a size 8 one year ago.
 Jaimes004
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 246
How much of a difference does 20 pounds REALLY make?
Posted: 2/16/2012 11:26:43 AM
Thanks my pics are current... I am a size 10 now... Up from a size 8 one year ago.


Nothing wrong with that......more to love. Don't take a break for that reason, you look just fine.

If I were to loose 20 lbs, down to 172 @ 6'1", I could turn sideways and stick my tongue out and look like a zipper!
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 247
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Posted: 2/16/2012 11:32:33 AM
For me, losing 20 pounds would usually do a lot less to make a woman attractive to me than it would to improve her personality to the same degree. Looks are only one part of being sexy.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 248
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Posted: 2/16/2012 12:00:27 PM

Thanks my pics are current... I am a size 10 now... Up from a size 8 one year ago

u look awesome now...only a dog likes a bone!
 OutofControlMan
Joined: 12/22/2011
Msg: 249
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Posted: 2/16/2012 12:57:34 PM

So does 20 lbs really make a diff?


depends on where it is located.. if concentrated in the breast or booty area many guys would like it. h@ll, J-Lo must have at least 20 pounds in each butt cheek..?

Q. how do you make 10 lbs. of fat attractive?

A. put a nipple on it.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
Msg: 250
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Posted: 2/16/2012 1:21:26 PM

h@ll, J-Lo must have at least 20 pounds in each butt cheek..?


That’s all muscle man. I know because I watch it very closely. She started her career as a dancer you know.

I'm 20 heavier than I was when I wrestled in college 25 years ago. And I’m alright with that. I still look good in ski pants and winter coat. - The scary part is when I think about what I’m gonna look like in another 25 years. But shoot, I’ll be seventy and who gives a rip!
 cracklinrose
Joined: 2/5/2012
Msg: 251
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Posted: 2/16/2012 2:37:45 PM
20 lbs doesn't make a damn bit of difference to me. I don't date a guy for his weight. Its how good of a man he is that matters.
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