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 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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 a_djentleman
Joined: 11/14/2015
Msg: 35
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Posted: 11/30/2015 7:04:07 AM
Not 45, but yeah, same sitch... and a lot were sent off as a shot in the dark to some iffy profiles, so the standards have already slipped into low territory.

Can't really expand the radius any further either. Once you hit the desert here, you're out... next stop: Tucson... LOL!

Perhaps POF is not as popular as they purport to be.
 MHtraveler
Joined: 1/6/2015
Msg: 36
running out of people to email
Posted: 11/30/2015 8:11:28 AM
Try having another online dating site available. Match.com works for me.
 a_djentleman
Joined: 11/14/2015
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/30/2015 9:14:46 AM
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Really? Hmmmm... I've got a free account on there and done searches that yielded only like 20 or 30 candidates... far fewer than on here. Hardly seems worth the money.
 elmuchoburrito
Joined: 8/27/2013
Msg: 38
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Posted: 12/3/2015 11:25:55 AM
More time on bike - less time on line; you will find you care less: I know I did.
PS - Bikerdate.com give that a try, as well as TravelGirls.com
Both of them understand the need to get out of dodge and disappear for a while. Best of success.
 a_djentleman
Joined: 11/14/2015
Msg: 39
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Posted: 12/4/2015 12:32:36 AM
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Sweet reply promo for your own websites.

Get a goddamn job, you fat hack.
 TheEvolutionOfJessi
Joined: 8/29/2015
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Posted: 12/4/2015 1:25:32 AM
Yeup, just under 500 ooo folks on the island, and 300 POF 'gents' that meet my criteria in my 50mile search radius... around 200 of those are in the DTF groups on Wastebook...
I ran out of 'suitables' a long ago....

Celibacy is really empowering right now....
I'm seriously looking at relocating.... Starting fresh over...
Just can't decide on another part of the state (North & slightly warmer and the chance to buy a house) or another country entirely....
 a_djentleman
Joined: 11/14/2015
Msg: 41
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Posted: 12/4/2015 1:28:59 AM
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You're 48. Everything you're experiencing from men is what 25 year old women pile on men in that respective bracket. It's called empathy. Drink deep of it... taste the bitterness...

Mmmmmm... karma complete....
 elmuchoburrito
Joined: 8/27/2013
Msg: 42
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Posted: 12/4/2015 2:27:13 AM
Neither of the sites are mine - do a whois ping
 castlehillsmile
Joined: 11/4/2015
Msg: 43
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Posted: 12/4/2015 3:00:38 AM

around 200 of those are in the DTF groups on Wastebook...



^^^ What is DTF?
I presume Wastebook is Facebook.
But what is DTF?


And YES.
I have run out of people to email on here.
 TheEvolutionOfJessi
Joined: 8/29/2015
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Posted: 12/4/2015 3:19:42 AM

Everything you're experiencing from men is what 25 year old women pile on men in that respective bracket. It's called empathy. Drink deep of it... taste the bitterness...

oh but darl.... that might be 25 year old women 'today'... but not when I was 25... currently I'm enjoying doing 'me'.... meeting a 'man' is not a problem to be solved at this stage of my life... I meet some, I don't... but not gonna let it define me... nup... all sweet!!

Diana,
DTF is DownToFyck (first time meet)... aka one time NSA...
yep, Wastebook = Facebook...
 deetristate
Joined: 12/4/2014
Msg: 45
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Posted: 12/4/2015 11:30:13 AM
I think this is an "I get a chance to go on in psychology babble in a response to the OP," once again, thread.

Sometimes a question is just a question.

In answer to the op

Yes. The choices are narrow/limited. There are all kinds, many of whom are not one's type or desire.
Maybe you could join a Meet up group in the meantime?
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 46
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Posted: 12/4/2015 1:37:16 PM

And YES.
I have run out of people to email on here.


Time to go a' waltzing , Matilda.
 PassionateSunnyGal
Joined: 7/23/2015
Msg: 47
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Posted: 12/4/2015 9:50:03 PM
It's not how many you have emailed--it is the quality of the email...
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 12/5/2015 12:55:02 AM
your profile is too intimate in its details about what you want to do with a lady. Save it for when you actually do get into a relationship.

It is a long time since you were blond and I would be changing that. You are a smoker which can be a "drawback" and the pictures are not very good overall. But you didn't ask for a profile review so ignore my comments if you wish.

And yes, I would get off the sites and out into real life for a while.
 Dragracer428
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 49
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Posted: 12/5/2015 4:58:24 AM


It's not how many you have emailed--it is the quality of the email...


There is many who would dispute that, there is an attraction or there is not, it can be that simple.
Could be the subject of another thread but I think it has been multiple times.
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 50
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Posted: 12/5/2015 7:28:08 AM
I have messaged every man within a 50 mile radius who I have a genuine interest in. This includes here, OKC, and Match. I have only ever received no thank you or don't message me again responses. I check "new users" every day.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 51
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Posted: 12/5/2015 9:18:06 AM
I feel for the folks in Timbuktu.

I've had gals that were chained to a mortgage 2 hours away in the desert message me.

Sadly, I'm chained to my job 4 miles away.

Skype is as far it'll get :(
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/5/2015 9:19:54 AM




It's not how many you have emailed--it is the quality of the email...

Dragracer428
There is many who would dispute that, there is an attraction or there is not, it can be that simple.
Could be the subject of another thread but I think it has been multiple times.

Indeed it has, innumerable times. To sum it all up succinctly:

If she doesn’t like your picture, you’re toast, message doesn’t matter in the slightest.

If she thinks you’re hot, you’re in, any message, including “Hi”, will work. (Exception for messages such as “r u dtf?”, unless you look like a young Robert Redford, in which case why in the hell are you on an OLD site anyway?)

Only if you fall into the great grey middle ground does the message matter in the slightest.


spot4username
I have messaged every man within a 50 mile radius who I have a genuine interest in. This includes here, OKC, and Match. I have only ever received no thank you or don't message me again responses. I check "new users" every day.


It’s like the realtors say, “Location! Location! Location!”

Here in Houston, inside the loop, if I do a search for new users within a 50 mile radius, there are hundreds (literally, hundreds if not thousands) of new profiles every single day. Even restricting by age, and throwing out those with no pictures, and those who are clearly unattractive (to me), I would have more each day than the maximum number of messages that this site allows me to send.

Spot, you are clearly a very attractive woman. If you want to date, you are going to have to get off of that island and out into the real world!


ShowboatSupreme
I feel for the folks in Timbuktu.

I've had gals that were chained to a mortgage 2 hours away in the desert message me.

Sadly, I'm chained to my job 4 miles away.

Skype is as far it'll get :(

“4 miles away” ?? You’ve got me beat, my commute is 5.3 miles. But if your commute is only 4 miles, why have you stated before that you bought a fast car (the Corvette) to shorten your commute time? Here, where I live, a fast car would not help the commute time at all, not one whit. Bumper to bumper traffic all the way, average 18 to 20 minutes to go 5.3 miles.

And “2 hours away in the desert” is not that bad. I mean, if she’s really cute, and sounds really lonely, well….
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 53
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Posted: 12/5/2015 9:38:19 AM
Ohenry,

I start at 530am. I can sleep in longer and drive 100 mph to get to work. No traffic at that time.

It's unfortunate that some folks have no local dating pool per se.

Then again, having a large pool like LA is a whole other issue. Why would I suffer an hour commute to meet someone for a cup of coffee for the slim chance we'll click and she'll rent out her humble abode and move in with me so I can keep bringing home the bacon?

If she has a mortgage and lives more then 25 miles away (1 hour drive in LA), the house odds are against me. I'm no longer a betting man.

Some folks have created their own sense permanence and will struggle to meet someone. Jobs, mortgages...and yeah, some are chained to a scale. The gym rats that don't have time to date because their too busy being fit.

YMMV
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/5/2015 9:49:59 AM

showboatsupreme
Some folks have created their own sense permanence and will struggle to meet someone. Jobs, mortgages...and yeah, some are chained to a scale. The gym rats that don't have time to date because their too busy being fit.

I work out, not for weight loss, but to maintain a certain level of fitness. Required for dancing, and other fun activities involving women (smile). Recently, a weld broke on my home gym, and I have been going to LA Fitness to work out. I enjoy their facilities, the variety of equipment, the indoor pool, the sauna, etc. But I really feel “out of place” there, the joint is full of “gym rats”. Male and female. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy the scenery, a beautiful young woman in spandex sweating like hell while vigorously exercising is a site any man would enjoy.

But I am so far removed from that life style it’s not even funny.



Then again, having a large pool like LA is a whole other issue. Why would I suffer an hour commute to meet someone for a cup of coffee for the slim chance we'll click and she'll rent out her humble abode and move in with me so I can keep bringing home the bacon?

Funny enough, I get this sometimes with my meetup group. We are scattered all over town, and many of the meetups are a good one hour commute, each way. If it sounds interesting, and I have no other plans, why the hell not? I usually have a good time, sometimes a very good time, and it beats the hell out of sitting home watching Netflix alone.

Many of the women only show up for the meetups that are conveniently close to their home, and I always tell them, “Sitting home alone is never going to make things better. Never.”
 Dragracer428
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 55
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Posted: 12/5/2015 1:18:47 PM


ohenryx wrote

Here in Houston, inside the loop, if I do a search for new users within a 50 mile radius, there are hundreds (literally, hundreds if not thousands) of new profiles every single day. Even restricting by age, and throwing out those with no pictures, and those who are clearly unattractive (to me), I would have more each day than the maximum number of messages that this site allows me to send.


I love where I live, except for the snow it is heaven but it is a very small place and an island. My search window is from 50-62 and in my area if 2 new profiles show up a week it is a busy week. Since I do not have nearly the appeal of Spotforusername you can see the difficulties. LOL Seeing what you write makes me think "lucky SOB". LOL

Cannot say finances have ever come up, every one I date seems to be in about the same position. Though it does not take long to see that my hobby/obsession chews up up my dollars at a horrific rate.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 12/5/2015 6:06:27 PM

I have messaged every man within a 50 mile radius who I have a genuine interest in...


Very discouraging. Your mailbox should overflowth.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 12/5/2015 6:11:16 PM

I've had gals that were chained to a mortgage 2 hours away in the desert message me.


If we are talking about the desert to the east of the LA Basin (Palmdale, Lancaster, and other points south), that is what the Fast Car and Week-Ends are for.
 StumbledN
Joined: 12/20/2014
Msg: 58
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Posted: 12/5/2015 6:35:47 PM
Msg 52

I have only ever received no thank you or don't message me again responses.

Msg 59

Very discouraging. Your mailbox should overflowth.


Methinks she was being facetious. You should have called B/S on that one.
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