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 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 67
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its a stupid cliche for losers....
 ilovehistory
Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 68
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Posted: 1/9/2012 10:29:33 PM

That logic, "the good ones are always taken" not only abounds in the dating scheme of things, but the job market as well. I've heard often about people with jobs (myself included) being approached by other employers making job offers to them. When infact, they could have a pile of resumes of eager job seekers to go through.


Very true. A lot of employers today will not even consider an applicant who actually needs the job (that is, an unemployed applicant). There's been quite a lot of press about it, which has become a common thing only in recent years as the number of long-term unemployed has skyrocketed because there simply are not enough jobs for everyone.

Of course, in dating there are about equal numbers of men and women in the world, so there is no rational reason for there being 'too few' men or women to go around.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 70
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Posted: 1/11/2012 5:28:44 PM
Too message 74:
I think these people who need a huge pool of petential mates to go through before finding that so called right one, says more about that person than their potential mate. Anyone who could be that hard to please, I don't think is very realistic in general on allot of things.
 Bill45644
Joined: 11/27/2009
Msg: 71
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Posted: 1/11/2012 7:13:48 PM
The good ones are out their,just people look on the outside,not with in..Sure a man like to have barbie by his side,but not to marry,cause they tend to wonder as in Ken type..
Women/men should read the profile and not the pic and see what fit the ones they looking for.
I myself prefer Sandar Bullock,cause she got a sence of humor and personality..
 Artimessmiles
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 72
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Posted: 1/11/2012 7:17:33 PM
<-----Good one....not taken....


Seriously....I know what you're talking about.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 73
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Posted: 1/12/2012 5:02:30 AM
Life is like a bull market.

When a bull market starts, any stock you buy will give you a good ride, even the scam companies will look good and soar for a short time. Everyone thinks they are a genius and knows how the market works. Near the end of the bull market, good stocks are still there but harder to find.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 75
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Posted: 1/15/2012 2:32:26 PM
Too message 74:
I think these people who need a huge pool of petential mates to go through before finding that so called right one, says more about that person than their potential mate. Anyone who could be that hard to please, I don't think is very realistic in general on allot of things.

Correction: The above message was in reference to message 73.
 ladyseekinggent
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 76
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Posted: 1/15/2012 4:46:50 PM
Okay, so we've all heard this cliche said over and over again. Does this mean that anyone and everyone in a relationship are better relationship-material than the anyone else who is single?

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I think this statement kind of means.....similarly to people who have worked a job for a few years....and understand the nature of what a normal work day entails...from 9 to 5 ...comparatively, that a person who has had a prior relationship would understand this plane....[does it mean they would be happier? is a whole different chapter]...but more able to go with the flow from dating scene experience and also would be more tolerant because of less surprises.... for them ....than someone who is less experienced...being good is not really [i dont think] the issue.....
How to get the experience is to get out more and observe....mingle....but also be on alert ......
 amornumerouno
Joined: 11/23/2011
Msg: 77
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Posted: 1/15/2012 6:08:50 PM
I loved reading your outlook on things. Absolutely correct!
 icefishingrl
Joined: 1/8/2012
Msg: 78
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Posted: 1/15/2012 6:46:33 PM
Love this, you said it best!
 alliethegreat
Joined: 5/2/2009
Msg: 82
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Posted: 1/21/2012 2:08:29 PM
This.
People drag their raggedy hobo bags from their past into the new relationship. Then they are SHOCKED when the new relationship fails. I am of the opinion that ifyour ex is so horrible...why did you settle for them in the first place? Where were you at in life that you had to settle for them?
 serg35
Joined: 1/10/2012
Msg: 83
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Posted: 1/21/2012 2:14:00 PM
If that was true, sites like this wouldn't be this popular. Married guys **** and moan about wives cheating on them, kids hating them, and having no control in the house. I'm convinced everyone is mostly lonely and messed up, and just puts up a disguise once in a while to show that they are 'social' and 'happy'
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 84
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Posted: 1/21/2012 2:23:23 PM
I never use that line. In fact, I have to correct people when I hear them use it, because I consider myself one of the "good ones", and I have never been married.

 A_Gent
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 85
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Posted: 1/21/2012 3:25:24 PM
Msg: 79

Nice hat!

Flatters you!

W.
 PureSentiment
Joined: 1/28/2012
Msg: 86
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Posted: 2/5/2012 7:19:46 AM
I don't desire someone elses good ones. I don't like bad boys but yet I don't do normal either.

So as the old saying goes... if all the good ones are taken and life hands you a lemons, make them into lemonade!

A little tart, with some sugar, sure is sweet to me!
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 87
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Posted: 2/5/2012 9:15:14 AM
"Good" ones taken? Psheh.

Maybe they are. But who wants just "good" when "better" and "best" are usually still out there.
You know... a lot of truly exceptional people were single or were unfit parents or spouses during their lives... (or they marry the wrong people) You can see that when you read biographies of most great people in history. They achieve so much yet their domestic lives are a shambles.

So the good ones taken are just the regular mediocre crowd... the guy who punches the clock daily and faithfully... dutifully coming home to his wife and kids and will die without doing anything important worth writing in history of human civilization.

Many people who are on the path to greatness are overlooked as always by those whose sights are trained only on living regular boring lives.
My view is so what if all the good ones are taken? If that is all you want in life, then you are not for me.
I aspire not only to be "good" but to be better or best.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 88
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Posted: 2/5/2012 9:21:44 AM

The good ones are taken because the good ones aren't narcissistic idiots who think they can always do better... they're MARRIED and settled in.


Eithe that; or they are mundane barn animals with no ambition, and who were ready to settle with whoever was around during their last year of high school. (And who have, furthermore, still had no ambition, thus making their plain jane easy vanilla life just fine for them)
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 89
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Posted: 2/5/2012 8:01:48 PM

I've known men who were ready for a relationship, they were everything most women seek and they were snapped up like a Black Friday special at Walmart.


Snapped up?Doesn't sound like any time was spent getting to know the man.Selected for looks,job,assets?A man can be just an Object to some women....
 JoseMadre
Joined: 1/9/2012
Msg: 90
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Posted: 2/5/2012 9:23:51 PM
Unless a metamorphosis takes place when one is "taken" then the statement is patently illogical.
 onlydateIF
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 91
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Posted: 2/5/2012 9:30:38 PM
Brilliant point OP! BTW, in case you haven't heard, the world already ended 3 times now, and we're all stiiiill here !What's up with that nonsense now, ha?? I learn somethin new from these forums all the time, so please keep us updated, if you would be so kind (and thanks for the giggles too)
 DomG79
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 92
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Posted: 2/6/2012 2:24:22 AM

Most of the good one ARE already taken. There are reasons those who are in their 30s and 40s and have been single for many many years.

The good ones are taken because the good ones aren't narcissistic idiots who think they can always do better... they're MARRIED and settled in.

We're all still single because we're damaged goods - each in our own way. Whether we think we're too good for the 50 girls or guys we just turned our backs on for whatever idiotic excuse we used to justify it with.... or we have so much baggage that anyone who's worth being with (who has his/her head on straight) takes one look at us and thinks "**** this, I don't need this train wreck in my life... and runs for the hills.


That makes me feel so much better about my situation.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 93
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Posted: 2/6/2012 6:45:28 AM
Might also be...
The ones taken are not always good finds.
What explains 50% divorce rate? This means 50% of the time, the partners turn out not to be good for you after all.

It gets worse. let's say that of the 50% who stay together in a marriage, half of them are truly happy and the other half really are just sticking it out because of the kids, or fear, or insecurity, etc... so now you got only a measly 25% who are satisfied with their marriages.

But wait... it gets even worse.
Of that 25%, some are not really THAT satisfied... maybe the partner they thought was "good" is now a slob or not that fantasy partner they dreamed of. It's no basis for a divorce, but hey... they'll do... let's say half of them are really happy and the other half are so-so...
That leaves you with what... 13% who are really happy with their relationships and feel like they really chose well.

So a LOT of the ones taken aren't really that great to begin with... or that "good".
Like the grass being greener, it just seems that way.

At my age, I am now hearing my contemporaries complaining to me --envious of my freedom to roam and just be my own master.

So are the good ones really taken?
That to me, is a farce.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 94
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Posted: 2/6/2012 4:00:28 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Well lets take it more into the distance, If most of us can actualy see a good person for what he is. Then think about it two people get married a short time later they find that the other person is not realy good. ( just like buying a car and finding its a lemon). so they divorce them.. ( same as you try to get rid of the lemon). So that shows that after a test drive to realy get to know the person. We deem them not worthy. So that says the majorty of divorced people are not good. If you dont belive that just ask there ex who had to live with them and got to know them. Again it shows there are no good people left out there.. Most of us are rejects anyway. Just saying
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 95
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Posted: 2/6/2012 5:33:55 PM

Of that 25%, some are not really THAT satisfied... maybe the partner they thought was "good" is now a slob or not that fantasy partner they dreamed of. It's no basis for a divorce, but hey... they'll do... let's say half of them are really happy and the other half are so-so...
That leaves you with what... 13% who are really happy with their relationships and feel like they really chose well.

So a LOT of the ones taken aren't really that great to begin with... or that "good".
Like the grass being greener, it just seems that way.

At my age, I am now hearing my contemporaries complaining to me --envious of my freedom to roam and just be my own master.

So are the good ones really taken?
That to me, is a farce.


I believe you are quite correct here.By the time the mid forties roll around this dawns on a huge number of men and women.Great post.
 Fandango
Joined: 1/28/2012
Msg: 96
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Posted: 2/6/2012 5:38:28 PM
Only ugly people whine about the good ones beign taken and only ugly people whine about how you are a bad person if you have any desire for attraction.
I say we poke them with sticks. :)
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