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 onlydateIF
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 63
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Brilliant point OP! BTW, in case you haven't heard, the world already ended 3 times now, and we're all stiiiill here !What's up with that nonsense now, ha?? I learn somethin new from these forums all the time, so please keep us updated, if you would be so kind (and thanks for the giggles too)
 DomG79
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 64
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Posted: 2/6/2012 2:24:22 AM

Most of the good one ARE already taken. There are reasons those who are in their 30s and 40s and have been single for many many years.

The good ones are taken because the good ones aren't narcissistic idiots who think they can always do better... they're MARRIED and settled in.

We're all still single because we're damaged goods - each in our own way. Whether we think we're too good for the 50 girls or guys we just turned our backs on for whatever idiotic excuse we used to justify it with.... or we have so much baggage that anyone who's worth being with (who has his/her head on straight) takes one look at us and thinks "**** this, I don't need this train wreck in my life... and runs for the hills.


That makes me feel so much better about my situation.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
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If All the Good Ones Are Taken .....
Posted: 2/6/2012 6:45:28 AM
Might also be...
The ones taken are not always good finds.
What explains 50% divorce rate? This means 50% of the time, the partners turn out not to be good for you after all.

It gets worse. let's say that of the 50% who stay together in a marriage, half of them are truly happy and the other half really are just sticking it out because of the kids, or fear, or insecurity, etc... so now you got only a measly 25% who are satisfied with their marriages.

But wait... it gets even worse.
Of that 25%, some are not really THAT satisfied... maybe the partner they thought was "good" is now a slob or not that fantasy partner they dreamed of. It's no basis for a divorce, but hey... they'll do... let's say half of them are really happy and the other half are so-so...
That leaves you with what... 13% who are really happy with their relationships and feel like they really chose well.

So a LOT of the ones taken aren't really that great to begin with... or that "good".
Like the grass being greener, it just seems that way.

At my age, I am now hearing my contemporaries complaining to me --envious of my freedom to roam and just be my own master.

So are the good ones really taken?
That to me, is a farce.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 66
If All the Good Ones Are Taken .....
Posted: 2/6/2012 4:00:28 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Well lets take it more into the distance, If most of us can actualy see a good person for what he is. Then think about it two people get married a short time later they find that the other person is not realy good. ( just like buying a car and finding its a lemon). so they divorce them.. ( same as you try to get rid of the lemon). So that shows that after a test drive to realy get to know the person. We deem them not worthy. So that says the majorty of divorced people are not good. If you dont belive that just ask there ex who had to live with them and got to know them. Again it shows there are no good people left out there.. Most of us are rejects anyway. Just saying
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 67
If All the Good Ones Are Taken .....
Posted: 2/6/2012 5:33:55 PM

Of that 25%, some are not really THAT satisfied... maybe the partner they thought was "good" is now a slob or not that fantasy partner they dreamed of. It's no basis for a divorce, but hey... they'll do... let's say half of them are really happy and the other half are so-so...
That leaves you with what... 13% who are really happy with their relationships and feel like they really chose well.

So a LOT of the ones taken aren't really that great to begin with... or that "good".
Like the grass being greener, it just seems that way.

At my age, I am now hearing my contemporaries complaining to me --envious of my freedom to roam and just be my own master.

So are the good ones really taken?
That to me, is a farce.


I believe you are quite correct here.By the time the mid forties roll around this dawns on a huge number of men and women.Great post.
 Fandango
Joined: 1/28/2012
Msg: 68
If All the Good Ones Are Taken .....
Posted: 2/6/2012 5:38:28 PM
Only ugly people whine about the good ones beign taken and only ugly people whine about how you are a bad person if you have any desire for attraction.
I say we poke them with sticks. :)
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