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 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 87
ContradictionsPage 5 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Only, is fig leaf really necessary, or would birch leaf do???




Few blades of lawn grass should do the trick

 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 88
Contradictions
Posted: 12/30/2011 1:27:05 PM

I just read it, very good. It must be your mention of "nipples" but they may have enjoyed your rendition of "The Life and Times of the Gwen's Bra's"....lol.


I just changed my profile to a short literary critique of a poem--we'll see how that affects my emails.


Because the OP has stated that women that show an unspecified amount of cleavage must be looking for sexual contacts.


I wonder if he opposes women breastfeeding in public.


Gwendolyn, you posted this exact same paragraph in two messages, number 77 and number 85. You must have really been impressed with the guy’s physique, yes? (smile)


It was a senior moment--I was posting it in a reply and POF went haywire. I copied and pasted my post into a document. When I reposted that part later, I didn't realize that the first one had actually posted.


It so happens I saw his post, and looked at his profile. The man in question is clearly looking for sexual encounters, and he was making it clear in his profile that he was not interested only in women who were “Barbie dolls”. He explicitly stated that he was open to older women. If he excited you so much that you had to mention him twice, maybe you should message him?


You didn't see the same guy and I have no clue to whom you refer. This man is in a nearby town (in Missouri) and I have never seen him post in the forums. He makes no references to older women (he is in his 40s, I think) and he is not trolling for sex.

Be careful about assumptions--they can get you into trouble.


I don’t think it was supposed to be equal, it was meant to be funny. And I rather thought it was.


Some people find potty humor funny, too.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 89
Contradictions
Posted: 12/30/2011 3:24:42 PM

but I fail to see how a public display of cleavage could be interpreted as a personal invitation for sexual commentary.


Same here--I posted that I expect men to look and that doesn't bother me, but they shouldn't make remarks. According to at least one poster, the sexual remarks are valid due to Newton's third law.


Totally off topic here - but isn’t that backwards? As in Eve had children (ie sex) and Lilith didn’t?


Despite Eve's indiscretion with the fruit, she is a model of a chaste wife. Lilith abandoned Adam because he refused to have sex with her on top. She took up with a demon and bore hundreds of demon children known as "Lilin"--this is according to the Midrash and the Alphabet of ben Sira. Later, she was made into a succubus and stole men's semen as they slept. She is the epitome of the carnal, sexual woman that men want in the bedroom but not in the living room or kitchen.
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 90
Contradictions
Posted: 12/30/2011 4:59:52 PM
That’s because I refuted your point.


You did no such thing. You just brought it down to personal level as in "I got or never got" that is pointless because this topic isn't about you. Some women enjoy dirty messages from men while others don't. It's a pretty simple concept to grasp. Action, reaction. It is a choice to put up pictures that may warrant reaction and it is a choice to react. What is justified and not isn't for anyone to judge unless it is against the law. Men and women are different, people are different and so are the reactions.


I don’t expect disrespectful remarks because you tell me to. You don’t speak for your gender, apparently someone needs to tell you that.

I really do not wish to educate you in anyway on what you should expect. Females that view expression of male sexuality as disrespectful or act on what other people tell them have larger issues. I speak objectively and from the point of logic, not emotion. Since I am a man, my point of view is from a male perspective.
Furthermore I do not appreciate your tone. You have failed to stay objective or carry a debate in respectful manner.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 91
Contradictions
Posted: 12/30/2011 5:20:39 PM
You, Msg. 35:
Blunt misandric reaction by some women to a known fact is disturbing.


The supposed “known fact” quoted, as stated by the OP:


To me I find the cleavage shot to be the invite to sexual comments, so if you don't want to hear smut from the guys, clean up the shot.


That is an “opinion.”

You, Msg. 60:
HAHA! Amusing. Treated badly? You face male sexuality in dirty messages. Intimidating isn't? Tat for Tit as it ware


You, Msg. 60:
oh yes indeed! I'm the regular old school manipulator. Witness my success rate! /sarcasm


You, Msg. 78:
HAHAHA sounds like you would like to get dirty messages.


You were saying, Mr. Maturely Objective?

Don’t worry…I’m done with you.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 92
Contradictions
Posted: 12/30/2011 6:00:37 PM

Since I am a man, my point of view is from a male perspective.
Furthermore I do not appreciate your tone. You have failed to stay objective or carry a debate in respectful manner.


I find this ironic and contradictory coming from a man who tells a woman, post 78:
HAHAHA sounds like you would like to get dirty messages.


You speak from YOUR perspective; you cannot claim to speak for all males. This is evidenced by the men who do not agree with you.

Your tone is consistently derogatory. The first post you made on this thread, post 35:


Blunt misandric reaction by some women to a known fact is disturbing.


set the tone for the remainder of your comments. You went on to backpedal to try to cover your blunder in post 40:


Not exactly misandric, pore choice of words on my part. I'm troubled over sexist site policy on bikini shots vs chest shots.


Which belies this comment:


I speak objectively and from the point of logic, not emotion.


If you hadn’t been “upset” over sexist policies, then your emotions wouldn’t have gotten in the way of your “logic” in seeing that the posts you pointed our were NOT misandrist. It looks as if your clear judgment was clouded by your distress. Perhaps your distress over issues in general cloud your reason until you only think that you are being logical and rational.



What is justified and not isn't for anyone to judge unless it is against the law.


You never addressed the "law" until I posted about using Newton’s third law as a justification for rape or any other reaction to an action. In addition, you justify your opinions and judge the error in the thinking of others. In addition, even outside of legalities, there are social and cultural mores that come into play.

I won’t quote your rude and disrespectful remarks from other threads here, but to disparage others for either disrespect or a lack of logic is nothing but hypocrisy or severe shortsightedness.
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