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 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 257
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It must of been one heck of a toilet seat.Heated and padded maybe?


Dude....the thing craps for you too!

Seriously, the hidden meaning behind someone giving a gift is....I am EVIL and want to swallow your brain! MOUHAHAHAHAH!

Okay, really seriously now, a gift should be an expression of love. I usually take notes of whenever a girlfriend tells me "one day I want to...". That's what I buy her, or take her for.
Either that. or I biy videogames. Those are actually for me
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 258
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/6/2012 12:19:39 PM

It makes me sad to see the number of women on here that are so desperate for gifts from a man that they would gladly accept anything & even put up with this low life. So sad!

Heads up guys.....it appears for the majority of the women on here you can treat them like crap, but all is forgiven if you buy her a gift! Money does indeed talk!


Uuummm...NO.

The gyst of what many women are saying is this:

She didnt have the balls to tell him beforehand what exactly she wanted...she DID tell him she wanted lawn furniture (your post said this) and when she got what she wanted, she biatched in front of guests.

That comes off as ungrateful.

Because some women say it comes off as ungrateful, you make the leap that we are desperate and would accept anything handed to us? That says A LOT about you, and nothing about us.

Gifts are not supposed to be expected. No one is entightled to gifts. The fact he even bought her anything, IS better than nothing. This thought process does not make people desperate, it makes them grateful.

Desperate and grateful are not the same thing.

While I am always grateful for a gift, I have never been desperate.

Now, you keep coming back here, defending the lady in question, and super slammin the man. A relationship takes two. Your friend did not tell him what she really wanted, in regards to a gift, or the long term wants of a relationship, and it is all the guys fault. Right-o.
 Fandango
Joined: 1/28/2012
Msg: 259
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/6/2012 2:59:43 PM
Yes, getting things you talk about needing is totally desperate.
Appreciating a man that listens and tries to help you is completely pathetic.
What a low life!
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 260
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/7/2012 12:55:25 PM
compared to me this guy is normal... gifts given to me are never used ..I just cant use them they are treasures to keep in the original packaging ..I have a room full of them ..people say I am crazy.. .and I suppose that is true ...a friend once gave me a new fishing reel ..one that I had been wanting for ages ..I put this reel up ...bought myself one just like it to use ... I still have it in new condition ..my friend has since passed away .. but every now and then I go into my room take out that reel and hold a piece of my friend ... a gift has no monetary value to me I treasure the inexpensive ones as much as the expensive ones ... people say my gift room contains things that I make no use of ..I say my room contains memories ..treasured memories...hope no one gives me a car or house It just wont fit in my room...I even have money still in the card that was given to me ..years ago
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 261
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/7/2012 12:58:57 PM

compared to me this guy is normal... gifts given to me are never used ..I just cant use them they are treasures to keep in the original packaging ..I have a room full of them ..people say I am crazy.. .and I suppose that is true ...a friend once gave me a new fishing reel ..one that I had been wanting for ages ..I put this reel up ...bought myself one just like it to use ... I still have it in new condition ..my friend has since passed away .. but every now and then I go into my room take out that reel and hold a piece of my friend ... a gift has no monetary value to me I treasure the inexpensive ones as much as the expensive ones ... people say my gift room contains things that I make no use of ..I say my room contains memories ..treasured memories


LOL That IS crazy....but perfectly understandable lol. Some things I have I feel the same way too. Maybe not an entire ROOM, for me that's overboard. But hey, to each his own; rather that then walk around the streets shooting people or dealing drugs LMAO!
I think some gifts are the same thing, treasured memories to be kept. I still have a cross given to me by my Godmother before she passed away from Cancer. I'll never seperate from it.
 Pinayto
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 262
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/7/2012 2:41:09 PM
Well i think the OP and her friend are ingrateful wackos. accdg to the first post. the gf openly mentioned she needed those items so why get furious? I can understand if she already has the item but she obviously doesn't. If your too hard to please friend wants a gf's gift. Then tell her to say out loud how she wants this new perfume or whatever nonsensical material things she wants.
 orionseal
Joined: 11/24/2010
Msg: 263
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Posted: 2/8/2012 12:28:39 PM
Has She mentioned NEEDING a new necklace?
What I'm saying is this:
If my girl said she would like/need a new set of dishes and it was close to a gift giving holliday I would seriously concider the dishes, but if she kept dragging me to the jewlry store to oggle over a necklace she would probably get the necklace.
 NDNHEART
Joined: 1/12/2012
Msg: 264
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/8/2012 12:54:59 PM
I agree with you she should be thankful he got her something, there's alot of guy's & girl's out there that don't give anything at all. she should be thankful for what she get & not upset for what she didn't get.....
 CarsAreScary
Joined: 6/10/2010
Msg: 265
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/8/2012 3:12:28 PM
What's the hidden meaning behind giving a girl herpes? And can you make it sound loving? I need to put a silver bow on this before I text her.

p.s. Hey there crabby
 musical_turtle
Joined: 3/11/2011
Msg: 266
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/9/2012 4:18:04 PM
Those seem like practical gifts...because she needs them,and now she doesn't have to spend her own money on them.Breaking up over that is a bit extreme.The most important question is...Can she return the gifts though or no? If she can...then no worries lol!
 SpittyKitty
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 267
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/10/2012 6:24:30 PM
Communication is the key. Poor guy. I kinda feel sorry for him.
Many men are kinda clueless as to what gifts women want (deep down in their romantic hearts).
Women can be just as clueless about what men want (deep down in their machoman boy hearts).

I always say the 3 S's.
1.sparkly
2.smelly
3.sexy

If a guy will get anything she might NEED (such as dishes) and THEN get her the 3 S's, he will begood to go.

The 3 items need not be expensive.
1.sparkly-inexpensive or expensive jewelry works best, once got a sparkle "pink diamond ring key chain that was Walmart for 2 $. A cubic z necklace for under14$, sparkly windchime, shoes, spangled stationary, garden globe, prism.

2.smelly-Calgon body spray 5$, perfume 15-80$, scented candle 5$,lingerie drawer liners10,$
scented stationary, lotion, bath oil, flowers, single petel (make it a gerber or spider lily).

3.sexy- 1 dollar panties from cittrends/3$ at walmart for each day of the week (ask her to try them on with a wiggle of eyebrows-throw away what she doesn't like-or better yet rip them off, fake fur rimmed gloves, shoes, outfits for outside or inside the bedroom.

I think the girl is probably just that.....a girl.
She needs to help her man help her take care of her, especially if he is a boy in need of it.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 269
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/12/2012 7:00:21 AM
AND again he bought these gifts because HE wanted them, not her!


I'm still struggling to reconcile that with the OP's first post:


They have dinner parties at her house quite frequently & she has mentioned that she wanted/needed these items


I mean, she "mentioned that she wanted/needed these items", and yet somehow when he buys them for her its "all because HE wanted them, not her!"??

If she didn't want them, then she shouldn't have said she wanted/needed them, otherwise all you're basically saying is her communication skills *suck*, and she's asking for things saying she "wants/needs" them when she really doesn't, while expecting him to read her mind and "know" she doesn't really want them, but instead something else she hasn't openly communicated about (but he's supposed to "know" - the mind-reader thing again).

Apparently she kept hosting these "parties" even though she didn't want to... why? Did she *communicate* that she didn't like doing it? Or did she, as it sounds, not communicate her real feelings, bottle it up and bottle it up, until she finally exploded? Certainly not the first time something like that would have happened to me, if you don't communicate what you *really* think/need/want, then you really shouldn't be expecting someone else to 'fulfill' those desires/wants you haven't communicated to them.
 aremeself
Joined: 12/31/2008
Msg: 270
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Posted: 2/12/2012 10:02:37 AM
check this out and read the comments.
just about wet myself.
they ignore the poor guy, who probably financed all of the sh[t.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nYQtv_3Dqws

hope it's not too much off topic.
 kclady42
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 271
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/12/2012 10:30:57 AM
My ex did that. pissed me off to get kitchen pan as a birthday gift. goes to show he does not care much if she verbally states she does not want that crap
 seabreezeandyou
Joined: 6/25/2010
Msg: 272
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/12/2012 6:01:39 PM
If these gifts offend her---just tell him--they have been together for how long? Quite a while it appears
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 274
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/22/2013 7:17:45 PM
These gifts aren't exactly cheap. Any of them can easily go over 1K, and this is her reaction? She has told him she wants and needs these items and he listened, and this is her reaction? He was thoughtful enough to want her to have those things she wants and needs and he made it happen, and this is her her reaction? If it were me that woman would not get a single gift ever again.
Now he did blow it on Valentines day. It is a romantic holiday and therefore the gift should be romantic.
 This_orThat
Joined: 5/6/2011
Msg: 275
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Posted: 2/22/2013 7:52:20 PM
She needs to be thankful, he gives her what she needs over the things she wants.
 14everBlessed2
Joined: 6/21/2012
Msg: 276
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/22/2013 10:03:07 PM
I love presents! I also think most women and men have gotten the gift they wanted and then the not so appreciated one....think of Ralphie in the bunny suit at Xmas and the red rider BB gun in "a Christmas story" , which brings me to my little story. My husband and I were both in the military, he was gone on frequent deployments but always brought me back some wonderful gifts and jewelry.This one time he brought back some lingerie. It was a see thru negligee with the little bikini thong and cut out nipples. It reminded me of Frederick's of Hollywood (is that still around?)or something the ladies of the evening in the red light district of Amsterdam would wear in their lighted advertising windows waving to the johns. And it was 2 sizes too small. I hid my mortification as I am more of a poet gown lacy type. Did i put it on? Damn Skippy! And my chagrin grew as i adjusted that too small wedgie up my butt. I was fit/solid but I have to admit I am built like a sturdy german brumhilda farm gal and did not feel sexy at all. But I persevered....put on some Wagner opera and strutted in like a dancing bear in a tu-tu and started singing with the Opera. The look on my husbands face was priceless... Convulsing in laughter, we both had to crack up at the imagery....long story short the gown was ripped off ASAP ......and the next unexpected gift I got was a gift certificate to Victoria's secret. I still have to grin when I think about it............
 barnabyjames1
Joined: 1/11/2013
Msg: 277
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Posted: 2/22/2013 11:15:45 PM
Christ on a crutch, now we can't even give harmless gifts to someone w/o it being questiojed or if there's a motive behind it, has it really come to this?
 OhioJeepindude
Joined: 2/3/2013
Msg: 278
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Posted: 2/23/2013 5:45:56 PM
Of course there can be hidden meaning, just not allways

This story is more humor than anything else.

Guy buys his girlfriend a gift certificate for $38.75 from a local Spa, and some other more usual gift for her birthday.

She is curious about the gift certificate amount as she enter the spa. She then sees The ONLY thing there for that
exact amount is a bikini wax.
 Jeremybr
Joined: 9/6/2011
Msg: 279
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/23/2013 6:23:00 PM
well said.
but on the other hand,the number of people with genuine intentions are getting fewer and fewer.
sometimes its hard for men or women to see past the initial wrap on the photo. handsome men attract women, that being said there's never a warranty on his loyatys. vicea versa, the snake bites its tail any my personal favorite wheeeeeeee!
being human its our nature to be redundant till we get somthing right lol
least life can always get better when you meet a great person thats the better part of it all ^_^
 pd481
Joined: 4/15/2010
Msg: 280
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Posted: 2/23/2013 7:56:00 PM
The recipients of the gifts is not online chatting with people about the gifts. The giver of the gifts is not asking for advise. We don't know the recipients real thoughts or feelings or her intentions talking to her supposed friend about them either. All we have is a troll who wants to talk about how crappy her friend's boyfriend is and the troll's version of events and thoughts
that occured in other peoples' lives that have nothing to do with her. My response to the OP - get a life. If you have issues in your life that you actually know about and actually are your business - there are a lot of people on these bulletin boards who give thoughtful advise (and a lot of idiots who relate everything to their issues and run threads on unneeded tangents). Don't humor the troll - tell her what any busybody should be told - mind your own business.
 THEMEPACK
Joined: 12/17/2012
Msg: 281
Hidden meanings behind gifts
Posted: 2/24/2013 3:28:39 AM
I buy my friends gifts quite often....I bought one friend a kayak, hidden agenda ya, now I have someone to go kayaking with.
 maxm360
Joined: 1/25/2011
Msg: 282
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Posted: 2/24/2013 5:03:39 AM
In that case, She was not mature enough. Those beautiful things that you have done for her were so loving sweet..and practical from your loving heart.
You are recognized by most of people.
Thank God that she broke up with you. You will find a much better one, trust me on that.

Just remember to live your own life with style and not dragged by someone else.
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