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Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 56
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Is it rare for a man to find that your vanilla lifestyle is work, kids and social events and that's the extent of it? What happens if you are looking for a natural dominant alpha male? It certainly doesn't mean that you are in to hardcore BDSM.

If I could I would vote to delete this thread. You need to be more specific with your questions, none of this p.ussy footing around the bush shit.
Joined: 4/16/2012
Msg: 57
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Posted: 10/8/2012 12:55:03 AM

Is it rare for a man to find that your vanilla lifestyle is work, kids and social events and that's the extent of it?

I took this to be about ‘lifestyle’ rather than sex or sexstyle. Most people would assume it to be about sex because of the term ’vanilla’ in this part and the terms ‘dominant’ and ‘BDSM’ in the other part.

Vanilla could be used to describe life in general. I think a lot of people, men and women would think (if they thought about it) that a lifestyle of simply work, kids and few social events (if very few and confined to pub and eating out) would be rather vanilla. A lot of people have rather vanilla lifestyles. Some of those don’t have vanilla sex.

Your question seems unfinished. Or at least the sentence boxed above. Having seen further down your response to Vixen’s reply. I would say that the boxed sentence is redundant. I understand your saying a man can be dominant without being into BDSM, that he can be dominant in his self. I just don’t see how it links to the boxed question.

I don’t think it is rare to find a dominant alpha male not into BDSM and don’t think means a woman is into being a sexual sub just because she wants a dominant alpha male. .
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 58
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Posted: 10/27/2012 4:12:54 PM
no I talked to a few women that do this and thay realy want hurt me down there.
Joined: 10/14/2012
Msg: 59
Posted: 10/27/2012 7:31:48 PM
i dont find you to be funny at all rec diver.infact,you make my stomach turn
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 60
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Posted: 11/14/2012 12:35:41 PM
It is not any easier to find the right dominant than it is to find the right partner in the vanilla realm. But I do know that it all starts with knowing yourself first; if you start there, then you can weed out most---and you WANT to weed out most. Good luck OP!
Joined: 5/20/2012
Msg: 61
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Posted: 11/14/2012 6:56:21 PM
^^^ That doesn't answer the OP's questions at all. It may answer other people's, though.
Joined: 8/22/2012
Msg: 62
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Posted: 11/15/2012 4:32:01 PM
The whole safe word permission act is a circus. Real dominate men don't need reindeer games. The women know it when they meet them. It's trial and error using your education and best proper judgment that seals the deal. You have to know what you are looking for. A dominate male will protect you, guide you but treat you like a treasure if you are a treasure, will dominate you in a way you can tolerate because you were made to accommodate that. Growth requires stretching boundaries but you will be taken there with a firm but caring hand. Groomed to specifications to fit his loins and their needs as you are a woman and should desire that also. Intimacy is very important to a man and mostly taken for granted by a lot of women because non dominate, spineless men are always wanting it from you and that gives the illusion to a lot that that is the basic male. Either that or idiot abusers.
Joined: 7/11/2013
Msg: 63
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Posted: 12/15/2013 3:20:55 AM
i want a dom bf to be with
Joined: 5/21/2005
Msg: 64
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Posted: 12/16/2013 12:09:07 PM
I think deep down most men will enjoy going a bit rough and most women probably enjoy getting roughed up a bit. Men have always been hunters and that primal instinct is pretty much alive
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 65
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Posted: 12/28/2013 12:53:27 PM
I lead, always have. I've been with women who like that, and others who went away after a day or two.

But be aware, if you are with someone who is dominant, then you must submit willingly to him, or it won't work.
Joined: 1/8/2014
Msg: 66
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Posted: 12/9/2018 11:21:25 AM
actually I think with the right Dom/Sub relationship, I don't find it work. After the initial good communication and discussion, I find walking in being free knowing that for the time frame together it will be pure pleasure and passion.
Joined: 1/14/2018
Msg: 67
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Posted: 12/16/2018 4:43:44 AM
Don't mind a little but not a fan of the whole dominant thing....specially tying up and or hand cuffs...did that in my former job sooo rather treat woman with soft touches and loooong foreplay!
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