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 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
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This subject is really a bane of mine...
I have never met any gay/lesbian people that hold any dislike or hatred for bi people, but then again I do live in a small community.
One's sexuality is not a determining factor as to whether I like them or not, there are certainly more types of sexuality than the three anyways....
It actually gets me infuriated when people say "pick one" or "they just aren't fully out" they don't need to pick one, they can have either...
I also hate it when people think a bisexual person is more likely to cheat..... goes to show how smart these prejudice people can be....
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
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Posted: 3/6/2012 10:35:18 PM

All bisexual means is that you are attracted to people regardless of gender.


Not exactly, sexuality is not dichotomous, it is fluid and runs on a spectrum. There are more than two genders.
"Bi" simply means two
So a bisexual would mean they have an attraction to two genders.
Gender is about self identification, and how others identify you. It's a very tricky and complex state of being... I'm not sure I completely understand it though, so I could be wrong.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2012 12:53:08 AM

Not exactly, sexuality is not dichotomous, it is fluid and runs on a spectrum. There are more than two genders.
"Bi" simply means two
So a bisexual would mean they have an attraction to two genders.
Gender is about self identification, and how others identify you. It's a very tricky and complex state of being... I'm not sure I completely understand it though, so I could be wrong.

Nope.. that makes sense. I guess I'm thinking more pansexual, where gender doesn't matter.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/7/2012 1:57:35 PM

but sooner or later
if you want a quality relationship
you have to choose


I think this is very true if your looking for monogamous relationship. I also think it is the root of the OP. I think it all boils down to the same basic issue regardless of straight, gay, or bi. TRUST.

I can see a Gay guy having trust issues regarding losing his partner to a woman. Just as a straight man may feel threatened that he might lose his woman to another woman. Just as a straight woman feels threatened that she might lose her man to another woman.
See, it's all the same. If your monogamous, your monogamous.
I think both the straight and gay community see the Bi-Sexual as a threat because they can "cross the line" so to speak and act as though it isn't cheating.

A lot of Bi people perpetuate that as well as I have seen from numerous posts. If a dude is going out with a dude and he gets some **** on the side, its still cheating!!
 longtermlady
Joined: 11/25/2008
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/7/2012 7:42:39 PM
Being "bi" doesn't mean you have this right to cheat because it isn't with the same gender. I was in a long term relationship with a woman and when it ended I spent time with a man. I enjoyed both. I can enjoy what I get from a man or a woman, they are both very enjoyable. If I am with a woman, I won't seek a man, and vice versa. There's pleasure in both sexes and why not enjoy them but you can be monogomous at the same time. There is another steryotype, if you're bi, you have a liscense to cheat, not true. If we break apart I may switch genders for my next lover but not while were together, I am very faithful.
 wesman
Joined: 12/13/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 3/7/2012 11:06:25 PM
i think it is up to the individual or individuals who they choose as partner or partners ...we are a couple and looking for a female to join us in some fun, and my partner is happy and she is very curious about another woman , she has kissed and played with another girls breasts....so does it make her GAY i think not...and hopefully if all goes well one day we will try a couple for play......so if any females interested contact us. .
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 3/8/2012 11:50:01 AM
you know, I am always still so amazed at how terrified people are of anybody that is not hetero
If you think about it, there are far more really messed up hetero's that there are in any other sexuality
this is a fact, the reason this is so, the world has many more straight people in it!!!
I do not get this whole fear everything, thing that American culture has unleashed on the world
 cckch
Joined: 5/13/2010
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Posted: 3/8/2012 12:01:17 PM
With all due respect, does nobody worry about the diseases that are being spread around with these open bi-sexual, homosexual interactions?

I've been separated for 3 years, divorced just over a year... I absolutely do not have casual sex.. Stuff like this is scary.. I'm thinking maybe I should just stay single..

One of my closest friends is a homosexual.. He's hasn't been with a female since high school.. He considers girls his friends and doesn't look at them the same way straight guys do.. He's taking some dangerous chances now, as he's HIV positive..
I'm a little confused with the bi-sexual thing.. But hey, it's not me, so whatever.. Lol..
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 3/8/2012 12:20:09 PM

With all due respect, does nobody worry about the diseases that are being spread around with these open bi-sexual, homosexual interactions?

Same diseases are being spread through heterosexual supposedly monogamous relationships too.

My partner is fastidious about condom use. Actually I have been the only partner he's had where he hasn't used a condom all the time.

Again, just because someone identifies themself as bisexual does not mean they will be out there randomly and recklessly f*cking any and everyone they see. Some will, yes. Some heterosexuals do the same thing too. Obviously, as you know, some homosexuals can be reckless too.
 Meli30
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 35
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Posted: 3/10/2012 5:39:52 AM
What about guys that are into shemales..but say they dont like guys?
 want to travel
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Posted: 3/10/2012 1:34:29 PM
Guys who are into shemales, are not into men, they are into women who happen to be men lol
I really do not get the amount of emotion, and,energy people wast on what consenting adults are sexually
like I have stated before the only person I know to have died of Aids was a heterosexual woman
people should just let people be themselves
 Justatrubblemakr
Joined: 1/27/2011
Msg: 37
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Posted: 3/15/2012 10:53:52 AM
ffs first homos start calling non homos homophobes, and now the homos are bisexualphobes. wtf is gonna come up next? heres a clue , keep your sexual preferences to yourselves, noone cares and its noone elses business, it doesnt matter what our mental issues are, if you make a big deal and parade yourself around like a freak, youll be seen and treated accordingly, what you choose to do in the bedroom is your own business noone elses. why all the focus on who u stick ur****in or whos snatch u munch? when did society start to attribute a persons value and self worth upon who or what they choose to have sex with as opposed to their personal virtues? seems some clown will always start something to get ppl riled up about just to make themselves look or seem more important than they truly are. personally i think homos just act like that for attention , i mean, really, they are still the same as everyone else, just they lack mental strength to create themselves naturally and choose to just fall into a limp wristed passive aggressive misunderstood and uncared about group who only got attention because of infantile temper tantrums and gay pride parades, if they were really proud there would be no need for a parade. and they wouldnt try so hard to get acceptance from the very people they hate the most .
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 3/16/2012 4:36:53 AM
It seems to me that theres more heterosexuals committing hate crimes
"GLBT bashing?", not following equal opportunity guidelines etc. etc.
than people from the GLBT community cruising in cars with baseball bats bashing heterosexual people.

just an observation.
 LiLi8zero8
Joined: 3/6/2012
Msg: 39
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Posted: 3/16/2012 5:38:22 AM
Amen!
I'm bisexual. I've known for about 10 years now. I've had beautiful relationships with both genders. What makes me happy, makes me happy. I must admit that recently I was struggling, thinking it was immoral to be bi, but no.
Whatever makes you happy makes you happy. As long as you're not disrespectful about it (Making out in public, whether you're a straight or gay couple, is PDA and can be considered disrespectful.) then there shouldn't be an issue.
 jakester307
Joined: 9/5/2011
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Posted: 3/19/2012 10:11:35 AM
i agree. there are many people with diffrent sexual prefrances. whats wrong with people not haveing an open mind.
 simonish
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 41
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Posted: 3/22/2012 8:02:29 PM
In my opinion, anyone, in the perfect situation, could be bisexual. It may be a Freudian thing, and there ARE people who, whether they say it or not, are completely straight or gay and have never known or tried anything else; just like some people(a minority in the gay community :P), are completely monogamous.
What I figure though, and this is not everybody, is that you can't not knock something until you have tried it. And I'm sure everyone knows what their preferences are, but if you don't know then you cannot speak on it. Like straight people hating gays, they just don't know ;)
On another side of the dice(?as there is many sides to this argument?), having your partner leave you and choose someone of the opposite sex is frustrating on all sides, unless both people were bi.
But as a gay person, if I had a boyfriend and he left me for a woman, that would add another layer to the cake of "I dont have what it takes to make you happy" that at one point or another, we all take a bite out of while breaking up. Moving on is not the point. I'm talking about how it makes someone feel.
 coderedjulia1
Joined: 9/8/2011
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Posted: 3/22/2012 9:08:51 PM
Maybe its just too much competition? I don't think it should be an issue who you love, OP. If the person has a problem cause you like both sexes than he isn't for you. Maybe try to meet someone who is also bisexual?
 boninibaby
Joined: 12/3/2011
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Posted: 3/22/2012 9:25:18 PM
People want the world and its issues to be black and white........but really its all just grey scale.....
 tazloveyou
Joined: 4/25/2009
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Posted: 3/23/2012 3:13:43 PM
You know what is in a name gay or bi. they are just lables used by ignorant people who dont understand I like sucking penis and eating bush sometimes one more than the other what does that make me? confused? I think that makes me normal men at one time or another have thought about sucking other men just as women have thought at one time of being with another woman. it is norman and just go with the flow and dont give a damm what other people think
 hotmerlot
Joined: 2/25/2012
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Posted: 3/23/2012 7:56:20 PM
Haters hate - potatoes potate
 want to travel
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Posted: 3/24/2012 12:52:42 PM
you know, ask any gay person, who is out for sex,(not in a relationship), and you will find that they will tell you about all the 'straight'(lol) men that cruise them
 Trickytransam
Joined: 12/2/2010
Msg: 47
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Posted: 3/24/2012 7:15:02 PM
First off HIV is not a GAY disease.
Secondly, from the many years i've been around the block, I constantly hear of heterosexual couples having unprotected sex. It seems to be "The norm" with heterosexual people which are quickly becoming large spreaders of HIV illness and they don't even know it. Unfortunately they believe the false accusations conservatives place upon GLBT people that HIV is a Homosexual disease.
It is NOT, repeat NOT exclusive to Gay/Homosexual people.
Birth control is no excuse for Heterosexual people not to use protection.

There are many Gay men like myself that are very cautious when dating. When you want to party, you ask upfront "Are you clean?". When they say Yes, you STILL use protection. People lie, so be smart and be prepared.
I consider it perfectly normal to ask "When was the last time you were tested?"
To me, it shows responsability to know that you are clean.
Failure to disclose your HIV status before engaging in sexual activity can lead to life in prison.

There's nothing wrong with casual sex if you are single, but you have to be smart about it and ignore the fallacies floating about.

There are many GLBT people out there that are healthy, intelligent, and wanting long term commitments like myself.
 Justatrubblemakr
Joined: 1/27/2011
Msg: 48
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Posted: 3/26/2012 12:42:34 PM
nope i agree trick it isnt a gay disease, no disease is exclusive to a group of people . i actually read a report about the use of the plastic syringe being the major catalyst for it. was on a documentary i believe about a cancer dr in texas something about aids being very rare when they used the glass syringes awhile back, and the company that produced them refused to make the plastic ones, his comment was " over my dead body will i make plastic syringes," the company immediately went to plastic ones after his death . as it was more profitable. its always about profit i think they made a few extra pennies per syringe by going from glass to plastic.
fact was that the plastic ones were apparently unable to be truly sterilized unlike the glass ones. these syringes are scavenged by kids in 3rd world countries and sold to practicing drs over there as a means to make a few bucks to eat
http://www.aidsmap.com/Hepatitis-C-virus-can-survive-in-syringes-for-up-to-63-days/page/1437844/

i dont think id be worrying to much bout stds these days the americans use of depleted uranium and wmds will kill us all first
 rocketkat
Joined: 3/18/2012
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Posted: 3/26/2012 3:18:17 PM
My husband is bi and it's never been a problem at all in our relationship.

I love him, he loves me. We adore each other and we have an incredible sex life that SOMETIMES (not always), involves other people. We go through phases where other people are involved.

He NEVER plays with anyone unless I am there. So yes, sometimes he wants some gay sex, so I'll come along, and read a book whilst their do their things, and then we'll go home.

We've had lots of MFM 3somes, we've done partner swapping, swinging...all sorts.

And our relationship is very healthy and loving. We'd never cheat.

Yes, at times there is jealousy. Mainly if we go out and men look at me. He'd rather choose who I go with, if someone else. He has good taste, so that's never been an issue.
 D_Ocean
Joined: 6/26/2009
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Posted: 3/27/2012 9:46:18 PM
Cautious, it is true that gay men have a higher risk of contracting HIV than heterosexual men, but it is not because of gay sex; it is rather due to the fact that gay men have a higher number of sexual partners than straight men.

No STD is exclusive to one group of people, but the higher the number of sexual partners one has, the higher the likely chances of them contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

If a straight man were to have as much sex with as many different partners as a gay man, then their likelihood of catching something is about the same.

Source: My cousin is a Infectious Diseases specialist, and we had a discussion about this a few years ago.
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