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 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 66
Beards??? What is going on?Page 3 of 19    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19)

The way I took OP’s comment was: Why am I seeing so many profiles lately who happen to have scraggly beards....? as in what’s going on? I wasn’t aware it was a new fashion thing either. So some of us learned something new, no big deal.

I can see how it offended some people but I didn’t get the feeling OP was going that direction. Come on people, lighten up.


Spot on.


However, if the women doesn't like hair on a mans face I have no obligations to go ahead and shave it off.


And a woman has no obligation to date you if she doesn't like your beard! I wouldn't even have posted on this forum IF I had not seen profiles of men who are angry that women have rejected them because of their beards!

MOSTLY, I see the scraggly, long beards on old farts. I think it is in the same realm as the guys who start to bald or get very thin hair and grow or keep it long because it gives them SOME hair. In my opinion, there is little that looks sillier on an aging man than the skinny braid or ponytail--not unless it is a combover.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 67
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 6:53:57 AM
Can someone please explain to me what the deal is with tons of men recently deciding to grow out scraggly beards? I keep going to profiles where the main pic is an attractive looking man and then you click on it and see a bunch of pictures with a bushy out of control beard and it says something like, "growing out my beard, or sporting my new bearded look." I want to scream..Holy Hell..theres a rabid badger attacking your face!!


Typical fishes reaction. The thread has morphed into you hate beards, you're shallow,
you don't like me, move on...blah blah blah. The original OP was as above...the OP
was questioning scraggly beards ie unkempt ones, out of control ones. She didn't
say she hated beards at all. How about if all the women here just don't bother combing
their hair...just let it grow long and scraggly and fail to groom it? I suppose all the men
here would find that attractive and would tell other men if you don't like it, move on.
My guess is most of them would comment BUT WHY would you do this? That was the
original question...why would you not present yourself at your best on a dating site?
Who cares what the heck you do IRL?

Oy vey.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 68
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 6:56:08 AM

Typical fishes reaction. The thread has morphed into you hate beards, you're shallow,
you don't like me, move on...blah blah blah. The original OP was as above...the OP
was questioning scragglybeards ie unkempt ones, out of control ones. She didn't
say she hated beards at all. How about if all the women here just don't bother combing
their hair...just let it grow long and scraggly and fail to groom it? I suppose all the men
here would find that attractive and would tell other men if you don't like it, move on.
My guess is most of them would comment BUT WHY would you do this? That was the
original question...why would you not present yourself at your best on a dating site? Who cares what the heck you do IRL?

Oy vey.


The voice of reason.
 usernonymous
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 69
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 7:27:54 AM
It's the hipster look. Add a fitted plaid shirt, old skool Rayban wayfarer type eye glasses and skinny jeans and presto, you have that cool look of your Starbucks Barista!
 *army mom*
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 70
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 7:33:30 AM
Yeah, I'm jumping on the "I hate beards" bandwagon too. I don't mind a goatee as long as it's trimmed short, but when I get a message from Santa or Grizzly Adams, all I can think of is what kind of food or insects are lodged in there.

I just don't think a man who looks like he swallowed a small mammal is attractive and I certainly ain't gonna engage in a lip-lock with all that hair ... gross.
 AnEvilgenius
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 72
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 7:40:06 AM
Sweety, everyone got what you were saying, some just chose to overlook it for the sake of an argument/drama.

You'll pretty much get the same type of replies from the same people regardless of the topic.
 usernonymous
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 73
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 7:44:56 AM
"Thanks to the people who got what i was saying. I wasn't trying to insult anyone, although I guess I could see who someone might see it that way"

It's hard to start a forum. For some reason, for many forums, it often happens to start on a bad foot with some whiny poster who is offended and then proceeds to make it about the OP's faults and deficits, rather than the topic on hand.

Trust me, I've started a few forums, where I ask an innocent question that I am interested in and I get some jaded complainer who take it very personally.

It's seems a good old fashioned debate is beyond the grasp of many people on these forums.
 xfdrivenbogan
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 74
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 8:19:01 AM
I personally have a goatee because my naked chin looks like it stopped growing when I was six years old... so its a cover up...!

But the Afghani Taliban warrior look is a turn off, some girls just haven't heard of waxing... sheesh...
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 75
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 8:52:53 AM

some girls just haven't heard of waxing...


What's a turn-off to guys is a woman with a teenage boy mustache. Makes me wonder how hairy the rest of her body is and thinking she's the daughter of Grizzly Adams.
 NarcissusTemple
Joined: 4/23/2009
Msg: 76
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 10:07:35 AM
Met my honey here.

I focused on what was in his head instead of what was on it (facial and a head of long hair down to his low back--both misdemeanors at the time).

I've never been more content in a relationship and, surprisingly, the hair doesn't seem to affect his intelligence, integrity, wit, thougtfulness, kindness, attentiveness, generosity, etc.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 77
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Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 10:09:16 AM
Well OP, really if all you are looking for in a man is a clean shaven face, then state that in your profile, also add a warning that you are very shallow, not really interested in who the man is, but only what he looks like....save yourself the 'bother' of being chased after by men you do not consider worthy!!!!!
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 78
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 11:07:07 AM
i think its funny how some consider the op a shallow person as well as the other ladies who have also stated that its a turnoff,, just because she wants to know why some men choose to go around looking like a bum when in reality if the same guy showed up at a party function or interview there would be people also there wondering why he didnt try to present himself better or why he doesnt care about grooming an hygein not many ladies are going to be throwing themself at a guy like that even there would be gay men who would be turned off as well..


shallow would be saying you must make this kind of money an drive this kind of car an must have these color eyes ect ect..BUT wondering why or not being attracted to a guy who obviously doesnt care bout himself an that all it seems is missing is a cardboard sign in his right hand an a empty donations cup in the other isnt..

@ Gwendolyn2010

ya i know the type of bikers your talking about an NO COMMENT ekkk

an then there's the younger bikers boys on the fast bikes who are the ones you would wanna be seen with lol just being real..
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 79
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 12:00:53 PM
Well OP, really if all you are looking for in a man is a clean shaven face, then state that in your profile, also add a warning that you are very shallow, not really interested in who the man is, but only what he looks like....save yourself the 'bother' of being chased after by men you do not consider worthy!!!!!


Where does it say in her OP that she doesn't like beards? And what if she didn't like
beards, aren't we all entitled to our preferences without being called shallow?

I think all adults (including myself at times) should be required to attend reading
comprehension classes. For some reason we tend to put our own twist on
threads instead of responding to or actually reading what the OP is.



an then there's the younger bikers boys on the fast bikes who are the ones you would wanna be seen with lol just being real..


ahahahahaha! yeppers...one of the few times I do wish I was young again! :o)
 slpboo
Joined: 8/21/2011
Msg: 80
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 12:07:30 PM

I think all adults (including myself at times) should be required to attend reading
comprehension classes. For some reason we tend to put our own twist on
threads instead of responding to or actually reading what the OP is.


Seems to be a common occurrence on these forums. That being said, I'd take what [most] people say here with a HUGE grain of salt. A majority of posters are probably bitter & single and need to take it out on someone, somehow - instead of evaluating their own behavior & approach and how THAT has contributed to their "singledom".

...It's ALWAYS someone else's fault, isn't it?
 pureblisscatch4u
Joined: 3/18/2011
Msg: 81
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 12:16:02 PM
Want To Travel: Ok then, we'll set you up with a 300 pound 50 year old woman, with a beard and unwashed, unbrushed hair and you'll be required to not reject her. But that's ok with you, because you're SO "un-shallow," right? You've never turned someone down for their looks in any way. Riiight.
 AnEvilgenius
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 84
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 12:51:30 PM
What kind of woman with 3 kids would want a "dude" around their children anyways ?
Most are looking for a "man", maybe that's where you get confused.

There is a difference between asking to be enlightened and complaining.


Shallow is based on the explanation or reasoning , not the choice itself.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 85
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 1:07:23 PM

Given my appearance (overweight, long hair, big bushy full beard, cheap soiled trainers), you've instantly mentally stereotyped me as a "guy who obviously doesnt care bout himself an that all it seems is missing is a cardboard sign in his right hand an a empty donations cup", rather than someone who walks 25 miles a week just to get to and from work, as an R&D engineer, before you even think about the amount of other exercises I do (somewhere in the region of 7 hours of dancing in a light week). You're probably not going to talk to me enough to find out that other stuff, and even then, it will be in the face of your stereotype, so you probably won't really believe it.

That is shallow. I'm not above it either.


It's not shallow, it's preference. Just like choosing not to date someone overweight,
underweight, too tall, too short, too young, too old, too unattractive, too poor, on
and on ad nauseam. Check out all the good guy threads and the BBW threads, the
too short threads and the age difference threads. People are attracted to what they
want and like, they don't need to scrape below the armour or the mask, or the tree
bark or whatever you want to call it to find the pearl beneath. If someone is attracted
to you, then kudos. You're proud of the way you look, again, kudos. But don't ****
when you can't get what you want and call everyone shallow because they're
"stereotyping" you.

Jaysus tap dancin kerist.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 87
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 1:30:37 PM

I'm not going to defend myself


You don't have to--to any logical person, the attacks on your character for no reason are clear.

I find it amusing and contradictory that people posting "get over it" go into length about their trivial pet peeves on other threads. The latecomers on this thread are jumping on the "nasty" bandwagon because it makes them feel good.

Yup, I have a sharp tongue at times, but berating someone who doesn't like scraggly beards is just plain silly.
 Former_Yamaha650_Rider
Joined: 9/4/2011
Msg: 88
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 1:38:22 PM
laziness is to not bother posting in the correct category.
 AnEvilgenius
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 89
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 1:49:14 PM

Wow, I'm glad the topic has gone from a lighthearted, does anyone understand this trend? To a commentary on how shallow I am.. I'm not going to defend myself because the length to which this topic has been twisted away from the original post does not cease to amaze me.
And for your information "pasty", those things have been posted about a million times, minus the poncho..do a thread search. The point of asking a question or having a discussion is just that..to have a discussion... the superficial need to tear people apart for asking it..is another topic all together.


Gawd, how hot is a women with common sense and the ability to communicate..
Bring me some water, cool cool water...


 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 91
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 1:54:30 PM
I tend to get more "flirty" females with the 80's Don Johnson scruffy look. But I often shave it because mainly of itchiness lol. I've been told I have a "baby face" and it is flattering to get carded when I go for a 6 pack its also a little annoying. I look older and more mature with the day (or 2) old beard. So that is the look I like. I realize not every woman isn't going to like the look. But like many things you cannot please everyone.
 xfdrivenbogan
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 92
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 2:56:24 PM
Whats worse than a Bearded woman? In my opinion its a suck up..... is it just me or are there two types of guys on here (I can't fathom the women) only empathise to some extent (its why I'm man I guess).,.. The types are the "I'm gunna tell you what you want to hear irrespective of how much I'm selling out my fellow brethren cause I'd let you rape my credit card to get in your pants type" and the "Man type" its like sometimes you women don't have a "grease" radar for men.... off topic I know and I apologise.
 NarcissusTemple
Joined: 4/23/2009
Msg: 93
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 3:05:07 PM

I'm glad the topic has gone from a lighthearted, does anyone understand this trend?

If it hasn't been mentioned, lightheardedly blame Clooney & Pitt. They're pretty hairy these days.

To a commentary on how shallow I am.

I think there is wisdom in challenging or suspending judgment for preferences that have tenuous justifications.

Many people say that they can't help being turned off by certain attributes.
I'm suggesting that we can help it by delaying judgment.
Not that doing so will guarantee acceptance or attraction.
And I certainly wouldn't do this with weight, smoking, and activity level--things that compromise health and lifestyle.

However, like reading Harry Potter or watching Raiders of the Lost Ark, without suspension of disbelief, how would we enjoy such experiences otherwise?
Logic and judgment constantly encroach on our enjoyment of people and experiences.

Maybe some of our preferences are simply experience driven.
I'd never kissed a guy with facial hair and imagined it would be prickly.
It wasn't...conversely, it was very soft, and added a unique sensation to the kissing, and...uh...other activities.

Anyway, just some food for thought.
 Agnostiker
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 94
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Posted: 12/29/2011 3:12:57 PM
Mhmm why a beard? I do not know about the other men but I like my beard. I have tried shaving and did not liked the look of it. besides I have a tendency for growing in hairs. So every year there is at least one new style.

A beard does not save time but you do not have to groom it every morning. Besides a beard looks better when riding a motorcycle and wearing a Jethelm ^^.
 Mistybreeze201
Joined: 12/11/2011
Msg: 95
Beards??? What is going on?
Posted: 12/29/2011 5:51:56 PM
***Around here most people wouldn't know what shallow was if they were standing in their own gene pool.***

LMAO!! Couldnt agree with you more!
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