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 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 39
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My advice is don't tell her, and just go with the flow of what she is doing. Reciprocation is the key.
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 12/31/2011 9:43:47 PM
Count me in the camp promoting full disclosure. If you don't have honesty in your relationship you'll never get past sex into truly making love, and that would be a tragedy.

As for this:


I really doubt that ANYONE that has posted in this thread has confessed up that "I'm a virgin" the first time that they "did it" -


I'm sure I'm not the only one here who proves your assumption wrong. My first time was with an experienced woman. I told her up front and she was quite excited to have the honor of introducing me to the wonderful world of sex.

On the other hand the one time a partner didn't tell me until afterward that she was a virgin I was not at all happy about it. I felt I had been deceived and the relationship went nowhere from there.
 No_Fancy_Name
Joined: 11/18/2009
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Posted: 1/1/2012 12:05:34 AM
wvwaterfall:


I'm sure I'm not the only one here who proves your assumption wrong.


I'm not a betting man, but I would say that in this regard, you're going to be the exception rather than the rule. Time will tell on this thread....
 normaldude
Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/1/2012 3:07:46 PM
just admit it and she will probably love the thought of de-flowering you. Also all the pressure is off her since anything she does to you will probably be freakin awesome so she will look/feel like a goddess to ya! You will make mistakes but I bet you will have a few repeats in you! If she dumps you then I am sure there would be a kind lady who could educate you from here????
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 1/1/2012 3:09:47 PM
I think you should tell her before you have sex the first time. Then she won't expect you to know what you're doing and it could be fun.

Read Mars and Venus in the Bedroom. The author lived in a monastery and had sex for the first time really late in life. When he first had sex, he was honest about it and told the woman she'd have to coach him about what to do. As a result, he didn't have to guess or act like he knew what he was doing and she was great about communicating to him what she wanted.

I'd much rather a guy level with me.
 iiamhim
Joined: 8/14/2009
Msg: 49
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Posted: 1/1/2012 8:50:06 PM
I saw it in a movie "you can't sex on a pedestal" its like riding a bike as a kid if u psych your self out all week before you do it u set your self to fail
 druuuupax
Joined: 11/25/2011
Msg: 51
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Posted: 1/3/2012 9:02:55 AM
You need to tell her. Because if you do really suck...you'll have a great excuse. Plus after you tell her she may like you even more. Since she will be your first...and in that case she will want to make herself your last.
Also, she may get off on the fact that she's teaching you.

Honesty is the best policy in any type of relationship.... From lack of relationships you may not know that, and that's fine. But you better start now or you going to f - things up royally. Woman hate when you lie to them... so tell her soon. And don't start doin that shit where you lie about something and then come back an tell her the truth later.

Also, not telling her shit is just as bad a lying. She will consider it the same damn thing.

Don't be a ****, just got tell her you never got any, and everything will be perfectly fine. i promise.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 52
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Posted: 1/3/2012 9:14:04 AM
I still say keep silent and wait until after having sex the first time to tell her.
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