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 Forumite
Joined: 10/31/2011
Msg: 50
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This website should definitely have a forum especially for you douchebags who think it's ok to list 'looking for a relationship' on your profile, but are only interested in leading a girl on and hooking up. That's pretty disgusting to use vulnerability to get what you want.


so,,you believed that old tired line,,ten bucks says the guy was super hot,,,,and you fell for his line of nonsense and now you are bitter and angry you got played because your so naive....

simple,,,,,,,,,,,,,stop being so vulnerable!

here is a credo i live by,,,you should also...

believe half of what you see,,,and none of what you hear

and what should he have said? "looking for naive girls to have sex with who believe anything a hot guy tells them"
well now you know anyways..lesson learned (probably not)
 girl_on_wheels
Joined: 12/5/2011
Msg: 51
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/5/2012 5:07:31 PM
Sex or not Sex does not entitled us to anything (besides a possible STD if we are not careful ) Some men use the word relationship to get sex and some women use sex to get a relationship. But sex has nothing to do with it, a man commits for many reasons not just sex. If you tend to get attached when you have sex, then I suggest to hold on until you are somewhat sure the guy is the real deal.
 girl_on_wheels
Joined: 12/5/2011
Msg: 52
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/5/2012 5:15:56 PM
Also why do people call it a horrible experience when the guy doesn't call after sex...was the sex that bad?
Or is it a horrible experience because your expectations were to high?
 Forumite
Joined: 10/31/2011
Msg: 53
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/5/2012 5:41:48 PM
Also why do people call it a horrible experience


is there really anything more horrible than having to face the fact that you are either ...naive....or not that bright???



 AnEvilgenius
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 54
I give this guy a Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/5/2012 6:14:28 PM
So I go on a first date with a woman that has the same problem.

Later that night she asks if I am looking for a relationship so I said "yes I am looking for a relationship" and was rewarded with panties and pillows ..

A little past 2 I roll over to grab a smoke and she starts talking about what a great relationship we have and how happy her friends and family are going to be since she's finally found the one.

Did you know that in the time it takes me to reach over and lite a smoke a woman can friend request me, be in a long term relationship with me, and notify friends and family of their status change on face book ?

And the relationships ended with the same quote she's posted for the last 3 years, I'm never doing this again.

Do you girls have a club or forum of your own ?
 Canubetrue
Joined: 4/6/2011
Msg: 55
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Posted: 1/5/2012 7:50:47 PM
most on here are just looking for anything they can grab for their own selfish needs....I can't agree with you more.
 girl_on_wheels
Joined: 12/5/2011
Msg: 56
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/5/2012 8:27:42 PM

Also why do people call it a horrible experience


is there really anything more horrible than having to face the fact that you are either ...naive....or not that bright???


I don't think the OP was either, she had what so many women (who post similar threats) have, Imaginary relationship syndrome...

Women create all these fantasies about a "relationship" with a man and they get caught up on it. They do not enjoy the sex, they do not enjoy the time spent with the guy for what it is and the guy gets scared and hides, then he is a jerk and she feels like an idiot. Second date is fun, relaxed it sort of mean that the guy was impressed enough to ask you on another date, that's it. Third date means The guy likes you and wants to get to know you (nothing else)... You can hold sex, until the 5th date if you want, but that will not guarantee a Relationship....

I believe what happened was this...And maybe I am wrong...She had sex with guy, she freaked out because no she feels he might have used her, she try to contact him asking him where the relationship was going..guy was like "WTH what relationship?" and felt it was better to leave it alone since she seemed needy...Now he is a jerk...and she feels used...

Best thing to do is do not ask him where the relationship is going (not in the first stages of dating!!!) If you had sex with the guy, you just did, do not attach anything to it and expect that he may call or not; you had sex for your satisfaction also. If you seem relaxed, he will feel relaxed and ask you on another date, but again that does not mean A relationship...at least not yet....

Just saying....
 Smartnsexylady1
Joined: 5/18/2011
Msg: 57
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Posted: 1/8/2012 5:13:41 PM
I've found that you have to take it slow with internet dating. I have met some absolutely wonderful men on this website, they just weren't what I was looking for. I would recommend that you do not fall head over heals so quickly and definetely do not sleep with anyone on the second date. (I guess I'm oldfashioned) Get to know a person before you let them into your life, heart and bed!!!!!!
 Floatmetothemoon
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 58
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/8/2012 5:24:51 PM
I think we went out with the same guys....lol
 Floatmetothemoon
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 59
I give this guy a Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/8/2012 5:32:01 PM
'I am looking for a relationship'..from a man is like the dating death rattle, but then and again...so are the panties and the pillows if it's the first date? Seems that the two things coincide...

I want to date nice guys who are looking for relationships, and i'm not opposed to pillows and panties, if there's a decent understanding of expectations before and after such a thing occurs....the understanding being that the specific reason i'm doing this with you is that i like you enough to want to....

if you really just want to get laid, say it...
 ScottyB_La
Joined: 4/21/2011
Msg: 60
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Posted: 1/8/2012 5:58:09 PM


Be careful, keep an eye on his picture and name him on here whatever new name he invert, that way you ll protect us from falling his next victims...., he messed with the wrong girl...lol


Bad advise. Calling out names on the forums gets you perminately banned
 infennario
Joined: 5/24/2011
Msg: 61
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Posted: 1/8/2012 6:17:58 PM
This always makes me feel better when I'm thinking that the worst has happened.
"The truth is, everything that has happened in my life...that I thought was a crushing event at the time, has turned out for the better." Warren Buffett

There are people that will lie to you. There are people that will use you. So take plenty of time and be very selective about which people you let into your life. People who press you or don't respect your taking time eliminate themselves.
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 62
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Posted: 1/8/2012 6:35:58 PM
Yes, to the OP, and the other women who have had this experience. . .I feel your pain. It's too bad that there's no way to weed these individuals out, before having to go through this experience.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 63
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/8/2012 6:49:33 PM
Well; douchebags get the girls.

*Shrugs*

The ones who dont give great guys chances anyways.

It's sort of a pattern of choosing type thing

<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>

enjoy your next douche!

The good news is that he was probably banging someone else at the same time he was banging you; so you're not alone.


 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 64
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Posted: 1/8/2012 6:52:18 PM

The good news is that he was probably banging someone else at the same time he was banging you; so you're not alone.

That's the damn truth! Let's all agree 2012 is the year we upgrade our picker!
 weirdotool
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 65
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Posted: 1/8/2012 8:28:08 PM

Don't give in to him sexually for awhile and see if hes more into getting to know you.

This is way true.

One thing I know for a certainty about myself, and I think a lot of guys will agree with me if they really self-analyze, is that when I'm dating someone I have fantastic chemistry with and am utterly attracted to, believe it or not....I'm in no rush to get the sexing on.

The reason I'm not is because I know it's coming, and it's coming like an avalanche. It's like how the anticipation in a horror movie is the most frightening and exciting part. I almost enjoy this feeling more than the actual honeymoon sex phase of a relationship. I've only experienced this with two women in my life, but never do I feel so alive when I am living in these moments.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 66
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/8/2012 9:29:00 PM
OP - quit WHINING....



most guys r looking for quick, easy sex

most girls r looking for quick easy relationships


both sides play their games and make their moves...


to get what they want...

at least with guys - we waste less time and energy with what we want than women...
 Ilive2Drive
Joined: 2/14/2009
Msg: 67
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/9/2012 12:57:37 PM
I have been on this site for some time... I am currently looking for a relationship, and have went on several dates in which I didn't even ask for a kiss, because I knew there was nothing coming out of the relationship. I have never went on a date expecting to get laid, I go expecting to learn about the person. Now I won't say that its never happened, that is how I met my ex wife, though I know now, that its not how I want to proceed in the future lol
 cin____dy
Joined: 8/21/2011
Msg: 68
Horrible experience!
Posted: 1/9/2012 4:02:27 PM
You can never be sure of who you will meet and if a bad person or not. Online is different in a special way though, you have no connections with the person, don't know where they work, any friends, or nothing. Even if you meet a person in a club, you can see if people know them, they go there or have friends that do and people are witness that you talked to a person there.
Online is totally a stranger meeting.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 69
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Posted: 1/9/2012 5:23:56 PM
Sorry that happened to you OP. You are a pretty girl, and I'm sure you'll have no trouble meeting the right guy eventually. I didn't even know there were so many douchebags on this site until someone told me, and when I saw it posted on these forums.

I've had it happen to me, and yes it sucks.
 Dolores33
Joined: 2/18/2010
Msg: 70
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Posted: 1/10/2012 6:12:16 PM
I agree, they make you feel like a free prostitute!!!!!Most of them!!!Hopefully I can meet one that is different!!!!
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 71
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Posted: 1/11/2012 2:26:27 PM
Not only do men do this. I have not had one women I have met online that broke things off in any way shape or form communicate anything to me. Just gone. Its a people thing not gender. Any girl I did not want to see anymore I told them or we both stopped contact. Such is online dating
 Sunshine-99
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 72
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Posted: 1/11/2012 6:12:25 PM
This is a free dating site. Don't get too serious about the people. They could be married, having affairs, or just out to have a fun time. If you find a great person on here, you are lucky.

If you are more serious about "finding the one" you need to explore other ways of meeting people" like social groups, clubs, single functions, other paying sites like e-h-a-m-o-n-y., speed dating.....
 tomtpapa
Joined: 10/7/2008
Msg: 73
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Posted: 1/11/2012 9:35:54 PM
have you ever received an e-mail someone has run a background check on you?i have
and finally i ran one on myself having never been in any trouble, i wasn't worred, well
i found out there are 5 other people here in the state i live who have the same first and
last name, but not the middle. when you run your checks make sure you put the proper middle name in, otherwise you just might miss a gem of a guy. i found out the other 5 have been into trouble, i am not related to any of them, so make sure somehow who ever you are talking with understands the difference and importance of putting the proper names in.
 neckbird07
Joined: 11/10/2010
Msg: 74
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Posted: 1/12/2012 2:09:10 PM
woman do the exzact same thing
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