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 Iamhereonthissite
Joined: 8/5/2012
Msg: 39
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I've seen many of the same people on all the same sites


Same here, and I've emailed those people, only to not get a response. Chances are they'll be single forever, unless they leave the site and try other off-line venues.
 NVcollegeguy
Joined: 9/3/2012
Msg: 40
online dating: pay sites vs free sites
Posted: 12/25/2012 6:18:22 PM
It seems like the pay sites are more effective, I've at least got dates on match.com on this site you're lucky to get a conversation that last 4 messages.
 GeekyCrazyButCool
Joined: 11/21/2012
Msg: 41
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Posted: 12/26/2012 12:08:45 AM
Nothing beats free because at the end of the day you haven't lost anything at all :)
 RiversMeeting83
Joined: 12/14/2012
Msg: 42
online dating: pay sites vs free sites
Posted: 12/26/2012 3:28:00 AM
I think no matter which site you are on there are people of all warps of life with different expectations and motives. You just need to be careful and weed out those without genuine intentions which isn't easy.
 Acehonestlady
Joined: 4/16/2012
Msg: 43
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Posted: 12/26/2012 7:05:20 AM
I have used 6 or 7 sites. Match I find to be the best. Thankfully I have not had the experience on Match that you have. I have not come by one man that wanted me to see his webcam on there but have lots on here and a few on another free site.

I am maybe lucky in that I see paying as seeing my glass half full rather than half empty. (sorry for cliché, hate it but it is useful here). This is maybe as I had been 2 dating sites before I found out there are free ones. I then tried the free ones and found them so bad that I repaid on Match when given an offer. The first site I was on and paid for in order to send tow fit men messages was a sugar daddie type that I looked at for a laugh. I didn’t like the men even if I was looking to be taken out. Match (as well as having twats) has lots of decent men that are happy to offer me what I want but without them being bottomholes.

Perhaps I would feel differently if I was looking for Mr Right but that is not what I am looking for.

I am currently paying £6.50 a month for 6 months on Match(a deal as I have been on and off for a while). There are losers on there than can afford to pay but I either put them off with my profile or I ignore them. I have met a lot of nice men on Match even if not all romantically. The free websites are awful. I have met one nice man on here but only as a friend of his Transvestite self. The other 3 from here that I met were chavs (as many on here appear to be). Most I will never meet as they are simply not worth the time.
Pay sites keep a lot of uncultured chavs away so for those of us that want to avoid chavs a pay site helps somewhat if not completely.

Guardian Soulmates has lots of intelligent sounding men (and women but) as I am not paying I cannot reply to them other than via the set responses. I put a clue in my profile to lead them here. That site seems to show only ‘very’ attractive women on it’s front page example photos so my ‘reasonably’ attractive gets lost! I get very few men though look at my page on there so it is not worth my paying for even if it seems to have a higher proportion of intelligent sounding men that Match and far, far higher than the freebies.

I use different sites for different reasons. This site is Not for meeting it’s existing members!! This is for forums and as a place for men I have poached from pay-sites I am not paying on to message me so I can reply to them!

There are bottomholes with money and decent men that cannot afford, or don’t want to pay. But Pay sites do cut out a lot of the work, at least that has been my experience apart from the sugardaddie type.

Good luck in your search.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 44
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Posted: 12/26/2012 7:17:23 AM
In the past I had better results with Match, because since the woman had to pay, they took it more seriously. I only use POF for the forums. Yet the funny thing is that a while back I texted ONE girl here. One. She responded about two weeks later. We set up a date, and had to postpone it. Then we had our date. It went well, even though she told me last night that she didn't think that I was going to ask her out again. We are still going out. So it turned out that the keeper was the one from POF. Go figure.
 Texan_Gal
Joined: 10/22/2011
Msg: 45
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Posted: 12/26/2012 1:56:20 PM
I've never tried a pay site. The only other site I've tried is OKC. I prefer OKC for meeting people and POF for the forums. I really like that OKC has questions for people to answer, and you can choose how you'd prefer your mate to answer and give it a level of importance so that it can try to come up with a "Match %" and "Enemy %". Surely people can lie on those questions, but my experience has been that they have helped me out a LOT since many of those questions are very important to me. I've even seen a couple of people on both POF and OKC, whom I'd been somewhat interested in when seen on POF, but then read their answers to a few of those questions on OKC and realized they were definitely wrong, wrong, wrong for me.
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 46
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Posted: 12/26/2012 7:36:27 PM
I don't think any dating site is perfect. You can find flakes, jerks, liars, cheaters etc on any dating site. Having said that, I have been on both Match and POF. I had more success on Match in terms of getting emails and dates.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
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Posted: 12/26/2012 10:23:58 PM
LOL... GeekyCrazyButCool is so right.
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