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 apurfectmeow
Joined: 11/19/2011
Msg: 26
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Call me strange but I do the hating while still in a relationship hoping somehow all my time invested wasnt wasted. I sever ties when Im finally done and nothing is left but memories. Maybe thats why I find it easy to go on dates but hard to have a LTR. Im odd anyway thats a given.
 _shakti_
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 27
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 8:50:16 AM
Gwen:
Does anyone wake up one morning and say, 'Oh, I am indifferent now" without experiencing feelings of ill will (whether suppressed or played out) first?
Sometimes it does kinda feel like that. Especially if you have attempted to repress the pain or or to 'just get over it'.

Either way, I am totally grateful to those occasions.

Maybe it is getting to this point a time or two that makes revenge look ridiculous as you get older and (hopefully) wiser?
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 28
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Posted: 1/3/2012 8:56:42 AM

Did you feel better after committing the said offense? (I did) and would you do it again? (I would not)

A wise and experienced person once said: "The BEST revenge is to live well"...

Meaning, move on with your life and enjoy living well WITHOUT them in it, and WITHOUT carrying around that anger..
For holding hatred of another is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die...
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 29
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 8:57:16 AM
LOL Depends what the reason or revenge issue is about OP. I usually dont go around looking for trouble, specially in a relationship, I have the conviction you can talk about anything.
BUT...
At the same time, I dont think you'll ever meet a meaner sombiatch than me, so yeah, I wouldnt put it past me to take revenge. Althought my style of revenge, if I would have been in your shoes, would just have been a plain old "knock out her teeth AND his" revenge. Maybe throw some of his stuff on the street. Or in the backyard and set fire to it and put pictures of it on his facebook page lol. I got a lot of imagination.
I never had any reason to do it before, relationship wise. I always deal and get dealt with openly and honestly.
Whereas the stuff I did in other situations....LOL OH OH OH! Did it feel good? You bet your a**. Would I do it again? H*LLS YEAH!!!!!!
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 30
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Posted: 1/3/2012 8:59:50 AM

A wise and experienced person once said: "The BEST revenge is to live well"...


THAT is actually the best course of action. The wisest thing to do. Kind of like "The wise man knows that he knows nothing" lol. I love that quote.
At the same time, I know I'm only human, and that I can be evil sometimes, even if I'm not proud of it. I also think that, right or wrong, revenge IS a right. Read somewhereonce; "God's Justice is not the same as Man's Justice". Wanting revenge is a normal feeling. We should strive to avoid it, but sometimes it is to strong. BUT...if it is righteous revenge that actually serves a lesson to the person feeling it, it CAN be a plus lol. And it still feels damned good ;-)
 Kitten189
Joined: 5/25/2011
Msg: 31
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 9:09:22 AM

Long live Australian Women and their sense of humour


*puts hand up*

Op,ive never exacted revenge on anyone though i do remember reading stories about people who have and i always love reading them! :)
One of them involved a vengeful ex-wife putting prawn shells in the curtain rods in the bedrooms and stinking the place out so that no one would buy it.
She then bought back the marital home for a pittance coz her ex was so desperate to sell!

Another story emanated from the Uk where a wealthy ex-wife raided her husband's very extensive(and expensive)wine collection and put a bottle on all their neighbours' front doorsteps as a Xmas present. I think she also cut the one sleeve off all his business suits...........
 DoubleParked
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 32
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 9:19:41 AM

Call me strange but I do the hating while still in a relationship hoping somehow all my time invested wasnt wasted. I sever ties when Im finally done and nothing is left but memories. Maybe thats why I find it easy to go on dates but hard to have a LTR. Im odd anyway thats a given.


Yes, call me odd, too, but I kind of get what you're saying. Why waste all that 'good hating energy' for AFTER you're done with the guy? Let it go, let him know! By the time its all out of your system, you're DONE WITH THE DUDE, and can get on with your life without all those 'wish I would have said/done/THAT while I had the chance.' LOL ;-)
 CptJohnSheridan
Joined: 11/23/2011
Msg: 33
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 9:26:33 AM
The best revenge is to thrive without the person.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 34
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 9:37:15 AM
Do you believe in Revenge?

Sure. Basically everyone does in the right context (which is key). Otherwise nobody would like movies where the good guy gets revenge. :) We're emotionally driven toward it because it teaches people a lesson on doing bad to others, but also culturally pushed back from it because it can get out of control or be unnecessary, too.

One by one I took each garment and put cigarette holes in each item then carefully folded the clothing and returned it back to where I found it.

That's not in the right context. :) You should be going after his eye, if revenge is deserved, not HER eye. If a gf of mine was kissing some (random) guy at the bar when I walk in, I'm not going after the guy, I'll be going off on her. The perfect context of revenge there would be kissing another girl (if the relationship wasn't worth keeping; which by all indications at that point, most likely would not). But probability of pulling that off would be slim to none, so taking her home, and then later finding a gal to make out with out of the blue in front of her would be the right context -- it would make her think twice about doing that, because she'd feel the same hurt -- and if they did that and are a bit blind to other people's feelings, you'd probably want to up the ante a bit to make sure (like make out with a girl in a private place instead of a public place done before).

One could say -- "what does that solve?" Well, it resolves one's own feelings. Sure, momma can tell you to suppress or fool yourself into "I'm not going to let that hurt me", but sorry, that's for the long-haul down the line, not within the same time-frame and being a robot isn't being a better person. That sort of resolution can help you move on -- and teach them a lesson to think twice about it. So yes, it helps (re)solve things -- but again, done in the right way when having a chance to.

If he wasn't allowed to have a girl over while watching the kids, as your ex, I could see you wanting to do something to make him think twice about doing that. But sometimes there's not a fitting "revenge" card to be played. Maybe putting a note in one of her pockets letting her know/explaining he's a sleazeball?
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 35
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 9:49:27 AM

If a gf of mine was kissing some (random) guy at the bar when I walk in, I'm not going after the guy, I'll be going off on her. The perfect context of revenge there would be kissing another girl (if the relationship wasn't worth keeping; which by all indications at that point, most likely would not).


LOL YOUR context of revenge. Mine would be to knock the guy out, tie him up, drag her AND him up into an alley way and tie them naked face to face in a full frontal kiss-lock. Then paint them both red, film the whole thing and sell it to the highest bitter. But not before making a pile of their clothes and setting it aflame

Use your imagination bro LOL
 Debisusanne
Joined: 5/3/2011
Msg: 36
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 9:54:05 AM
lol.. that scared me ^^

ive never gotten any true revenge on the ex.

I did lose 70 lbs after i left him in the dust.. and had a great time for years..

Ugh... till i started dating again.. :((

I do NOT believe in karma.. I dont believe the universe will eventually slap him in the face... I do believe that someday i will not care about it anymore..
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 37
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Posted: 1/3/2012 10:50:49 AM
Although I have felt angry enough at times, I have always stopped myself before actually putting energy into any type of revenge. My family was big on not allowing us to act on emotion, thank goodness. lol...specially after reading what some have done...my word...is all I can say.

Years later, I can honestly say that me living well was the best revenge. The ones who caused me pain did not fare well at all as the years trudged on...that is the best revenge!
 kevination
Joined: 11/17/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/3/2012 12:26:27 PM
Life tends to pay people back. one doesn't have to seek revenge. what goes around really does come around.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 39
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Posted: 1/3/2012 12:32:14 PM
A few years ago, I was in a novelty store & saw a "revenge kit" I think I still have it...it was a set of 6-8 business type mailers (large advertisement envelopes) in several colors w/ printed advertising on them...wait- just found 'em..."embarrassing prank envelopes"
#1- enclosed are the XXX porn photos you ordered
#2-the compulsive masturbation assistance group "helping men & women who cannot stop masturbating"
#3- sheep lovers international-helping men who like to have sex w/ farm animals since 1994
#4-homosexuals living in the closet society-proudly helping secretly gay people
#5-back hair removal system
#6-low life rat **stards assn.

hmmmm...can I come up w/ 6 men who thru my adult life earned the right to be humiliated by getting these in the mail?
 kailania
Joined: 4/10/2008
Msg: 40
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 12:34:23 PM
halycon skies that is hysterical but kind of mean.

OT: i have thought of revenge but never acted upon the thoughts. they lasted a few days. not worth it, and it can get you into trouble.

as to the first poster..why take it out on the young girls clothing,...why not do it to your ex husbands clothing? seems he was more in the wrong for being with an underage child.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 41
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Posted: 1/3/2012 12:43:44 PM
~OT~ I fear karma WAY too much to commit an act of revenge ~ but I will admit, there's one man I'd SO love to get "even" with. Sad part? I could never dream up something that would be "equal" to what he did to me. So? It's best just to forget it and let karma kick his sorry azz. JMO
 Viper1E
Joined: 11/30/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 1/3/2012 1:43:56 PM

I fear karma WAY too much to commit an act of revenge


I have a hard time believing in it. And the thought of some getting a free pass burns me up sometimes.
 Forumite
Joined: 10/31/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 1/3/2012 2:21:44 PM

But anything I ever think of usually ends up with the cops showing up at my place... which would punish me more than the person I hate!


exactly.......why bother getting revenge on someone when all it will prove is that you are a small child who lashes out when wronged.......it is basically a temper tantrum that a 5 year old would have...breaking things,,,,,burning holes in things.......when things don't go your way,,,,,or when someone is no longer paying attention to you,,,,,,,

how childish.....really,,think about it......


perhaps one has to have a huge sense of self entitlement that i was not born with " how dare so and so do that to ME!!!!! I'LL SHOW HIM/HER how special i am and they are going to pay!!!!"


bah,,,,,,,,your a child,,,simple as that........adults....the few i have met anyways,,,,,subscribe to a different theory......
it goes something like this,,,
Please grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change...................the courage to change the things i can,,,and the WISDOM to know the difference


course,,,,perhaps i am wrong and lashing out at someone who had the audacity to hurt or annoy mommy's special baby is a really mature thing to do and not at all the act of spoiled ..self entitled,,over-indulged infant...
 Viper1E
Joined: 11/30/2011
Msg: 44
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Posted: 1/3/2012 3:09:15 PM
Please grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change...................the courage to change the things i can,,,and the WISDOM to hide the bodies well, after they pissed me off.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 45
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 3:13:09 PM
Mine would be to knock the guy out, tie him up, drag her AND him up into an alley way and tie them naked face to face in a full frontal kiss-lock

My point is that you're cruxifying the wrong person. The dude didn't do anything wrong unless he was your bud -- it's your gf trolling some bars and making out. That would just make you look like a jealous zealot who thinks the guy is better than him and wants to prove otherwise -- but in reality, it was HER fault, not his.
 TerrieLynnC
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/3/2012 3:14:59 PM

You need a sense of humour woman


This coming from someone who likes to burn cigarette holes in other people's clothes..............LMAO...................


When life gives you lemons.......make lemonade................
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 47
Revenge an eye for an eye?
Posted: 1/3/2012 3:35:57 PM

My point is that you're cruxifying the wrong person. The dude didn't do anything wrong unless he was your bud -- it's your gf trolling some bars and making out. That would just make you look like a jealous zealot who thinks the guy is better than him and wants to prove otherwise -- but in reality, it was HER fault, not his.


LOL You are right, and point taken dude. But, at the same time, I know me, and how I`d react...and I dont see that as a necessary bad thing. Besides, I figure that when you do something, like sex or making out, you do it twice. Who is to say she is more innocent than he? Might as well not take chances, revenge on both, and "Alea Jacta Est" lol.
But hey, that`s just me, I know I`m evil and I assume it fully, to the fullest of its consequences lol.
 oOdangalangOo
Joined: 5/8/2011
Msg: 48
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Posted: 1/3/2012 3:58:33 PM
I've never sought revenge on someone due to relationship reasons. I've never been in a physical fight in my life either. I am just not a violent person.

Instead of seeking revenge, I changed my way of thinking about it. If someone I was with previously, was with someone else I always try to look out for my ex- wishing them the best and wishing for their happiness in life. I am friends with all of my ex's however.

I am a strong believer in Karma and have adopted a "tread-lightly" lifestyle as a result. I feel good in wishing them the best like when you do a good deed. But can understand the satisfaction of having done someone ill will.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 49
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Posted: 1/3/2012 4:07:04 PM

Maybe it is getting to this point a time or two that makes revenge look ridiculous as you get older and (hopefully) wiser?


This was my point about purloining my ex's Godzilla DVD!
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 1/3/2012 4:09:32 PM
I've never sought revenge on someone due to relationship reasons. I've never been in a physical fight in my life either. I am just not a violent person.



Dude, I hear ya. I wish I was as intelligent. It makes you a better person than me to be like that. I used to be like that a long, loong time ago. But sometimes life throws you some curve balls, and you find out its kill or be killed, nothing hits harder than life. LOL. But hey, I`m a nice guy, and I NEVER get angry. Because of above post lol
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