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 Viper1E
Joined: 11/30/2011
Msg: 76
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No it wasn't right going after the young girls clothing but hey it was my house, my drawer so what else was a bitter jealous wife to do?


I think you were exceptionally kind to her, and she was exceptionally lucky.

Math ain't hard Buttercup. If her clothes were in your drawers, her body was in your bed. There are some lines that should NEVER be crossed. He could have done his business at the No-tel Motel.

A different kind of person, might have been inclined to make a croc real happy with an easy meal.

Here in the US, the desert is full of people who have done much less..

Just sayin'..
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 77
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Posted: 1/4/2012 9:08:11 AM
@MiaCat74: Sounds like you were not in an exclusive relationship. You said he had a tiny member. It could not have been that tiny if you were this hell bent on revenge. You had the chance to let it go, but chose revenge cause of his response. That's a lame excuse. Instead of lowering yourself to his level, you sank even lower than that.

Seems like your actions contradict what you said about his member. If I were going to insult my ex it would be about her character, not a bodypart. This really struck a nerve with me.
 MiaCat74
Joined: 3/3/2011
Msg: 78
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Posted: 1/4/2012 9:38:31 AM
@cooldog
Firsly in the UK relationships are exclusive unless you agree to be poly, and we had also spoke about the fact it was an exclusive relationship
I was not jelous - I was actually on the brink of ending things
I was mad at how someone treated me, he was cheeting on me while at the same time for several months seeing someone else
He was lying to me about his mother being in hospital while he was seeing someone else
He was constantly lying to me, saying he was doing things when he didnt

I didnt say I did anything amazing - but I said that it made ME feel better, and I think I deserved a little of that
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 79
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Posted: 1/4/2012 1:53:08 PM
Instant gratification vs long term satisfaction. Revenge is instant gratification. You hurt me - I hurt you. It is only damaging long term. Justice is to prevent infraction from occurring in the future - long term satisfaction.
 infennario
Joined: 5/24/2011
Msg: 80
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Posted: 1/4/2012 2:30:08 PM
I don't remember ever taking revenge. I'm probably too lazy. It seems like it would take a lot of energy.
However, I have given back what I got in certain circumstances. For instance, if an SO has yelled at me, and I walk away or tell them to stop yelling, then they deny they're yelling, I'll mimic them so they can see how aggressive or obnoxious their behavior is. (Usually doesn't work!)
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 81
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Posted: 1/4/2012 2:54:49 PM
I've just always assumed that someone who treated me unkindly in anyway is a pretty miserable human being and will find his own unhappiness without any help from me. No revenge, although I will admit to a few fantasies that were so extreme they made me laugh and helped me get over my sadness. I don't even kill bugs; how am I going to do something, intentionally, to cause harm of any type to another person?
 ATVGalNC
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 82
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Posted: 1/4/2012 4:12:51 PM
I'd like to talk in this forum... But I'm being watched
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 83
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Posted: 1/4/2012 4:25:18 PM

I couldn't have said it better. I will never be a member of the Free Pass Club.

And I've personally heard you complain that you are single. Wonder why? You are a member of the "Pay Backs, According to how I see it" club. Ever thought that maybe NO ONE gets a free pass? Likely not....and so be it. Sad for those of you who hold onto strife. I'd personally not want a thing to do with someone that is obsessed with getting "even" with someone, as there is no such thing. Then again? No matter what someone has done to or against me remains moot. I live a happy/healthy and positive life (especially after the death of my only child.) If that doesn't make someone want "revenge"?? Nothing will. To all of those who opt for a revenge-attitude? You're all gonna be alone a looooooooooooong lonely time (unless you pair up....and if you do that? I'll look forward to "I Almost Got Away With It" on the ID channel.) JMO
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 84
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Posted: 1/4/2012 4:55:19 PM
i've never committed an act of revenge, but i have certainly enjoyed thinking about it - lol! for whatever reason, i just could never bring myself to carry anything out. i do understand the emotion, however, and i do think that in some circumstances it is very easy to comprehend why a person would react in such a way. i don't know why, but after the initial anger passes, i start thinking about how the other person sees the situation, and i end up looking at myself and how i contributed to it. it's rare that i have been completely blindsided by a stranger, so i can usually find some aspect for which i can take responsibility. i am not saying that i don't let the person know how i FEEL about it, because i most certainly do - i am no doormat. over all, i feel that what i do is more important then what is done to me. I also think that forgiveness is the first step towards healing and getting over the pain that someone else has caused you. forgiveness is for YOU, not the other person. i also think that just because someone treats me a certain way or does something hurtful to me doesn't mean that i have to react to it - why give someone that much power over me? in many cases it is best to just walk away, and sometimes the best revenge is to just let karma run its course. i am convinced that the furies are far more vengeful than i could ever be!
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 85
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Posted: 1/4/2012 5:14:08 PM
MY big fat tuxedo cat farted in my ex's face today
my kitties are good for something
 mariacba
Joined: 5/20/2007
Msg: 86

Posted: 1/4/2012 5:19:34 PM
ooops !Sorry double post
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 87
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Posted: 1/4/2012 5:20:21 PM
LOL You are right, and point taken dude. But, at the same time, I know me, and how I`d react.

I think if you fully realize/absorb that the guy is not to blame (if he's not), and she is to blame -- your emotions will end up following. Fully realizing it (which doesn't happen over night). I think it's natural to hit the guy and want to justify it because... you can't hit a girl or come remotely close to it, because you'll automatically be a bad guy -- and in her mind, The bad guy... and when you're The bad guy in her mind due to whatever reason, she'll falsely rationalize it was okay to do so w/ the other dude, despite that label coming after the fact.

Besides, I figure that when you do something, like sex or making out, you do it twice. Who is to say she is more innocent than he?

You'd need some decent evidence, I think -- and you can get in his face and question it... but you don't want to "rationalize" to yourself to come up with a knee-jerk justification to take it out on him when there's scant evidence if any. If the guy goes "Oh, dude, I just met her, man and it's not like I seduced her, just happened -- I stand by ya bro, I'll leave (rolling eyes at girl)..." you'd be out in left field if a ton of anger was angled at him, and not so much toward her.

But hey, that`s just me, I know I`m evil and I assume it fully, to the fullest of its consequences lol.

Well if you can't help being evil, be evil toward the guilty party! :) If you take it out on a guy in which any evidence would point to basically just meeting her, it's not about being evil, but jealousy pointed in the wrong direction.

Revenge is instant gratification. You hurt me - I hurt you. It is only damaging long term. Justice is to prevent infraction from occurring in the future - long term satisfaction.

I disagree. It CAN be like that, and many times is. Many highly emotionally-driven reactions are poor. However, giving someone a "taste of their own medicine" is not necessarily immature or irrational -- and many times can be very mature & rational if the situation's there to do so. Sure, one's playing with fire when given the green light to generally "take revenge" -- but it can be executed fairly -- with it's intent to teach them a lesson -- where emotional satisfaction is just a byproduct of them learning a lesson, not merely "lashing". In those cases, revenge is not regretted, and feels good down the line when reflecting upon it.
 mariacba
Joined: 5/20/2007
Msg: 88
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Posted: 1/4/2012 5:23:19 PM
I don't remember ever taking revenge.It's not in my nature. I'm an extremely peaceful person. And I prefer not to waste energy with somebody I'm not compatible with.
 Viper1E
Joined: 11/30/2011
Msg: 89
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Posted: 1/4/2012 5:23:37 PM

I'll look forward to "I Almost Got Away With It" on the ID channel.


I love that show!
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 90
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Posted: 1/4/2012 5:41:56 PM
miacat77~

"also gave her the links to his account here and on fetlife..."

so you got cheated on by a man who is on pof AND signed up on some fetish site? the guy is into the fetish lifestyle? i'd say that wanting multiple sexual partners is pretty much part and parcel of that whole scene...knowing that, why would you expect him to behave any differently? also, knowing that, don't you have some responsibility here in the whole situation? i think this one is a no-brainer. why you would have expected anything different is confounding to me...and this case is a perfect example of how taking responsibility for one's own choices comes into play.
 Viper1E
Joined: 11/30/2011
Msg: 91
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Posted: 1/4/2012 6:04:57 PM

And I've personally heard you complain that you are single. Wonder why? You are a member of the "Pay Backs, According to how I see it" club.


Maybe it's just easier for women to go into doormat mode. Justice matters to men. I mean, look at the topic. Nobody is talking about random people to visit hate on. They're talking about being hurt, in some cases, being shattered, and after they recover enough to be able to walk outside again and not feel like dirt, wanting to do something about it.

How many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie roll? The world may never know.

How many times will you allow someone (or several someones) to wipe their muddy feet on your dignity and life before you start to feel what I'm talking about? Ditto.
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 92
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Posted: 1/4/2012 8:23:26 PM
They're talking about being hurt, in some cases, being shattered, and after they recover enough to be able to walk outside again and not feel like dirt, wanting to do something about it.

When all you have is a hammer, all the world may look like a nail...

INTENTIONALLY physically hurting another is extremely rare outside war in this world, thank goodness...
And many of THOSE types of people are in prisons..

When someone elses thoughtless behavior makes YOU feel hurt, then you may need to re-visit your assumptions/expectations of them,
NOT set out to devastate them with "revenge" because something they did made YOU perceive/feel "hurt"...
 earthboundangel67
Joined: 9/2/2011
Msg: 93
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Posted: 1/4/2012 8:31:29 PM
does it count if it is in your mind only, and you never do anything.... hmmmmm....I do agree with the ones that mentioned living well after is the sweetest revenge! Still working on that, but have done fairly well ....just need to work on a few more things since life is always a work in progress!
 imacipher
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 94
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Posted: 1/4/2012 10:10:00 PM
Follow me if I advance! Kill me if I retreat! Revenge me if I die!
Ngo Dinh Diem
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If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us shall we not revenge?
William Shakespeare
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There is nothing wrong in seeking revenge for wrongs done,it is a dish that should be served cold-&, just don't get caught!
 ponygt
Joined: 12/26/2011
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Posted: 1/4/2012 10:33:21 PM

Maybe it's just easier for women to go into doormat mode. Justice matters to men. I mean, look at the topic. Nobody is talking about random people to visit hate on. They're talking about being hurt, in some cases, being shattered, and after they recover enough to be able to walk outside again and not feel like dirt, wanting to do something about it.
Please don't group me in that comment. Well, reasonably presuming you are refering to 'self-justice', which is revenge IMO. Revenge does not matter to me. I dont' hold grudges or hatred. Hatred is a wasteful emotion. It gets you no where but a taste of misery.

As for your previous comment/quote of 'taking control'. Control in the majority of instances is an illusion. We can control our re/actions and intentions. That's about it. Heck, we don't even control our breathing. Something so simple as that. It's a natural occurance.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 96
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Posted: 1/4/2012 10:39:08 PM
Justice is always about revenge or people would never be sent to jail. Jail is a severe punishement and a horrible place to go.If justice was truly about reforming the offender then offenders would be sent to some hippie commune somewhere where they would be tenderly cared for,helped and loved.Instead we send them to jail where the law of the jungle rules.They have to look forward to rape,beatings,mental torture and possibly death.That's revenge not justice.


What the heck are people going on and on about karma for?? Man what a load of manure that is.There is no such thing as karma! Think about it.We all have good things and bad things happen to us and for most of us when the bad things happen it has nothing to do with karma biting us on the azz! Think of all the little children abused.Why the heck is karma biting the azz of innocent little children? After all according to those who believe in karma when something really bad happens it's karma coming around to get us.
 ponygt
Joined: 12/26/2011
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Posted: 1/4/2012 10:47:44 PM

Justice is always about revenge or people would never be sent to jail. Jail is a severe punishement and a horrible place to go.If justice was truly about reforming the offender then offenders would be sent to some hippie commune somewhere where they would be tenderly cared for,helped and loved.Instead we send them to jail where the law of the jungle rules.They have to look forward to rape,beatings,mental torture and possibly death.That's revenge not justice.
My reference was in regards to someone taking that revenge in their own hands. Your example is one of which revenge is taken from a group of outsiders after they've heard the facts. Two totally different scenarios.



What the heck are people going on and on about karma for?? Man what a load of manure that is.There is no such thing as karma! Think about it.We all have good things and bad things happen to us and for most of us when the bad things happen it has nothing to do with karma biting us on the azz! Think of all the little children abused.Why the heck is karma biting the azz of innocent little children? After all according to those who believe in karma when something really bad happens it's karma coming around to get us.
Having a difference of opinion doesn't make one wrong or right over the other. It simply means you have a different belief.



Think about it.




 Viper1E
Joined: 11/30/2011
Msg: 98
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Posted: 1/5/2012 2:06:46 AM

Please don't group me in that comment.


I'm very well aware that some males take pride in their ability to be doormats as well..
 MyGoodness39
Joined: 6/10/2011
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Posted: 1/5/2012 2:27:47 AM
[A few years ago, I was in a novelty store & saw a "revenge kit" I think I still have it...it was a set of 6-8 business type mailers (large advertisement envelopes) in several colors w/ printed advertising on them...wait- just found 'em..."embarrassing prank envelopes"
#1- enclosed are the XXX porn photos you ordered
#2-the compulsive masturbation assistance group "helping men & women who cannot stop masturbating"
#3- sheep lovers international-helping men who like to have sex w/ farm animals since 1994
#4-homosexuals living in the closet society-proudly helping secretly gay people
#5-back hair removal system
#6-low life rat **stards assn.]

Blonde Devil...I love it.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 100
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Posted: 1/5/2012 5:12:16 AM

My reference was in regards to someone taking that revenge in their own hands. Your example is one of which revenge is taken from a group of outsiders after they've heard the facts. Two totally different scenarios.

Revenge is revenge.Just because it is allowed under the law does not make it any less revenge.





Having a difference of opinion doesn't make one wrong or right over the other. It simply means you have a different belief.



Think about it.

Ok so karma is going to get you if you do bad things? So what about all of the horrible things that happen to people who never did a thing to deserve these bad things.If karma is responsible for getting you when you do bad things,then what the heck is going on there?

Think about it.
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