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 joe_226
Joined: 11/19/2011
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Being vocal/verbal durins sex is ok, but I do agree
that too much can kill a moment as well.
 ConnCat
Joined: 10/28/2011
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 2/12/2012 1:57:55 PM

If I'm about to get laid I'm not going to risk calling a girl a dirty slut in bed only to stop and have to explain the difference between being a slut, and being a slut for me is.


Good point, newxperiment. Personally, I love dirty talk (but not overdone porn talk)--I like hearing it, and I like dishing it. But, if you wanna get into "name calling", you'd better be sure your woman likes and trusts you, and understands the language for what it is. Of course, in the heat of it, things sometimes just come out. One time I said, "C'mere, you naughty little ****!" Luckily, she took it in the proper spirit, but that could have easily gone wrong. Any talk of body parts is WAY hot with me! Women who demand "that BIG f**cking c**ck" will always score big points--even if they don't really mean it!
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 2/15/2012 10:47:55 AM
You would 'think' by now women would have learned that dirty talk is a really great skill to have
the ones that do it, well they stay married, the lazy lovers, are single
and whine about, how many guys 'used them'
adults need to try and be better lovers....
 chromelove08
Joined: 11/17/2008
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 2/16/2012 12:10:10 AM
I think Abelian is secretly admitting that he is silent in bed. I love to make noise but i don't talk. I think i concentrate too much on pleasing my man and I can't actually form words lol. Most men i have been with have not made much noise and it really killed the mood for me. I felt like I wasn't pleasing them but I know now that wasn't the problem. It is just how some men are. But yes, I would like if a man made noise.
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 2/16/2012 1:35:54 AM

The sensation of a moan, groan, whimper, growl on the body is really amazing.


Not to mention when you're going down on your lady if you do a little humming it adds some nice vibration to your lips and tongue.

I find it depends on who's doing what to whom which one of us is making what noises when, but unless there are others within earshot, and sometimes even then, there's always noise to be had, sometimes even real words.
 onehappyfellow
Joined: 9/21/2008
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 2/19/2012 3:04:59 PM
I vote for vocal and demonstrative, even a little demanding wouldn't hurt
 tensail
Joined: 10/15/2009
Msg: 19
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 2/19/2012 6:10:47 PM
it in ur genes, women make alot of nise as a ad that ver up 4 it 2 v sourounding males wiothin earshot, as monogonmy is a religious fabrication. first 1 comes rolls ovr n goes 2 sleep n v next one takes ovr etc- this is normal human sexuality but weve all been corupted n conditioned by religoious power sects.
ii is extra sexy when a girl talks dirty.
 chromelove08
Joined: 11/17/2008
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 3/1/2012 11:43:37 AM
Yea so imagine how it is for us women when maybe 10% of guys actually make a noise. The rest just huff and puff then grunt when they cum. That's it. Sooo boring and i would not sleep with them again.
 jasonbr
Joined: 1/25/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 3/1/2012 5:35:44 PM
I think every one is different. Personally I also enjoy someone who enjoys dirty talk and but i dont make any special noises when i cum
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 4/16/2012 12:06:13 PM
I love the vocals..makes me know my job pleasing is correctly being done. :)
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 23
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 5/19/2012 9:58:22 AM
I have no problems with having some noises or dirty talk during sex. But I don't think 2 people have to be extremely loud and start screaming in order to have good sex.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 5/19/2012 2:09:51 PM
Most guys learn how to please their partner by listening. When she says "That feels good" we do it again. When she says "That feels great" we do it a lot. The more she moans the more she gets. All you have to do is give your guy the clues to follow and they will become great lovers.
 2hotcougar
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 25
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 5/19/2012 6:42:19 PM
i think is so hot when a man gets vocal it lets you know that they are haveing a good time men dont like it when we just lay there well neither do we
 RD2112
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 26
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Posted: 5/19/2012 7:05:50 PM
.....and absolute quiet sex sucks. Like when around kids/guests/company or off in a hidden area close to the public.

I want to make some noise either vocal, from our bodies by slamming it in or just moving things around.

Feedback from a woman can be spoken or moans n whimpers...usually both
 ArticLife
Joined: 2/25/2010
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 5/26/2012 9:26:38 PM
Honestly, talking dirty makes me feel dirty. That's not a good feeling, for me.
 ArticLife
Joined: 2/25/2010
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 5/26/2012 10:35:26 PM
I like what I like. Just happens that I am very, well, reserved on most things. I do have a very specific fetish (that does not involve bodily fluids) but I'd rather keep that to myself.

Do you not have preferences, things you like to do and things you don't?

You didn't choose to like something. You just do, either by your genetic hard-wiring or past events, this is who you are, this is who I am. It would be much easier if I liked what everyone else did but that's not the case.

It so happens that most people, here at least, do not shy away from dirty and filthy acts, it makes it exciting for them I guess? It doesn't bother me though, if people do these things. It's their preference. Again, they didn't choose it.
 OhioFunGuy
Joined: 5/26/2012
Msg: 29
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 5/31/2012 1:23:33 PM
Sharing inner thoughts and fantasies during sex can definitely add to the excitement and satisfaction. Being vocal is hot and it can lead to fulfillment of each others fantasies if both are on the same page :P
 greenIsis777
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 30
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 6/1/2012 3:29:32 AM
haha, I love this question. for me it is a total turnoff when a guy is quiet. It's awkward. I want to hear how good you are feeling right! hearing him is a major turnon! as for dirty talk, I like a little from both sides. but you can only do so much of that before it becomes too much
 turnitupman
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 31
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Posted: 6/2/2012 11:27:42 AM
If left to my own devices I'm pretty quiet, but if I know my SO is into me making noise or talking dirty, I'm up for it. When I was younger it used to feel awkward to talk dirty- a lot of guys get "You have to respect women" drilled into their head as kids, and being vulgar - even while engaged in an action that is necessarily vulgar in our society - goes against our inclinations and our programming.

Long story short, if you want a guy to be louder in bed, he'll probably do it if you ask him to or (better yet) tell him to.
 turnitupman
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 32
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 6/2/2012 1:19:43 PM

Do you think being vocal during sex means you have to spew our vulgarities? That is sad that your experience has only been such.


Not per se. The thought process I was trying to communicate was more along the lines of "You have to be nice and polite at ALL times, particularly toward women". That's how I was brought up, and I'd wager that a good portion of the male population was brought up the same way, and lets face it, it's not exactly a polite topic. Kind of a case of a general rule that a persons brain might have a hard time making a specific exception for.

Or I could just be a freak, I dunno. Point is, at least SOME guys just aren't comfortable referring to sex when they're around a woman, even if they happen to be having sex WITH her.
 akanova
Joined: 8/14/2011
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 6/5/2012 10:43:03 AM
Simply put, I love it.

Knowing that she enjoys what were doing is something that makes the whole experience that much more better.
It doesn't have to be the loud profanity that you can expect from a hardcore video.

I know I won't hold back on being verbal or vocal if I'm loving what I'm doing and she's clearly being verbal/vocal.

Besides unless it's not your thing, forcing yourself to be silent because of you being worried what the other person might think seems like a crime.
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 34
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 6/5/2012 10:53:39 AM
Sometimes I know I am too loud, lol. But I just can't stand silent guys. Especially when they don't even say when they are cumming. Sometimes I'll even have to ask them if they like what I'm doing they are so quiet and seem unresponsive but say it's great. I love dirty talk, though, when it's real. Not just faking.
 Courtneysuprise
Joined: 3/29/2012
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Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 6/8/2012 8:52:07 PM
omg i hate the queit guys cuz i feel like they are not enjoying as much as i am. and i think its better to be vocal incase you wanna move or want something diffrent done then you can feel free to say it!
 tensail
Joined: 10/15/2009
Msg: 36
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 6/13/2012 11:08:34 PM
its advertising, natural sex is several men frm v clan will take turns at her, her vocals is to let all v males know shes up 4 it, v next nite v other femlaes get it n so forth. men r quiet usually, vey cum quick go sleep whilst next takes hes turn. its v woman who advertises.
 sooperguy
Joined: 6/11/2010
Msg: 37
Being vocal or verbal during sex
Posted: 6/14/2012 8:39:25 AM
I like some dirty talk, but I especially like to put my mouth to her ear and talk very deeply, telling her how amazing she feels...they say they get chills ;-) mission accomplished!
When I cum, I can't help but be loud...it's overwhelming....unless I'm alone, then I'd rather someone doesn't overhear.
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