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Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 34
MA'AMPage 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)

In l.a. ma'am = bytch

Having lived in L.A. for 32 years, I heartily disagree. Now in Pacoima, San Fernando and East LA, and South Central LA, that could be the case due to the demographics but in most of L.A., ma'am is NOT a derogatory term.

And NOTHING sounds sexier than a man with a lovely southern accent calling a woman 'Ma'am'. Talk about a turn-on!!! **** Whea evah is ma fan!****
 vlad dracul
Joined: 4/30/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 1/15/2012 1:38:45 PM
oh dear lol

all you precious lassies would hate it here in scotland then.

up until your early 20's older folk are addressed as missus and mister

as in 'you needin a hand wi that missus/mister?'

then after that im afraid it becomes hen and mate

as in 'you needin a hand wi that hen?

or 'you awright mate?'

i remember once up town holding the door open for a lassie, i said
'there you go hen' holding the door open for her to walk in first

'im not a chicken and i can open the door myself' was the reply

so i barged in front of her and shut the door in her face after saying 'fvck you then hen'

stupid trout that she was
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 36
Posted: 1/15/2012 2:52:44 PM
^^^^^^^^^ Now I wouldn't mind being called a Lass or Lassie. My Aussie boyfriend calls me his 'Wacky Sheila'! But I don't think I'd be too enthused with being called a hen either. There must be another term that is slightly more appropriate in Scotland, isn't there?? I'd stick with the Missus, in that case!
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 37
Posted: 1/15/2012 4:44:01 PM
Jeez ma'am doesnt sound bad now that I hear "hen" really a tough old bird lol (I think Sean Connery is the only one that could pull that off here )
Joined: 8/5/2011
Msg: 38
Posted: 1/15/2012 7:10:57 PM
Ma'am is proper and formal, and disregards whether you are married or not.
 vlad dracul
Joined: 4/30/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 1/16/2012 5:11:53 AM
for all you lassies out in pof land heres a wee page of scots words
used to describe women and men

read and be amazed that people who speak like this made up a good portion
of the founding father of america

gaun yirsel hen
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 40
Posted: 1/16/2012 11:57:35 AM
I dont mind ma'am at all.

It only catches me off guard when it forces me to recall that I aint no 20 something anymore, however, I am logical enough to realise I really aint a 20 something anymore and I dont sweat this fact. I will never understand why any term of respect can be a bad thing. Id prefer to be called ma'am over the many, many other words Ive heard for an older woman these days.

I think women getting all up in arms over a term like this makes us all look like uptight biatches who will never be pleased no matter how hard others try.
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 41
Posted: 1/16/2012 12:20:36 PM
Uh...Ma'am...I think you're being a bit hypercritical. How was the young man supposed to determine your status? He didn't know you, and yet he tried to be courteous and respectful. If you have ever worked in the customer service field, you would know that it isn't the easiest arena to ply a trade. Sorry that his comment gave you pause to reflect.>

So I ordered my sandwich & asked him about his choice of ma'am VS Miss, & how old he was...he told me that he says "ma'am" to everyone & even apologized. I said i was not offended in the least, but very curious.
I am glad to have cause to reflect. I have a brain & I use it ;0)
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 42
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Posted: 1/16/2012 12:30:36 PM
I like Ma'am.

I actually get kind of ticked off if I'm out with a man and he gets called Sir and I get called Miss.

Ma'am is the female equivalent of Sir, and if you're going to call my guy Sir, you better call me Ma'am.

The other day a cute young guy who was hitting on me called me Ma'am, and I thought that was kind of amusing.
Joined: 9/1/2006
Msg: 43
Posted: 1/16/2012 3:45:22 PM
At least Ma'am is respectful. It really gripes me when a 20 something year old calls me Hon.

I've supervised in tech support/customer service for over 20 years. I trained my staff to appropriately address the customer as Sir or Ma'am.

It is especially important when you are in a position of attempting to instruct them on what to do. It's meant as a term of respect.
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 1/16/2012 10:14:49 PM
,ma'am is the female equivelent of sir............nothing else
Joined: 2/27/2010
Msg: 45
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Posted: 1/27/2012 4:07:01 PM
If the person saying ma'am is in the hospitality business, in the military or from a different culture, I'm fine with it. If they're from my neck of the woods, it makes me think I said something too forcefully and they are mocking me with their answer i.e." Yes, ma'am!" Still waiting for the ma'am because I'm getting older, but I'll be fine with that.
Joined: 9/1/2006
Msg: 46
Posted: 1/28/2012 7:13:49 AM

Guys go from young man to sir.
First you state this...which seems to be a fair comparison. Sir is also a term of respect.

Then you go on to state this...
Men need to be referred to as young man or old geezer to comprehend the full scope of the matter

Are you comparing "old geezer" to "maam"? Do you really find "maam" to be that disrespectful, or did I misunderstand your point? I'm genuinely confused by your statement.
Joined: 2/1/2011
Msg: 47
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Posted: 1/28/2012 2:44:47 PM
I get called "ma'am" and I'm 26. It does make me feel old :( but I'm not really insulted when someone says it. I'd prefer Miss, but I guess in the end, it doesn't really matter lol
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 48
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Posted: 2/23/2012 8:45:45 PM
so if u r a male, what would your criteria be for using ma'am or miss?

Is this the companion thread to ... "Is it just me or does the term 'girl' seem odd 'at our age'??"

If I was that young man, I would've said: "Hello woman, can I help you?" ... because it seems that you women get bent-out-of-shape over the most inconsequential of titles. And "woman" is what many of the female crowd over on that thread prefers to be called.
Joined: 11/21/2011
Msg: 49
Posted: 2/23/2012 10:56:05 PM
I call Ma'am frequently. Frankly its respectful. Few things in the world are more infuriating than someone assuming familiarity, (the old saw about familiarity breeds contempt is true (even worse gratuitous familiarity is a display of contempt before they even know you!)).

I would far prefer to be "Mister" "Sir" or "hey buddy" than have some fool I wouldn't offer a beer to, assume to call me by my given name in a false show of commonality.
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 50
Posted: 2/24/2012 6:14:39 PM
LOL- Now I kid w/ the staff there, they all know POF but they don't do the forums...I told them about the forums & that I started this thread...we always have a good laugh about something on the days I get a sandwich there.

I don't find ma'am offensive, but my curious mind likes to know...and I got several answers well as from sandwich shop staff...
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 51
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Posted: 2/25/2012 8:57:51 AM
Ma'am or ladies are fine with me........hate being called "you guys".
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 52
Posted: 2/25/2012 9:43:09 AM
Customer service reps have the damned if you do damned if you don't thing going against them. They are supposed to be polite and "sir" or "ma'am" are polite and respectful. Sincerely I prefer ma'am to Mrs because I'm not Mrs Anyone, but I am female.
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