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 Larrytwa
Joined: 8/1/2006
Msg: 35
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I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*Page 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
The proverbial question of beauty and heart.

Well Mr. OP, I feel your pain, I actually asked the ? why flash the girls, if you wish us to see your heart.

It the way we are hard wired. Men, come on we all like to see beauty, maybe lips, eyes, boobs, legs, cute feet, high heels, ect.... whatever we ARE visual creatures. Be honest with me. If you (MR. OP), and I were having a couple of drinks we may not agree to what each other interest are, but we both agree we like women a certain way, and that normally a little dressed, sexy, and NOT TALKING. LOL

Now, Mr. OP, the first time she say tell me what color do you feel, what do you really think. Yea, baby I am connected to you right now a tad green with shade of purple, or wow I like to see you in a bustier, and high heels talking naughty to me and spanking her for suggesting you to get in touch with your emotions. (Ladies this paragraph was man to man comment ONLY)!!!

Hmm, Women and men are WIRED differantly and thus what is good for the gander WILL never work for the Goose.

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 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 36
I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*
Posted: 1/23/2012 2:11:01 PM
Can a guy say, 'I'm more than just a guy with a few extra pounds!'? 'Quit looking at my gut, my eyes are up here!'?


In your profile review thread, in message 20, you stated you'd gained 14 pounds in your face---so why would you want women to look up there, anyway?


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 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 37
I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*
Posted: 1/23/2012 2:36:26 PM

But my original query was more along the lines of a woman expressing a desire to be looked at as more than her *positive* features, and a man expressing the same desire to be viewed as more than a *negative* attribute(let's say a FEW extra pounds)...

And I wonder why the double standard.


I don't think there is a double standard--I attempted to point this out before, but perhaps I failed.

People who "lack" in any area want desirable members of the opposite sex to overlook their shortcomings. You used the example of the man with a large belly, but what about a woman with a flat chest? The obese of both sexes? What if a 350 pound woman said, "Stop staring at my triple double chins, my eyes are up here"?
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 41
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I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*
Posted: 1/23/2012 4:09:39 PM
Theres only one think worse than a woman saying you shouldnt look at her tits and thats when the polic pass the message on whilst confiscating your telescope
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 42
I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*
Posted: 1/23/2012 6:16:27 PM

Weight ages a person.


It can. However, it can also disguise wrinkles on faces.


When we are taking about online dating disqualifiers - I think women are a bit more unforgiving. They don't want liars, cheats, or players...but they won't even get to know if a guy isn't one of those things - if all they are looking at is a picture. Why even have a written profile? Pictures are all that matters....prove me wrong.


BS, some men will only contact ugly or obese women when they have been rejected by the attractive women. Saying that ALL women will only meet men who are liars, cheaters, and players doesn't even deserve a rebuttal.


let's see, I have had a pic up about a week, 80 percent of my responses have been from men telling me I am ugly or asking me if I used to be a man.


I understand that people can be cruel and in some cases, I understand why they are cruel. Other times, I shake my head at the crass and unfeeling behavior.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 43
I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*
Posted: 1/23/2012 6:42:25 PM

Next question--men, how OFTEN do you know women are looking?


Older women aren't afraid to let you know they are looking.More often in the summer.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 44
I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*
Posted: 1/23/2012 6:45:18 PM

^^ let's see, I have had a pic up about a week, 80 percent of my responses have been from men telling me I am ugly or asking me if I used to be a man. 20 percent have been men telling me I am cute and they wished that I did not live so far away from them, as my profile was also intriquing. Do the Math.


Surely this must be teenagers insulting you?
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 46
I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*
Posted: 1/23/2012 7:27:05 PM

Saying that ALL women will only meet men who are liars, cheaters, and players doesn't even deserve a rebuttal.

I never said that! What I said was women claim to be tired of liars, cheats, and players. But they don't take the time to get to know a guy to see if he is or isn't any of those things - they go strictly by looks on a profile picture. So what women are REALLY saying is they are tired of GREAT looking guys who are liars, cheats, and players....and my question is: Why bother writing a profile? If a woman isn't getting past your picture, yet claims she's tired of those negative qualities, why bother? Seems like women are more than happy to wait the 3 or 4 months it takes for the true colors to come out as long as the guy is hot. Then scream bloody murder, adding another disqualifier to her profile....rinse and repeat.


Reminds me of a conversation between a friend of mine and a lady ranting about the behavior of another man,branding him as a jerk.After some queries about who this guy was,and a description from the both of us....he says,oh...so he's a good looking jerk?
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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I'm more than than just *insert physical feature here*
Posted: 1/25/2012 9:40:10 AM
When someone does what was described in the initial post a LOT I reckon theyre deliberately overeacting to disguise intent

Meaning that if they tend to accentuate a particular body part to get attention and it either gets the attention of someone they dont like, gets them attention when theyre otherwise distracted or they just want to disguise the fact they ARE infact trying to use it to get noticed by doing the "stop looking at my xyz" or "my eyes are up here" type thing

Otherwise you would actually be oggling some pretty retarded simpletons if they were either genuinely shocked or self conscious that someone WAS paying attention to there overtly accentuated body part really and should really have a care assistant to dress and then chaperone them for a night out to avoid such an innocent oversight happening again
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