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 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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I can be defective. I don't mind. My mother called me that often :)
Point taken and accepted of course.

Just sometimes it really is the pedantic language that gets the point a little further then the soothing calm and peaceful approach that makes you want to rip someones head off :)
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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Methods in healing a broken heart
Posted: 2/1/2012 9:11:18 PM
If truth is no: no
If truth is yes: sometimes - you didn't end willingly

It is also a terrible question but there is a right to know
 tee2us
Joined: 1/29/2012
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Posted: 2/1/2012 9:39:19 PM
I am finding that making a list of the things he did for me/our relationship. Then keep reminding myself what out weighs what!! It just wasn't meant to be.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 2/7/2012 4:21:36 PM
I jog....to burn off excess energy that could go into wallowing.
It gives me the illusion of doing something about it.
(when I really can't).

I meditate daily.
And in doing so I may feel the pain intensely.
But it passes.
Same as any other phenomena.
It is trying to repress or push away pain that makes
it linger and hurt...well...for as long as you try to keep at it.

I also get out and hang with folks I know.
Or family. To keep me from dwelling on past things.

Email the cuties in here....when bored and feeling wordy.
Sometimes I get a reply and sometimes a new adventure opens up.

If you got good coping skills,
however any adventure goes...
you'll be OK.
 sparrowtw
Joined: 1/24/2012
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Posted: 2/9/2012 10:20:18 PM
People change sometimes but it doesn't happen over night then suddenly you don't know this person you've been with for years. It is quite a shock when that happens. I've been there and don't want to around my ex unless absolutely necessary. They change themselves and grow away from the person they marry and I don't need someone like that.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 22
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Posted: 2/10/2012 9:54:16 AM
Viper1E, I truly hope and pray you find the peace you want and find a way to heal the gaping wound in your chest. The one where she ripped your heart out and stomped on it. You never forget, but have to find a way to forgive or it will never truly heal. Here's a cyber hug from one broken heart to another.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 23
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Posted: 2/11/2012 8:09:48 PM

Its sad and I hate feeling hate.. but this is how i feel about my ex. I hope somebody rips out his heart and stomps on it the way he did me. I hope he finds a girl hed give anything to ready to commit for life, only to hear one day she never really loved him. Honestly it would make me happy for him to feel even half the pain he has made me feel


Man, I read that from CK, and then Viper's ongoing posts... and I have to wonder, wtf use is it in your lives to still let them have so much damn control over your life, *still*, long after its over? Because that's all your really doing - tainting your future for the sake of holding onto the past.

Let it go, move on. Love and Hate are two sides of the same coin - you're still "emotionally enmeshed" in it if you can't let go of it - the opposite of both is *indifference*. I don't hate any of my ex's, and I might even be 'sociable' if I ran into them somewhere - I'm pretty much indifferent, they're my past, not part of my present, and I want to keep it that way.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 24
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Posted: 2/12/2012 10:56:22 AM
Viper1E, I'm truly sadden by your tale. It may take years to recover from what this woman did to you, if you ever can. I'm at a loss, have no answers for your questions. I can only say I hope you can find the peace you're searching for.
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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Posted: 2/12/2012 11:30:29 AM

have no answers for your questions

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAJ95kn4Xm4


"Get Up!!"
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 26
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Posted: 2/12/2012 12:47:49 PM

ujmik:
Let's face it Ladies 95% of MEN are all THE SAME ! There is some out there they say, but the only thing is that all the good ones are taken. I am still looking.................


If you truly believe this, then that's says more about yourself, than you are probably willing to admit to yourself. 95% of the MEN, what have you met, maybe .000000000001% of the men 'out there'.

All I can say to the men out there, is......"Run Forrest Run".
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 2/14/2012 5:06:26 PM

kristisha:
the only way to forget about your ex is to...find another man quick


All that does is start you down the path to another heartbreak. You can go on bouncing from man to man or woman to woman, but in the end it doesn't help. You have to cleanse and renew your heart before you're ready for another. But kristisha, you're hot and if you think a rebound hump would help, I'm here to help ya.
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