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 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 57
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Yep, and I already realize it's not likely to change anyone's view, just expressing my own. I love it that the state and courts are not allowed inside my mind and heart... nor there to regulate, control, dictate what happens within my own judgements of what a marriage means to me or my partner.


Nope, they're only there to empty your purse/wallet to the lawyers when either of your heart and mind's changes and you decide you want to end the marriage.

Regardless of how you feel about it, the IRS says marriage is a financial transaction (and you'll get taxed differently), the courts say its a financial transaction (otherwise divorce courts wouldn't exist to "split things equitably"), etc.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 58
It's getting serious...Should I ask for a pre-nup?
Posted: 7/15/2012 10:41:57 PM
This is true. My exhusband dragged our divorce out for 2.5 years following a 4 year separation. The lawyers and courts walked away with 12K of our joint assets. I have recovered nicely and still believe in the blessings that come with a good marriage, but I never want to go through another protracted divorce. If for no other reason, and if I do re-marry, it will be with a pre-nup.
 ninjaeleven
Joined: 7/15/2009
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It's getting serious...Should I ask for a pre-nup?
Posted: 7/17/2012 8:14:05 PM
yes yes yes yes yes, did i make that clear? get a pre-nup. Protect yourself. You know what a commissioner or a judge is? It is a stranger that says what you worked for all your life, well, it is no longer yours. It can happen that way, trust me. And more advice, no joint bank account that 1 signature can use it. been there too.
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