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 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 49
He filmed us on a secret webcam... what can i do? Page 2 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
One,,,send me a copy of said vide,,,and I can give you better advice. Two,,,,what's with those pics WITH clothes on????? They suck. Three, at your age, you should know every boy out there has a hidden camera or two, strategically placed around his love nest. Four,check love nest for little guys under bed. Five,,,go run to Mommy and Daddy and tell them your story,,,,they'll have sage advice for you and will not steer ya wrong. They seem like good people and parents from what I have seen so far.

Good luck young lady.

Edit: I would also suggest,for "next time" what kind of person you are bedding,before ya bed. Not what he makes you think he is,,,but, what he really is. And maybe ask him if you can view those "other girl's" videos. If he is an honest guy,,,I'm sure he'll show ya.

Double edit: And this one is serious for those "caught" in the thought it's a good idea to "let" a man/boy film yourselves in the bedroom or where ever. There's a site (or two) out there willing to accept and put on the internet,,,"stuff" like this. Never seen it/them,,,but,,,I've been "told" they are out there. Honest.
 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 50
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Posted: 1/23/2012 4:40:34 PM
This whole thread reminds me of a friend I had once who showed up at the company picnic in a very brief, flesh-colored, crocheted bikini....and rocked it, no doubt.....but then spent the whole next week whining to everyone to pleeeeeeeeeeease not show anyone the photos because she's shyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.

(This was in the pre-digital photo days, so you had to actually take the photos with a camera with film in it, get them developed, and then take them out of an envelope and show them to people. Man, those were the days!!)

Pretty damn good jello shots at that party, too........
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 51
He filmed us on a secret webcam... what can i do?
Posted: 1/23/2012 4:42:42 PM
I am so so so so so glad that when I was young, pretty, and a bit silly I didn't have pictures or anything at all 'documented' to come haunt me later.
I would never have been able to be in the profession I had settled in during my 40's if that had happened.
So many youngsters these days don't think of that.

Anyway, what can you do? Nothing much, other than ... I don't know. Ask him to errase it, if that's even possible, and watch him do so?

But a "webcam"? Geeez.. you better believe he WILL at some point in his life share it with at least one 'buddy', or parts of it, and then ta-da... off it goes for any and all to see it.
 AddHomonym
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 52
He filmed us on a secret webcam... what can i do?
Posted: 1/23/2012 5:00:16 PM
I was going to call bull shit on this one but then I noticed your age and the pink car daddy got you.

This is what happens when you date scumbags, you'll learn. Then again, maybe not. Good luck with that.

If he does post it on the internet, you should definitely update this thread by posting a link...so we can see what a jerk he really is.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 54
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Posted: 1/23/2012 5:34:58 PM
I love reading this sh*t......makes me appreciate just how good my life is.

BTW, thousands of these are sold to amateur porns sites daily.....it's a big business, and that's probably what he's doing with them.
 xenolith23
Joined: 12/26/2010
Msg: 56
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Posted: 1/23/2012 5:52:29 PM
Don't know if this is for real, but giving OP the benefit of the doubt, I agree with those who say you should go to the police. You don't need to prove you didn't consent; he needs to prove you did. In other words, if you didn't sign a long legal paper, and he can't produce it, then he has acted illegally. End of story. You can't secretly film people without their consent, even if you've consented to sex. This is definitely illegal behavior and a form of sexual assault, just as "upskirt" shots on escalators are, or placing hidden cameras in locker rooms or bathrooms. People are arrested for these behaviors every day. Your voluntary sexual activity with this man is not the point. The point is your involuntary participation in a porn video which most likely will make its way into public view. Unless you want that go to the police ASAP.

As for the comments on your profile photos, those are irrelevant to your question. You didn't ask for a profile review. Posters should stick to the issue, IMHO.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 57
He filmed us on a secret webcam... what can i do?
Posted: 1/23/2012 6:10:54 PM
Send me some copies; with his bits blacked out, and you from several angels?





I'm jealous; I havnt been on film with a girl forEVER.



I mean BAD dude, BAD; call police, cause they want to see it too!!



(Make money off of them?)

Or just say "you're welcome", and ask for a copy for your own enjoyment too?

 andy1961
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 59
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Posted: 1/23/2012 6:19:05 PM
I'm off to browse the thousands of free porn sites to see if I can find her in action!

I'll find her eventually! Wey - hey!

 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 66
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Posted: 1/23/2012 7:26:38 PM

Where is OP ...police station?


Nope. She's doing the talk show circuit promoting her new porno. She's getting tips from Loni Anderson. Wait for her autobiography coming out soon.
 andy1961
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 71
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Posted: 1/23/2012 7:58:39 PM
Bet it's on Redtube right now...


Nop, I've checked that one already - it's not there! I'll continue looking on other sites and report back to you !

(Although my has been distracted several times now, in my endeavour to find our girl! It's ready to drop off due to the workout it's been getting since I last posted!)
 MaccaFan
Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 1/23/2012 9:48:50 PM
My flippant reply was based on my opinion that this is not a real scenario and that her profile isn't real.
She doesn't sound like she is too upset or surprised that this "happened", if she were she might have thought to notify the police and not a message board on a dating site.

So calm down a bit and re-read her profile, she's 24, not 18...
 ForumsCreeper
Joined: 1/18/2009
Msg: 76
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Posted: 1/23/2012 10:02:57 PM
ayyy, they didnt make em like that when I was 18 or 24.

If you didnt know, he is a creep. I would run it by the local police to see if they can do anything with it.

I could give you a better opinion if were to give it a look see. Send me a copy and I would be happy to give you better advice.
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
Msg: 78
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Posted: 1/24/2012 3:42:05 AM
I do not see Naive here, I see manipulative. I am quite sure this was all a calculated move by the OP. Just as she posted this thread to draw attention to herself and her profile. I am sure it worked. I am sure her mail box is blowing up as we speak.

Save it OP, most of us are not buying the "Woe is Me" bullsh1t.

Am I saying a man should be allowed to secretely tape a sex session with a woman, NO, what I am saying is, I think she orchestrated it and is trying to call attention to herself.

I wonder whay her fake orgasm's sounded like, because her fake outrage is pretty weak, in fact, no existent.

I think she is just miffed because the guy probably did not pay her the money or jump start her Porn Career as promised.
 Blah_User_Name
Joined: 8/27/2011
Msg: 79
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Posted: 1/24/2012 4:10:11 AM
^^ Agreed. Nothing naive about this girl. At 24, if this was a genuine error, the profile photos would have been changed. She would have at least one friend who would have set her straight.
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 84
He filmed us on a secret webcam... what can i do?
Posted: 1/24/2012 8:02:57 AM
OP, maybe go back for a repeat performance, locate the cam and the recorder and destroy them.. After you eject the DVD and hide it..


I think this thread is a joke. But in case this is real, you might want to remove the pic of your car (it's got your tag showing) and the reference to where you work.

OP hasn't come back or changed anything, so it seems you are most likely right...

Has anyone in UK run the tag on that plate yet to see where it actually belongs?
That same pink car pic HAS been used elsewhere on the internet and photoshopped into some "artwork", so it apparently is a commonly used internet pic..

Wonder if "she" has had enough offers yet, to move up to some other forms of entertainment...
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
Msg: 87
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Posted: 1/25/2012 9:21:00 AM
The OP has left the building.
 Kevasiuk
Joined: 5/2/2010
Msg: 90
He filmed us on a secret webcam... what can i do?
Posted: 1/26/2012 11:19:11 PM
In Canada and the US, the Privacy Law states no individual is permitted to record another exclusively without the permission of the one being recorded. Hence, the police need you to sign the waiver they present you while in interrogation. If you refuse to sign it, they cannot keep you for more than 48hrs, unless the evidence presented states you are otherwise guilty. Even then, I can't be too sure on procedure when it comes to police, but I know even they cannot record you without permission.

As far as this guy goes, you can charge him to the fullest extent of the law, if it helps you sleep at night.
 MaccaFan
Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 91
He filmed us on a secret webcam... what can i do?
Posted: 1/27/2012 8:58:34 AM
Juliet has hit the road, guess many of us were right!
 InterracialDater
Joined: 12/8/2006
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Posted: 1/27/2012 8:13:02 PM
This is a crime. Report it to your local authorities.
 seventiesbaby2
Joined: 2/9/2012
Msg: 97
He filmed us on a secret webcam... what can i do?
Posted: 2/15/2012 10:26:09 AM
What he did was illegal... do what you think is best
 ravenhair4u
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 98
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Posted: 2/18/2012 7:33:35 PM
Weird? Yes, also: predatory, sneaky, deceiving, illegal, violating, traumatizing, embarrasing, humiliating, potentially very damaging to you, black mailing material, etc.
I haven't read this thread yet, so if you haven't, immediately make a police report. Get that video. Do not let him violate you & get away with this. He will hold this over your head, do you want this video going viral? Do you want this being mailed to your friends, family, coworkers, years from now when you're married? Just b/c he says he won't, his word doesn't mean anything. This piece of sh*t has the power to control you & ruin your life w/this tape. Contact the police, & a lawyer, now. If he has anything of value, a house, whatever, sue him for damages.

Edit to add: So, OP is a fake & a troll...I'll be reporting her
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 99
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Posted: 2/19/2012 12:01:25 AM
this is not normal behavior. it's predatorial, and it is sexually perverse to film someone without their consent. it's down right abusive. also, how do you know that he won't show it to someone? how do you know that he wasn't streaming it on the internet to 50 of his closest friends live? you don't know, and you certainly haven't known this man long enough to trust this man with a naked recording of you having sex with him. this man has a serious problem, and he has no respect for boundaries. you have no idea what he will do with this recording. i'd be livid and i would seek legal counsel regarding this matter. he has no right to film you without your consent. the fact that you would ASK if this is normal behavior is really mind boggling to me. this guy is a creep! hello!
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 100
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Posted: 2/19/2012 12:06:10 AM
macca,

i'd read her profile, but i must be too old to have access...lol!

based on all the comments i have to wonder if the girl isn't some complete moron or a stripper that thinks that such behavior is just "wierd" and not down right criminal. what a moron the op is.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 103
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Posted: 2/19/2012 8:42:42 AM

Or there is no "she" and her account got removed...

Such a shame, she had such cute pics and was such an Intelligent decision maker


She probably got a hold of the copy and decided to sell it. I've been looking on Craig's ,but, have yet to find it. I'll make copies if I do though.
 No_Fancy_Name
Joined: 11/18/2009
Msg: 106
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Posted: 2/19/2012 9:15:55 PM
IgorFrankensteen said:


Here in the U.S., one must grant consent for recordings. If you didn't sign a release, or give consent in some other recorded fashion, it would be his word against yours that you gave consent, and last I heard, he would have to prove you DID give consent, or be subject to prosecution. But that's here, not where you are.


I think that the states laws trump the general Federal one here in the US. I live in Illinois and though this is a "two party consent" state (one of only 6 in the U.S. where BOTH parties have to consent to the audio portion of the videotaping) secret videotaping is actually still legal, if you are the property owner of the property. This allows businesses, governments to record you, but (at least in Illinois) you can record guests in the privacy of your own house, where there is no expectation of privacy (for them). They can NOT record you under your roof, because that is a violation of your expectation of privacy in your house.

So to some this up, if this occurred in Illinois, he owned the house (condo/townhouse/trailer) he would be protected by Illinois law to record her (she has no reasonable expectation of privacy in his house), but she would have no right to record her in his house (he has a reasonable expectation of privacy, because it's his house). The Police in Illinois would be compelled to do nothing, by law.

The only way that she could have a legal leg to stand on here is for her to get him to add her to the deed to the house, then she would have the same reasonable expectation of privacy and the Police would be compelled to arrest him, but she might as well marry and clean out his bank account - it would be a faster revenge.... according to Illinois law...
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