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 Extollere
Joined: 2/21/2012
Msg: 30
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Considering that you get the same basic functionality whether you're paid or free (searching, email, chat, forums, etc.), I guess I don't really see much point in it. If that money is really burning a hole in your pocket, you're probably better off signing up for a different paid site for a little while, in addition to remaining free here. At least you'll have access to two dating pools, which may increase your chances a little bit.


On OKC, on the other hand, you're free to answer questions or not, skip some and answer others. That works better for me. But no forums, and that's what I truly cherish here.


There are forums on OKC. Google for the link there.
 CaliforniaDreamer57
Joined: 5/17/2012
Msg: 31
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/8/2012 3:41:37 PM
When I see the upgraded members, it strikes me that they are players and have just been on PoF too long. I tended to avoid contact with them. This makes me think a bit differently now.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 32
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/8/2012 3:58:28 PM
I haven't considered upgrading b/c I use the site mostly for the forums--but when I see someone has upgraded, I just thought it meant they were more serious about finding someone. Putting your money where your mouth is, so to speak (although that somehow sounds really dirty on a POF forum!!)

Just another point of view, OP.
 VB_Mermaid1974
Joined: 2/2/2012
Msg: 33
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/8/2012 4:01:26 PM
Cowboy is exactly right. It is your profile and pictures that really make the difference. (thanks Cowboy, you reminded me that I need to add more photo's to my profile)

About a month or so after joining POF I purchased the upgrade. That was before I started using the forums and I didn't know any better, LOL! I do have to admit that I like being able to see who views me multiple times and if my messages were read, deleted, etc... With that being said, I also know that when it REALLY comes down to it, it makes no difference if you are a free or a paid member, if you do not receive a positive message back then who cares what the receiver did with the message. They just were not interested.

I do not feel that I have gotten more views or messages since upgrading. Also half the time seeing when someone was last online etc.. is incorrect anyway. It will show someone on line three minutes ago, and then five minutes later it will say last online two hours ago. And we can't log on half the time lately either. So the bugs are still a problem for us paid members also.

I don't feel that paid members are desperate I do think that they are in many cases more serious about finding a relationship. Or like me they are serious about finding a relationship but got sucked into the hype of getting the extras features that come along with it before they knew any better.

OP - Good for you, asking about it before actually upgrading!!

As for someone suggesting joining Match, I am a member there as well and although the profiles are more complete and the filters are better when searching I get A LOT MORE messages here on POF. I'll let you in on another little secret... about 80% of the people on Match are also on POF, at least in my area.
 Dolphina
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 34
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/9/2012 4:00:27 AM
If, where you live, there are lots of people on pof, then you'll get more hits than if, where you live, there aren't many pof members. It's irrelevant whether you upgrade your membership. The number of people in your area remains the same.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 35
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/9/2012 5:49:23 PM

I'm a down graded member and was getting more @#$$y then tampons until I got serious with one and stop doing tricks part time out back..


Lol, Genius you had me laughing all day at work when i read this, I'm going to have to induct this into POF Hall of Fame top 10 funniest one liners.
 TheLongSpring
Joined: 1/29/2012
Msg: 36
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/10/2012 10:55:04 AM
POF UPGRADE WILL NOT HELP YOU, IF YOU HAVE A BAD PROFILE


there you go

If you think someone is desperate for upgrading, you're retarded. First of all, there's plenty of desperates on here.

If you upgrade, you should at least take your profile (and over all POF experience) more seriously.
 SONNI100
Joined: 12/24/2010
Msg: 37
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/10/2012 11:14:10 AM
When I see an upgraded membership, I think 'desperate'....isn't it nice we can all express our views?
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 38
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/10/2012 12:04:48 PM
I put that money instead into guying some gold chains, which I now wear all the time, and took all my teeth out and placed gold ones with a diamond in one of them. The results? They are awesome. Now instead of being rejected by 10 women, I get rejected by 37. That is absolutely awesome!!!
 TheLongSpring
Joined: 1/29/2012
Msg: 39
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/10/2012 3:17:07 PM

When I see an upgraded membership, I think 'desperate'....isn't it nice we can all express our views?


There's people who still think if you're on an online dating site period, that makes you desperate. What difference does it make if you're paying or not paying, upgraded or not upgraded?

If someone has a good profile, and you're attracted to them, you message them. If not, you don't.
 grantfl80
Joined: 7/21/2011
Msg: 40
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/10/2012 3:35:32 PM
When I was an upgraded member I had a date with Megan Foxx, but unfortunately the food at Bojangles made her sick, so we decided to cool it after that. Now that I am no longer upgraded Megan has quit messaging me.

G
 freeway.95144
Joined: 2/9/2012
Msg: 41
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/10/2012 4:45:15 PM
I upgraded after a month for the 3 month deal. Really, it was only $30, and I did get more responses after I did it. My profile was basically the same before and after, so the upgrade was the only change.

But funny to hear that some people think someone is desparate for paying $10 a month.
 jr1985
Joined: 9/18/2010
Msg: 42
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/10/2012 9:30:46 PM
Well I never tried the paid version of POF... I did try the paid version of Christian Mingle though... and get WAY more of a response on POF than I do on CM... even with the paid account... It is supposed to put your profile up more on the matches etc if you do the paid account... I wouldn't mess with it personally... just use the advanced search to find more girls that you are looking for
 Choporis
Joined: 6/25/2012
Msg: 43
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 7/11/2012 1:20:37 AM
The way I see it is, at the end it's the person behind the profile that matters.
Sure, upgraded account probably will get you more exposures, thus more opportunities for people to acknowledge you.

I say it's a good thing to have an upgraded account, you are just giving more chances to yourself, why not? :]
 mischief247
Joined: 1/12/2011
Msg: 44
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Posted: 4/9/2013 1:16:09 PM
This thread is kinda old, but I was thinking about the effect of upgrading today and read through most of the posts. I understand that upgrading only provides a few additional features, and that it can be construed as being desperate. All that aside, I've also wondered if upgrading has any effect on frequency of a profile's appearance.

First, I live in a major metro area with thousands and thousands of POF users. I also understand that for every one (1) woman, there are probably 100 guys. So my hope is to do something that will place my profile in the display of random profiles more frequently when women are searching.

For example, when I'm searching through profiles POF always splashes eight thumbnails of women at the top of the screen (just have to be careful not to click on the ads disguised as thumbnails--LOL). Some of these women appear to be online right then, but not all. And some tend to pop up fairly often. But there are some who are there ALL the time. Every time I log on. And a lot of those have the upgraded member, "gold medallion" attached.

In another example, my phone keeps me logged in; sometimes for hours. And I might go all day without a hit--no messages, "wants to meets", or "faves" from anyone. And then suddenly I get maybe twelve hits in a matter of a few hours. New messages; new faves; and a bunch of "wants to meets". It's like all of the women on POF suddenly saw me for the first time and decided to send some form of greeting.

This leads me to believe that POF somehow rotates the profiles that appear randomly on the screen as thumbnails, or in the "Meet Me" section. And occasionally it's my turn in the barrel to get some extended exposure. So I'm wondering if upgrading will enhance this frequency as it appears to do for some of the women that are ALWAYS on my screen. Like other posters, I don't really care to have the "stigma" of being desperate, because I'm not. I would gladly do without the "gold medallion" if paying a few bucks will increase the frequency of my exposure.
 MS.ICENI
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 45
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 4/9/2013 3:43:33 PM
I tried 3 or 4 paid sites before finding this one. Once I realized the same guys were on all of them, the paid sites were gone. I've never considered upgraded men desperate; this is the first time I've heard that. I am disappointed that some of the free stuff on POF has gone POOF!, but for the most part it's OK with me. Besides, I'm in here now mostly for the forums. Always good for a laugh.
 Tiggiebear
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 46
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 4/9/2013 4:27:32 PM
I have been on POF for about 4 years. I really don't believe you need to spend money on an upgrade. I know men on here that have been here before myself and they upgraded and they are still on here.

I think many play boys on here who really don't want a real relationship are here to just date. They will say they are looking for long-term but really love being free. Long-term is a way to get women to respond to their messages. thats my take on it. Save your money.
 Quasimodo11543
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 47
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 4/9/2013 5:13:47 PM
I was kind of surprised to see people thinking that an upgraded member is a sign of desperate. Desperate looks much different then that. I bought a membership for a few reasons. One, it's quite inexpensive and I think I can afford the 10 bucks a month without having to resort to Ramen noodles 3 nights a week to fund it. Secondly, I like that you can see the status of mail you have sent, if you're carpet bombing people then I guess it really wouldn't matter if you send then delete it. If you're only sending them one at a time it's nice to know the status of it so you can make an accurate choice to move on to the next, yes I get a good response rate. That's just me. Lastly, the viewed me feature is ok I suppose. As far as getting more responses, I couldn't say I never really noticed a change in that.

I don't really look at it much deeper then it's 10 bucks a month, and it does enhance the experience for me.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 48
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 4/9/2013 8:29:28 PM
You fell for the hype just like the stats that lots of people have successful relationships from here....not. Sorry you wasted your money.
 BrookeAda
Joined: 1/11/2013
Msg: 49
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 4/10/2013 7:13:06 AM
Paid memberships do nothing. Who needs 16 photographs? If the profile is interesting the pics current that will get you as much attention as paying will. The people who post photos that look like a mug shot or a porno spread will get the same non attention paying or not.
If your profile is filled with drama and negatives paying will not improve your persona. I joined a pay site to find the same people that are here amidst a host of undesirables who think they can improve the chance of luring someone via some phoney hype.
It comes off as the paid members here are lifers hoping for some magic potion to change only what they can change.
 mischief247
Joined: 1/12/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 4/10/2013 8:38:53 AM
These are all good observations, but nothing different than what was already in the earlier part of the thread. Quality of the profile, good pictures, (whether 8 or 16) and a friendly demeanor will always be helpful. That's not what I'm asking about.

I posted a question yesterday about whether upgrading improves or increases the FREQUENCY of a profile appearing as one of the eight thumbnails on every screen, or in the "Meet Me" section. I gave a couple of examples to show how some profiles seem to appear more than others, and I'm wondering if an upgraded membership gives priority placement.

Does anyone have any feedback on this? This is more of a technical question--not a subjective one about quality of profiles.
 Stubidooo
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 51
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 4/10/2013 8:57:06 AM

Paid memberships do nothing

Since I have a paid membership (and it costs less than any date I have been on).. I will respectfully disagree. I like being able to see if she read my message and what she did with it. I also like being able to see who keeps coming back to my profile (that right there alone is worth the cost). There are indeed paid features that make it easier ... Most of you who pan the upgrade probably insist on coffee dates as well to save a buck. "

It comes off as the paid members here are lifers

 Foxymba
Joined: 2/15/2013
Msg: 52
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 1/8/2015 5:53:08 PM
I agree with your assessment of the persons financial position. I never think if a man has upgraded that he is desperate. I got upgraded because I can actually see when someone else is online and it's quite interesting when you think you're working on a relationship with someone and they are spending hours on the site. Also
I have had no problems getting responses to my picture and profile. However, I do not know it makes much of a difference as to the number of people that contact a person. because if the pictures ate not attractive and the profile is not interesting an upgrade will not enhance your chances.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 53
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 1/8/2015 7:37:14 PM
I don't think a paid membership helps on POF. I never had 8 or more pictures on POF or any other site. I usually had 4 or 5 pictures at the most. It doesn't matter if I can see a message has been read / deleted or unread / deleted. Either way, she isn't interested in me.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 54
Upgrading membership and its effects on dating
Posted: 1/9/2015 9:43:36 PM

Bottom line, is the upgrade worth it?


If you truly enjoy paying for rejection, then, yes, the upgrade is worth it.

If you prefer to get your rejection for free, then no, it's not worth it.

Carry on.
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