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 LabradorOokpik
Joined: 6/30/2007
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I would not say music would be a dealbreaker, but I do know there is some stuff I cannot stand. I'm sure there are a lot of men who would think the same about my kind of music. A guy messaged me once, and his profile said he was into quiet, soft music. When I received his message, I was just a few days back from seeing my favorite band on the planet, AC/DC, who call themselves one of the loudest bands in the world. Judging how long it took my ears to recover, I agree. My music is loud, my car is loud, I am loud..I am not into "quiet". That may have just been his music, but I was not interested.

Another guy messaged me, who was into Newfoundland music. For those unfamiliar, the best way I can describe it is some type of polka-like music. The headbanger in me could not see us agreeing on what type of music to listen to. I am into other types of music though, especially classic rock. I may have given him a chance, if I was attracted, but I wasn't. I guess my point is, if I like someone enough, I don't care what music he likes...we will find some way to get along!
 ChadsFormerStandIn
Joined: 1/8/2012
Msg: 31
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/4/2012 9:25:52 PM
There are exceptions to be sure. But based on experience I am quite comfortable with those generalizations. I'm sorry that you feel like I put you into one of those categories.

Never said it represents a lack of values in a person. It just has often meant that they often exhibit common values that I find boring and predictable beyond comprehension.

The evidence is experience. And the common experience of other friends who also date.
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 32
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/4/2012 10:55:22 PM
If the dude isn't a die hard Godsmack fan like me, I will not date him. Nope..sure won't
 RedDelPaPa
Joined: 5/21/2011
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Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/4/2012 11:24:50 PM


If the dude isn't a die hard Godsmack fan like me, I will not date him. Nope..sure won't


"As I sit here, and slowly close my eyes. I take another deep breath, and feel the wind pass through my body....."
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 34
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/4/2012 11:34:55 PM

"As I sit here, and slowly close my eyes. I take another deep breath, and feel the wind pass through my body....."




I love me some "Serenity"
 ITWYLD
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/5/2012 12:03:07 AM

Anything Metallica or other thrash metal crap. It just is not music.




Maffers......them be fightin words!


 JoseMadre
Joined: 1/9/2012
Msg: 36
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/5/2012 12:25:22 AM
I'm a musician who grew up in a musical family. My dad was a member of a 50's Doo-Wop band and I remember having the Belmonts (after their heyday) over at the house when I was young. The deal breaker is often my criticism of the music that others like. Not genre, but lack of complexity or an interesting hook in the music or a lack of harmony in the vocals.
 MyScreennameRox
Joined: 12/11/2011
Msg: 37
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/5/2012 2:44:31 AM

I think only Insane Clown Posse would be a deal breaker for me. And only if I was expected to listen to it.


Yeah anybody who listens to fat, rapping clowns...nvm I cannot even finish this post.
 RT_2
Joined: 11/5/2010
Msg: 39
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/5/2012 5:06:33 AM
The Florida fundie proves my point. Lashing out with accusations of "anti Christ" and calling someone ignorant and fearful for being aware I would never be compatible with anyone who listens to modern talentless "joy music".

I've also found the people who flaunt that genre are often hypocrites.

And those kid friendly Disney stars often become naughty. Lindsay Lohan, Miley Cyrus, etc.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 2/5/2012 5:53:24 AM
"The only times it could be a dealbreaker is when a person's career or lifestyle completely revolves around music. Or when someone insists that I listen to their music and go to their concerts. But they won't listen to my music or go to my concerts. In the latter scenario, I think it is more of a general case of a person being too controlling. That can apply to other things as well. Not just music taste."


I can relate to to this point as my last ex and I had very different tastes. Always ended up doing what she wanted to do. No compromising on her part. Even changed the station/cd in my car while I'm driving.
 inthepalemoonlight
Joined: 1/15/2012
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Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/6/2012 11:51:10 PM
if its an obsession or they dont respect your not the biggest fan of certain bands your significant other (or potential) likes, than thats one thing..

but if liking different forms of music is a deal breaker, then thats just sad
 cooldog65
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Posted: 2/7/2012 1:55:29 AM
"If the dude isn't a die hard Godsmack fan like me, I will not date him. Nope..sure won't."

Sully has one of the best voices I have ever heard. Great depth and meaning in their lyrics.
 lilmisssunshine547
Joined: 8/2/2011
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Posted: 2/7/2012 9:17:54 AM
The only type of music that would be a dealbreaker for myself would be house music/techno, or whatever ya wanna call it. I don't get it and I don't really wanna get it. All i can really think of when I hear it is fist pumping with a bunch of d-bags at the Jersey Shore.
 BeeRad82
Joined: 1/27/2012
Msg: 44
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/7/2012 9:21:43 AM
People who combine their musical tastes w/ their identity get unread/deleted.
 DoubleParked
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 45
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/7/2012 9:38:00 AM
A person's taste in music is not a big problem for me. I enjoy listening to many types of music and enjoy playing music as well. My problem would be if someone had no INTEREST in music and didn't understand its importance in my life. A definite dealbreaker would be someone who yelled at me to 'turn down that bleeping noise"!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 46
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/7/2012 10:21:55 AM
What I find more weird are people who dress the part of their favorite singer/band. I'm referring mostly to the Elvis impersonators or the kids who try to look like gangsta rappers. They don't realize how ridiculous they look. The kids who do the gangsta rap look can be excused because teenagers are slaves to peer pressure whose life revolves around kiddy trends and fashion. But I don't understand middle aged and older men who have the mutton chop sideburns and do the whole Elvis look.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 47
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/7/2012 11:05:01 AM

"I love you like a love song baby." Really? That's the best you can come up with? That's your chorus?


I'm surprised the feminists have never never been up in arms and called for a boycott of the whole music industry. Almost every song refers to women as babies-totally helpless creatures who can't look after themselves. Is this how women want to be portrayed? Isn't it strange women are always chanting that they can do anything a man can do and more, yet have no objection when a musician refers to her as a totally helpless creature who can't do anything?
 lacalli
Joined: 1/12/2012
Msg: 48
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/7/2012 12:05:17 PM
I had to check the OP's age and he's 39. Geezus. If you're eliminating women on what music they listen to I can't imagine how you are on important stuff. I can honestly say that screening people based on the music they listen to is a first over the age of 13 or so. I've dated a lot of professional musicians and they tend to be very open minded about music.
 AmplifiedBassist
Joined: 12/28/2011
Msg: 49
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/8/2012 4:42:59 PM
I can't stand overly poppy stuff, a lot of country annoys me, but they're not deal breakers.

I'd hit the jackpot if I met someone that likes extreme metal.
 BrookfieldGentlemanTom
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 2/8/2012 5:17:05 PM
^^^^^saw Slayer and Rob Zombie this past summer dude. great!!!^^^


if a woman's favorite music is REGGAE then i'm not interested in her.

music is so very important to me BUT i just can't waste my time on steel drum music.
 Goldentyga117
Joined: 6/25/2011
Msg: 51
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Posted: 2/8/2012 5:23:38 PM
^^^^^^^

I don't know what kinda reggae you've listened to but it's mostly NOT steel drum music.

I'm pretty picky with music...I like most things except for the majority of rock/metal/alternative/emo etc...type of music...mainly because 1. You can't dance to it
and 2. I just can't relate to it...i'm generally a pretty happy positive guy...i can't stand all this whiny baby emo crap lately...like "WAHHHH i'm 35 and still depressed about the girl i couldn't take to the prom" or angry music....i can't relate to people being angry about pretty much nothing. It's not a dealbreaker for me if people listen to that stuff but i wouldn't personally ever willingly listen to it or go to a concert with them.
 Uonlyliveonce5
Joined: 12/2/2011
Msg: 52
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/8/2012 8:50:10 PM
Man if the music she doesn't like is a dealerbreaker..... bad news, you will probably die alone.

If this is a dealbreaker, you must have a list of dealbreakers that is a mile long. Must like the same movies, must like the same sports teams, must like the same type of beer, etc.


These are all petty things that you should overlook and look at the bigger picture.
 lauramae18
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 53
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/8/2012 9:21:35 PM
I'm with NatureMaid. I don't so much care what you listen to as long as you listen to something!
I listen to a little of everything depending on my mood. I might not always know who sings it, and I might not sing it well, but I'll give it all a try. It's one of the reasons I enjoy Pandora and Slacker radio so much ; I pick a genre according to my mood and away I go.
I have to say though: it might be a deal breaker if he can only get his groove on listening to one kind of music. I wasn't able to listen to Trapt or Breaking Benjamin for about 6 months after a doomed relationship.
 VeilofPapaya
Joined: 1/19/2012
Msg: 54
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Posted: 2/9/2012 6:48:13 AM
One thing i can't stand is when people say they to listen to "everything" and like all types of music. i dont have many peeves but this one i cannot stand for the life of me. 9.99 times out of ten their personality is revealed through that statement, like somehow they're better than you because they listen to led zeppelin or the shins or freaking dubstep.
 ontario_woman
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Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 2/9/2012 7:16:39 AM

Do any of you have bands that you dislike so.much, that it's a dealbreaker if the opposite sex likes them?


That's what headphones are for.

My ex and I had very different tastes in music.

Although there were many things that created problems in our relationship, our differing music tastes was never one of them.
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