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 Kittyxoxoxo
Joined: 3/5/2013
Msg: 101
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One thing i can't stand is when people say they to listen to "everything" and like all types of music. i dont have many peeves but this one i cannot stand for the life of me. 9.99 times out of ten their personality is revealed through that statement, like somehow they're better than you because they listen to led zeppelin or the shins or freaking dubstep.


Sounds like projection on your part, buddy. Might want to see a psychologist for that..
 RedrockJen
Joined: 3/27/2014
Msg: 102
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/24/2014 1:43:06 PM

If a woman I was dating couldn't pull herself together to simply enjoy pleasant conversation and drink a few****ails with legendary musicians who spearheaded the British heavy metal music invasion...now that would be problematic.


Is pleasant conversation even possible while heavy metal is being played live?

What bands are we talking about? Black Sabbath? Def Leppard? I could tolerate those two with enough drinks in me. Ha!
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 103
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/24/2014 1:47:22 PM

Posted by RedrockJen:
"Is pleasant conversation even possible while heavy metal is being played live?
What bands are we talking about? Black Sabbath?"

Not a concert...we are talking about a small and pleasant dinner party with the likes of Black Sabbath.
 easterparadehat
Joined: 4/14/2014
Msg: 104
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/24/2014 2:28:12 PM
If you have any taste in gorgeous music do a youtube search on Mancini "Snowfall" "Mr. Lucky" and "Dreamsville". Also consider Nelson Riddle's "Route 66" from the TV show of the early 1960s. So much soothing music and people just continue to listen to complete crap.
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/24/2014 6:39:56 PM

Sounds like projection on your part, buddy. Might want to see a psychologist for that..


I agree. I listen to a little bit of everything and I have a degree in music. Your taste in music doesn't mean anything. My playlist will have some classical music like a madrigal from Orlando di Lasso followed by a Hungarian or Russian pop song, and then some grunge or metal music after that. I don't like country music that much but I find enjoyment in songs by Johnny Cash or Shooter Jennings. People take musical taste way too seriously.
 RedrockJen
Joined: 3/27/2014
Msg: 106
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/24/2014 6:44:43 PM

Not a concert...we are talking about a small and pleasant dinner party with the likes of Black Sabbath.


Sounds reasonable to me. :)
 easterparadehat
Joined: 4/14/2014
Msg: 107
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/24/2014 6:58:05 PM
It is serious if listening to music you hate makes you cringe when you listen to it, like fingernails on a chalkboard.
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/25/2014 2:27:51 PM
The only kind of music I steer clear of is the "cry in your beer" music. Just about everything else is a go though.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 109
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/25/2014 4:26:11 PM
If I am forced to listen to it I care. If I am not, I don't. A healthy relationship should allow people to be who they are in it.

No couple has to do EVERYTHING together. Music is a personal preference. Movies, food, books and TV are as well. No one has to be held captive. If you are trying to make someone live the way you do, you have control issues.
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 110
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/25/2014 7:51:32 PM

- Your post reminded me of something Eric... I went to a business meeting at a hotel once... they claimed they would have live entertainment... I figured they would have some amateur singing karaoke... imagine my surprise when STARSHIP took the stage!!


So, I listen to A LOT of different music to form my style of playing guitar. My influences are a random mix of SRV, Tom Scholz, Billy Gibbons, Donnie Van Zant, Mike McCready... So my influence jumps around a lot. I'm clearly into a lot of the more melodic guitar playing. So, surprisingly for mostly being influenced by the exact type of music, I still only know 2 songs by starship. I know more songs by A-ha than someone that wasn't a one hit wonder and was actually pretty big back then. I gotta get around to listening to more of what they can do.
 Etritonakin
Joined: 7/10/2014
Msg: 111
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 4:29:27 AM
Music preference may be indicative of other differences you might have in thinking -which can definitely be deal breakers -but otherwise, I try to be tolerant when a person's musical tastes are different. I even try to be open-minded about it. Sometimes I develop an appreciation for the music -begin to like it -or confirm that it has nothing positive to offer the world. Even then, I gain understanding about various perspectives.

It is also true that examining your own musical taste -likes and dislikes -can tell you a lot about yourself.
 sigungq
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Posted: 7/26/2014 8:51:43 AM
^^ Actually for me, the music a person listens to, the movies they like, and the books they read, tells me quite a bit about their personality. Such can be quite illuminating at times.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 113
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 9:26:00 AM

It is also true that examining your own musical taste -likes and dislikes -can tell you a lot about yourself.


I don't agree with this statement because a person's environment has a lot of influence on musical preference. If you or I grew up in some foreign country in the Middle East or Africa, chances are we wouldn't be into the music we're currently into. We would be into something totally different. In the U.S., more people in the southern states are into country and western music than elsewhere and gospel music is popular in the Bible Belt states. Peer pressure also plays a part. You're not going to be one of the cool kids and could be a social outcast if you listen to classical music and all of your friends and classmates are into rap and gangsta music. It's not a coincidence that most kids like the same music and artists. So musical taste is as much of a sociological issue as personal preference.
 Etritonakin
Joined: 7/10/2014
Msg: 114
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 9:53:47 AM

^^ Actually for me, the music a person listens to, the movies they like, and the books they read, tells me quite a bit about their personality. Such can be quite illuminating at times.


Exactly.
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 115
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 9:57:32 AM

I don't agree with this statement because a person's environment has a lot of influence on musical preference. If you or I grew up in some foreign country in the Middle East or Africa, chances are we wouldn't be into the music we're currently into. We would be into something totally different. In the U.S., more people in the southern states are into country and western music than elsewhere and gospel music is popular in the Bible Belt states. Peer pressure also plays a part. You're not going to be one of the cool kids and could be a social outcast if you listen to classical music and all of your friends and classmates are into rap and gangsta music. It's not a coincidence that most kids like the same music and artists. So musical taste is as much of a sociological issue as personal preference.


It's also not a coincidence that 90% of the people who listen to rap act like it. (loud, obnoxious, ALWAYS ON SPEAKER ON THEIR PHONE INSTEAD OF USING THE HEADPHONES THEY'RE WEARING AROUND THEIR NECK, that stupid thing they do with their hand while they listen to it...

Or how so many people who listen to metal do that stupid randomly growling or yelling for no reason at all...

Your taste in music will show a lot about your personality.
 Etritonakin
Joined: 7/10/2014
Msg: 116
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 10:05:47 AM
It is also true that examining your own musical taste -likes and dislikes -can tell you a lot about yourself.



I don't agree with this statement because a person's environment has a lot of influence on musical preference. If you or I grew up in some foreign country in the Middle East or Africa, chances are we wouldn't be into the music we're currently into. We would be into something totally different.


True -and part of what I meant. Just as you get a better perspective about yourself when you travel, experience new things/people/cultures, considering your own musical preferences in reference to those of other cultures/nations/areas can help you see yourself better -even as a part of your environment. There are also things which are universal to all people and all music -which are simply expressed differently.

One can dislike certain music for reasons other than the music itself -such as having issues (valid or otherwise) with the people/environment/culture from which the music came -or associating it with something unpleasant not related to the actual music -and one may not even realize it.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 117
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 10:13:57 AM
Your taste in music will show a lot about your personality.


I don't make judgments about people simply based on what type of music they like. I know people that listen to the same music genre(s). But have very little else in common. While there are some people that listen to rap or heavy metal who act like the stereotypes you mentioned, I know plenty of other people that listen to rap or heavy metal that are quiet or have laid back personalities.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 118
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 11:47:56 AM
The music I like doesn't define me. I don't care what they like to listen to - I'm good at blocking out noise I don't care for.
I love rap. Doesn't mean I'm going to pop you in the cap, I just like it.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 119
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 3:07:13 PM
Posted by ouija2025:
"I love rap. Doesn't mean I'm going to pop you in the cap, I just like it."

I think you meant to say this:
"I love rap. Doesn't mean I'm going to bust cap in yo azz, I just like it."
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 120
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 4:14:48 PM

I think you meant to say this:
"I love rap. Doesn't mean I'm going to bust cap in yo azz, I just like it."


Advantage to being from NJ:

"Raps good. Don't mean I gonna bus a cap in yo ass, I just into that $%!&"

You're welcome.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 6:22:15 PM
I guess it's people who are frozen in time, still listening to music from a previous era. I admit I was one of those who was stuck in the 80's twenty years ago.

I remember my ex-wife trying to introduce me to the current stuff at the time (mid to late 90's) and I was close minded to it. We went to a few concerts and I began to slowly open up.

After our divorce was final in 2001, I jumped in with both feet. I'm totally into modern rock now. She probably would give me a hard time about it now because of my initial resistance to it.

I have to be in a nostalgic mood to go back further than the 90's. I have pretty much moved on to more current rock. The older stuff had its time, but it has passed for me.

 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 122
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 6:50:39 PM
I have some additional ideas for this "music as a dealbreaker" thread.
Will share them after I return from dinner with my good friend Vanilla Ice.
 Baffalobill
Joined: 6/18/2014
Msg: 123
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 7:14:13 PM
Cant believe in this day and age the narrow mindlessness that people would be defined purely based on musical taste...
Its hard enough as it is out there to find someone without having to be fearful of your musical favourites!!!

Led Zeppelin, Deep Purple ,Jimi Hendrix, Linda Ronstadt, Jethro Tull, Free, Yes,The Eagles, Crosby Stills and Nash , Allman Brothers Band ,Rolling Stones, Johnny Winter, Frank Zappa etc.

Sure I am stuck in a bit of a time warp.
Dinosaur Rock???
So what???

Beats 'Most' of what's around today anyway... Just my opinion

Doesn't mean my mind is automatically made up or that I would personally hold that against anyone!!!
What's the world coming to???
 Nj2ut
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 124
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 7:50:40 PM
Posted by ouija2025:
"I love rap. Doesn't mean I'm going to pop you in the cap, I just like it."

But alas my fellow New Jerseyans, what she really meant was:

"I wholeheartedly embrace the urban melodic sounds accompanied by gritty rhymes of ones dalliances in the inner city. This doesn't mean I am motivated to procure a firearm to launch a metallic projectile in ones buttock. I simply enjoy it."
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 125
Musical taste being a dealbreaker?
Posted: 7/26/2014 9:37:45 PM
I am one of those that like every genre. Just that some genre I like more tracts / albums than other genres.

My ex-wife like Classical, IE Luciano Pavarotti , Beethoven and Vivaldi, etc.

My current wife's favs are Pitbull, Bruno Mars, Maroon5, Blue (English band), in general things like that.

I especially like Black Sabbath, David Bowie, Eazy E, Akinyele, Harry Chapin, Phantom of the Opera, Gershwin, Pink Floyd, Eloy (German progressive rock band), Ella Fitzgerald, Black Ice, Sade, Proud Mary (Ike and Tine Turner), Tommy, The Who, The Doors. I like some Maroon5, Pitbull, Nine Inch Nails, Frank Zappa, Godsmack, a lot of others that don't come to mind. I like a lot of country music.

This weekend we were at a concert of swing, big band, jazz, Ella Fitzgerald. My wife liked it, but she liked country better and likes Maroon 5 the best.

I have about 10,000 songs on my ipod. Since I like many genres, if I meet someone with a large collection of music, I just copy it all. My next door neighbor was a trucker from the Appalachian Hills, so when I copied his collection I got a ton of country, a woman friend of mine is into Nine Inch Nails kind of music, so I have a bunch of that.

Hmm, reading the forums reminded me of 'I Think We're All Bozos on This Bus”, I have the vinyl album, but I realize now I don't have it on Itunes. Have to get it.

If someone wanted to diss me over music, no big deal as IMO she's a little off, but I doubt anyone's musical taste would bother me.
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