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 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 101
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Nope they are all Xes for a reason. GOOD reasons.

And one of them... Proof positive that if she turns out to be financially inept AND parentally challenged, all the Chemistry in the world ain't gonna fix it.
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 102
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/9/2015 3:39:54 AM
Yes.
My first love.
He was handsome, charming and worldly.
And he would need to be exactly the same.
Same age and still handsome, charming and worldly.

He still is there often in my dreams.

More descriptors:
Witty, great dancer, fabulous laugh, romantic, fabulous posture, gentleman, wonderful singing voice, practical, intelligent, caring, capable.

OK. My 20:20 hindsight has rose coloured glasses but I like my hindsight that way.

 Paladin2015
Joined: 5/29/2015
Msg: 103
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/10/2015 10:09:00 AM
Nope.....not in the cards.....rather be with someone who wants to be with me.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 104
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/10/2015 11:44:52 AM
The question is not worded quite right. The question should be:
Would you go back to an ex if the ex was willing to take you back? It would have to be a mutual agreement.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 105
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Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/10/2015 3:11:12 PM
Yup, one. (And NOT my ex)

She broke it off with me, and I'm reasonably certain I know why. But, I was unreasonably stressed out at that time by her, and other things going on in my life. So, chances are I'd be a different person to her. Maybe better?
 rose_50
Joined: 10/5/2015
Msg: 106
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/10/2015 9:33:45 PM
Not sure. I would have to remeet him and see how he is today. But most likely I just would not go back to my ex husband we are older and too set in our ways now.
 rose_50
Joined: 10/5/2015
Msg: 107
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/10/2015 9:52:00 PM
I did meet up with my ex bf(childhood sweetheart) after 40 years! That was a shocker...but really fun to meet him again after all that time. We use to be so in love. Now we have our own separate lives and we seem so different. It was good we met up because all those 40 years I often fantasized over him Now that I know who he is today.. I don't fantasize about him..... for 45 years I did for how he & I use to be...but not how we are today. Since I experienced this then it leads me to say...no I would not go back to my ex husband. People change or we saw them in a much different light. Today I ask myself if my ex bf has changed so drastically or were my eyes not open? We were very young & in love.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 108
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/10/2015 9:53:49 PM
Nope, as I no longer have any that I care about.
 pepperstrand
Joined: 1/25/2015
Msg: 109
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/11/2015 6:20:38 AM
I guess it would depend on the person. If he was sincere and treated me well then maybe. However if he was just yanking my chain on a chat only website with no contact absolutely not. I think I would be uber cautious and question the intentions of said person especially if he broke up with me.
 StarClassic
Joined: 9/29/2014
Msg: 110
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/11/2015 7:15:12 PM
There's one, but she's not an EX.

Given my most recent experience with the current ex, NOT A SNOW BALL'S CHANCE IN HELL.
 VoxClamantis
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 111
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/12/2015 11:37:45 AM
i did, but it was my fault, not hers, that she was an ex.

i had to do a little belly crawling but it was worth it.
 Viper1j
Joined: 2/6/2015
Msg: 112
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/17/2015 8:07:42 PM
Taking an ex back, is like trying to shove poo back in your butt.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 113
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/18/2015 3:27:44 AM
Usually, once a person falls out of love, the love will never come back for that person. It's called "ghostly lover"..... they think about the good times, but forget the bad, the reasons they fell out of love. Those reasons, those bad memories, will surface again if they try to get back together.

This is not the fantasy world of TV and movies. You get one chance with a person in your lifetime.
 TheEvolutionOfJessi
Joined: 8/29/2015
Msg: 114
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Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/23/2015 4:01:19 AM
I still care for all my exes (lovers, partners and husband) they all contributed to growth in my life in some way... and we've all moved on...
and never would I contemplate getting back with any of them.... and I hope I never bump into them...
In fact there's one, that I chant in the direction of his house most nights "go, be free, get the fruck off the island since you hated being here so much"

he won't though...
::le sigh::
 bAc0nflav0redbac0n
Joined: 10/10/2015
Msg: 115
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/23/2015 4:05:03 AM
No. What's in the past, at least for me, stays there.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 116
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/23/2015 8:30:11 AM
Nope. Once I've closed the door on a relationship, I don't reopen it.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 117
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/23/2015 3:03:04 PM
"Ex you really cared about"-the key here is the phrase is past tense. Cared does not mean currently care. If I do not currently care, it won't matter if the ex currently cares or doesn't care. There's a difference between missing being in a relationship, and missing being in a relationship with an ex. That's a problem a lot of people get into. They miss being in a relationship after splitting up, but if they have no other prospects waiting in the wings, they sometimes jump back in with the ex, without healing and resolving what caused them to split up in the first place.
 IrishBlues4Uv3
Joined: 8/15/2015
Msg: 118
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/24/2015 3:20:40 AM
So yesterday I received an IM from a long ago ex telling me that "in spite of our rocky relationship, she still had feelings for me to the point there had been no others since you(me)." It was '91 when we split. It was right outa left field. She was the single most passionate woman I've ever experienced but oh man could she get things wrong. If she asked, I'd check it out but carefully to make sure she's emotionally right. Had some of the very best and worst times of my life with her but the best were sublime...etched indelibly into my psyche.
We shall see...
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 119
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/24/2015 12:03:41 PM

Nope. Once I've closed the door on a relationship, I don't reopen it.

Ditto. That was then, this is now.
 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 120
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/24/2015 1:46:12 PM
I did, and it worked out great...we're engaged now.
Lived together 10 years; I did the breaking up.
Apart for a year; he did the pursuing.
He changed...I probably did too. Been back together for a year.
We talked about how we wouldn't make the same mistakes. We haven't.
We appreciate each other and what we have/had.

If you asked me that question last year I would have said "No way, no how, never have, never will".
 o0BrownEyedGirl0o
Joined: 11/12/2014
Msg: 121
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/24/2015 2:10:57 PM
^^^^
I love this story.

Never wanted to go back to any of my exes, when it was over my heart and mind shut the door. I think I made some hasty decisions, though. Too late for regrets.
 Paladin2015
Joined: 5/29/2015
Msg: 122
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/24/2015 4:58:54 PM

did, and it worked out great...we're engaged now.
Lived together 10 years; I did the breaking up.
Apart for a year; he did the pursuing.
He changed...I probably did too. Been back together for a year.
We talked about how we wouldn't make the same mistakes. We haven't.
We appreciate each other and what we have/had.

If you asked me that question last year I would have said "No way, no how, never have, never will".


So...why are you still here?

Why are you on a dating site if you guys are back together?

There are thousands of discussion forums on the net....
 o0BrownEyedGirl0o
Joined: 11/12/2014
Msg: 123
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/24/2015 5:10:50 PM
From her profile:


Consider me invisible, as my profile is hidden.
I am back with the love of my life.
Here for the forums because they're entertaining.
And insomnia. Yup.


This place would not be any fun if it was all grouchy Lonely Hearts.

I, for one, think she's great in Profile Reviews....

But you knew all this, right?
 Looking_4_her_still
Joined: 8/2/2015
Msg: 124
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/24/2015 6:48:07 PM
Past tense "cared about". Depends on circumstances.

Some people would never speak or make eye contact. Others may suck it up and follow the adage "better to be with a devil you know than one you dont". It is scary meeting new people and they need someone in their lives.

Plenty of women go back with abusive spouses, it gives them a sense of completeness.
 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 125
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/25/2015 7:02:40 AM
Thank you o0BrownEyedGirl0o.
That's very sweet of you.

Paladin,
I'm not on a dating site; I'm in a forum.
Came to the dating site when I was single 2 years ago and found the forums.
Lurked for a while, then found my place in Profile Reviews.
I've never participated in a forum before, so really have no knowledge of others.

I've met some lovely people here and enjoy helping people fix their profiles so they can meet someone wonderful.
Met my guy on Match 12 years ago...so I do believe in this.

Nobody but forum people can see me or message me...I am hidden on the dating side.
This forum is more than just about dating and I have no temptations to look for anyone.
I even changed my name.
Why is that so hard to believe?
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