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 Faeriemom03
Joined: 1/3/2012
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Dominant....ALL the way
 princessraennn
Joined: 12/20/2011
Msg: 27
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Posted: 2/9/2012 7:40:36 PM
dominate..................but compassionate also.
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Do you prefer your partner to be submissive or dominating?
Posted: 2/10/2012 7:05:29 AM
I am Dominant. And I enjoy a nice sub or slave girl.
Of course, I've also had my share of vanilla relationships, which can be quite wonderful. Though admittedly over time, the whole D/s aspect did tend to sneak into the relationship.

Some people enjoy the lifestyle, some don't. What's "normal" is just what works for each person.

I have a wonderful slave right now, and I do all that I can to make her happy.
Just because we enjoy the D/s lifestyle, doesn't mean that everything's one sided. I still devote a lot of time to just doing things she enjoys.
But remember that service is something she craves. So serving me, domestically or sexually, is something that makes her happy. So while to some vanilla folks some aspects might seem "one sided", it's really not. Because she'd be unhappy if she COULDN'T have a chance to serve.

We're seeking a special someone who might eventually join us for something lasting and long term. She wouldn't have to be someone who's as submissive as my girl. She could even be a switch, or a Domme with my girl, and more vanilla with me. We have a healthy D/s relationship, so with a third, we're open to all sorts of possibilities.
 Mozzily
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 2/10/2012 11:16:10 AM
mostly I like men to be dominating but every once in awhile I want to take control
 Mattsperro91
Joined: 7/11/2011
Msg: 30
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Posted: 2/13/2012 1:22:22 AM
I love getting shouted at haha.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Do you prefer your partner to be submissive or dominating?
Posted: 2/13/2012 12:15:47 PM
Peppermint, you can throw me down any time!
 egowitch
Joined: 6/5/2011
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Posted: 2/16/2012 12:18:56 PM
Neither - I prefer one who is open minded, and flexible enough to consider whatever we might think up together - and not be threatened by new ideas !
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
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Posted: 2/16/2012 1:23:13 PM
Niether but with a SLIGHT hint of both now and then if that makes sense to anyone?

To be perfectly honest I reckon anyone who is always one extreme or the other has issues of some kind, but as long as they find someone at the opposite extreme it seems to work out ok, but niether trait is something I find appealing in a partner and I prefer a more balanced and mutually driven type of deal
 seventiesbaby2
Joined: 2/9/2012
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Posted: 2/16/2012 2:44:46 PM
Equal is best,, I actually would love a man who was dominant. I usually am for some reason. I dont mind.. but its nice to mix it up
 AsanteSoul
Joined: 12/16/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/17/2012 12:15:01 PM
I'm usually the one dominating and destroyin' that ass..however, if she can be aggressive and show me that side of her, im down!
 MDIYM59
Joined: 1/30/2012
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Posted: 2/17/2012 5:18:47 PM
I prefer a submissive lady. Once I'm comfortable with her I don't mind her taking the lead at times. But for some reason I find submissive ladies to be a real turn on.
 honeycognac
Joined: 11/22/2010
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Posted: 2/18/2012 1:15:48 AM
To me vanilla sex is boring. Power exchange kicks up the intensity. I'm about 80% submissive. Certain people bring out my domme side and I'll take the lead with them but I get most turned on by a dominant male (alpha type). I'd never switch with the same partner.
 Nstram
Joined: 1/20/2012
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Posted: 2/18/2012 3:29:32 AM
honestly? I really could go either way. I'm normally fairly dominant just because that's the type of person i always am but i've been in both situations and the other side of the fence is fun too ;)
 prettyguyaz
Joined: 3/18/2012
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Posted: 6/25/2012 2:17:36 AM
it all depends on the person your with and how open minded to switching roles that they are.
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
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Posted: 6/25/2012 2:29:30 AM
Depends what costume they are wearing at the time, and if it is in public or not...
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 6/25/2012 3:27:37 AM
mostly dominant, in bed only
 Rexrugsnrocknroll
Joined: 4/21/2012
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Posted: 6/25/2012 8:32:11 AM
i say both, it just depends what mood im in. Once in awhile i like to play a little game. Me and my partner wrestle and whoever wins is the dominating one. I let her win sometimes.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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Posted: 6/25/2012 8:40:08 AM
I prefer them submissive.


Sometimes they have to be punished for being a bad girl.
 putmeunder
Joined: 5/10/2012
Msg: 44
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Posted: 6/25/2012 8:41:10 AM
Definitely like if they can play a specific "dominant" role, especially with their feet/shoes, and some verbal comments. =) Hard to find though!
 that1mofo
Joined: 2/11/2012
Msg: 45
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Posted: 6/25/2012 8:52:17 AM
I am very dominant, it just feels so natural to take control of a woman.

Sure, in public I behave as a gentleman should. Open doors for her, take her shoe shopping, bring her home flowers for no reason, ect.

But God I love the ego stroking of bending her to my will... and making her love it.
 Steelrain11
Joined: 12/15/2011
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Posted: 6/26/2012 3:04:15 AM
I have a very dominate personality which CAN pour over into the bedroom. I alter my bedroom persona to best compliment the woman I'm with. That can be dominate, passive, or submissive and in some cases- Aggressive; somegirls like to fight...lol
 len129
Joined: 8/22/2006
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Posted: 6/26/2012 4:45:35 AM
I think most people have some hidden fantantys of being submissive or Dom at times . From personal experience I find taking control can lead to some really exciting sex. But also showing you can be submissive can again work at times . I think exploring all areas is really worth the effort I think most women are afraid to really let go fearing how they may be judged after. I have heard older women say they missed so much .
 Missthefun78
Joined: 6/22/2012
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Posted: 6/26/2012 3:00:34 PM
Absolutely dominated not chains or whips or anything but it makes me so hot for a man to take control
 sunshinebridge2U
Joined: 4/13/2012
Msg: 49
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Posted: 6/26/2012 5:11:33 PM
Good question - I had to think about this. Yes. I honestly prefer my partner to be dominant. However, I take a certain amount of joy in being able to sweet talk someone out of their position, especially when they are saying: "NO WAY! I will NEVER let you tie me up, NEVER!!!!! I would have to be totally passed out drunk before I let you do that" . . . .

Oh darling, we'll just have to see about that one - won't we.
 Maggie__x
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 50
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Posted: 6/26/2012 9:06:53 PM
I like being both. A lot of the time I like to be dominated. Nothing like being a little rough.
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