but how could she lean into you and whisper in your ear so you'd know she was interested? b/c that was some sage advice a while back
I also made it very clear the woman needs to enjoy that particular atmosphere. I figured it went without saying the man would have to enjoy it, as well. It is not passive behavior, either. Having her touch me is simply a byproduct in all of this, and it begins almost immediately as we start conversing.
My whole point in that particular post was, don't avoid this scenario just because a lame textbook "dating expert" or an out of touch, dateless old fart said you should. Take the *common sense* approach of finding what each other likes beforehand.