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 therdtymesachrm
Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 51
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So Pedro Bear please let us know the source of the statistics you quoted in your posts. Oh wait let me guess..you pulled them out of your a**. That's about as much validity as those have..
 red_fir
Joined: 11/21/2011
Msg: 52
Do You Google?
Posted: 2/22/2012 2:40:40 AM
If you do Google people its not something you should admit to, it presents the distinct stalkerish, control freak syndrome.
Kinda like going to a neighbors house and seeing a telescope pointed towards your window, it may be legal but far from neighborly.
 PamiOakley
Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 53
Do You Google?
Posted: 2/24/2012 6:05:44 PM
I google. I once googled a man who had been arrested for assault against a girlfriend. Another man had arrests for violating restraining orders. My chooser must be broken!!! LOL Seriously... find out their last name and google them.
 URXO2
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 54
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Posted: 2/24/2012 6:35:13 PM
Google can be a hit and miss thing, most States have public access to court records, if you have the REAL name from that point you can find if s/he is really divorced has a criminal record, outstanding uncollected debt , warrants, property, etc.

you can run mine, I’m cleaner than a boy scout, but I’ll agree about the Skeletons thing, if you get to picky you might miss someone worthwhile..
 PamiOakley
Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 55
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Posted: 2/24/2012 7:00:09 PM
@ urxo2...

What's too picky?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 56
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Posted: 2/25/2012 7:30:27 AM

PamiOakley:
What's too picky?


As a for instance, I was arrested once, when I was 19 and in college. I had altered my driver's license (Date Of Birth), so that I could buy beer. Here on POF, I exchanged a few emails with a woman who it turned out worked for Homeland Security. As soon as she got my last name, she ran a criminal background check, and asked me to "explain my criminal record". I dropped her like a hot rock. I mean, a misdemeanor more than 40 years ago, and I should "explain my criminal record"???
 URXO2
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 57
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Posted: 2/25/2012 11:36:51 AM
What's too picky?

That would be up to the individual, but I think Ohenryx has given a good example..

heck at this point I might become pen pals with a gal in prison, as long as her name isn’t Lorana Bobbit.. lol
 Surprise_ Package
Joined: 10/26/2009
Msg: 58
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Posted: 2/25/2012 8:57:47 PM
always.... also google their user name it brings up all kinds of interesting things
 PamiOakley
Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 59
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Posted: 2/26/2012 7:01:18 PM
It never ever dawned on me to google a user name. That's interesting. Something I obviously will try! Thank you!
 ctqtbbwkat
Joined: 1/8/2011
Msg: 60
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Posted: 2/29/2012 7:58:43 AM
My best story is a younger guy wanted to meet me. His intial email address was a 'friends'. After a few back and forth emails, he gave me his real email & real first name.

I googled the email address, found his last name via facebook. And from his name, I found an NYTimes article he was interviewed for. The picture in the article looked like his picture on Facebook. He was a repentant, ex-con, former crack head, who scammed old people via a wall street boiler room.

So, I told him he was too young, and hope to leave it at that. He replied that I was rude. So I sent him the link to the newspaper article picture, and commented it was a very nice picture. He wasVERY UPSET that I googled him and called me a "creep".
I had a good laugh over him.
 cheryl1229
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 61
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Posted: 3/10/2012 10:26:58 AM
I don't Google before the first meet. I just try to use ordinary care in meetups (after a couple that I let my guard down). If I have chemistry with someone, and we decide to pursue a relationship, then I might, because my picker is "off" sometimes.

But, some of the worst people I dated, that had the most jealousy issues or turned out to be borderline psychos, had clean records on Google. They didn't post their craziness online anywhere, and apparently were never arrested for the stuff they did wrong.

I'm with the group that says use it as a tool, not a final deal-breaker. Unless there is undisputable proof of what you've found (like a photo with the prison record, or facebook pages that clearly define that this is the same person).
 charlie_girl_2
Joined: 1/2/2010
Msg: 62
Do You Google?
Posted: 3/12/2012 11:58:55 AM
Nope! Just Giggle!
 Ingemouse
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 63
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Posted: 3/12/2012 1:33:47 PM
Sure do. a guy I was very attracted to after emailing and phoning for several months invited me to go to the Mediterranean with him. He gave me a first name and some details of his life that were actually true. But no last name, what the heck?! So I Googled his phone number, payed the little fee from one of the services and found out his name.I sat on that info for another month, hinting strongly that I needed I'm to share more of himself with me, especially something as essential as a last name, since I had agreed to go on this trip with him.

I finally got disgusted and told him I knew what his name was and he went ballistic. He wasn't married, wasn't a criminal, had no issues he really needed to hide that I knew of anyway. Well that relationship ended with a bang, such a pity as it was so good and couldve gotten even better with some trust and respect. He was a professional and very concerned about his career, still didn't make any sense to me, what did he think I would do, call his boss? So weird.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 64
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Posted: 3/12/2012 2:12:32 PM

Sure do. a guy I was very attracted to after emailing and phoning for several months invited me to go to the Mediterranean with him. He gave me a first name and some details of his life that were actually true. But no last name, what the heck?! So I Googled his phone number, payed the little fee from one of the services and found out his name.I sat on that info for another month, hinting strongly that I needed I'm to share more of himself with me, especially something as essential as a last name, since I had agreed to go on this trip with him.
I finally got disgusted and told him I knew what his name was and he went ballistic. He wasn't married, wasn't a criminal, had no issues he really needed to hide that I knew of anyway. Well that relationship ended with a bang, such a pity as it was so good and couldve gotten even better with some trust and respect. He was a professional and very concerned about his career, still didn't make any sense to me, what did he think I would do, call his boss? So weird.


I think you dodged a bullet...I do not think it had anything to so with any career, nor would it have gotten any better.. There was some skeleton in his closet that was buried there.
 Triumph800rider
Joined: 10/10/2009
Msg: 65
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Posted: 3/12/2012 2:38:43 PM
Don't just Google the person's last name or phone number. Google their username. I found people who also had profiles on swinger sites, one with a homemade porn movie and a few on std dating sites. Of course, none of this was mentioned on their pof accounts.
 bronzcoco
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 66
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Posted: 3/12/2012 6:33:46 PM
If I am able to, I will Google either a phone number or full name. A few days ago, I received a phone number from a gentleman on this site and found his website for his business. He confirmed that the site was indeed his, plus his photo was on the site. His website not only provided me with proof that the age on his profile was incorrect (he is much older), but his bio on his site states that he is married. So, I was able to find out that he was being dishonest before I had the misfortune of meeting him in person. I highly recommend Googling someone before allowing them to enter your life.
 valleyguyaz
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 67
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Posted: 3/13/2012 4:33:10 AM
i would never chjeck someone online without having a good reason to.why bother taking a chance on someone when your not giving them a chance from the start.if people would stop living in past bad relationships and/or stop doing the same dumb things over and over again then just maybe you would not have to google or facebook their names or do a background check.there are plenty of people who have made mistakes and paid the price.if we never let it go all were doing is making the bad people worse because they know they can't ever get a fresh start because of past mistakes.

what about the less than honorable people out there who just so happen to appear clean .those without facebook profiles and those who have yet to be caught for criminal acts,etc.?

if people enjoy doing this more pwer to them i'm for second chances.i'm for giving others the benefit of the doubt.

 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 68
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Posted: 3/13/2012 12:56:07 PM
LOL

Google my name and you will find that I am a rich artist. Funny thing is, I can't remember the last time someone paid that much money for my stick figure drawings.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 69
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Posted: 3/13/2012 6:35:26 PM
YES!! I Google. And I check the sex offender registry and DontDateHim.com. I had a niece murdered by a sex offender on parole and I used to sell personal safety products (pepper sprays, stun guns, etc.) to people who put on self-defense classes, so for me it is a matter of safety to do a pre-check.

Google has stopped me from going out with a few weirdos who seemed nice but who had restraining orders for domestic assault or lied about their age or were serious perverts...omg, you would not believe this one guy's history!

Before meeting someone, ask for their first and last name. If they won't give it to you or if they tell you not to Google them, then that is a huge red flag that you should not go out with him.
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 70
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Posted: 4/7/2012 12:01:55 PM
So a man without a posted picture (per my profile request) just contacted me--(not sure how he got around my restrictions) I replied he had to have a posted picture so he uses the chat feature and I repeated that and blocked him--i got another chat request and it said he had posted pictures on his facebook account--I quickly went there to see how the man has mental issues and he is court ordered not to contact his children and how he physically harmed his ex-wife. Imagine the mess it could have been to not know this information (the fact the stuff is posted on his profile and he leaves it shows the mental process isnt working well). At times like these I wish everyone only had one online profile and they were all linked together--it would eliminate all the unnecessary surprises.
 ~1happywoman~
Joined: 9/20/2006
Msg: 71
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Posted: 4/7/2012 1:48:24 PM
I haven't always known the last name of a person I've met. I think this is because we have gotten into talking and getting to know each other as people, first. To me, meeting someone for a drink or coffee - and then going out somewhere, doing things together - are more important than knowing a last name and rushing home to Google them or do a background check. One or two dates does not make a lifetime of committment! (And I dated one man who DID feel that way after the second date - told me he considered it "cheating" if I had any sort of contact with other men. There was no third date, to say the least. Gosh, I didn't even Google that one! And he had custody of his 5 kids, was employed by the city where he lived, owned a home, etc.) I'm pretty up front about myself, and I guess that comes from life experiences: I was robbed at knifepoint and threatened with my life about 15 years ago- broad daylight and on my way to work. I decided I could life my life in fear from that point on, or carry on and not be afraid of the world. While I wouldn't say I'm reckless, I don't feel the need to check people out on the internet. I really think people will reveal themselves to be who and what they are soon enough and I'm in no hurry.
 tuloa942
Joined: 2/21/2012
Msg: 72
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Posted: 4/7/2012 2:39:12 PM
Do I google? Absolutely. Mostly out of curiosity but also for the safety factor. And I always tell the other person that I have done it.
 pinkroses27288
Joined: 5/22/2012
Msg: 73
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Posted: 6/6/2012 1:36:36 PM
How do you remove a google document from the google search engine that isnt yours ? Some idiot put my name and last name into a google domcument and now every time i type my name into the search engine this document appears with my info! I am upset!! Can anyone help me please? I would really appreciate it.
 tbicon
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 74
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Posted: 6/6/2012 2:13:17 PM
I recently learned . . from these boards, that you can put a photo into Google images, and it will come back with similar photos found on the Web.

My photo I have used to contact a few people here, on friend terms, is the same I use on facebook. So now I know that some people here know who I am if they choose to do so.

I just hope the people I have personally contacted have discretion. I am sure they do or I would not have been contacting them.

The point being that if the photo you use here is elsewhere on the web, say facebook, you will show up. Even if its not an exact photo, the software can do a decent job of finding you. Its pretty amazing how little privacy we now have in the world. People can defame you, pretty much with impunity these days.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 75
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Posted: 6/6/2012 3:56:18 PM
I never used to but after some things I learned last weekend from an acquaintance, I am definitely going to in the future. She had a date lined up with one guy and she Googled him to find a picture of him passed out drunk in the back of a police car wearing Valentine boxer shorts, needless to say, she never met him. She even kept the picture on her phone for show and tell.

She also met a cop, whose ex-girlfriend was found murdered and they were on the verge of getting back together. Not knowing what to say, she told him to call if he needed to talk. During some of their conversations, he had been indited and fired for a part in a scandal and he had ratted out others in the department and did time. After so many stories I've heard, I am seriously considering pulling my profile as online dating allows for the propagation of liars and scumbags.
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