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 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 76
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So a man without a posted picture (per my profile request) just contacted me--(not sure how he got around my restrictions) I replied he had to have a posted picture so he uses the chat feature and I repeated that and blocked him--i got another chat request and it said he had posted pictures on his facebook account--I quickly went there to see how the man has mental issues and he is court ordered not to contact his children and how he physically harmed his ex-wife. Imagine the mess it could have been to not know this information (the fact the stuff is posted on his profile and he leaves it shows the mental process isnt working well). At times like these I wish everyone only had one online profile and they were all linked together--it would eliminate all the unnecessary surprises.
 ~1happywoman~
Joined: 9/20/2006
Msg: 77
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Posted: 4/7/2012 1:48:24 PM
I haven't always known the last name of a person I've met. I think this is because we have gotten into talking and getting to know each other as people, first. To me, meeting someone for a drink or coffee - and then going out somewhere, doing things together - are more important than knowing a last name and rushing home to Google them or do a background check. One or two dates does not make a lifetime of committment! (And I dated one man who DID feel that way after the second date - told me he considered it "cheating" if I had any sort of contact with other men. There was no third date, to say the least. Gosh, I didn't even Google that one! And he had custody of his 5 kids, was employed by the city where he lived, owned a home, etc.) I'm pretty up front about myself, and I guess that comes from life experiences: I was robbed at knifepoint and threatened with my life about 15 years ago- broad daylight and on my way to work. I decided I could life my life in fear from that point on, or carry on and not be afraid of the world. While I wouldn't say I'm reckless, I don't feel the need to check people out on the internet. I really think people will reveal themselves to be who and what they are soon enough and I'm in no hurry.
 tuloa942
Joined: 2/21/2012
Msg: 78
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Posted: 4/7/2012 2:39:12 PM
Do I google? Absolutely. Mostly out of curiosity but also for the safety factor. And I always tell the other person that I have done it.
 pinkroses27288
Joined: 5/22/2012
Msg: 79
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Posted: 6/6/2012 1:36:36 PM
How do you remove a google document from the google search engine that isnt yours ? Some idiot put my name and last name into a google domcument and now every time i type my name into the search engine this document appears with my info! I am upset!! Can anyone help me please? I would really appreciate it.
 tbicon
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 80
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Posted: 6/6/2012 2:13:17 PM
I recently learned . . from these boards, that you can put a photo into Google images, and it will come back with similar photos found on the Web.

My photo I have used to contact a few people here, on friend terms, is the same I use on facebook. So now I know that some people here know who I am if they choose to do so.

I just hope the people I have personally contacted have discretion. I am sure they do or I would not have been contacting them.

The point being that if the photo you use here is elsewhere on the web, say facebook, you will show up. Even if its not an exact photo, the software can do a decent job of finding you. Its pretty amazing how little privacy we now have in the world. People can defame you, pretty much with impunity these days.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 81
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Posted: 6/6/2012 3:56:18 PM
I never used to but after some things I learned last weekend from an acquaintance, I am definitely going to in the future. She had a date lined up with one guy and she Googled him to find a picture of him passed out drunk in the back of a police car wearing Valentine boxer shorts, needless to say, she never met him. She even kept the picture on her phone for show and tell.

She also met a cop, whose ex-girlfriend was found murdered and they were on the verge of getting back together. Not knowing what to say, she told him to call if he needed to talk. During some of their conversations, he had been indited and fired for a part in a scandal and he had ratted out others in the department and did time. After so many stories I've heard, I am seriously considering pulling my profile as online dating allows for the propagation of liars and scumbags.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 82
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Posted: 6/6/2012 4:04:14 PM
Creepy.



What if a guy googled you before meeting up, just to make sure you aren't a creep/psycho/stalker etc.


That's ok?
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 83
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Posted: 6/6/2012 6:21:13 PM

What if a guy googled you before meeting up, just to make sure you aren't a creep/psycho/stalker etc.

That's fine with me as I am not harboring anything shady, Google only brings up where I work and my Facebook, that only my friends can read anyway, and I will not friend anyone I don't know.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 84
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Posted: 6/6/2012 6:27:04 PM
If you google my name, it brings up a mountain of information on a George Bush stooge who ran numbers sham companies into the ground whilst presumably funneling train cars full of money through said companies.
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 85
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Posted: 6/6/2012 7:48:13 PM

Creepy.



What if a guy googled you before meeting up, just to make sure you aren't a creep/psycho/stalker etc.


That's ok?


I think it is an awesome idea--I gladly give my facebook link cause I want someone to know who I am and if I am not who they are interested in--then saves me the time and trouble of meeting them. We should be adults and the only people I have come across who with held info were ones who had reasons --and not good reasons--like wives etc.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 86
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Posted: 6/7/2012 10:38:54 AM
I googled a man that was on this site and was horrified to learn that he had defrauded a social service agency out of thousands of dollars....while he was the head of it.
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 87
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Posted: 6/7/2012 4:50:33 PM
I haven't met anyone worth googling, but if I did maybe I would.
 ronosaurus
Joined: 7/22/2007
Msg: 88
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Posted: 6/10/2012 7:43:06 PM
I just googled myself and found that I died in 1978.
 imrrc
Joined: 5/20/2012
Msg: 89
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Posted: 6/11/2012 5:16:36 PM
I would not google someone I met on here., but it sounds like your guy has something to hide.

I am moving soon, and have been emailing (offsite) a woman I met on here. I know her name, like her enough and she has given me no reason to 'check her out'. IIt would make me feel like a creep when meeting her face to face the first time.
The only time I do google someone is when I have to make a sales call, and I can do a little recon on the person. Find something to make a connection with them, it may help get a contract signed. Or if I put something for sale on craigslist and their email questioning me sounds a little odd.
 Portlanderr
Joined: 9/29/2010
Msg: 90
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Posted: 6/14/2012 3:58:41 AM
I never used to Google a man I met here, but I do now.

Last fall I met a man and we each only knew each other's first names. We met, got along very well, and made future plans to see each other. We also shared each other's full names.

The next day I Googled his name because I thought I would find pictures of him playing the guitar with friends (he said a lot of pics were taken and posted on line), and guess what I found . . . HIS MUG SHOT! Yup, he was a convicted sex offender, I found an article in a newspaper where neighbors were upset that a recently released sex offender had moved into their neighborhood, his "offense" was against a child under the age of 13! I guess he forgot to tell me that info about him, his jail time, why he "retired" early, etc.

So now I Google -- most men share their last names with me before we meet, and they encourage me to check them out.
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 91
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:35:04 AM
Just googled myself.
Found out I am not myself.
hahaha!
Someone else with my name is me instead.
Lord, there's an army of them!
Pages and pages.. never did find someone who was me that I recognized.
 ronosaurus
Joined: 7/22/2007
Msg: 92
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:43:11 AM
Several years ago I saw a recommendation on a dating site to do a web search on any internet contacts. Out of curiosity, I did a search on my own name and found a family name genealogy web site where I appeared in a family tree. They offered DNA analysis services for linking blood relatives and since then I have been discovering some of
my American cousins.
At that time I was corresponding with a lady who described her lineage as part American blue-blood and part European mongrel. I knew I matched her on the European mongrel part, but I'm still waiting to hear if I match her on the American blue-blood part!
 RuralUrbanNZ
Joined: 8/26/2012
Msg: 93
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Posted: 9/8/2012 7:55:01 PM
Googled a couple of times - and was able to keep myself out of hot water.

When I am googled, it only comes up with articles I have written.

so be it.
 bella0800
Joined: 1/1/2010
Msg: 94
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Posted: 9/8/2012 10:13:22 PM
try this app "Been Verified"
 Debyduz_
Joined: 5/4/2012
Msg: 95
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Posted: 9/9/2012 6:46:17 AM
I google. I try to verify stories they tell and I check the sex offenders list and public court system. Example Many of the scammers use stories about being widowed. I have yet to verify any as being true.

One guy I was going to meet was charged with spousal abuse but the charges were dropped. He told me the story up front which sounded reasonable, but it was quite suspicious that he was giving her everything she wanted and they were only married 2 years. Later he took an aggressive stance over something so I wrote him off.

Another guy once told me a stupid story about how he was not allowed to visit his sister. I then looked him up and he was convicted of child porn and molesting. Probably the niece. he told me many stories that I was able to verify.He had a real good game. Not good enough though.

My neighbors niece had a baby with a guy who was going to jail for supposed child porn charges. she is like 23ish and borderline retarded. I looked him up and he is a convicted child rapist. He is also 39 years old. I stopped talking to my friend because no one in the family has tried to protect the niece. Worse they diminish the guys crimes to child porn. That charge would not be acceptable either.

And I welcome potential dates to google me. They will only find that I have a lead foot and a legitimate business.

If a person is honest they have no reason to hide. I don't go meet guys unless I have first and last name address and phone and picture. I leave this information where it can be accessed and tell people close to me where I am going and where the info can be found. If a guy is not comfortable with this then I don't need to meet him.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 96
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Posted: 9/9/2012 10:54:28 AM
I do not think it is wrong to Google anyone that you are interested in dating. Prior to the internet, people usually met through friends, family, or work, and one was able to gauge a potential mates' reputation within this context. Today, more people are meeting via the internet, and they are meeting people that do not share their social circles. For this reason, with out the social sanctioning of friends, family, and work colleagues, one has to vouch for the person on their own. That is where Google comes in. Why risk dating someone who is married or a con man/woman?
 philologia
Joined: 12/29/2010
Msg: 97
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Posted: 9/9/2012 10:56:22 PM
Debydu_z, I agree with you. I always google. Why would someone NOT check out a person they were dating or about to date.

I also encourage people I am going to meet to google me. I'll even tell them my married name so they can get the full scoop.

Your last paragraph is vital, we need to protect ourselves.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 98
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Posted: 9/10/2012 6:08:31 AM
I see a few on this thread insist that they won't meet someone without first and last name. But on other threads, I see quite a few say they won't provide a last name until they've been on at least a couple of dates. Personally, I have never been asked my last name before a first meet from this site. I'm not sure how I would respond to such a request.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 99
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Posted: 9/10/2012 6:30:49 PM

So..I am curious to know..do you Google? And do you always know the last name of the person you are meeting?


I haven't in the past. Not long ago I met a guy online with whom I really hit it off. I didn't know hardly anything about him, he seemed to come out of the blue, so my friends asked, well, have you googled him. I hadn't. When I finally found out the correct spelling of his last name . . . well, first there was a registered sex offender with the same name. Fortunately, there was a photo and a description and it obviously wasn't him. Then there was an arsonist. Again, there was a photo and I was pretty certain it wasn't him, though I was trying to imagine the guy with a beard. And then I found him. He hadn't told me much about himself and it turned out he was in an occupation that was a total and complete surprise. I was a little freaked out at first but it all got settled out.

What will I do the next time? I don't know, but if a guy said to me, "You don't have to google me," I'd be googling him next time I'm at the computer.
 DOUGIEFRESH66
Joined: 3/11/2005
Msg: 100
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Posted: 9/10/2012 8:30:58 PM
lol nice!!! thats using your noodle!!
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