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 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 87
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I haven't met anyone worth googling, but if I did maybe I would.
 ronosaurus
Joined: 7/22/2007
Msg: 88
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Posted: 6/10/2012 7:43:06 PM
I just googled myself and found that I died in 1978.
 imrrc
Joined: 5/20/2012
Msg: 89
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Posted: 6/11/2012 5:16:36 PM
I would not google someone I met on here., but it sounds like your guy has something to hide.

I am moving soon, and have been emailing (offsite) a woman I met on here. I know her name, like her enough and she has given me no reason to 'check her out'. IIt would make me feel like a creep when meeting her face to face the first time.
The only time I do google someone is when I have to make a sales call, and I can do a little recon on the person. Find something to make a connection with them, it may help get a contract signed. Or if I put something for sale on craigslist and their email questioning me sounds a little odd.
 Portlanderr
Joined: 9/29/2010
Msg: 90
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Posted: 6/14/2012 3:58:41 AM
I never used to Google a man I met here, but I do now.

Last fall I met a man and we each only knew each other's first names. We met, got along very well, and made future plans to see each other. We also shared each other's full names.

The next day I Googled his name because I thought I would find pictures of him playing the guitar with friends (he said a lot of pics were taken and posted on line), and guess what I found . . . HIS MUG SHOT! Yup, he was a convicted sex offender, I found an article in a newspaper where neighbors were upset that a recently released sex offender had moved into their neighborhood, his "offense" was against a child under the age of 13! I guess he forgot to tell me that info about him, his jail time, why he "retired" early, etc.

So now I Google -- most men share their last names with me before we meet, and they encourage me to check them out.
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 91
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:35:04 AM
Just googled myself.
Found out I am not myself.
hahaha!
Someone else with my name is me instead.
Lord, there's an army of them!
Pages and pages.. never did find someone who was me that I recognized.
 ronosaurus
Joined: 7/22/2007
Msg: 92
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:43:11 AM
Several years ago I saw a recommendation on a dating site to do a web search on any internet contacts. Out of curiosity, I did a search on my own name and found a family name genealogy web site where I appeared in a family tree. They offered DNA analysis services for linking blood relatives and since then I have been discovering some of
my American cousins.
At that time I was corresponding with a lady who described her lineage as part American blue-blood and part European mongrel. I knew I matched her on the European mongrel part, but I'm still waiting to hear if I match her on the American blue-blood part!
 RuralUrbanNZ
Joined: 8/26/2012
Msg: 93
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Posted: 9/8/2012 7:55:01 PM
Googled a couple of times - and was able to keep myself out of hot water.

When I am googled, it only comes up with articles I have written.

so be it.
 bella0800
Joined: 1/1/2010
Msg: 94
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Posted: 9/8/2012 10:13:22 PM
try this app "Been Verified"
 Debyduz_
Joined: 5/4/2012
Msg: 95
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Posted: 9/9/2012 6:46:17 AM
I google. I try to verify stories they tell and I check the sex offenders list and public court system. Example Many of the scammers use stories about being widowed. I have yet to verify any as being true.

One guy I was going to meet was charged with spousal abuse but the charges were dropped. He told me the story up front which sounded reasonable, but it was quite suspicious that he was giving her everything she wanted and they were only married 2 years. Later he took an aggressive stance over something so I wrote him off.

Another guy once told me a stupid story about how he was not allowed to visit his sister. I then looked him up and he was convicted of child porn and molesting. Probably the niece. he told me many stories that I was able to verify.He had a real good game. Not good enough though.

My neighbors niece had a baby with a guy who was going to jail for supposed child porn charges. she is like 23ish and borderline retarded. I looked him up and he is a convicted child rapist. He is also 39 years old. I stopped talking to my friend because no one in the family has tried to protect the niece. Worse they diminish the guys crimes to child porn. That charge would not be acceptable either.

And I welcome potential dates to google me. They will only find that I have a lead foot and a legitimate business.

If a person is honest they have no reason to hide. I don't go meet guys unless I have first and last name address and phone and picture. I leave this information where it can be accessed and tell people close to me where I am going and where the info can be found. If a guy is not comfortable with this then I don't need to meet him.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 96
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Posted: 9/9/2012 10:54:28 AM
I do not think it is wrong to Google anyone that you are interested in dating. Prior to the internet, people usually met through friends, family, or work, and one was able to gauge a potential mates' reputation within this context. Today, more people are meeting via the internet, and they are meeting people that do not share their social circles. For this reason, with out the social sanctioning of friends, family, and work colleagues, one has to vouch for the person on their own. That is where Google comes in. Why risk dating someone who is married or a con man/woman?
 philologia
Joined: 12/29/2010
Msg: 97
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Posted: 9/9/2012 10:56:22 PM
Debydu_z, I agree with you. I always google. Why would someone NOT check out a person they were dating or about to date.

I also encourage people I am going to meet to google me. I'll even tell them my married name so they can get the full scoop.

Your last paragraph is vital, we need to protect ourselves.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 98
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Posted: 9/10/2012 6:08:31 AM
I see a few on this thread insist that they won't meet someone without first and last name. But on other threads, I see quite a few say they won't provide a last name until they've been on at least a couple of dates. Personally, I have never been asked my last name before a first meet from this site. I'm not sure how I would respond to such a request.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 9/10/2012 6:30:49 PM

So..I am curious to know..do you Google? And do you always know the last name of the person you are meeting?


I haven't in the past. Not long ago I met a guy online with whom I really hit it off. I didn't know hardly anything about him, he seemed to come out of the blue, so my friends asked, well, have you googled him. I hadn't. When I finally found out the correct spelling of his last name . . . well, first there was a registered sex offender with the same name. Fortunately, there was a photo and a description and it obviously wasn't him. Then there was an arsonist. Again, there was a photo and I was pretty certain it wasn't him, though I was trying to imagine the guy with a beard. And then I found him. He hadn't told me much about himself and it turned out he was in an occupation that was a total and complete surprise. I was a little freaked out at first but it all got settled out.

What will I do the next time? I don't know, but if a guy said to me, "You don't have to google me," I'd be googling him next time I'm at the computer.
 DOUGIEFRESH66
Joined: 3/11/2005
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Posted: 9/10/2012 8:30:58 PM
lol nice!!! thats using your noodle!!
 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 101
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Posted: 9/11/2012 1:48:57 PM
absoulutely i google..usually (last name) comes from the caller id when we speak on the phone..usually i'm checking their age and where they came from..and usually they are lying about their age..:-(
There are other websites as well..that are free and give some interesting info..ie: Linekin, etc..
 Plenty_of_FreeTime
Joined: 10/26/2011
Msg: 102
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Posted: 9/11/2012 2:04:55 PM
Everyday with a swig of Listerine!
 Sniper308
Joined: 10/21/2004
Msg: 103
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Posted: 9/11/2012 2:29:20 PM
Google, Intelius, Spokeo... and anything else available to me. Forum posts on various websites, group affiliations, credit history, criminal history, professional background... whatever it takes to screen out the bunny boilers.
 Notricksters
Joined: 7/22/2011
Msg: 104
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Posted: 9/11/2012 3:32:48 PM
You can get into the lot of free sites - but to really get to the bottom of the info there is always a charge. I'm over 60 and on a fixed income --any other "completely" free sites to check on??
 Sniper308
Joined: 10/21/2004
Msg: 105
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Posted: 9/11/2012 7:41:16 PM
You can get into the lot of free sites - but to really get to the bottom of the info there is always a charge. I'm over 60 and on a fixed income --any other "completely" free sites to check on??


Ma'am: If you shop around, I think you'll find that -- for a very low fee -- you can get fairly good, though "basic," reports that are usually bang-for-buck better than what you get from the "free" sites. You can, of course, glean enough information from the free sites if you hit enough of them, following up on the bits and crumbs they provide. I love research and investigative work, so I don't mind the extra effort -- but when it's someone in whom I'm interested for one reason or another, I spend a few bucks and check them out. Intelius, for example, provides a decent report for a low cost but, for more money (which you don't have lots of) you can get things like arrest records and bankruptcies. Spokeo provides a lot of location information, and provides leads on family members. (It also provides "current" information for DEAD people... Spokeo doesn't seem to understand "death" very well... but it's still a useful tool if you keep its limitations in mind.)

Before you meet someone, you've probably got an idea of their interests and such. From that information, you can often find their "footprints" on the Internet... or "hometown newspaper" articles about them (e.g., marathons, various civic events, et cetera, in which they may have participated). Things like that. If you know their hometown, you can check sites like Classmates.com for any mentions of them. The possibilities for intel are almost endless. The only hitches you have to take into consideration is how current any given piece of information is and how accurate it is. If, for example, you come across nasty comments from ex wives or girlfriends who are bitter... well, you have to "weight" the value of what you read accordingly.

Short of hiring a private investigator, these are some things you can do on your own when checking someone out. Decades ago, dating was simpler (or at least it seems that way by today's standards). Now, I just take it for granted every woman is another Lorena Bobbitt or a bunny boiler until I prove to myself otherwise. Not very trusting, I know, but that's how it is.
 Notricksters
Joined: 7/22/2011
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Posted: 9/12/2012 5:54:14 AM
Sniper - great suggestions, thanks. I also love to do the research & investigations! One man I had been seeing a few years (I had red flags) ago, I found a photo of him & his family! What a liar, & I contacted his Pastor & suggested he visit his member of his congregation. Funny - haven't heard from him since - & he's no longer on POF :).
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 107
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Posted: 9/12/2012 6:05:56 AM
No Trick, ther eis NO GUARANTEE that just cuz a man comes up clean in various pay & non pay background sites that he is NOT a creep, a perv, a liar, a mean person, a fuddy-duddy, or just a basic nice guy but not commitment minded...I'd try going to senior events or free senior dating sites as well...
 Sniper308
Joined: 10/21/2004
Msg: 108
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Posted: 9/12/2012 8:01:40 AM
[there is] NO GUARANTEE that just [because] a man comes up clean in various pay & non pay background sites that he is NOT a creep, a perv, a liar, a mean person, a fuddy-duddy, or just a basic nice guy but not commitment minded


Good disclaimer. Notricksters, you do need to realize that just because you don't find dirt on someone, it doesn't mean there isn't any (dirt). Third-party referrals are still one of the best ways to meet people. As one poster pointed out previously, though, more people are meeting through the Internet instead of these referrals, so you have to do your own research... but it's still a "buyer beware" (or in this case, "dater beware") situation.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 109
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Posted: 9/14/2012 2:34:05 PM
I so agree, sniper! I have no problem showing my current PA state police clearance, FBI clearance, etc., if it's asked for.
 JacquelineAviles
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Posted: 9/14/2012 4:44:59 PM
enjoy and google all night if you want to. Ill stay up all night with ya lol
 costco2012
Joined: 9/7/2012
Msg: 111
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Posted: 9/14/2012 5:44:00 PM
I never Google, I use Yahoo.

But beside that point I guess I trust in my instincts and meeting in a public place.
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