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 HeartOn64
Joined: 2/9/2012
Msg: 26
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Its okay assuming all you want is the sex; but don't expect these young guys to be around too long after they get bored with you! As long as you understand that then its no problem!



LOL....ok if you say so.
Written by a 51 year old man who doesn't appreciate the competition.
That reality can happen with someone of any age!I've been with my S/O for the past 3 years.6 year age difference,me being older.I guess by your generalization,I should be preparing myself for his "inevitable exit" because the only reason he lives with me is for the sex? (As If older women aren't loveable? Come on!)

That would be ironic as all hell since I'm only with him for the sex! Not.
But damn if it isn't part of why we are together!~
I don't imagine myself with anyone older than me since I have a choice!

Silly man.Women of all ages have alot more to offer than our bodies.
Maybe your attitude towards women is in part why you are single.
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 27
Older Woman Younger Man
Posted: 2/20/2012 4:47:13 AM
Yew:
As if there is nothing in between?



BeeRad:
What exactly?


Well what I meant is that there is something in between very young and old and wrinkled. Those are not the only 2 options. There are still men in between those 2 stages of life, that are looking and performing pretty darn well.
My own experiences with guys younger than me by more than 10 yrs, has not been too good. I need more than eye candy to get off, and they seem to think that their muscles and 6 packs should be adequate to do the trick.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 28
Older Woman Younger Man
Posted: 2/20/2012 8:00:21 AM
When I was in my 20s I dated women in their 40's. I should correct that. I had two long relationships with women in their 40's. We were VERY compatible. The only issue that came up was my own biological clock. When I hit 30 I realized that I did want children as she was sending hers off to college. That is where I decided I needed to end it and it was not easy, because I did love her and did enjoy her company.

I would not buy into the BS about "getting bored with you". If you want long term, just look at his life situation and realize that even though he might say he doesn't want kids of his own (if he does not), that may change as it did with me.

BTW, even today at 44, I still prefer the company of an older woman. Currently dating a 50 year old and loving it.

And yes, the older women get, the better they seem to be in bed!!!!!
Never afraid to state their wants and desires, always horny, and menopause means no more worries about getting pregnant!!!!
 BeeRad82
Joined: 1/27/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 2/20/2012 1:01:19 PM

Well what I meant is that there is something in between very young and old and wrinkled. Those are not the only 2 options. There are still men in between those 2 stages of life, that are looking and performing pretty darn well.
My own experiences with guys younger than me by more than 10 yrs, has not been too good. I need more than eye candy to get off, and they seem to think that their muscles and 6 packs should be adequate to do the trick.


Well, I said it was a prevailing thought, not an accurate one.
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 30
Older Woman Younger Man
Posted: 2/20/2012 1:50:32 PM
I am so uncomfortable with guys the same age as my kids. I did my wild oats sowing when I was younger NOW I would like to sit in an rocking chair get grey and yell at the grand kids. It would be nice to be an old lady to an old man.
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 31
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Posted: 2/20/2012 4:40:42 PM
To thine own self be true... as long as it's legal.
 boninibaby
Joined: 12/3/2011
Msg: 32
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Posted: 2/20/2012 4:50:38 PM
Idont know why people want to make things sooo difficult.....young , old ,brown ,white male ,female........each relationship is an entity unto itself. people relate to all differnt kinds of people and all walks of life....just because someone is young doesnt make them immature,and just because someones older doesnt make them mature. We are all indivuals....make each moment count! enjoy the people you surround yourself with!
its simple really but every has an opinion....and as sad as it is a judgement!
 mainelyhere
Joined: 11/21/2011
Msg: 33
Older Woman Younger Man
Posted: 2/21/2012 7:03:19 PM
One Major misconception is that older women are better in bed. Frankly I have had partners of all ages and many times the older gals are not only slower and less energetic but lack any sort of knowledge.

When it comes down to it, performance is almost always the onus of the man. If the sex is bad, it HAS to be his fault, even if she just lays there moaning.
 boninibaby
Joined: 12/3/2011
Msg: 34
Older Woman Younger Man
Posted: 2/21/2012 9:20:41 PM
It takes 2 to have good sex...

no stimulation=no response

age has nothing to do with it
 new2npr
Joined: 12/10/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/21/2012 11:24:25 PM
lol. You're right. Older guys aren't 25 or even 35 any more. They sometimes need a little more tinkering to get them going. Are you lazy or something? Don't have the energy at your advanced age to put in a little effort? But one day when the young guys no longer see you as desireable or when you realise that there is zero relationship potential with them, you will have to lie about your behaivior to a man your age..and guess what? We talk too and compare notes and it's unanimous, we all laugh at you cougar types and would never take you serious. You don't get rewarded for being selfish. Cause that's really what you're saying. Me, me, me. So have fun..for now.
 new2npr
Joined: 12/10/2011
Msg: 36
Older Woman Younger Man
Posted: 2/21/2012 11:26:15 PM
Don't know you, but love you already..creak, creak, creak.
 teetotaller1
Joined: 11/30/2011
Msg: 37
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Posted: 2/22/2012 12:20:51 AM
Mae West:' It is not the man in my life that matters but the life in my man'..

At any age...if we don't have the passion and lust for life..we might as well be dead.
I don't see the need to box anyone by age. ..after all we all exit in one.

Just curious, if older women who go for younger men are 'cougars'
what do we call older men who go for young babes?
HUgh GAFner?
DOM-Dirty Old Man
DOG- Desperate Old Gloat
VC- Viagra Consumer
Viagra-nt
George Gooney
....any creative suggestions?
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/22/2012 10:05:59 AM
I think a 50ish year old dating a 30ish much less 20ish year old...notice I'm not saying which gender because to me it is universal...sick and twisted. I'm not going to be apologetic about just because of the OP's gender either. I mean all these young men want is to take another mark off of their bucket list that they "scored" with a cougar...milf never less.

The only...ONLY...thing that a 50ish year old has in common with a 20ish or 30ish year old is sex. Not many people in their right mind would want a LTR with someone twice or thrice their age.
 teetotaller1
Joined: 11/30/2011
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Posted: 2/22/2012 11:32:39 AM
(The only...ONLY...thing that a 50ish year old has in common with a 20ish or 30ish year old is sex. Not many people in their right mind would want a LTR with someone twice or thrice their age.)

Good catch77.. I beg to differ. I personally know several couples who have age gaps of almost 20 years, who are happily married. As long as they find common grounds that are compatible , there is no reason why such marriages cannot work. The Spring-autumn relationship allows for them to compliment each other, whether it is based on financial, emotional , sexual or spiritual needs, love can sure be found in unexpected permutations.
Let us not be so cynical or judgemental.
Marriage is indeed the public announcement of a private intention. Whatever the age difference, we should all celebrate the fact that they have found love and happiness, and that is all that matters is it not?
 mainelyhere
Joined: 11/21/2011
Msg: 40
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Posted: 2/22/2012 12:37:15 PM
We live 70-80 years these days, and much of it is fully functional. I say that compared to 80 years, a 10-30 year difference "aint no thang"

Now if you want to have kids or get married, then it might be an issue
 mainelyhere
Joined: 11/21/2011
Msg: 41
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Posted: 2/22/2012 12:38:38 PM

or is it you cant stand to see a woman get more action then you can from younger an older,can speak up for her self and still be a lady an unlady like an still hold her own voice an have her own ways in this thing called life.


maybe men just have a problem being castigated and insulted for liking sex, and then have to see women go out and get laid like crazy- the hypocrisy is a bit galling if you are objective.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 42
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Posted: 2/22/2012 12:45:38 PM
Good Catch you are absolutely wrong.
How can you possibly even judge what 2 strangers to you have in common or don't?
Just because it is not for you, doesn't make it sick and twisted. For ten years I had two great relationships (monagomous) with women 20 years older than me and most recently was married to one who was 13 years my senior. I don't consider any of them to be a mark off the bucket list. I consider all them to be a wonderful part of my past and would not trade it in for the world.
People who judge others based on preconceived misnomers are sick and twisted!!!

My first marriage was with a woman my age.... lasted a year. I'll take the older mature laid back EXPERIENCED woman ALL DAY.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 43
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Posted: 2/22/2012 12:50:24 PM

Good catch77.. I beg to differ. I personally know several couples who have age gaps of almost 20 years, who are happily married. As long as they find common grounds that are compatible , there is no reason why such marriages cannot work. The Spring-autumn relationship allows for them to compliment each other, whether it is based on financial, emotional , sexual or spiritual needs, love can sure be found in unexpected permutations.
Let us not be so cynical or judgmental


Here's the thing generally speaking I am right...there are going to be exceptions to the rule, as there always is. There is going to be compatibility with people no matter what gender.


Marriage is indeed the public announcement of a private intention. Whatever the age difference, we should all celebrate the fact that they have found love and happiness, and that is all that matters is it not?


Yes when you put it that way it is about love and happiness but I don't know how many times men with the same age range get bashed...its almost sad...
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 2/22/2012 1:14:41 PM
I say go for it!!!
as long as the guy is not jail bait!
I know when I was 18 I had a thing with a 35 year old woman, she was great in so many ways....
probably one of the best things that ever happened to me!
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 45
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Posted: 2/22/2012 7:49:15 PM

Good Catch you are absolutely wrong.
How can you possibly even judge what 2 strangers to you have in common or don't?
Just because it is not for you, doesn't make it sick and twisted. For ten years I had two great relationships (monagomous) with women 20 years older than me and most recently was married to one who was 13 years my senior. I don't consider any of them to be a mark off the bucket list. I consider all them to be a wonderful part of my past and would not trade it in for the world.
People who judge others based on preconceived misnomers are sick and twisted!!!

My first marriage was with a woman my age.... lasted a year. I'll take the older mature laid back EXPERIENCED woman ALL DAY.


Well people judge strangers all the time esp on these forums. Women judge short men, men judge overweight women...etc...men get judged constantly about wanting to date much younger women...what makes the older woman/younger man that much different. Men are constantly called pigs, sick, twisted, etc if they want to do it...so let the older woman wear those shoes too?
 DANQQ4DA1
Joined: 1/6/2009
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Posted: 2/23/2012 4:09:00 AM
Sachysihuman, good for you. You are right its a cruel trick but as we agr women come into thier sexual prime and men are out of theirs. I think its only natural for the woman to seek out younger lovers. And also you do look very young and I can see how you would attract alot of younger men. Any older partner of yours should understand this.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 2/23/2012 12:58:00 PM
well, honestly,
a lot of people say age has nothing to do with it...but....
when I was in my teens and 20's, I really could go all night, have orgasm after orgasm
do all the work....
now, maybe twice a day,
so can someone really blame an older woman, with a very high sex drive,????
no
how erver there is something to be said about quantity and quality
 MssCrystal
Joined: 2/11/2012
Msg: 48
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Posted: 2/23/2012 6:54:20 PM
Go for it girl! Older men date and enter into relationships with much younger women so women have every right to see younger men!!
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 49
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Posted: 2/24/2012 10:38:16 AM

MssCrystal
Go for it girl! Older men date and enter into relationships with much younger women so women have every right to see younger men!!


thats what i said helll men have been doing it for years an will continue too..
 mainelyhere
Joined: 11/21/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 2/24/2012 10:48:24 AM
older men and younger women makes sense because older men are more established and are (were) more capable of supporting a young female and having kids. Historically the reverse is not true (not to mention fertility going downhill after 35-40.)
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