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Joined: 6/12/2011
Msg: 20
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I like that Angel. If there's one thing I know I'm good at its foreplay. It's the one area I know that a girl wont complain.
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 21
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Posted: 2/21/2012 6:37:31 AM
OP, first of all, I suggest you stop transferring your issues on to women as a whole. This isnt a problem with women, this is your problem that you are trying to pin on some stranger. Perhaps that is why you arent doing all that well in the sex department, you have convinced your self that women are intimidating sexually that it doesnt really matter what the truth is, you have already decided what it is.
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 2/21/2012 7:00:54 AM

Oh hell, watch more porn dude...really!!!

Oh dear God.. don't do this. If some guy pulled the same moves on me he got from a porn movie, it would be the LAST time he'd ever see me naked. I've done it before, I'll have no problem doing it again.

Seriously. Don't do this. Most porn (90%) is produced for the gratification of MEN... not women. It's meant to be visually stimulating for the men. And it's crap.
Joined: 1/13/2012
Msg: 23
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Posted: 2/21/2012 9:43:02 AM
I've been with 2 people my entire life.. so that may seem like I have little experience, but if I count the amount of times I've HAD sex with those 2, or masterbated, or watched porn or whichever methods people use, I have experience.
Be confident of what you "have" so to speak. Do what makes you feel good and, in the end you'll win, right?:)
Joined: 5/17/2011
Msg: 24
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Posted: 2/21/2012 3:47:14 PM
People who haven't experienced this feeling DO NOT GET IT so please don't let the nay sayers lead you astray.

Yes you do need to gain some confidence and no it's not about having more sex. Yes many people put sex as #1 in whether a relationship is good and Yes its publicized to death in our current society. Be honest and open with a potential partner, as several have said - your emotional connection is more important and if it's strong then the "good sex" will follow <---provided there aren't any physiological issues(impotence etc.)
I get the nerves every first time in a new relationship as I have no idea what her experiences have been before / how I'd measure up / what she really likes or dislikes etc. Sure its ok to discuss these types of things as you get to know one another as that helps BOTH sides when the big day comes. I happen to like that feeling of nervous giddyness, its like my "First Time" all over again in a new relationship - except I have the experience of past relationships.

Be honest, open, show her body a lot of attention in foreplay and EAT LIKE A CHAMP~!!!!
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Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 25
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Posted: 2/22/2012 1:17:54 PM
Honestly, I am sure, that most of the young women out there feel the very same way
so stop tearing yourself apart
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 2/22/2012 6:07:02 PM
First off realize you are not competing with all her ex's.
If they were all that....
she wouldn't be with you now would she?

Secondly....the best sex is with feelings.
You know....emotional attachment and all that.
If you can find that with a girl who is really into you....
the sex will be awesome no matter how inexperienced you are.
That's how it seems to work out most times.

good luck.
Joined: 1/14/2018
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/13/2018 3:30:41 AM
EVERYONE has their doubts sexually....guys who are into themselves along with women who look over confident....never know how someone's going to act during an encounter.....soooo it's a crap shoot and we all are thinking the same thing....go for it and enjoy and hopefully your partner does the same thing!
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