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Joined: 9/15/2009
Msg: 101
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People wanting sex? on a dating site?? no I refuse to believe this. This simply cannot be true!
Joined: 5/16/2010
Msg: 102
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/27/2012 8:12:59 PM
I don't know who you all have been dating but I have dated 4 women on here and was intimate with one whom I dated for almost a year. We developed a relationship first.
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 103
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/27/2012 8:16:57 PM

I don't know who you all have been dating

I've been dating whoever will actually show up live.

Joined: 1/23/2011
Msg: 104
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/28/2012 2:26:53 AM
It's interesting that some guys on here seem to take immediate offense when we women write about our actual experiences on the site. Just because SOME of us women have had not so great experiences with SOME men on this site in no way presupposes we are making judgments about ALL men on this site.

Personal experience is what it is. I most certainly would wish that most of my experiences had been with genuine honest caring men who wanted to get to know me first before offering their 'services'. However, that is not my own personal reality.

No matter what I say in my's been revised too many times to count...or what pics I have posted...the offers still abound. When turned down they immediately accuse one of "not liking sex" just because I don't want it with them.

Yes there are nice normal men on this site and I have chatted with many. Personally I'm looking for someone who wants to know me first as an individual worthy of spending time with before beginning a physical interaction. I guess I didn't get the "memo" either.

It's been my own personal experience that the majority of men who contact me are:
1. fresh out of a long term relationship
2. are in no way ready to form any kind of new long-term friendship
3. have no idea who they are as individuals separate from their estranged partner
4. are alone and missing the regular sex they had in said long-term relationship
5. decide a great place to get that sex is from the online world
6. figure most of us women are on here for the same reasons as them

I feel I've had more than my fair share of sexual propositions. Receiving messages such as, "I want to do you and 2 of your friends" isn't this guy energetic or what? is tediously boring and receiving them I pretty much would rather pluck out my own eyes than enter into any kind of communication with said morons.
Joined: 12/24/2011
Msg: 105
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/28/2012 2:54:41 AM
I thought I was the only one feeling like that it give me hope it might get better if I talk about it glad to see I am not by my self
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 106
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/28/2012 2:59:42 AM
They dont read a profile obviously as you cut out just about everybody with that list!!!.
Men want sex, women want sex. That is the way it is. If a guy is keen he will wait until you feel comfortable, if not, you have lost nothing. This site is known for the sleazies and I get more messages for sex here than any other site. It is a free site so dont expect anything.
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 107
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/28/2012 5:19:08 AM
Come on, seriously, this kind of thing only happens in TV shows, not in the real world. Doing the naughty and looking for the naughty is so 1990's.
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 108
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/28/2012 10:09:52 AM
Jesus an the lines are so lame some cant be serious to actually think a woman is going to be like wow you look like a serial killer an just told me you have a big d ick OK sure here's my address..

i mean is that suppose to be the panty dropper line these days? i have a big d ick or even better dam girl i could give you the time of your life..come on you really think your about to get laid with cheesy s hit like that..honestly plus most women know the braggers an big s hit talkers are the worst..

ive lost track at the amount of crappy 1liners ive gotten in the past week some of yal dont even try ive seen male hamsters put more effort into chasing around a female hamster

then some of the guys who come off thinking that all i got to do is email her an tell her i wanna fuk an she will be mine no questions then your mad because she wasnt thrilled that you wanted to grace her with your 3minutes of woo an passion..

how bout you go clean yourself up go groom bath shave an get a hair cut then go jackoff for some release regroup your conversation an words an come back an try it agian..

your not ordering off the menu an you cant talk at people an then be angry that a woman doesnt want to talk to you or just gives away the p ussy to you on demand..

i dont understand why get mad at the woman,,your the 1 who approached her looking like an talking like a jackass you should be mad at yourself,seriously..

help me to understand because i dont get the thought process seems to me if your really going to go after a female or females you would put some kind of effort into your appearance approach an conversation an be real about what you want out of life an what kind of relationship you want with her or them..

an if you 2 are not on the same level an there's no mutual intrest or attraction an both of you do not want the samethings keep it moving..

im lady like an unlady like i am not what the news an society would ever call the perfect woman in looks an personality.. but i do exspect that if a man is serious about wanting to actually get to know me or atleast be my friend or even want to talk have

drinks an see where things could go that the man would actually put some real effort in not crap 1liners or just send nude pics an then go on about how he can do this an that for women an how he's the best lover ive never flash your not impressing anybody with all that..
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 109
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/28/2012 10:38:14 AM
@ Amor_Meu

i know not all men are the same,,
an i didnt say all men are or do things like this

but the ones who DO come off looking like an acting like a jackass an then are shocked or mad that a woman doesnt want to talk to them or automatically give them the p ussy
should be mad at themself for coming off like that to anybody at that..

if i was to send out emails saying dam baby your sexy how much money you make whats your pin number i wonder just how many men would be like OK ill tell her ill give her some money but only because she said i was sexy an she asked me for it..

see how stupid that would be vise versa..
Joined: 9/15/2011
Msg: 110
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/28/2012 3:37:55 PM
Usually the tards that can't spell simple words correctly are the ones that veer towards hooking up. I avoid those...
Joined: 12/16/2010
Msg: 111
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/29/2012 4:04:50 AM
"If it is, I must be doing things wrong. "

Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 112
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Posted: 2/29/2012 6:45:22 AM

POF is

Why didn't someone tell me that...sigh...dayum..

Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 113
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/29/2012 7:38:12 AM
right? they should call ALL dating sites cuz thats ALL guys are looking for
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 114
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/29/2012 7:56:32 AM

right? they should call ALL dating sites cuz thats ALL guys are looking for

Oh nice, generalizations.

In that case I should be happy about my current situation of being pretty much nothing but a booty call for a female I want to be in a relationship with.

Meanwhile the reality is I'm sitting here hoping maybe eventually she'll change her ways(which she probably will never actually do) and praying to Cthulu that she'll want to be with me as more than an occasional fling.

If only we could avoid generalizing either gender based on a few outliers that tend to be a extremely vocal minority.

I guess that's too much to ask for that we avoid sexist generalizations on both sides of the fence.

It's only 11 AM and I swear I don't have a drinking problem unless a lack of faith in humanity is a precursor to one.
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 115
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:25:29 AM
So at my age I feel like Im in a used car lot looking for the right fit. A test drive is required before I buy the car...
Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 116
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:35:29 AM
u need to be on,sir...u know,the skank site.btw...use a condom so u dnt end up giving a honest woman aids
Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 117
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:40:05 AM
oh come off it. ive been on this site 5 months,as soon as the guy learns im not 'putting out' right away,he stops calling me. true,i admit there are skanks out there as well, but the majority of women are not skanks...or else this thread topic wouldnt be here...
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 118
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:42:58 AM

or else this thread topic wouldnt be here.

Or you and the OP and anyone validating this thread could stop being sexist as shit by saying ALL men are looking for hooku;s .

But I suppose we all know that isn't going to happen.

Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 119
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/29/2012 9:34:47 AM

I would tend to agree that more men than women are okay with a sexual hookup without it leading to more.

That's the thing though, because the other posters have alluded to ALL or MOST men as wanting sexual hookups, which is just blatant sexism.

In my experience I actually know more women than men and most of my guy friends are all in relationships, pretty much none of my female friends are interested in actual relationships.

That doesn't mean I'm going to jump to conclusions and say that ALL or MOST women just want sexual hookups.

I love how I get told to step off for pointing out the sexism, I'm pretty sure most females would have an aneurism from having a thread full of guys making stereotypes about females.
Joined: 9/8/2011
Msg: 120
is pof only for sex
Posted: 2/29/2012 7:28:29 PM
Seems like it. I don't mind a sexual hookup but if the guy asks me if I want to have fun at his place before we even meet then there is a
Joined: 12/29/2009
Msg: 121
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Posted: 3/5/2012 4:55:19 PM
In the last 4-5 years yes.

When I first used it, not really. But once all the losers started getting wind of this site due to popularity, that's when the stream of horny perverts came on the scene and trashed this place.

POF was sooooooo much better back in the day. Most of my dates the last few months have had the quintessential line uttered "so... I hope you know I'm not looking for a long term relationship."

Being the prude I am (lol), I've turned down every single one and have since quit POF (except for the amusing forums).
Joined: 1/4/2012
Msg: 122
is pof only for sex
Posted: 3/5/2012 5:16:18 PM
Sadly, but that seems to be the case. At least all of the men who I have come across. One got so mad that he said, "lady, all I am looking for is a one night stand with you". And, when I didn't say yes to that, he said c-ya. I also think the categories are not true to what the guy feels. Hanging out for every guy that I have emailed with has said for them that means they just want to make out and have sex. The next category I think is not seeking a relationship and not interested in commitment. The guys that have responded to me in this category also feel the same way. They just want sex and nothing more. Then, there are those that say that want to date but nothing serious. Again, the same response: sex. period. There are very few profiles that indicate seriously looking for a long term relationship or seeking somene to marry. Unfortunately, I'm finding that POF is a G-rated version of those not so G-rated online dating sites. But, in the end I think you need to make wise choices. You can't go in expecting to find Mr. Right on here. I know I can't rely on what is posted on these profiles. A lot of them do lie, and that is just the way online dating is. I will say that I find it easier to approach people in public places and have general conversation then it is on here.
Joined: 3/25/2010
Msg: 123
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Posted: 3/5/2012 5:59:50 PM
I'm fairly sure everyone on POF is interested in sex, including those who may state otherwise; but that doesn't mean it's the only (or even main) reason they're here.

I think most of us, by far, come here because we are motivated by a desire for some sort of relationship, ranging from casual but semi-regular "friends" dating to serious lifetime commitment with or without marriage -- with lots of gradations in between. These people generally don't push for sex right away, but hope and even expect it will happen at some point if the relationship continues. If sex happens on the first date, it could actually be a turn-off that ends the relationship; "He/she just wanted sex, they didn't really care about me." But if sex doesn't happen after several dates, they may become frustrated and end what is otherwise a good and promising relationship. For these people sex alone is not going to be enough to maintain a relationship, but it can be a key factor in keeping a relationship alive and well; it's really about "making love", not just "doing the sticky".

A few people don't really know what they want when they come to POF, except that they want to spend some time with someone else. Mostly, they're just tired of being alone all the time, and they'll figure out what they really want eventually. They may also be confused about just what constitutes dating these days -- is sex expected, or not?

And there are some people here who ARE primarily motivated by sex -- maybe it's variety they seek, or frequency, or sheer number of partners, or a continuing search for mind-blowingly good sex, or something else. These people may turn into FWBs or F-buddies, or they may move on and you'll never hear from them again. If there's no sex on the first date but you seem interested, there might be a second date; but if you still don't end up in bed, don't expect a third date. This group may be growing, as some in the first group become disillusioned about finding the sort of relationship they're looking for, or just want someone to fill the time until they find "the one".
Joined: 4/3/2011
Msg: 124
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Posted: 3/5/2012 6:33:13 PM
yes that's my experience, seems like 99% of guys on here are only looking for one thing - I just wish they'd be honest about it and state that they're looking for intimate encounter instead of dating or longterm, geez
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 125
is pof only for sex
Posted: 3/5/2012 7:08:38 PM

exactly there are too many fake actors an wolfe in sheeps clothing pretending to want love an a good woman for dating only to find out that they really just wanna hit an quit or find somebody to be thier backup plan while they keep the wifey or girlfriend in the dark about thier cheating..

it's so stupid might as well just say the same bull s hit that you have been saying to other women an lying to others about on your profile an keep it real dont play games an act like your so trust worthy an such a good man when your just a piece of lying s hit..

the worst are the ones who go on about Jesus is thier life an they are a really sweet person an everybody loves them i gotta message the other day from a Jesus is my life type his first message to me was
"i would love to jump on your a ss an fuk you" wow REALLY mr. Jesus is my life an everybody loves me an thinks im a sweet guy..that is what you call multiple personality right there..

i gotten worse an trashier mesasges off here then some of the other sites im like wow where do they come from? why lie like that just stop it were going to find out who the real you is eventually...

i wish they would allow you to go in to your deleted emails an post them for other to's so nite an day around here..

just because a woman wants to be close with somebody an share intimacy an friendship DOES NOT mean she wants to fuk everything an everybody or that automatically you have the right to talk to her anyway you want to then get mad when she blocks you or cusses you out some are so dam pathetic.
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