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 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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No you're not a prude OP. Everybody has different sexual boundaries. His opening question about your state of undress was to engage in telecommunication intercourse (phone sex).

 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Am I a prude
Posted: 2/27/2012 3:57:20 AM
" Had female friends Txt me stuff like ''Im Naked snuggled up in bed'' Randomly and im like wtf.

Or had female friends give me a lapdance randomly."


And your complaint is?
 magicallaroundme
Joined: 3/9/2011
Msg: 71
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/27/2012 4:14:23 AM
Yes, you are a bit prudish. That established, what's wrong it? Own it. Be it.

I think that the motivation behind your question is self doubt. Also you believe prudishness is a bad thing. It isn't. It is just another elective characteristic that you share with many others. Much like being a dog owner or coin collector. Being mildly prudish is not the blot on your soul that others would have you believe.

All that need be said about the phone dude is that you didn't like a few of his questions. If it gives you pause then take that pause and rid yourself of him. If not then coast through and see what happens. In either case, there is no reason to try to either justify or distance yourself from your visceral reactions.
 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 73
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/27/2012 9:07:02 AM
you'll really never know till you bang his brains out...lol...
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 75
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/27/2012 11:21:41 AM
i dont know about yal but if a guys CONVERSATION an LOOKS turn me OFF an he has the personality of a house fly i dont give a dam how big he claims his d ick is or how well his bedroom skills are.an yes braggers are usually the worst. i dont want it or him an trust me it's not my loss as so many like to say when you arent banging down thier door to sleep with them..i feel like im saving my self from a regret..
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 76
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/27/2012 6:57:18 PM

Just because a guy is interested in sleeping with you doesnt mean he isnt interested in a relationship also.

I have been dating for a long time now & experience (my totally unscientific research tool) tells me the guys who start talking sex in your first phone conversation or text messages usually ONLY want phone sex or sexting. If they wanted to have sex with you they'd set up a meet & go for it.

I am totally 100% not interested in having phone sex w/ some dude I have never met. I am not interested in sexting with some guy I don't know while I'm at work. It's all boring and a waste of time and energy.

OP...your instincts were right. Don't you worry about it. If he wants to talk dirty to someone he doesn't know he should pay for it.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 77
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/27/2012 7:01:52 PM
Just because a guy is interested in sleeping with you doesnt mean he isnt interested in a relationship also.



BOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! i dont know why this crap gets thrown around because 90% of the time when a guy messages a woman or approaches her in person an the first words are wanna fuk or have some fun or dam how big are they or any other lame O line some can think of to throw out..i can promise you the guy isnt thinking dam i want her to be my wife or girlfriend 1 day i would love to introduce her to my friends an family...
 PretzelLogic101
Joined: 9/15/2009
Msg: 78
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Posted: 2/27/2012 8:38:36 PM
poor guy just wanted some action. You are such a prude! If you like him what's the big deal?
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 79
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/27/2012 8:41:09 PM
^^^ It's tough to tell whether or not you like someone when one of their first questions is "How big are your ta-ta's?"

I do hope you were joking...
 PretzelLogic101
Joined: 9/15/2009
Msg: 80
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/27/2012 8:44:09 PM
At least u know they like you :D
 jmark4
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 81
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/28/2012 12:29:53 AM
at your age you should know the score. It's all about sex and you need to move on or just realize what it is.
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 82
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Posted: 2/28/2012 4:08:46 AM

At least u know they like you :D

like you? No...I don't think they "like you" when they do that. I think they think you're naive enough to let yourself get caught up. Maybe they think you're sexy, but most likely you're just available. I'll go so far as to say these men don't like you AT ALL & treat the women they do like much differently. (note I said "these men" & did not say ALL men)
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 84
Am I a prude
Posted: 2/28/2012 10:40:56 PM
No, you are not a prude. Sounds like he is a cheap *astard that is looking for free phone sex.

Probably never been married, lives with his mom, and was wanking while talking to you.
 PretzelLogic101
Joined: 9/15/2009
Msg: 87
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Posted: 3/1/2012 1:51:19 AM
How would you know they treat woman they like differently? every man has a different way of showing they like someone so just because it's not the way you like being shown that your liked doesn't mean they don't like you. In fact they do like you. they like you physically and they are open about it that's what separates them from the other guys who don't do this. Some say it, some don't but in the end they all wanna get their **** on. CHEERS!
 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 88
Am I a prude
Posted: 3/1/2012 6:38:57 AM
No your not being prudish, dont let anyone make you feel uncomfortable.
 marisia
Joined: 10/25/2008
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Posted: 3/1/2012 6:59:47 AM
I used to get a lot of this and now have a little paragraph on my saying if you are into threesome foresomes or wish to have sex talk with a stranger this really is not my thing and I am not for you...

Suddenly my inmail became much less.... and I have less men without manners to deal with...
good luck..
 missflowery7
Joined: 3/8/2011
Msg: 90
Am I a prude
Posted: 3/1/2012 7:25:53 AM
I agreed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! best wods ever!
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 91
Am I a prude
Posted: 3/1/2012 7:44:15 AM
What man or woman for that matter isnt on some level looking for sex?


Funny thing is I don't have to look for sex. IT FINDS ME. So you are kind of mistaken on that.

OP YOU arent being a prude.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 92
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Posted: 3/1/2012 8:19:44 AM
OP:
I asked him why he is ringing me when I told him not to contact me again.


Ignore him. Block him. Don’t engage him in any way; it will just encourage him. He’ll give up eventually and move on to annoy someone else.

PretzelLogic101:
How would you know they treat woman they like differently? every man has a different way of showing they like someone


Yes, I’m sure guys like that see women in public all the time that they “like” and say, “Hey honey, how big are those melons? I got a giant c0ck. Wanna go fvck? Because I really like you a lot.”

Or maybe they speak to their friends’ girlfriends or wives or mothers or sisters or daughters like that. My guess is that happens ONCE.

Your username suits you.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 93
Am I a prude
Posted: 3/1/2012 10:12:10 AM
ya id pay no attention to PretzelLogic101 i suspect the brownies he talks about backing in 20mins probably have weed inside..an green doesnt exaclty make you the sharpest knife in drawer when you head is in the clouds...
 JoseMadre
Joined: 1/9/2012
Msg: 94
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Posted: 3/1/2012 11:15:51 AM

At least u know they like you :D


Objectification is not "like" it is, "I want to use you to satisfy my own desires." Objectification turns a unique, valuable human being into nothing more than a tool. Sad that so many think that way.
 buttercup310
Joined: 2/20/2012
Msg: 95
Am I a prude
Posted: 3/1/2012 12:14:26 PM
You are not a prude.. I have had a couple of experiences with this type of thing. It is disrespectful.

I just find it interesting that some men say they do not want to jump into meeting too quickly. They want to get to know me. But, they ask very intimate and sexual questions on a first call or through email.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 3/1/2012 12:19:31 PM
At least u know they like you :D


I dont think he is kidding, to him and an awful lot of men, any attention at all, especially anything that is even remotely sexual is welcome, so they dont really get why someone would be annoyed at this type of interaction. To them, it is the holy grail...

I also think that most women who do respond to this kind of baloney are as equally desperate for attention as well, some sort of validation thing I believe...
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 3/1/2012 5:22:44 PM
" I just find it interesting that some men say they do not want to jump into meeting too quickly. They want to get to know me. But, they ask very intimate and sexual questions on a first call or through email."


Either they're looking for sex right away or looking to see if there's sexual compatibility/chemistry. They may be using this to gauge whether it's worth investing their time. Of course it depends on the type/tone of the questions. The OP was more about the former. A mutual discussion on the subject may be more about the latter.
 PretzelLogic101
Joined: 9/15/2009
Msg: 98
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Posted: 3/1/2012 6:43:16 PM
hahaha anyone who thinks differently from you obviously has some form of mental disability. I totally get ya ;) I'm just telling you how it is and you guys don't like it. Some guys will say what's on their mind and some don't. In the end we all want the same thing. NEXT!
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